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The North Wind and the Sun

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By *ink Panther. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Aesop was a very wise man, if he ever existed that is, either way the fables attributed to him are problem solving and generally feature animals and inanimate objects. The North Wind and the sun is my favourite. The moral of the story being that a more gentle approach in many situations will be most effective. I've experienced many situations that make me think of this fable. The Fab forum being a prime example, I regularly see the "north wind" approach but it rarely achieves anything, other than discord and divide.

What would you say your approach is to situations, the "North Wind" or the "Sun"?

Do you think that on some occasions adopting the opposite approach may have worked better?

Do you think different situations require different approaches?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid this is a little too deep for me at this time on a Friday afternoon. I'm going to come back to it later.

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By *ink Panther. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I'm afraid this is a little too deep for me at this time on a Friday afternoon. I'm going to come back to it later. "

I don't think you're alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's been a long week. But in summary, yes.

To the last 2 questions. Not sure which is which for the first 2 - if the sun is the gentler approach I mostly use this. But sometimes the Wind.

I think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm, I tend to adopt the sun approach to most things, there have been times I should have been more of the north wind but that would bring me to their level and I don't agree with that.

Does it make me a fool, well in some people's eyes maybe but I know I can sleep at night with a clear conscience. I've also witnessed the sun people turned on by the north wind and then I want to unleash that side of me so yes there are times when I really should have changed the way I dealt with that incident. X

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By *lueWonderMan
over a year ago

Preston.....ish

I'm definitely the sun approach, don't need any more drama in my life than necessary

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i used to love that book. gonna go look on ebay in a minute now.

i'm neither really, don't feel like forcing people to do anything nor persuading them. think i'm the leaf that drifted through the story unnoticed.

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By *ink Panther. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Hmm, I tend to adopt the sun approach to most things, there have been times I should have been more of the north wind but that would bring me to their level and I don't agree with that.

Does it make me a fool, well in some people's eyes maybe but I know I can sleep at night with a clear conscience. I've also witnessed the sun people turned on by the north wind and then I want to unleash that side of me so yes there are times when I really should have changed the way I dealt with that incident. X "

You are far from a fool just a lovely lady

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By *ink Panther. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"It's been a long week. But in summary, yes.

To the last 2 questions. Not sure which is which for the first 2 - if the sun is the gentler approach I mostly use this. But sometimes the Wind.

I think! "

Whatever brings less dramarama

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Good post. Love Aesops fables

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm afraid this is a little too deep for me at this time on a Friday afternoon. I'm going to come back to it later.

I don't think you're alone "

indeed it makes me feel sleepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good post. Love Aesops fables "

its nice to see you both around xx

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By *ink Panther. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"i used to love that book. gonna go look on ebay in a minute now.

i'm neither really, don't feel like forcing people to do anything nor persuading them. think i'm the leaf that drifted through the story unnoticed."

Oh I love that metaphor, how poetic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what mood i'm in.

And i have a habit of reacting before thinking. That probably makes me more windy?

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By *ink Panther. OP   Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Depends what mood i'm in.

And i have a habit of reacting before thinking. That probably makes me more windy? "

I know it's childish but I'm laughing at "more windy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm, I tend to adopt the sun approach to most things, there have been times I should have been more of the north wind but that would bring me to their level and I don't agree with that.

Does it make me a fool, well in some people's eyes maybe but I know I can sleep at night with a clear conscience. I've also witnessed the sun people turned on by the north wind and then I want to unleash that side of me so yes there are times when I really should have changed the way I dealt with that incident. X

You are far from a fool just a lovely lady "

Thank you x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Depends what mood i'm in.

And i have a habit of reacting before thinking. That probably makes me more windy? "

Windy. *snigger*

Poor old Aesop didn't really explain that the north wind approach can also work at times. But if there was one method that always worked, we'd have noticed by now and we'd all be doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Aesop was a very wise man, if he ever existed that is, either way the fables attributed to him are problem solving and generally feature animals and inanimate objects. The North Wind and the sun is my favourite. The moral of the story being that a more gentle approach in many situations will be most effective. I've experienced many situations that make me think of this fable. The Fab forum being a prime example, I regularly see the "north wind" approach but it rarely achieves anything, other than discord and divide.

What would you say your approach is to situations, the "North Wind" or the "Sun"?

Do you think that on some occasions adopting the opposite approach may have worked better?

Do you think different situations require different approaches? "

What would you rather bee - or a wasp?

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"Good post. Love Aesops fables

its nice to see you both around xx"

Thank you, you too

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i used to love that book. gonna go look on ebay in a minute now.

i'm neither really, don't feel like forcing people to do anything nor persuading them. think i'm the leaf that drifted through the story unnoticed.

Oh I love that metaphor, how poetic "

this site needs a leaf emoji, lol.

i saw 2 very expensive aesops fables books today, both several hundred years old. that was interesting so thankyou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i used to love that book. gonna go look on ebay in a minute now.

i'm neither really, don't feel like forcing people to do anything nor persuading them. think i'm the leaf that drifted through the story unnoticed.

Oh I love that metaphor, how poetic

this site needs a leaf emoji, lol.

i saw 2 very expensive aesops fables books today, both several hundred years old. that was interesting so thankyou. "

Not unnoticed, but noted for its beauty and elegance and wonderful artistry.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"i used to love that book. gonna go look on ebay in a minute now.

i'm neither really, don't feel like forcing people to do anything nor persuading them. think i'm the leaf that drifted through the story unnoticed.

Oh I love that metaphor, how poetic

this site needs a leaf emoji, lol.

i saw 2 very expensive aesops fables books today, both several hundred years old. that was interesting so thankyou.

Not unnoticed, but noted for its beauty and elegance and wonderful artistry. "

i just like floating around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i used to love that book. gonna go look on ebay in a minute now.

i'm neither really, don't feel like forcing people to do anything nor persuading them. think i'm the leaf that drifted through the story unnoticed.

Oh I love that metaphor, how poetic

this site needs a leaf emoji, lol.

i saw 2 very expensive aesops fables books today, both several hundred years old. that was interesting so thankyou.

Not unnoticed, but noted for its beauty and elegance and wonderful artistry.

i just like floating around. "

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