FabSwingers.com forum: Never mind the physical - what's your fave personality trait?

By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I think we've all got our scale of physically stunning to ugly, we've all been in that position where someone is so absolutely stunning that you want to write a poem, or cry, or jump on them.

But once the initial attraction is over, what bits of their personality do you look for?

Confidence is a common one, sense of humour is another, but what do these things mean? Humour is especially tricky as it can be very different, there are plenty of comedy shows that I would rather wash the dishes than watch.

Lay back on the couch here, close your eyes and reveal all to the group. We're here for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if im with someone im relaxed enough to giggle with - i like that - equally if i can be happy in each others quietness that is good also - so long as i dont have to be on my guard to mind what i say and upset them and can just be myself - all good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we've all got our scale of physically stunning to ugly, we've all been in that position where someone is so absolutely stunning that you want to write a poem, or cry, or jump on them.

But once the initial attraction is over, what bits of their personality do you look for?

Lay back on the couch here, close your eyes and reveal all to the group. We're here for you."

Brains for me (not in a hungry zombie sort of way). I'm a geek. I enjoy interesting, intelligent discourse. My sense of humour is pretty sarcastic and it takes a certain type of brain to get me. (Also the patience to politely point out when I'm over-geeking is handy; or people tend to find themselves on the wrong end of a two hour lecture regarding the finer detail of Tudor court intrigues or a one woman roadshow about the Battle of Trafalgar.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me is some one i can have a chuckle with , intelligence the ability to hold a conversation and not just naughty stuff . Confidence and being able to laugh at ones self and with others .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Emotional intelligence, not least because it's rare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as looks are a big factor...shallow I know! It's the ability to converse for me, love humour and someone that doesn't take themselves too serious

but on the flip side as per a previous post the ability to be comfy in someone's company without speaking....ideal!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality is key. Good fun with a good imagination and intelligence. Someone who does not talk pointless shite about soaps, big brother, love island etc. Physically a nice smile and fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheeky sense of humour

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone that gets my sense of humour.

Great question OP. It's difficult to pinpoint!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who can laugh at themselves as well as make me laugh. Be able to hold a good conversation and not just about naughty stuff. Empathetic, I like a man that cares about people. And a family man, someone who puts his family at the top of his priorities. And lastly gentlemanly conduct, if he treats me and my children with respect I like that x

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

one word only empathy .

empathy is one of the most attractive traits in the human condition in my opinion .

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Playfulness. I'm very playful and I need someone the same above all else I think, and that kind of includes a common sense of humour.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

100% gullable.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"100% gullable."

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A sense of humour - can't stand miserable sods

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

Sarcasm

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

Aside from a shared sense of humour, it's kindness and empathy for me. Both very attractive traits

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

Cheekiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sense of humour is a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shyness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who is funny, is capable of normal conversation, cheeky and kind x

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Shyness can be attractive, but so can confidence (not cocky), compassion and empathy, the ability to instantly make me feel comfortable around them.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"one word only empathy .

empathy is one of the most attractive traits in the human condition in my opinion ."

Kindness,the ability to listen properly ( such a rare thing)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here? Someone who is normal would be a good place to start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour and kindness. The ability to not be a dick...

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By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"On here? Someone who is normal would be a good place to start."

You're aiming a bit high there

. Would you accept the low side of weird?

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Eco friendly. Must put unleaded in her chain saw.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

Kindness and honesty are very important to me but I also look for people who can engage my brain. That's very difficult to describe succinctly but if you have an enquiring and open mind, a reasonable level of intelligence and a willingness to converse about anything and everything, no matter how 'weird' or deep then I find that trait very attractive.

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"I think we've all got our scale of physically stunning to ugly, we've all been in that position where someone is so absolutely stunning that you want to write a poem, or cry, or jump on them.

But once the initial attraction is over, what bits of their personality do you look for?

Lay back on the couch here, close your eyes and reveal all to the group. We're here for you."

Chemistry ... it surpasses the physical and included being able to chat and joke with a prospective partner, and lasts long after the initial orgasm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good sense of humour and someone who is happy to let me Witter on

So a good listener

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the whole person that works not just one trait...

Generosity of spirit kindness empathy fun to be around smart sassy intellectual caring etc...

We will all say similar because we all usually seek the positives in others.

Take any one trait away from anybody and they are immediately someone different. Concentrate on any one trait and miss the whole person.

This is almost the phsycological equivalent of kiss suck fuck or run.

Those things that attract us do not exist in isolation they are part of our very being.....

And just which character trait would I ever identify with. I can't answer that in one or two words..

we are all more than the sum of our parts...

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

If I feel comphy with there company and there personality

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I like women who are gullible enough to believe me when i tell them "do you model? You have the best ass/tits/legs on here, i don't usually messsge people first but you're an acception, I've always found the larger woman more attractive then so called good looking women like kylie minogue, Jennifer Aniston and Heather Graham. Would you like to meet for a coffee no pressure? I'm not married but i can only meet in working hours and NEVER phone me! I much prefer to give pleasure than to receive. I have a genuine reason why i can't accommodate, i just haven't though of it yet. What? No I've not dropped my standards since i joined just to get laid, I've always found what ever the fuck you are attractive.

"........puuuuurfect character trait....

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"A good sense of humour and someone who is happy to let me Witter on

So a good listener "

Oh good God! Blocked!

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sence of humour, specifcally being able to laugh more than making others laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A good sense of humour and someone who is happy to let me Witter on

So a good listener

Oh good God! Blocked!

Yay ...thanks

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

"I like women who are gullible enough to believe me when i tell them "do you model? You have the best ass/tits/legs on here, i don't usually messsge people first but you're an acception, I've always found the larger woman more attractive then so called good looking women like kylie minogue, Jennifer Aniston and Heather Graham. Would you like to meet for a coffee no pressure? I'm not married but i can only meet in working hours and NEVER phone me! I much prefer to give pleasure than to receive. I have a genuine reason why i can't accommodate, i just haven't though of it yet. What? No I've not dropped my standards since i joined just to get laid, I've always found what ever the fuck you are attractive.

"........puuuuurfect character trait....

Def yes ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sweet but cutting sarcasm tempered with a fundamentally good and caring character

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gentleness and the ability to be quiet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the whole person that works not just one trait...

Generosity of spirit kindness empathy fun to be around smart sassy intellectual caring etc...

We will all say similar because we all usually seek the positives in others.

Take any one trait away from anybody and they are immediately someone different. Concentrate on any one trait and miss the whole person.

This is almost the phsycological equivalent of kiss suck fuck or run.

Those things that attract us do not exist in isolation they are part of our very being.....

And just which character trait would I ever identify with. I can't answer that in one or two words..

we are all more than the sum of our parts...

A poet and a scholar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm not sure I can define it exactly as there are so many factors that come into it (humour, intelligence, empathy and a whole load more besides) - but you just KNOW when you 'click' with someone, when conversation just flows and you effortlessly switch from one subject to the next without it feeling stilted or awkward - and that's not just here but in the real world too.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

Flat chested. So I can get the patio slabs level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually find something appealing about everyone.

But in order to want to spend time with someone I need to feel relaxed in their company.

Some people are easy to be with and that's what makes them attractive to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kindness.

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"I usually find something appealing about everyone.

But in order to want to spend time with someone I need to feel relaxed in their company.

Some people are easy to be with and that's what makes them attractive to me.

is that chemistry?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good conversation and have a connection with and nice person who enjoys my company .plus hairy chest helps and nice smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erotic mind/sensuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour wins me over every time!

Oh if we can have a geeky chat too! And the willingness to supply pizza. I'm a simple creature!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Loose morals, and a will of elastic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the whole person that works not just one trait...

Generosity of spirit kindness empathy fun to be around smart sassy intellectual caring etc...

We will all say similar because we all usually seek the positives in others.

Take any one trait away from anybody and they are immediately someone different. Concentrate on any one trait and miss the whole person.

This is almost the phsycological equivalent of kiss suck fuck or run.

Those things that attract us do not exist in isolation they are part of our very being.....

And just which character trait would I ever identify with. I can't answer that in one or two words..

we are all more than the sum of our parts...

A poet and a scholar "

Not me mate. I'm just greedy..

I want it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flat chested. So I can get the patio slabs level.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like people who are logical and intelligent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually find something appealing about everyone.

But in order to want to spend time with someone I need to feel relaxed in their company.

Some people are easy to be with and that's what makes them attractive to me.

is that chemistry?"

Exactly!

That's the word I was looking for x

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

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By *oping for funMan
over a year ago

Newport - Shropshire

"I usually find something appealing about everyone.

But in order to want to spend time with someone I need to feel relaxed in their company.

Some people are easy to be with and that's what makes them attractive to me.

Why is it only a few "get it"

is that chemistry?

Exactly!

That's the word I was looking for x"

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