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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Always believe in paying a lady or a man a compliment brightens the day and brings a smile if nothing else!

Just because it's a sex site manners cost nothing? Do you Agree???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that manners cost nothing

I wouldn't say that it was manners to pay a compliment though.

Compliments should be off the cuff and meant

They should also be offered without condition

Compliments are nice to give and, hopefully, nice to receive, even if they can make some receivers kind of awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments are nice if genuinely meant but most on here just send them to try and get in your knickers and don't mean word of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments are not manners, that would be contrived. They should be an impulsive honest reaction.

Manners are keeping your thoughts to yourself when the natural reaction to what you see is a negative one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compliments are not manners, that would be contrived. They should be an impulsive honest reaction.

Manners are keeping your thoughts to yourself when the natural reaction to what you see is a negative one! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree that manners cost nothing

I wouldn't say that it was manners to pay a compliment though.

Compliments should be off the cuff and meant

They should also be offered without condition

Compliments are nice to give and, hopefully, nice to receive, even if they can make some receivers kind of awkward."

I meant as it's good to give compliments and manners are separate I always say please n thanks and if I like a persons tattoo hairstyle or even their profile il happily msg them. I enjoy giving and expect nothing except a smile lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree that manners cost nothing

I wouldn't say that it was manners to pay a compliment though.

Compliments should be off the cuff and meant

They should also be offered without condition

Compliments are nice to give and, hopefully, nice to receive, even if they can make some receivers kind of awkward.

I meant as it's good to give compliments and manners are separate I always say please n thanks and if I like a persons tattoo hairstyle or even their profile il happily msg them. I enjoy giving and expect nothing except a smile lol x "

Thanks

I'll take that as a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compliments are not manners, that would be contrived. They should be an impulsive honest reaction.

Manners are keeping your thoughts to yourself when the natural reaction to what you see is a negative one! "

Well said, can also known as 'having class'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess this makes the 'Say something nice to the poster above' thread kind of redundant

If it's meant in a nice way then I'm all for compliments.

I'll await the backlash. Seems giving people the benefit of the doubt today is not the most popular response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments are separate from somebody being polite and having manners.

My inbox is piled with compliments. On fab there is a natural cynicism to brush compliments aside, given that there is usually an ulterior motive attached to that compliment. I love compliments in real life... Even if I sometimes get embarrassed. On here? Not so much I'm afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compliments are separate from somebody being polite and having manners.

My inbox is piled with compliments. On fab there is a natural cynicism to brush compliments aside, given that there is usually an ulterior motive attached to that compliment. I love compliments in real life... Even if I sometimes get embarrassed. On here? Not so much I'm afraid. "

On here they're not compliments, they're a pitch.

(In the main).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compliments are separate from somebody being polite and having manners.

My inbox is piled with compliments. On fab there is a natural cynicism to brush compliments aside, given that there is usually an ulterior motive attached to that compliment. I love compliments in real life... Even if I sometimes get embarrassed. On here? Not so much I'm afraid.

On here they're not compliments, they're a pitch.

(In the main)."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess this makes the 'Say something nice to the poster above' thread kind of redundant

If it's meant in a nice way then I'm all for compliments.

I'll await the backlash. Seems giving people the benefit of the doubt today is not the most popular response "

Not just today!

It's easy to hide behind keyboards be cynical dismissive and critical of those who we may disagree with.

Perhaps what the world needs is more compliments more kindness more generosity of spirit and a tolerance of others.

My old granny used to say if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. She was a wise woman.

Sometimes I just feel fab needs more compliments more positivity and a kinder approach to others.

After all its meant to be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess this makes the 'Say something nice to the poster above' thread kind of redundant

If it's meant in a nice way then I'm all for compliments.

I'll await the backlash. Seems giving people the benefit of the doubt today is not the most popular response

Not just today!

It's easy to hide behind keyboards be cynical dismissive and critical of those who we may disagree with.

Perhaps what the world needs is more compliments more kindness more generosity of spirit and a tolerance of others.

My old granny used to say if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. She was a wise woman.

Sometimes I just feel fab needs more compliments more positivity and a kinder approach to others.

After all its meant to be fun.

"

Lie you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess this makes the 'Say something nice to the poster above' thread kind of redundant

If it's meant in a nice way then I'm all for compliments.

I'll await the backlash. Seems giving people the benefit of the doubt today is not the most popular response

Not just today!

It's easy to hide behind keyboards be cynical dismissive and critical of those who we may disagree with.

Perhaps what the world needs is more compliments more kindness more generosity of spirit and a tolerance of others.

My old granny used to say if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. She was a wise woman.

Sometimes I just feel fab needs more compliments more positivity and a kinder approach to others.

After all its meant to be fun.

"

Maybe I'm too nice. I'm not that naive that I wouldn't see through it but I'm not one to be nasty about it. A polite thank you goes a long way in my book

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess this makes the 'Say something nice to the poster above' thread kind of redundant

If it's meant in a nice way then I'm all for compliments.

I'll await the backlash. Seems giving people the benefit of the doubt today is not the most popular response

Not just today!

It's easy to hide behind keyboards be cynical dismissive and critical of those who we may disagree with.

Perhaps what the world needs is more compliments more kindness more generosity of spirit and a tolerance of others.

My old granny used to say if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. She was a wise woman.

Sometimes I just feel fab needs more compliments more positivity and a kinder approach to others.

After all its meant to be fun.

Lie you mean? "

That depends on the motive behind the compliment.

And yes everyone here may pay someone compliments for the obvious reasons...

But to be so cynical as to think that is always the case....mmmmmmm

Would that be your response if the compliments were given outside of fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess this makes the 'Say something nice to the poster above' thread kind of redundant

If it's meant in a nice way then I'm all for compliments.

I'll await the backlash. Seems giving people the benefit of the doubt today is not the most popular response

Not just today!

It's easy to hide behind keyboards be cynical dismissive and critical of those who we may disagree with.

Perhaps what the world needs is more compliments more kindness more generosity of spirit and a tolerance of others.

My old granny used to say if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. She was a wise woman.

Sometimes I just feel fab needs more compliments more positivity and a kinder approach to others.

After all its meant to be fun.

Lie you mean?

That depends on the motive behind the compliment.

And yes everyone here may pay someone compliments for the obvious reasons...

But to be so cynical as to think that is always the case....mmmmmmm

Would that be your response if the compliments were given outside of fab?"

I'm not so cynical to think that all compliments aren't genuine. And yes when someone compliments I'd say thank you. But compliments in the real world aren't as freely given as on a website where guys just want to get their end away. So excuse me if I'm not being taken in by bullshit compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess this makes the 'Say something nice to the poster above' thread kind of redundant

If it's meant in a nice way then I'm all for compliments.

I'll await the backlash. Seems giving people the benefit of the doubt today is not the most popular response

Not just today!

It's easy to hide behind keyboards be cynical dismissive and critical of those who we may disagree with.

Perhaps what the world needs is more compliments more kindness more generosity of spirit and a tolerance of others.

My old granny used to say if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. She was a wise woman.

Sometimes I just feel fab needs more compliments more positivity and a kinder approach to others.

After all its meant to be fun.

Maybe I'm too nice. I'm not that naive that I wouldn't see through it but I'm not one to be nasty about it. A polite thank you goes a long way in my book "

Never really worked out what too nice is. We are what we are and being on fab doesn't change that.

And while compliments on here can and are sometimes loaded with ulterior motives thst isn't always the case.

Thank you is always good... I usually manage errr mmmmm shuffle feet look at my shoes and mumble incomprehensible.

But sometimes if someone actually says something nice about me it makes me smile inside.

Maybe more smiles in the world is a good thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess this makes the 'Say something nice to the poster above' thread kind of redundant

If it's meant in a nice way then I'm all for compliments.

I'll await the backlash. Seems giving people the benefit of the doubt today is not the most popular response

Not just today!

It's easy to hide behind keyboards be cynical dismissive and critical of those who we may disagree with.

Perhaps what the world needs is more compliments more kindness more generosity of spirit and a tolerance of others.

My old granny used to say if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. She was a wise woman.

Sometimes I just feel fab needs more compliments more positivity and a kinder approach to others.

After all its meant to be fun.

Lie you mean?

That depends on the motive behind the compliment.

And yes everyone here may pay someone compliments for the obvious reasons...

But to be so cynical as to think that is always the case....mmmmmmm

Would that be your response if the compliments were given outside of fab?

I'm not so cynical to think that all compliments aren't genuine. And yes when someone compliments I'd say thank you. But compliments in the real world aren't as freely given as on a website where guys just want to get their end away. So excuse me if I'm not being taken in by bullshit compliments "

Not just guys! Aren't we all here for similar reasons?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Manners and compliments are a different thing. I always hope I use manners. But compliments, I don't dish them out willy nilly as that makes them meaningless.

Sometimes compliments on here are ten a penny but occasionally I'll get one that I know is genuine and comes from someone that says it without an ulterior motive.

Being nice to people doesn't have to involve saying compliments, I just like being happy and making people smile. The world needs more smiles x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ulterior motive is almost inherent in Fab world. Most are paying compliments because they want or at the very least hope for something in return.

Like with everything there will be rare occasions when this is not the case. Simply ask yourselves why most women don't get tens of compliments in public every day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess this makes the 'Say something nice to the poster above' thread kind of redundant

If it's meant in a nice way then I'm all for compliments.

I'll await the backlash. Seems giving people the benefit of the doubt today is not the most popular response

Not just today!

It's easy to hide behind keyboards be cynical dismissive and critical of those who we may disagree with.

Perhaps what the world needs is more compliments more kindness more generosity of spirit and a tolerance of others.

My old granny used to say if you can't say something nice don't say anything at all. She was a wise woman.

Sometimes I just feel fab needs more compliments more positivity and a kinder approach to others.

After all its meant to be fun.

Lie you mean?

That depends on the motive behind the compliment.

And yes everyone here may pay someone compliments for the obvious reasons...

But to be so cynical as to think that is always the case....mmmmmmm

Would that be your response if the compliments were given outside of fab?

I'm not so cynical to think that all compliments aren't genuine. And yes when someone compliments I'd say thank you. But compliments in the real world aren't as freely given as on a website where guys just want to get their end away. So excuse me if I'm not being taken in by bullshit compliments

Not just guys! Aren't we all here for similar reasons?"

I'm sure it's not just guys but I don't get messages from women so I couldn't possibly comment. I don't compliment random strangers on here so I can only go by my own behaviour and experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ulterior motive is almost inherent in Fab world. Most are paying compliments because they want or at the very least hope for something in return.

Like with everything there will be rare occasions when this is not the case. Simply ask yourselves why most women don't get tens of compliments in public every day."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Maybe I'm too nice. I'm not that naive that I wouldn't see through it but I'm not one to be nasty about it. A polite thank you goes a long way in my book "

Amen to that.

Some people just can't be bothered with basic manners and it takes less than nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ulterior motive is almost inherent in Fab world. Most are paying compliments because they want or at the very least hope for something in return.

Like with everything there will be rare occasions when this is not the case. Simply ask yourselves why most women don't get tens of compliments in public every day."

Because they have nowhere to hide if it goes badly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Compliments are nice if genuinely meant but most on here just send them to try and get in your knickers and don't mean word of it"

^ this!!

I usually find men use this to lure me into responding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ulterior motive is almost inherent in Fab world. Most are paying compliments because they want or at the very least hope for something in return.

Like with everything there will be rare occasions when this is not the case. Simply ask yourselves why most women don't get tens of compliments in public every day.

Because they have nowhere to hide if it goes badly?

"

If it goes badly? If that is in your thought process when you give a compliment then it's not a genuine compliment without some sort of goal.

It's a pitch.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Compliments are nice if genuinely meant but most on here just send them to try and get in your knickers and don't mean word of it"

i think a lot do mean them, but the compliments themselves are so shallow it doesn't even feel like a compliment really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Maybe I'm too nice. I'm not that naive that I wouldn't see through it but I'm not one to be nasty about it. A polite thank you goes a long way in my book

Amen to that.

Some people just can't be bothered with basic manners and it takes less than nothing."

Unless you have hundreds of them in your inbox. You are saying that based on the amount of messages men get. I don't want to spend all my time on here just thanking men for what I see as a lure to get in my knickers, only to have them all try to engage me in a conversation, just because I thanked them. A polite, well thought out message is more likely to grab my attention and lead to a meet, rather than a " Wow! You're so beautiful!!!". Harsh but true, I'm afraid.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"

Maybe I'm too nice. I'm not that naive that I wouldn't see through it but I'm not one to be nasty about it. A polite thank you goes a long way in my book

Amen to that.

Some people just can't be bothered with basic manners and it takes less than nothing.

Unless you have hundreds of them in your inbox. You are saying that based on the amount of messages men get. I don't want to spend all my time on here just thanking men for what I see as a lure to get in my knickers, only to have them all try to engage me in a conversation, just because I thanked them. A polite, well thought out message is more likely to grab my attention and lead to a meet, rather than a " Wow! You're so beautiful!!!". Harsh but true, I'm afraid. "

Damn I best recall my you have a nice smile message

Actually on a serious note. Unless people are in London or Manchester the chances of meeting are slim, unless I am local for a overnight hotel due to football. Not impossible just slim

I will talk to most people anyway, on the forum and I might be a cheeky flirt, with some but I will never ask to meet them as I know I can't nail down a date that I am free.

Also I know I am not everyone's type so I just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Maybe I'm too nice. I'm not that naive that I wouldn't see through it but I'm not one to be nasty about it. A polite thank you goes a long way in my book

Amen to that.

Some people just can't be bothered with basic manners and it takes less than nothing.

Unless you have hundreds of them in your inbox. You are saying that based on the amount of messages men get. I don't want to spend all my time on here just thanking men for what I see as a lure to get in my knickers, only to have them all try to engage me in a conversation, just because I thanked them. A polite, well thought out message is more likely to grab my attention and lead to a meet, rather than a " Wow! You're so beautiful!!!". Harsh but true, I'm afraid.

Damn I best recall my you have a nice smile message

Actually on a serious note. Unless people are in London or Manchester the chances of meeting are slim, unless I am local for a overnight hotel due to football. Not impossible just slim

I will talk to most people anyway, on the forum and I might be a cheeky flirt, with some but I will never ask to meet them as I know I can't nail down a date that I am free.

Also I know I am not everyone's type so I just go with the flow

"

Ooops

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

You don't have to be embarrassed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ulterior motive is almost inherent in Fab world. Most are paying compliments because they want or at the very least hope for something in return.

Like with everything there will be rare occasions when this is not the case. Simply ask yourselves why most women don't get tens of compliments in public every day.

Because they have nowhere to hide if it goes badly?

"

Maybe that depends on the compliment and the context?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The ulterior motive is almost inherent in Fab world. Most are paying compliments because they want or at the very least hope for something in return.

Like with everything there will be rare occasions when this is not the case. Simply ask yourselves why most women don't get tens of compliments in public every day.

Because they have nowhere to hide if it goes badly?

"

I compliment people because I hope it makes them feel good sometimes because of something they have done or said sometimes just because I feel a connection to them.

I expect nothing in return and I'm not quite sure how saying something that makes another feel good can go badly.

Maybe I should know better....

but any compliments I give are sincere and because hopefully it makes two people feel good about themselves them and me.

If I ever thought giving a compliment could go badly or questioned the motives of the person giving the compliment then that would make doing so pointless...

Again maybe I should know better...

but if someone is unhappy with that compliment it's not my problem it's theirs.

I cannot change what others think of me what I say or what I do...

But the optimist in me hopes that if I compliment someone then it's accepted in the spirit it's given.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble is ladies think you are saying it to get in their knickers, which is usually true. It doesn't mean it's not genuine though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bother to pay women any compliments on here. There's genuinely no point, and what I would have said, would have been something they have heard a hundred or more times before.

It's not that they don't deserve to be paid any, but when you hear something over and over, the sentiment and originality is lost. Compliments, are better left to be said in person, where you can judge their sincerity in person.

I just prefer to have a decent, interesting conversation that doesn't involve sex or any reference to pics, clubs, fab or otherwise. However the trouble there is after a few messages, they don't think you're interested in meeting them so stop talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't bother to pay women any compliments on here. There's genuinely no point, and what I would have said, would have been something they have heard a hundred or more times before.

It's not that they don't deserve to be paid any, but when you hear something over and over, the sentiment and originality is lost. Compliments, are better left to be said in person, where you can judge their sincerity in person.

I just prefer to have a decent, interesting conversation that doesn't involve sex or any reference to pics, clubs, fab or otherwise. However the trouble there is after a few messages, they don't think you're interested in meeting them so stop talking "

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