FabSwingers.com forum: Why so many Questions?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is a lot of questions though! I don't think as a conversation starter you need to discuss what you do for work and asking how long they've been single is a question I'd ask way down the line.

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By *arleyfanCouple
over a year ago

Dover

Maybe she just wants you to ask 2 questions

1) what's your address

2) when shall I come over

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Odd questions to ask as a starter

What I do for work has sod all to do with me being here

Besides, the answer would bore your cock off anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So what are other alternatives to ask a person you know nothing about??

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

"So what are other alternatives to ask a person you know nothing about??"

You could start off with "Can I fist punch you in your fart box ?" or the tried an trusted " Can I suck your farts ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what are other alternatives to ask a person you know nothing about??

You could start off with "Can I fist punch you in your fart box ?" or the tried an trusted " Can I suck your farts ?"

They sound like great questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think my profile content provides all the information needed to gauge potential compatibility and appeal...

Any other information requested by a random stranger would be superfluous and an invasion of my privacy ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe I'll have to add a warning to my profile then that if I engage in a conversation I'm likely to ask questions

Another thing to steer ppl clear of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She was only expecting one:

FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You say she was a newbie. How long had she been on the site for exactly?

Did you ask all the questions at once or was it over a long conversation with her?

Do you think all the questions you asked were appropriate to ask someone on here?

Did you ask for her PIN number?

Did you tell her what you do for work and how long you've been single before asking her those questions?

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Not sure if this would work but you should set a goal of being the subject of a thread from a lurker by the questions you've asked in a message.

One of those 'You get some weirdos on here' type threads.

It's always an achievement to be the subject of an update.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say that only a couple of questions are needed in each message for it to be a conversation and not an inquisition. I'm totally happy with questions as they show an interest.

I personally don't discuss my job or send a photo early on when messaging, especially to unverified people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe I'll have to add a warning to my profile then that if I engage in a conversation I'm likely to ask questions

Another thing to steer ppl clear of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

Can't you ask the questions in a different way? Try leading or open ended questions.. encourage her to open up.. don't always give a complete answer to questions you're asked.. leave room for them to think of something interesting themselves. Questions are good.. it shows your interest.. just don't make it a list.. hope that helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds more like an interview OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds more like an interview OP!

Well.. I'm only looking for the very best people.. I hide my technique well.. and I don't think of it as an interview.. I'm just naturally inquisitive about what makes people tick..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe I'll have to add a warning to my profile then that if I engage in a conversation I'm likely to ask questions

Another thing to steer ppl clear of me

This thread should do it.... Joking! You're a joy to talk to OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds more like an interview OP!

Well.. I'm only looking for the very best people.. I hide my technique well.. and I don't think of it as an interview.. I'm just naturally inquisitive about what makes people tick.. "

It's not about asking questions for me. Questions are good it's about the type of questions you ask to get the conversation into a natural flow

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It's a lot of questions if it's all in one message but spread out over a period of time seems quite reasonable. Did you ever say "how's ya vag lips hanging?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

Why are you asking this question? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see a problem with the questions asked. Can't win sometimes. Not asking questions, can feel like someone is not interested in 'you'

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Are you a police officer ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with the one important question:

"What time do your legs open"

You can gauge compatibility from her response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you get her bank account number her sort code and mothers maiden name? x

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By *icoleAndLisaTransCouple (FF)
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

Most of what you've asked (what she does for a living, how long she's been single etc.) are not relevant to a sex meet.

Back when I was doing 'social meet first', I had a guy come round to my place for a coffee. He'd memorised my profile (knew it better than I did) and just had an endless list of questions to ask me. It felt like a job interview. He was most upset when I didn't have a similar list of questions to fire back at him.

I much prefer conversation to a Q&A session. Relevant questions are good. Others can be useful one at a time to keep the conversation going, but there needs to be more actual dialogue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might be better off asking her normal questions next time like

Ant or Dec

Jedward or Chico

Lick or suck

Thorntons or Cadburys

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By *ods_Perfect_IdiotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

Most of what you've asked (what she does for a living, how long she's been single etc.) are not relevant to a sex meet.

I much prefer conversation to a Q&A session. Relevant questions are good. Others can be useful one at a time to keep the conversation going, but there needs to be more actual dialogue."

I agree with the above statement. That's why a good well written or a least funny profile is such a necessity!!! It's a conversation starter and if you love the harry bantz you fly off on a tangent and it becomes fun. The serious life boring reality questions comes with the naturally flowing conversation. It's not a dating site nor should you ask about previous meets.

It's so hard to get talking to someone with nothing written or it's just a princesses wish list.

Meeting someone is as much as having a laugh !! Would you go to the pub for a night out dancing and laughing with who your about to meet or have met ??? But that's all depends on are you here to feed or be fed ? Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what are other alternatives to ask a person you know nothing about??"

If you meet someone in the pub. Do you ask the guy next to you what you should ask her?

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By *ods_Perfect_IdiotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"You might be better off asking her normal questions next time like

Ant or Dec

Jedward or Chico

Lick or suck

Thorntons or Cadburys

Ant and Jedward licking Cadburys melted chocolate off buss windows !! Sounds like a laugh

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By *ods_Perfect_IdiotMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"So what are other alternatives to ask a person you know nothing about??

If you meet someone in the pub. Do you ask the guy next to you what you should ask her? "

Yeah !! Potential mmf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You might be better off asking her normal questions next time like

Ant or Dec

Jedward or Chico

Lick or suck

Thorntons or Cadburys

Wait wait wait. You can't ask a question the magnitude of cadburys or thorntorns till your at he very least engaged

Can't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You might be better off asking her normal questions next time like

Ant or Dec

Jedward or Chico

Lick or suck

Thorntons or Cadburys

Wait wait wait. You can't ask a question the magnitude of cadburys or thorntorns till your at he very least engaged

Can't"

Ok just break the ice with

Do you think the spelling police are a bunch of cardigan wearing librarians

There just sad acts

And

Walnut whip

Flake x

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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"I like to think my profile content provides all the information needed to gauge potential compatibility and appeal...

Any other information requested by a random stranger would be superfluous and an invasion of my privacy ....

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

I'm sorry to say this op as I think us guys should stick together more on here but cant you see that seems more like a interrogation than a conversation .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

Pls don't get me wrong- it wasn't written or asked in list form - that's just the way I wrote it in my post just to show the questions I asked.

Of course it's not an interrogation and we're asked in an open way hoping for an answer with another leading question - that's how conversations work I thought ...

Maybe that's where I've been going so wrong

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds more like an interview OP!

I dont think I interviewed you did I - and I found out lots about you without having to ask if I can suck your farts up or what time your legs open...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Did you get her bank account number her sort code and mothers maiden name? x "

Oh yeah I got all that of course.....

Makes me wonder what type of convo you get into then without normal every day questions being asked....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds more like an interview OP!

I dont think I interviewed you did I - and I found out lots about you without having to ask if I can suck your farts up or what time your legs open...

Hahaha Very true dear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

Most of what you've asked (what she does for a living, how long she's been single etc.) are not relevant to a sex meet.

I much prefer conversation to a Q&A session. Relevant questions are good. Others can be useful one at a time to keep the conversation going, but there needs to be more actual dialogue."

It was not asked in list or a clinical interview form, but in general conversation form.

A conversation with no questions = impossible

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So what are other alternatives to ask a person you know nothing about??

If you meet someone in the pub. Do you ask the guy next to you what you should ask her? "

No of course not - but your point is not valid to anything in this thread - if I was in a pub talking to a female stranger I'd indulge in conversation asking and answering questions

Obviously

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

I'm sorry to say this op as I think us guys should stick together more on here but cant you see that seems more like a interrogation than a conversation ."

You're right John - we should stick together more - those were just the questions that over a conversation period I asked her. Not in list form. Not an interview. Merely listed above for the benefit of the thread so as not to have to copy and paste the WHOLE conversation with the questions there in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer a nonsensical conversation to a Q&A session. Closed questions don't lead on to much usually, and the conversation dies like a damp squib. Asking too personal questions from the off puts me off a bit too, but I do have bad brain days myself, when the words don't flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

Most of what you've asked (what she does for a living, how long she's been single etc.) are not relevant to a sex meet.

I much prefer conversation to a Q&A session. Relevant questions are good. Others can be useful one at a time to keep the conversation going, but there needs to be more actual dialogue.

It was not asked in list or a clinical interview form, but in general conversation form.

A conversation with no questions = impossible "

I've had conversations where one person makes a statement and the other follows with a statement etc etc. It is quite refreshing.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

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The problem we have is that our profile is detailed enough to not really need to ask questions.

We get questions like

Which gym do you go to?

Where in and are you from?

What are you doing?

Really, do you really need to know this? Pttttttthh, JOG ON!

And also asking questions without giving anything about yourself away?

So many people ask us questions, they have no pics, nothing in their profile, and don't give us the information about themselves which they are asking from us.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Sometimes a conversation just flows without having to ask too many questions, one thought leads to another and then you go off at a totally random tangent, with questions and comments naturally sprinkled into the overall back and forth.

Other times it's stilted and just ends up being a Q&A, where yiu're constantly trying to think of something to ask and to be honest when it's like that I just tend to let it fizzle out naturally after a handful of messages.

Some of your questions though OP suggest you'd got into the latter scenario - certainly things like what job they do wouldn't be relevant unless part of a much longer running conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can chat to people about allsorts. No need for personal questions. I won't answer where I live or work or what my name is. If people don't like that it's ok I just won't meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can chat to people about allsorts. No need for personal questions. I won't answer where I live or work or what my name is. If people don't like that it's ok I just won't meet them. "

What's your name?

Where do you live?

Where do you work?

What are you wearing?

What are you having for dinner tonight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you could just reduce the questions to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can chat to people about allsorts. No need for personal questions. I won't answer where I live or work or what my name is. If people don't like that it's ok I just won't meet them.

What's your name?

Where do you live?

Where do you work?

What are you wearing?

What are you having for dinner tonight?

No coffee for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can chat to people about allsorts. No need for personal questions. I won't answer where I live or work or what my name is. If people don't like that it's ok I just won't meet them.

What's your name?

Where do you live?

Where do you work?

What are you wearing?

What are you having for dinner tonight?

No coffee for you.

That wasn't one of the questions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

Did you at some point tell her you were a nigerian prince with twenty million pounds and needed her bank account details to share it with her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

Sounds like the Spanish inquisition

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Maybe I'll have to add a warning to my profile then that if I engage in a conversation I'm likely to ask questions

Another thing to steer ppl clear of me

Questions are fine, personal questions when you've not even met are not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tough one really. If you don't ask a question or lead in with a message it becomes more of a comment or statement which doesn't require or encourage a reply..... would be a pretty short conversation.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The art of getting to know someone is far from having them feel like they've endured the Spanish inquisition

Flirt, give a little and invite another to offer their own self to you - it's an iterative process.

Be harsh and others will retreat, finding comfort with others.

Want to do personality and lifestyle matching? That's more of a dating concept when it gets in depth. And keep information requests on a need to know basis.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just been in a short msg convo with a newbie...

I've asked her how she found out about fab?

What she does for work?

Describe what she looks like or send a pic.

Is she single & if so how long?

And then I'm asked why am I asking so many questions??????

How is conversation made without asking questions?

Or do some people just talk about themselves without even being asked?

Is this a common problem?

This is far too many questions! It's a sure reason to make the lady feel uncomfortable. If you asked me these questions I would tell you to mind your own business and block you. Have you not heard of the art of conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what are other alternatives to ask a person you know nothing about??

You could start off with "Can I fist punch you in your fart box ?" or the tried an trusted " Can I suck your farts ?"

Euwwww I just got a little bit of sick in my mouth

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