FabSwingers.com forum: When did she leave...PTU

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know she was having some issues. ..was justcchatting at the weekend with about forums. Didn't see it coming though.

Hope all is ok if you're reading this and get back when you're head space improves. Hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wondered where she was I normally have her pic in my updates daily

Oh well best of luck to her.i love PTU.always made me smile

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

She left early last week, set up a new profile the following day, and avoiding the forums for a while, she seems to be doing ok

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

P.T.U

if your reading this you my dear have great taste in music xxxxx

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"She left early last week, set up a new profile the following day, and avoiding the forums for a while, she seems to be doing ok

She's back since yesterday. Hoping to see her post when she's able

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx"

Chinese whispers are so funny! It was about her and her mother! As far as I know she doesn't have a child

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

She's about.....! Look forward to her coming back in forums, love her posts.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx"

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

This.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

I think that's been done to death. Why not leave it in the past and let her come back peacefully.

We can't all post things that are agreeable to others all the time, none of us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

I didn't particularly like some of the comments either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The tone of some peoples' comments tells me the kind of person they are.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Unfortunately there's a few wreckers about that have little respect or regard for others. Different views are good as it makes for better and healthier discussions. Turning every post it a train wreck is just wrong and needs to be stopped. This has been happening on the irish forums for too long and it's ruined it over there.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

Her choice to do that, looking forward to her coming back on forums.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"The tone of some peoples' comments tells me the kind of person they are. "

Indeed it does. I didn't read her threads but she was obviously struggling with some major issues and hurt by the spiteful remarks.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

Quite a few people didn't like some of the comments posted on her thread

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Unfortunately there's a few wreckers about that have little respect or regard for others. Different views are good as it makes for better and healthier discussions. Turning every post it a train wreck is just wrong and needs to be stopped. This has been happening on the irish forums for too long and it's ruined it over there."

Unfortunately, people will be judgemental and I'm sure we're all guilty of that, at sometime. I suppose we open ourselves up to that, when we start a thread, shouldn't be that way but it is.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

Quite a few people didn't like some of the comments posted on her thread"

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

Quite a few people didn't like some of the comments posted on her thread"

I never saw the post no doubt it was another case of the heard mentality kicking in

one starts and the rest of their little heard follows suit .

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

I think that's been done to death. Why not leave it in the past and let her come back peacefully.

We can't all post things that are agreeable to others all the time, none of us

Totally agree.....most would hide there profile I guess.....but then some throw their dummy out and leave....each to their own.

But when she was willimg to attack openly on the forum another forumite....why do some then reveal themselves openly as happy to give....but leave when some give back.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"The tone of some peoples' comments tells me the kind of person they are.

Indeed it does. I didn't read her threads but she was obviously struggling with some major issues and hurt by the spiteful remarks.

True, it was unfortunate that some people misunderstood the context of her post, put the blinkers on and jumped in feet first with hobnail boots on

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Maybe we shouldn't be talking about her at all, as she can't respond at the moment, on the forums

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Maybe we shouldn't be talking about her at all, as she can't respond at the moment, on the forums"

Or people should not verbally attack people in the forums openly, may be a better way

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"Maybe we shouldn't be talking about her at all, as she can't respond at the moment, on the forums"

Wise choice! Especially as this thread started with showing concern to her whereabouts.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I never saw the post no doubt it was another case of the heard mentality kicking in

one starts and the rest of their little heard follows suit ."

Sorry, but that is where you are wrong! I didn't comment on the thread, but it certainly wasn't a pack mentality.

If you want to post something expecting sympathy, make sure you make what you mean quite clear and not try and change it mid way when things don't quite go your way

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Maybe we shouldn't be talking about her at all, as she can't respond at the moment, on the forums

Wise choice! Especially as this thread started with showing concern to her whereabouts."

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

"Maybe we shouldn't be talking about her at all, as she can't respond at the moment, on the forums

Or people should not verbally attack people in the forums openly, may be a better way

Do you always practice what you preach??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think many of us would like to see her back. Will she come back? Who knows? I hope so, but our ability to post what we want (within reason) on here can cause upset, whatever either parties motivations or situations.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I find in the forums that some people are clearly intelligent and possibly highly academic yet lack a complete sense of emotional intelligence.

It was certainly one of my observations from the thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

I think that's been done to death. Why not leave it in the past and let her come back peacefully.

We can't all post things that are agreeable to others all the time, none of us

Totally agree.....most would hide there profile I guess.....but then some throw their dummy out and leave....each to their own.

But when she was willimg to attack openly on the forum another forumite....why do some then reveal themselves openly as happy to give....but leave when some give back.

And your comment is helpful in what way....

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

I never saw the post no doubt it was another case of the heard mentality kicking in

one starts and the rest of their little heard follows suit .

Sorry, but that is where you are wrong! I didn't comment on the thread, but it certainly wasn't a pack mentality.

If you want to post something expecting sympathy, make sure you make what you mean quite clear and not try and change it mid way when things don't quite go your way"

A pack of people posted and stuck the boot in. Ill let others decide if that is pack mentality or not lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's one person put of thousands...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never saw the post no doubt it was another case of the heard mentality kicking in

one starts and the rest of their little heard follows suit .

Sorry, but that is where you are wrong! I didn't comment on the thread, but it certainly wasn't a pack mentality.

If you want to post something expecting sympathy, make sure you make what you mean quite clear and not try and change it mid way when things don't quite go your way"

That's exactly how it went. There was no bullying, no pack mentality. Just some people disagreed with what she had posted.

I think she expected everyone to go "Awwww poor PTU" and when it didn't happen she left as per her choice to do so.

She wasn't bullied, there was no pack mentality, there was just people who disagreed with her. God forbid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never saw the post no doubt it was another case of the heard mentality kicking in

one starts and the rest of their little heard follows suit .

Sorry, but that is where you are wrong! I didn't comment on the thread, but it certainly wasn't a pack mentality.

If you want to post something expecting sympathy, make sure you make what you mean quite clear and not try and change it mid way when things don't quite go your way

That's exactly how it went. There was no bullying, no pack mentality. Just some people disagreed with what she had posted.

I think she expected everyone to go "Awwww poor PTU" and when it didn't happen she left as per her choice to do so.

She wasn't bullied, there was no pack mentality, there was just people who disagreed with her. God forbid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

I think that's been done to death. Why not leave it in the past and let her come back peacefully.

We can't all post things that are agreeable to others all the time, none of us

I please all of the people, all of the time.

Or was it none of the people none of the time?

Or perhaps all of the people none of the time?

Or none of the people all of the time?

Cake anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

I think that's been done to death. Why not leave it in the past and let her come back peacefully.

We can't all post things that are agreeable to others all the time, none of us

I please all of the people, all of the time.

Or was it none of the people none of the time?

Or perhaps all of the people none of the time?

Or none of the people all of the time?

Cake anyone?

Lemon Drizzle if you will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think many of us would like to see her back. Will she come back? Who knows? I hope so, but our ability to post what we want (within reason) on here can cause upset, whatever either parties motivations or situations. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never saw the post no doubt it was another case of the heard mentality kicking in

one starts and the rest of their little heard follows suit .

Sorry, but that is where you are wrong! I didn't comment on the thread, but it certainly wasn't a pack mentality.

If you want to post something expecting sympathy, make sure you make what you mean quite clear and not try and change it mid way when things don't quite go your way

That's exactly how it went. There was no bullying, no pack mentality. Just some people disagreed with what she had posted.

I think she expected everyone to go "Awwww poor PTU" and when it didn't happen she left as per her choice to do so.

She wasn't bullied, there was no pack mentality, there was just people who disagreed with her. God forbid

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I hope she returns. She contributed as do myself and others both positively and sometimes negativity.

People will have differing views of each of us....not one of us posting on here has never made a quick sideways shot at someone.

Those who throw stones may get buried themselves. I just hope each one of us have enough friends to remove the pile for us when the time comes.

Let's learn from what's being said and move forward.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

She left

She came back

She left

She came back

Hi ptu if you're reading this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

I think that's been done to death. Why not leave it in the past and let her come back peacefully.

We can't all post things that are agreeable to others all the time, none of us

I please all of the people, all of the time.

Or was it none of the people none of the time?

Or perhaps all of the people none of the time?

Or none of the people all of the time?

Cake anyone?

Lemon Drizzle if you will

Oh god. I so love lemon drizzle.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

A nice light cheesecake or tiramisu or Creme bruleee here.

Bloody hell thats greedy isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All of us have loved outside of this site.. and rightly so, out own personal lives should come first.

I guess some people leave this and other sites because they simply haven't got the time, it takes up too much time. Or because of affairs of the heart, their own circumstances have changed.

What's my point again..? Haha I can't remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I hope she returns. She contributed as do myself and others both positively and sometimes negativity.

People will have differing views of each of us....not one of us posting on here has never made a quick sideways shot at someone.

Those who throw stones may get buried themselves. I just hope each one of us have enough friends to remove the pile for us when the time comes.

Let's learn from what's being said and move forward.

There isn't anything to learn, like you said yourself. If you post on the forums, you're going to have people agree, disagree and couldn't give two fucks one way or another what you post.

What annoys me is, if a collective disagree it's bullying and mob mentality, yet what is it called when the same mob agree with the OP? Support, empathy and understanding

It seems you have to follow the crowd on the forums at times because heaven forbid you actually have your own opinion and choose to voice it how you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She left last week she put a post about her child and her mother and it went off the topic and she left during it xx

Off the topic....more like she did not like some of the comments posted on her thread..left and rejoined same day......

I think that's been done to death. Why not leave it in the past and let her come back peacefully.

We can't all post things that are agreeable to others all the time, none of us

I please all of the people, all of the time.

Or was it none of the people none of the time?

Or perhaps all of the people none of the time?

Or none of the people all of the time?

Cake anyone?

Lemon Drizzle if you will

Oh god. I so love lemon drizzle.

Well chop chop, and would you be so kind to do us an Earl Grey, no milk or sugar, but a slice of lemon would be spiffing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A nice light cheesecake or tiramisu or Creme bruleee here.

Bloody hell thats greedy isn't it

Not greedy, just indecisive, just pick one

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"A nice light cheesecake or tiramisu or Creme bruleee here.

Bloody hell thats greedy isn't it

Not greedy, just indecisive, just pick one

I shan't and I won't. I want them all with chips !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A nice light cheesecake or tiramisu or Creme bruleee here.

Bloody hell thats greedy isn't it

Not greedy, just indecisive, just pick one

I shan't and I won't. I want them all with chips !!"

Chips?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well I hope she returns. She contributed as do myself and others both positively and sometimes negativity.

People will have differing views of each of us....not one of us posting on here has never made a quick sideways shot at someone.

Those who throw stones may get buried themselves. I just hope each one of us have enough friends to remove the pile for us when the time comes.

Let's learn from what's being said and move forward.

There isn't anything to learn, like you said yourself. If you post on the forums, you're going to have people agree, disagree and couldn't give two fucks one way or another what you post.

What annoys me is, if a collective disagree it's bullying and mob mentality, yet what is it called when the same mob agree with the OP? Support, empathy and understanding

It seems you have to follow the crowd on the forums at times because heaven forbid you actually have your own opinion and choose to voice it how you want.

Well I'm sure I'm not alone on this but I've learnt a few things from this thread.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Hmmm having had the thread pointed out to me for me to look at , there was nothing on it that broke any rules ( it didn't seem there were any posts removed before I saw it ) People didn't agree with what the OP said and that was it.

If people post on the forum they have to accept that some people might not agree with what is said and are allowed to say so.

I think it is time to shut this now.

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