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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How did you guys get your first meet? I'm yet to have mine - the reasons given by ladies include:

- they don't fancy me

- I'm not their type

- they don't want single guys

-they don't want bi curious guys

This variety makes me think I'm doing something wrong.

Any advice would be welcome - this isn't an invitation for anything other than constructive criticism haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you want to be verified just so you have the green tick? You're not far from me, if you purely wanted the green verification tick I would meet you in person but no funny business, I'd just say yeah he is the person in his pictures.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I messaged someone I liked the sound of, we messaged and eventually met. It took a while to find someone I liked the sound of but there you go.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Do you want to be verified just so you have the green tick? You're not far from me, if you purely wanted the green verification tick I would meet you in person but no funny business, I'd just say yeah he is the person in his pictures. "

What a cracking offer! Top marks to you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No, not at all. I'd actually like genuine meets. Although a green tick might help, I don't want to use you in that way. I joined here to have some fun but haven't had any yet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even get reasons, just deleted or blocked. It's an acquired skill.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well I cant really say cause id been on 6 months before i had my first meet but thats because a lot of already standing friends where on here.

As a guy. Read profiles. Cater your message to the profile. Show youve read the profile. Send a clear face picture with message.

Look in meets and parties (further down the page) see if any local socials or club meets are happening. Get your name known as a decent guy.

Not everyone will fancy you but the more you get known the more chance of invites and 1 to 1s

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"How did you guys get your first meet? I'm yet to have mine - the reasons given by ladies include:

- they don't fancy me

- I'm not their type

- they don't want single guys

-they don't want bi curious guys

This variety makes me think I'm doing something wrong.

Any advice would be welcome - this isn't an invitation for anything other than constructive criticism haha

"

You're not doing anything wrong; you're just a small dribble in an ocean. Get used to being turned down, there's a long way to go yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, not at all. I'd actually like genuine meets. Although a green tick might help, I don't want to use you in that way. I joined here to have some fun but haven't had any yet xx"

I'd take that offer in a heart beat, although you're looking for fun (are there many on here looking for a shite time? ) most will want an initial social meet to guage mutual attraction anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your replies. Much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, not at all. I'd actually like genuine meets. Although a green tick might help, I don't want to use you in that way. I joined here to have some fun but haven't had any yet xx"

Well don't say I didn't offer

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Socials and clubs are a great way to meet people and get known op

Have a search of the forums and see whats out there.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, not at all. I'd actually like genuine meets. Although a green tick might help, I don't want to use you in that way. I joined here to have some fun but haven't had any yet xx

Well don't say I didn't offer "

Now if you were to offer me a little fun, I couldn't refuse.... xx

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By *hythmic DriverMan
over a year ago

Croydon


"No, not at all. I'd actually like genuine meets. Although a green tick might help, I don't want to use you in that way. I joined here to have some fun but haven't had any yet xx

Well don't say I didn't offer "

If ever there was a reason to live in Wales there it is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, not at all. I'd actually like genuine meets. Although a green tick might help, I don't want to use you in that way. I joined here to have some fun but haven't had any yet xx

Well don't say I didn't offer

If ever there was a reason to live in Wales there it is "

She's certainly a beautiful woman

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"How did you guys get your first meet? I'm yet to have mine - the reasons given by ladies include:

- they don't fancy me

- I'm not their type

- they don't want single guys

-they don't want bi curious guys

This variety makes me think I'm doing something wrong.

Any advice would be welcome - this isn't an invitation for anything other than constructive criticism haha

"

OP all the reasons you've been given are valid and reasonable potential reasons for not meeting, is just a question of finding the ones that don't think that.

Couple of points though - one of the reasons was "they don't want bi curious guys" - yet your profile currently says "straight", but was presumably once "bi-curious"? Now of course how you choose to identify is up to you but I'd always go with being honest about who you are, and in fact you'll probably find there are just as many, if not more, people who either look for bi/bi-curious guys, or aren't bothered either way, than those that won't meet them.

Your avatar is a silhouette and that puts many people off - so consider at least a pic there, doesn't have to be your face (but shouldn't be your cock).

You've not asked for profile advice so I shan't give any directly but generically people will always look at profiles and make a decision based on them - ones that are informative and "sell" the owner well, showing off their personality and what they like/can offer etc are more likely to get success, likewise with profile pics.

Other things you can do are get along to clubs or socials or get more involved in the forums to get to know people and get yourself known.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No, not at all. I'd actually like genuine meets. Although a green tick might help, I don't want to use you in that way. I joined here to have some fun but haven't had any yet xx

Well don't say I didn't offer "

Is the offer still open? I've just inboxed you. Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How did you guys get your first meet? I'm yet to have mine - the reasons given by ladies include:

- they don't fancy me

- I'm not their type

- they don't want single guys

-they don't want bi curious guys

This variety makes me think I'm doing something wrong.

Any advice would be welcome - this isn't an invitation for anything other than constructive criticism haha

OP all the reasons you've been given are valid and reasonable potential reasons for not meeting, is just a question of finding the ones that don't think that.

Couple of points though - one of the reasons was "they don't want bi curious guys" - yet your profile currently says "straight", but was presumably once "bi-curious"? Now of course how you choose to identify is up to you but I'd always go with being honest about who you are, and in fact you'll probably find there are just as many, if not more, people who either look for bi/bi-curious guys, or aren't bothered either way, than those that won't meet them.

Your avatar is a silhouette and that puts many people off - so consider at least a pic there, doesn't have to be your face (but shouldn't be your cock).

You've not asked for profile advice so I shan't give any directly but generically people will always look at profiles and make a decision based on them - ones that are informative and "sell" the owner well, showing off their personality and what they like/can offer etc are more likely to get success, likewise with profile pics.

Other things you can do are get along to clubs or socials or get more involved in the forums to get to know people and get yourself known.

Good luck "

Thank you. Much appreciated

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