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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Apparently I am one of the 43% of women born in the years of the so-called Generation X between 1965 to 1978, who has remained childless.

I have never wanted children, and never have the maternal instinct in me.

They do not agree with me and my chosen lifestyle.

Their cries are irritating to me, unlike the cries of a kitten or a puppy.

I do not feel the need to spread my genes, or feel the need to have someone to look after me when I am old.

I wanted to be sterilised when I was in my early 20s and was told no one would entertain that idea in case I changed my mind.

My mum stopped nagging me about my biological clock once I reached 36. She now asks after my cat and dog instead.

I avoid taking holidays during school holidays to avoid them.

I do not mind them so long as they go back to bother their mummies and daddies and not me.

I had changed a few nappies before when I looked after a family friend's first born when I was 14. He is now 2 years short of being 30.

When I was 19, I had a bet with a friend at college that I would not have kids. Perhaps I should get in touch again to claim my prize, which is a pint of beer!

I am childless and proud of it!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I have children and am very proud of the fact....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Out of my generation on my mothers side, thats 8 children only three of us have had children and each only one each

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

i have one daughter and would not be without her would have loved another one but not to be

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I think it will become more common now that many women are more career minded....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"i have one daughter and would not be without her would have loved another one but not to be "

Same here but i beleive one of the reasons i was put on this planet was to be a mother. The day i gave birth i became complete as a person

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I suffered a miscarriage and it is one of my dreams now to become a mother.. I never ever want to feel the pain or grief I have done in the past 10 months again. My biggest concern is that I never fall pregnant again that this was my only chance...

However not every woman wants children and its our right to choose...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apparently I am one of the 43% of women born in the years of the so-called Generation X between 1965 to 1978, who has remained childless.

I have never wanted children, and never have the maternal instinct in me.

They do not agree with me and my chosen lifestyle.

Their cries are irritating to me, unlike the cries of a kitten or a puppy.

I do not feel the need to spread my genes, or feel the need to have someone to look after me when I am old.

I wanted to be sterilised when I was in my early 20s and was told no one would entertain that idea in case I changed my mind.

My mum stopped nagging me about my biological clock once I reached 36. She now asks after my cat and dog instead.

I avoid taking holidays during school holidays to avoid them.

I do not mind them so long as they go back to bother their mummies and daddies and not me.

I had changed a few nappies before when I looked after a family friend's first born when I was 14. He is now 2 years short of being 30.

When I was 19, I had a bet with a friend at college that I would not have kids. Perhaps I should get in touch again to claim my prize, which is a pint of beer!

I am childless and proud of it! "

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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I had a miscarraige 27 years ago. Shortly after that I had some news which shhok my life and made me think about having children and so I decided against it.

I've always been told I would have made a great mum, but I will never know. But my not being a mum is the greatest regret, (but how things have worked out), and the greatest relief that happened to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good for you. I have one son who i love very much of course. But if i had my time over again i would not of had him.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

i have never understood why it should be such a huge deal for a women to choose not to have children. as you said some women are very maternal and others just arent ! i just wish some of the younger generation would stop popping out child after child they dont actually want because they are too lazy and selfish to use contraception!

persoanlly for me having my daughter was and still is the most amazing and life changing and life enhancing exsperince ever . i cant remember what life was like before her ! but for me that was the right choice ,it wont be for everyone .aslong as you are happy and compleat in life be it through kids,pets ,career ,hobbies ect ect thats the important thing .leading your life your way to the full is certainly something to be proud of x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good for you. I have one son who i love very much of course. But if i had my time over again i would not of had him."

Gee Thanks Mum...Still love you though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very proud of the fact that I am a mother. And looking at my boys and how they've grown, yes we've had challenging times but both are really good boys, never been in any trouble, both very different, one academic, one not but both achievers, then Ive done a bloody good job. I am very close to my boys.

I did have another baby, who died in the womb at 7 months gestation. I am proud that I was able to give birth to this baby naturally (albeit the baby was tiny) as I had caesarean sections for my full term babies. My baby had died but I still feel proud that I gave birth and the baby wasnt delivered in an operating theatre using procedures that they use to deliver foetuses.

Yep Ive done a good job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I dont think women should be made to feel selfish etc if they do not wish to become a mother. I think its great that Pearl has kept to her guns rather than bow down to pressure of society to procreate.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

I have two kids ..I am sorry for those that lost babies miscarriage or still birth that is hard for those that want children.

My daughter now 36 will I believe remain childless .. she has no desire to be a mother. The boy well who knows.. He tells me many lesbian couples want his sperm. Lol I dont think Ill ever be a granny . I think its sensible to make choices and lead the life one wants. Children dont always bring happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pearl Necklace - my life story is very similar to yours. People often assume it's because of my career but that's not that case at all. I just don't have a maternal bone in my body. I am more than happy being the slightly mad, rich, unsuitable aunty!!

To those of you who have lost children - my heart goes out to you. A very close family member has experienced similar and it was the worst experience of all our lives.

Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apparently I am one of the 43% of women born in the years of the so-called Generation X between 1965 to 1978, who has remained childless.

I have never wanted children, and never have the maternal instinct in me.

They do not agree with me and my chosen lifestyle.

Their cries are irritating to me, unlike the cries of a kitten or a puppy.

I do not feel the need to spread my genes, or feel the need to have someone to look after me when I am old.

I wanted to be sterilised when I was in my early 20s and was told no one would entertain that idea in case I changed my mind.

My mum stopped nagging me about my biological clock once I reached 36. She now asks after my cat and dog instead.

I avoid taking holidays during school holidays to avoid them.

I do not mind them so long as they go back to bother their mummies and daddies and not me.

I had changed a few nappies before when I looked after a family friend's first born when I was 14. He is now 2 years short of being 30.

When I was 19, I had a bet with a friend at college that I would not have kids. Perhaps I should get in touch again to claim my prize, which is a pint of beer!

I am childless and proud of it! "

Me too,I've never felt the desire in any way,shape or form to have children.

No one has or ever will convinced me that having kids is a good idea.

Mind you,many kids and their parents have convinced me that I made the right choice. T

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two children who make me the person I am, but I would have been a whole person without them.

My sister chose not to have children and her life is no better or worse than mine.

We should all be gratefull for who we are and today. And I am soooooooo over nappies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 50 next year, I dont have any kids.

My first wife was killed carring our child.

I am the last of my family line, but have had a good time getting here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Bob) wouldn't thank you for kids, don't like them, never have liked them and never will like them - in any shape or form.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the time I lost my baby I was, understandably depressed for a long while and when pregnant with my youngest, the stress of having constant scans to check he was ok took away the excitement of pregnancy. I would have done anything to have had my child survive, regardless of having to live with disability.

I am different now because Im not sure how I would have coped with a disabled child. I think sometimes natures way of making decisions like that is the kindest. What has made me feel this way is that my niece has just been diagnosed with cerebal palsy. She has been in calipers since birth because of club feet and she started to have other things wrong with her, like a bad turn in her eyes and she has to wear eye patches. She recently had an operation to break both legs and reset them and was in a wheelchair for a while. This didnt work and she can only walk a few steps before falling over. After tests we found out it wasnt just a case of her feet turning in and her eyes a little crossed, she has underlying disability. Shes 5. I dont know how I would have coped with that as a parent.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When I was shopping for baby clothes for a friend and was browsing in Baby Gap, some of the clothes were so cute I fleetingly thought how nice it would be to have a child of my own, so that I could dress him/her in them.

Then I remembered how long they would live before they flee the nest etc., and decided it would be cheaper to get a teddy bear and dress it up in Baby Gap instead.

That was nearly 10 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get that all the time from people - oh youve had two boys, I bet you would have loved a girl to dress up.

Actually no, when I had my second baby my only wish was that after birth he was breathing. Dressing a child up in lace and ribbons was a very low priority. Anyway I dress myself up in too many lace and ribbons and I could always go and buy a doll or a girls world head and do different hairstyles if I really wanted

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"I have children and am very proud of the fact...."

With you on that Jane. We often talk about how lucky we are to have children and how proud we are of what they have become. And now they have kids of their own, we are in heaven!


"Good for you. I have one son who i love very much of course. But if i had my time over again i would not of had him."

Sorry but I had to say... That comment sent a shiver down my spine and shocked Mrs R! Just hope the young man concerned never picks up on your feelings!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I have children and am very proud of the fact....

With you on that Jane. We often talk about how lucky we are to have children and how proud we are of what they have become. And now they have kids of their own, we are in heaven!

"

Can't wait for my two sons to have their own children.....grandchildren would be the icing on the cake of life for us!

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden


"I have children and am very proud of the fact....

With you on that Jane. We often talk about how lucky we are to have children and how proud we are of what they have become. And now they have kids of their own, we are in heaven!

Can't wait for my two sons to have their own children.....grandchildren would be the icing on the cake of life for us!"

Jane, I hope you do not have to wait too long to get your Grandchildren! (depending on your childrens ages of course!! ) It has been the best thing for us other than having our own.

Actually, I (Mr.) have to look after our three year old tomorrow (Monday). Best day of the week!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"I have children and am very proud of the fact....

With you on that Jane. We often talk about how lucky we are to have children and how proud we are of what they have become. And now they have kids of their own, we are in heaven!

Can't wait for my two sons to have their own children.....grandchildren would be the icing on the cake of life for us!"

this is so true,we very recently became grandparents.

nothing in life has given us greater pleasure,than our children,and now our grandchild.

we could not imagine a life without them.

thats how we feel,but everybody is different,and must make thier own decisions.

so be happy,what ever you decide.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I had two miscarriages, one before and one after my son, the first one i had i was 19 and quite far gone and lost it in tragic circumstances, they also said because i had been so damaged inside id never be able to have children. When i met my ex husband i had to tell him this but he still wanted to be with me, i also had polycystic ovaries which makes conception limited. I moved in with my ex and the wedding was planned, i woke up one night violently ill absolute agony, the doctor was called and he said i was having an appendicitious, they rushed me in hospital to the theatre ward, first question they asked was when was your last period like always and it had been the week before. While they where getting me ready a student doctor came and asked if i minded if he examined me i just didnt care anymore i was in such agony, anyway i was pretty oblivious but he went to get another doctor they asked for a sample and sent it down to be checked ( i had no idea what for) they came back and told me and my ex as he was there that i had given a positive pregnancy test but not to build my hopes up as sometimes this can happen in infertile women, they cancelled my op and sent me for a scan. I was 14 weeks pregnant and had no idea. I had an awful pregnancy spending most of it in hospital, they kept me going to 33 weeks then started me off. Callum weighed 4 1/2oz which wasnt that small but he wouldnt grow, his height weight ratio was fine but he was tiny. At 6 months he weighed 8lb 2 and on his first birthday he weighed just 15lb.

However, 21 years later hes around 5ft 7 (they told me he wouldnt get to 5ft) and slim/athletic build.

Hes always been known as my miracle baby and even now when he tries to twist me round his finger he starts the sentence with "well i am your miracle baby" lol.

I had another miscarriage when he was 18 months but its what i call a natural miscarriage and therefore i just believed it was natures way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've got two sons, but have been through five pregnancies

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I never made a conscious decision to not want kids ….. just the same as I have never made a conscious decision to want one. It’s more an indifference if anything….. I guess thinking about it, I have never met anyone who I wanted to have kids with. I have been in loving relationships. I have loved 3 men deeply, but never really felt an urge to bare their young….. I didn’t want to marry any of them either when they proposed, which eventually threw a spanner in the works.

I love my nephews deeply…. well I started to after they finished the smelly nappy and screaming stage…. but I ways appreciated the benefit of being an auntie – I could give them back! They are in their 20’s now and still come around to spend time with me just as much (in fact more often) as when they were small…. only now they can drive themselves around here and buy my drinks in the pub.

I am a godmother to several children.... including those of an ex and a former fuckbuddy.

I have seen the children of my friends born and grow into young people.

I have no regrets and love my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am 37 in a months time and apart from fleeting thoughts I have never wanted to have children.

I knew at an eary age I would never have children.

I love my brothers kids and my godson is 21 next year. I dont dislike children, I just dont want one.

Luckly both my parents have grand children from my siblings so ive never felt under any pressure to produce 1 for them. Thank goodness, cause they would have been waiting a long time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have 2 sons and love them dearly incredibly proud of both and feel our lives have been enhanced by having them in it

really looking forward to being grandparents one day too although not too soon hopefully told them they have to wait till we are in our 50s before they do that to us

all that said i think that if i had reached my mid 30s childless i think i would of definately then made a concious choice to of remained childless but then that didn't happen so i will never know for certain will i

i do not believe a woman has to become a mother to make her whole but i do feel my sons did make me whole and i will be eternally gratefull we were blessed with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some should never have them, some should and some want so desperately.

if you have them, love them and do the best by them

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

To each their own.... my children are the best thing I have ever done. I always knew I wanted to be a mum though. Good luck to you and your life choice. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good for you. I have one son who i love very much of course. But if i had my time over again i would not of had him."

No wonder you treat me this way!!!

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

I used to get laughed at because on a first date I would always says 'If you want children I am not for you'. But I felt it best to be honest.

I am also happy to be the mad aunty to my new neice which is scaring the death out of my brother.

I do feel for those who would make wonderful parents but for some reason or other can't.

However when I see parents barely dragging their children up I think having babies should be a privelige and not a right because it's the kids that suffer and I want to install contraception at puberty until they can prove they are fit to bring a child into our world.

And whilst I wouldn't say I hate children, I couldn't eat a full one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm glad I chose not to do it, I feel terrible for those who couldn't but wanted to- I wish I could pass on the random fertility our family seems prone to.....and am soooo glad my sister will eventually, I may get left in peace when she starts producing.....

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