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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been with my partner for roughly 5 years, and the sex life has gone very quiet how do I attempt the conversation of introducing swinging into the equation? Is it relationship saving or ruining? Opinions please.. Thanks in advance

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Show her your profile on here and ask if she'd like to join you on it, admin can change it to couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her.

It's as simple as that. Have an adult conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you have in mind Nick...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Show her your profile on here and ask if she'd like to join you on it, admin can change it to couples"

This

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Ahhh she doesn't know you are on here as it states on your profile you are married and have a family at home so can never accomodate, but good advice about talking to her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't see you saying " Come on fab it's great " going down to well . Maybe you should of discussed it with her before coming on . Then if she agreed you could of come on fab together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you could be responsible for creating a life changing event in both your lives ,,,,

I'd think very carefully about the implications

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I can't see you saying " Come on fab it's great " going down to well . Maybe you should of discussed it with her before coming on . Then if she agreed you could of come on fab together "
swinging is about being open an honest with each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't see you saying " Come on fab it's great " going down to well . Maybe you should of discussed it with her before coming on . Then if she agreed you could of come on fab together "

This

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By *inkySlinkyCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

You have been with your partner for five years and on here for three. Why have you only now decided to mention swinging to her? Sally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP does your wife know you are on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pulls up chair opens popcorn gets a beer...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"OP does your wife know you are on here?"
no she doesn't he can't ever accomodate due to having a family at home it's all on profile

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area

Ask the lady who verified you to speak to your missus. Be better coming from another lady surely?

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

When i got with Boo i was quite open about being a swinger... We did talk about a few fantasies of hers and took it from there.

Start of with talking to her, dirty talk during sex is another good way a gauge something.

From there its just a case of communication and trust... You might be more surprised than you think... As for fab, i would suggest talking first before dropping yourself in a hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think that unless a partner is aware of their other half's swinging activities and that they engage in bisexual activity.... simply asking the partner to join that lifestyle could have a catastrophic impact on their relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been with my partner for roughly 5 years, and the sex life has gone very quiet how do I attempt the conversation of introducing swinging into the equation? Is it relationship saving or ruining? Opinions please.. Thanks in advance "

Kill it. Find new pussy to bring life into your sex. Clean break but if you have kids, end it all the same but prepare to be fucked by the divorce courts, paying vaginamony and child support vultures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her about fab lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been with my partner for roughly 5 years, and the sex life has gone very quiet how do I attempt the conversation of introducing swinging into the equation? Is it relationship saving or ruining? Opinions please.. Thanks in advance "
Maybe she has just gone off sex ! If so . Why would she want to have sex with strangers

And if she did want too .Would that not tell you it's you she just did not want to have sex with ?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I have been with my partner for roughly 5 years, and the sex life has gone very quiet how do I attempt the conversation of introducing swinging into the equation? Is it relationship saving or ruining? Opinions please.. Thanks in advance Maybe she has just gone off sex ! If so . Why would she want to have sex with strangers

And if she did want too .Would that not tell you it's you she just did not want to have sex with ? "
good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP does your wife know you are on here?no she doesn't he can't ever accomodate due to having a family at home it's all on profile"

That doesn't mean she doesn't know. Lots of people won't take strangers back to their children's home.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"OP does your wife know you are on here?no she doesn't he can't ever accomodate due to having a family at home it's all on profile

That doesn't mean she doesn't know. Lots of people won't take strangers back to their children's home. "

From OP's profile..

My gf sex drive completely gone. So I play away so discretion is a must!

Hopefully this clarifies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP does your wife know you are on here?no she doesn't he can't ever accomodate due to having a family at home it's all on profile

That doesn't mean she doesn't know. Lots of people won't take strangers back to their children's home.

From OP's profile..

My gf sex drive completely gone. So I play away so discretion is a must!

Hopefully this clarifies"

He didn't ask for profile advice.

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By *hampagnebubbliesCouple
over a year ago

west midlands


"Ask the lady who verified you to speak to your missus. Be better coming from another lady surely? "

What about the other 8?

Arrange an orgy with your conquests and see if she thinks it's fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your sex life isn't good do you think she would want sex with other men? What isn't good about it?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"OP does your wife know you are on here?no she doesn't he can't ever accomodate due to having a family at home it's all on profile

That doesn't mean she doesn't know. Lots of people won't take strangers back to their children's home.

From OP's profile..

My gf sex drive completely gone. So I play away so discretion is a must!

Hopefully this clarifies

He didn't ask for profile advice."
I wasn't giving it

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By *irty130Couple
over a year ago

Bristol Area


"Ask the lady who verified you to speak to your missus. Be better coming from another lady surely?

What about the other 8?

Arrange an orgy with your conquests and see if she thinks it's fun "

Haha, only one of them is visible, so I was going with the easiest to get in touch with!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't see you saying " Come on fab it's great " going down to well . Maybe you should of discussed it with her before coming on . Then if she agreed you could of come on fab together "
I was here long before we were together

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ask the lady who verified you to speak to your missus. Be better coming from another lady surely? "
this is my opinion I think speaking to someone who is also on this line of thinking would also help but convincing her to attend a club is proving difficult

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When i got with Boo i was quite open about being a swinger... We did talk about a few fantasies of hers and took it from there.

Start of with talking to her, dirty talk during sex is another good way a gauge something.

From there its just a case of communication and trust... You might be more surprised than you think... As for fab, i would suggest talking first before dropping yourself in a hole "

Definitely talking long before mentioning fab, I'm not sure that will go down very well

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just think that unless a partner is aware of their other half's swinging activities and that they engage in bisexual activity.... simply asking the partner to join that lifestyle could have a catastrophic impact on their relationship "

Totally agree it's a sensitive subject and I'm crap with words

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP does your wife know you are on here?no she doesn't he can't ever accomodate due to having a family at home it's all on profile

That doesn't mean she doesn't know. Lots of people won't take strangers back to their children's home. "

I also don't like doing this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't see you saying " Come on fab it's great " going down to well . Maybe you should of discussed it with her before coming on . Then if she agreed you could of come on fab together I was here long before we were together "
Maybe that's where your problem lies !! Should you of not come off when you met her ?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Dunno

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I just think that unless a partner is aware of their other half's swinging activities and that they engage in bisexual activity.... simply asking the partner to join that lifestyle could have a catastrophic impact on their relationship

Totally agree it's a sensitive subject and I'm crap with words "

Post-it-note!

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

As a rule of thumb, swinging will make a strong relationship even better and will destroy a weak one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a rule of thumb, swinging will make a strong relationship even better and will destroy a weak one."

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Improve the relationship and sex life - it's about the two of you, not bringing others into your failures. An unhealthy relationship is not attractive to others or fulfilling to anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah i somehow don't think the whole infedelity from day one approach is going to help out with the whole sex drive thing unless of course you found out she's been on here for years too and slept with dozens of men. How would you feel if that was true? Should thing about how you would react and see if that gives you any insight. Each to their own but I think with things that require such delicacy you should do a little reflection and try a little empathy too before making a decision.

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By *nergizerbullMan
over a year ago

burntwood

I would delete your profile and say you red about it in a newspaper and explain that the thought of trying it turns you on. If you tell her you've been meeting people behind her back she will hit the roof trust me I learnt the hard way I got caught on here now we're split up , I tried to talk her into it but she couldn't come round to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a rule of thumb, swinging will make a strong relationship even better and will destroy a weak one."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would delete your profile and say you red about it in a newspaper and explain that the thought of trying it turns you on. If you tell her you've been meeting people behind her back she will hit the roof trust me I learnt the hard way I got caught on here now we're split up , I tried to talk her into it but she couldn't come round to it."

Why lie as lies get found out.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I would delete your profile and say you red about it in a newspaper and explain that the thought of trying it turns you on. If you tell her you've been meeting people behind her back she will hit the roof trust me I learnt the hard way I got caught on here now we're split up , I tried to talk her into it but she couldn't come round to it.

Why lie as lies get found out. "
they do Indeed

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