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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

This conversation keeps coming up amongst friends of mine and now appears in messages on my fab.

So......kissing yes or no?

Is it a pre cursor to sex or can you fuck without kissing?

On the whole i can't. I couldn't meet someone not kiss them yet bump uglies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for me xxx

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By *orkisses75Man
over a year ago

York

Absolute must. Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a must before during and after for me

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Absolutely yes to kissing. Lots and lots of kissing

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Kissing is the path to sex for me....the ultimate turn on...without it before, during and after I just wouldn't be interested.

Tried it once on a meet at a club, when we first started this and were still finding our way, as it was a boundary for the other couple, and it just felt distinctly odd.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Well, each to their own and all that, but for me there has to be kissing. Sex without kissing would just be a pointless exercise. It's half the fun

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By *iffraffMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

No

I have to kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is an absolute must, before during and after. No kisses and it just doesn't feel right x

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Sex without kissing is cold and passionless, robotic even.

As you can tell, I love kissing

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

Sine qua non.

Also lovely lips OP

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Yes. Kissing is a big thing for me. Huge turn on.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

No kissing accompanied by Robin Beck singing in the background then no sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex without kissing is like going to a steak house, ordering everything without the steak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing = no interest in sex .... simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is the start of sex, the slow leading to fast and intense kiss is amazing. Hands in hair, starting those burning feelings and tingles ......oops I didn't realise I was typing - got carried away

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

No kissing for me = no sex.

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Sine qua non.

Also lovely lips OP "

Why thank you

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Kissing is the start of sex, the slow leading to fast and intense kiss is amazing. Hands in hair, starting those burning feelings and tingles ......oops I didn't realise I was typing - got carried away "

Haha you feel free to get carried away

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

Kissing is a must! Kissing confirms if the chemistry is there or not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely; everytime

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Never been asked this on here before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a must for me!

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

So glad others feel the same as me. In response to my "not even had a kiss in July" you'd be surpirsed the amount who asked if I'd at least had sex......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a must before during and after for me "

Definitely this, and spooning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing? But sex?

No. If they want the sex i want the kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Essential for me . Love a good sensual kiss .

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I couldnt get into a meet ,without a good snog

Its all part of the warm up

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing would be a deal breaker for me, it's a big part of foreplay for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it even possible not to kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the first few years on Fab we had a 'no kissing' rule for our own reasons. Despite fabbers protestations above we can honestly say that not one meet turned the chance of fun down even though some said on their profile that kissing was a must. We have now reviewed our no kissing policy now btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on the situation for me.

Like the majority of you, I prefer great sex, which needs intimacy.. but sometimes you just want to fuck.. and that doesn't always need a kiss. Neither does some role play.

Also some may not want the intimacy, I could understand reasons why they may not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is one of my fave things so for me it's always a preference but not a deal breaker. It's mainly couples I've encountered with the no kissing rule and it's understandable that some prefer to keep that level of intimacy between them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't. Kissing is a stepping stone. And plus if you can't kiss well I doubt we would get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit like strawberries without the cream...whats the point ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing everytime unless she had garlic for dinner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the advice of a more experienced couple, we said we wouldn't.

But the reality is, it goes hand in hand with sex and to not kiss just didn't feel right so that got changed after the first time lol x

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By *ockandkeyCouple
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Kissing is one of my fave things so for me it's always a preference but not a deal breaker. It's mainly couples I've encountered with the no kissing rule and it's understandable that some prefer to keep that level of intimacy between them "

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

It's my favourite part. Without it I really struggle.

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

I love kissing from start to finish, being all over, it add to the excitement and passion between to people x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the best bit

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

There has to be kissing.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I don't think I could do without kissing, it would all feel too mechanical!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like meeting a friend with no smiles

Having a roast dinner with no potatoes

It's all part of what makes sex complete and fulfilling.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK


"It's like meeting a friend with no smiles

Having a roast dinner with no potatoes

It's all part of what makes sex complete and fulfilling.

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Bacon and eggs

Fish and Chips

Morecambe and Wise

It's all part of the combination

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"This conversation keeps coming up amongst friends of mine and now appears in messages on my fab.

So......kissing yes or no?

Is it a pre cursor to sex or can you fuck without kissing?

On the whole i can't. I couldn't meet someone not kiss them yet bump uglies...

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My observation of these threads over the years is that almost all singles find kissing important/necessary. Understandable as, if we're genuinely single,it'll be our primary source of intimacy, passion etc!

Couples tend to be split on the issue - some will/some won't. That's also understandable, as they already have a primary source of intimacy/passion - so may feel uncomfortable being as affectionate/intimate with others!

Personally for me kissing is vital! I respect the decision of couples who choose not to kiss others, but I wouldn't meet them for sex! Xx

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

Sex without kissing is like swimming without water!

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK


"This conversation keeps coming up amongst friends of mine and now appears in messages on my fab.

So......kissing yes or no?

Is it a pre cursor to sex or can you fuck without kissing?

On the whole i can't. I couldn't meet someone not kiss them yet bump uglies...

My observation of these threads over the years is that almost all singles find kissing important/necessary. Understandable as, if we're genuinely single,it'll be our primary source of intimacy, passion etc!

Couples tend to be split on the issue - some will/some won't. That's also understandable, as they already have a primary source of intimacy/passion - so may feel uncomfortable being as affectionate/intimate with others!

Personally for me kissing is vital! I respect the decision of couples who choose not to kiss others, but I wouldn't meet them for sex! Xx"

Nice insight, thanks for sharing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meh, if somebody really didn't want to kiss I think I would be cool with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have to kiss -

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Gotta be kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"have to kiss - "

in fact ive kissed some people that id like to go back and repeat and carry on with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing for me is an absolute must for me

I believe that for me kissing is the ultimate foreplay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This conversation keeps coming up amongst friends of mine and now appears in messages on my fab.

So......kissing yes or no?

Is it a pre cursor to sex or can you fuck without kissing?

On the whole i can't. I couldn't meet someone not kiss them yet bump uglies...

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I do not kiss meets. Before i met my partner I didn't kiss full stop.. its rare it causes an issue although it seems its the one preference subject to judgement and even ridicule.

So yup.. I can 100% fuck without kissing and find it very awkward if someone wants to kiss me and now will refuse. But 99.9% of the time its not an issue.

Btw love kissing Mr x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No kissing = no sex, I wouldn't meet someone who didn't kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Btw can i point out it has nothing to do with keeping it to ourselves and for me it makes me uncomfortable and to personal.. same as id not cuddle a meet.. hold hands.. stroke etc...

Mr however wouldnt enjoy sex with no kissing so thoroughly enjoys it . He doesn't cuddle or hold hands as he knows its one thing that makes me go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant imagine not kissing. Wouldn't go any further otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't kiss me then you're not fucking me

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

Sex without kissing is like eating without tasting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For her she likes kissing and finds it part of the turn on etc.

For him he can quite happily do it without kissing. In fact he prefers not to kiss others.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I can fuck without kissing, i just don't want to.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

love kissing, to me that's the best part and sets the mood. A lot of fab "straight" don't kiss as it's too gay for them so the sex is usually hurried, wham bam and out because I get bored and unfulfilled easy with them. Saying that though I won't kiss smoking/bad breath or someone with bad teeth. Kissing nom nom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...isn't (good) sex?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We say on our profile - no kissing no meet .

For us we want a meet to be passionate and erotically charged , and that's simply not possible without kissing .

Some guys ( probably the ones in a relationship ) don't like kissing , and invariably the meet is cold and almost akin to a meet with a working girl . It just doesn't work for us at all .

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"No kissing accompanied by Robin Beck singing in the background then no sex "

Forgot to mention it has to be kissing to the ground too

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"This conversation keeps coming up amongst friends of mine and now appears in messages on my fab.

So......kissing yes or no?

Is it a pre cursor to sex or can you fuck without kissing?

On the whole i can't. I couldn't meet someone not kiss them yet bump uglies...

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I like kissing and have no issue kissing others but it's not essential. Same goes for Mr B.

So yes, we can fuck others without kissing, if its off limits for them. We've found its been more single men with this rule than couples.

It's not a deal breaker for us.

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By *ob nice but domMan
over a year ago

PAISLEY

We are very broadminded and have few limits but kissing remains our thing and won't share that .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got to have kissing ....

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Isn't a Bj kissing?

I always wonder at how kissing is more intimate than oral...or rimming?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a FB with whom I have a bit of domme role play with, the first meet we had there was virtually no kissing until we broke out of the role play and just starting fucking with lots of filthy kisses.

To say those kisses added an extra dimension (and an extra inch!) is an understatement.

So for me, filthy sensual kisses add so much more intimacy to the moment.

Unless you come across a person who tries to eat your face. In that instance I normally look like the following emoji as I struggle for air

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps OP I'm in love with you after looking at just 4 pictures and those lips. Shallow? Probably. Shameless? Most definitely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A previous long term partner was fine kissing other women but rarely comfortable kissing other guys.

For her it was something she kept for "us".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a major turn on for me. Im not sure id get in the mood without it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This conversation keeps coming up amongst friends of mine and now appears in messages on my fab.

So......kissing yes or no?

Is it a pre cursor to sex or can you fuck without kissing?

On the whole i can't. I couldn't meet someone not kiss them yet bump uglies...

I do not kiss meets. Before i met my partner I didn't kiss full stop.. its rare it causes an issue although it seems its the one preference subject to judgement and even ridicule.

So yup.. I can 100% fuck without kissing and find it very awkward if someone wants to kiss me and now will refuse. But 99.9% of the time its not an issue.

Btw love kissing Mr x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are very broadminded and have few limits but kissing remains our thing and won't share that . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cldn't go through sex without kissing Parker. Unsure with a stranger. Although a kiss certainly gets me in the mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed."

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't even consider a meet without kissing. Complete turn off for me. I don't feel the build up and passion without it. Plus I enjoy the intimacy of the act too much to give it up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, no, no, no, no, no, no.....

There's a theme hidden somewhere there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho "

Ok may be ridiculed is too strong, but certainly made to feel different, odd, strange because we don't conform to the norm. Not nice is it ?

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho "

The word "bizarre" is a little judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

Ok may be ridiculed is too strong, but certainly made to feel different, odd, strange because we don't conform to the norm. Not nice is it ?

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It's your choice, and that should be respected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is part of the sensual experience for myself. Wouldn't enjoy a meet without a kiss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thsnk you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

The word "bizarre" is a little judgemental. "

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

Ok may be ridiculed is too strong, but certainly made to feel different, odd, strange because we don't conform to the norm. Not nice is it ?

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Aside from remarks that may make you feel different , the fact is that your preference is in the minority . That alone will perhaps make you feel strange or odd , particularly as it's over 90% who say that kissing is an important part of a meet .

You may feel that as you are in the minority that you have to justify your position . You don't ! its your choice and as with anything in life , you'll feel downtrodden for being different .

We sometimes feel we have to justify ourselves on the forums as we meet more regularly than most . But some time ago we realised that the opinion of others isn't what we seek . Nor validation , or anything else .

Swinging , and what we all do to express our desires will inevitably be different for everyone . But above all it should be fun . Enjoy what you do and don't let anything anyone says get you down

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By *izardsMan
over a year ago

meadows

Definitely prefer sex with kissing

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

The word "bizarre" is a little judgemental. "

That's my opinion not in any way a judgement of others.

Some ppl find brown sauce on a hot dog bizarre

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By *arlo82 OP   Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

Ok may be ridiculed is too strong, but certainly made to feel different, odd, strange because we don't conform to the norm. Not nice is it ?

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No one i merely asked the question as to others opinion on kissing. You didn't have to comment that you do not participate in kissing nor has anyone given you a hard time over it. As i keep reiterating to each their own

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Yes we can do it. Does not mean it's a preference but we are happy to respect others boundaries.

If sex was the same with everyone it would get dull.

Our meets are rarely the same. Some kiss others don't, some have been full swap, most not. We have done just watching, just touching, just kissing, just fucking, just fems having fun, 2 girls on one guy and reverse.

Hell even had sex with my partner without kissing. I wanted sex but not their sore throat.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho "

It's about intimacy.

Different people have different signs of intimacy.

You may equate sex and kissing as the same, were as others would equate sex as a carnal bit of entertainment, were as kissing is reserved for those who they have romantic or fraternal feelings for.

Its no more or less bizarre than your own internal unique thought processes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

Ok may be ridiculed is too strong, but certainly made to feel different, odd, strange because we don't conform to the norm. Not nice is it ?

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This.... i have been picked fun at when at a party for my preference... the oh how is it more personal... well kissing ia perhaps the most intimate part of sex... Not even sure Mr understands although as he knows my reasons for never having done it in the past even in relationships... maybe he has a better idea...

But you get the whole its akin to a working girl.. its robotic and such other comments.. which are in a manner ridiculing those that dont want to kiss.... or simply shock horror.. don't like it...

Everyone accepts that people may not want to do facials or anal... but have a no kissing preference and your practically called a freak.. in fact i have been told just that at a party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

It's about intimacy.

Different people have different signs of intimacy.

You may equate sex and kissing as the same, were as others would equate sex as a carnal bit of entertainment, were as kissing is reserved for those who they have romantic or fraternal feelings for.

Its no more or less bizarre than your own internal unique thought processes. "

Spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love to kiss xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

Ok may be ridiculed is too strong, but certainly made to feel different, odd, strange because we don't conform to the norm. Not nice is it ?

This.... i have been picked fun at when at a party for my preference... the oh how is it more personal... well kissing ia perhaps the most intimate part of sex... Not even sure Mr understands although as he knows my reasons for never having done it in the past even in relationships... maybe he has a better idea...

But you get the whole its akin to a working girl.. its robotic and such other comments.. which are in a manner ridiculing those that dont want to kiss.... or simply shock horror.. don't like it...

Everyone accepts that people may not want to do facials or anal... but have a no kissing preference and your practically called a freak.. in fact i have been told just that at a party. "

Yep totally agree with your observations but the people making the comments can't or won't see it that way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No way love kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if they have smelly breath haha

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By *r.MikeMan
over a year ago

Gran Canaria Maspalomas...sometimes in Grays

It.s a Must for me too..It.s seems like be the difference between us and animals!I.m agree too sometimes it.s Ok to fuck like "animals".But just sometimes!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who wants to be kissed first xx a proper kiss you can feel in the legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No way love kissing "
honey rose definitely needs kissing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex without kissing is cold and passionless, robotic even.

As you can tell, I love kissing "

Totally agree, i spent 3 yrs with a fb that didn't want any kissing as he believed it would be classed as cheating on his wife lol

The sex was ok but mainly cuz i have a very good imagination and im horny as hell all the time!!

After meeting my new playmate 5 yrs ago I don't think i could ever have sex again without kissing it's so cold and impersonal

A x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing for me builds the excitement. The slower the kiss the faster the heartbeat.....

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Always a kiss x Storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Storm mmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love kissing, won't meet otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i do not kiss or cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love kissing, wouldn't be that keen to have a meet without it, I think it would stifle the flow of things for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kisses all the way!

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By *iSTARessWoman
over a year ago

London

If I want mere friction, I'll have a go on my fucking machine.

Snogging is mandatory.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a must

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex without kissing is like ice cream without flavor to me

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By *lueWonderMan
over a year ago

Preston.....ish

Got to have some kissing it's all part of the build up to the main event. A kiss here a nibble on the shoulder blade the feeling as you move your lips over the soft skin of the neck...... Yeah gotta kiss!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we started out we had a no kissing rule, that rule lasted 5 minutes! Kissing is the pre-cursor to fun! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely got to kiss. I turned down a meet when I realised they didn't kiss

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By *hadesofmWoman
over a year ago

canterbury

I always thought that kissing was an essential part in active sex for me, but met someone who wasn't so keen because of their personal circumstances. I was still open to explore and see how things went.

First meet and no kissing happened, still all went to plan and was an eventful, fun experience. Did I still want to kiss that person? Of course because that's me but it didn't actually make any difference at the time.

Having met that person several times since we have since kissed in the middle of sex and it was actually way more erotic than it would have been pre sex.

It's not a hard line for me one way or the other.

I think if your attracted to someone then it's natural to want to kiss them, however I think that with the right communication and the right chemistry it's possible to still have amazing sex without kissing.

Although I have kissed that person on meets since it's certainly not a 3 step process of

Kissing

Foreplay

Sex.

Kissing doesn't always happen and when it does, it doesn't always happen first.

I would always be honest with anyone I was meeting to share expectations before hand, and if I couldn't respect someone's wishes or they couldn't respect mine then I wouldn't meet them.

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By *hadesofmWoman
over a year ago

canterbury

Also as a follow on, kissing on lips is it different to kissing skin?

Is snogging in a different category to kissing someone's neck, shoulder or other body part?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm not good enough to be kissed, then I'm certainly not good enough to be fucked. Fucking is so much more intimate than kissing.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

For me one goes with the other x.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like kissing but it's not a necessary part of sex for me. I'd rather have more oral sex thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I wouldn't meet anyone that didn't kiss.

Sex without kissing must be cold, clinical and passionless.....thats not going to get my fanny fluttering

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By *hadesofmWoman
over a year ago

canterbury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is a must for me unless...

It's first thing in the morning and you're both hungover. No kissing to avoid the morning hangover breath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is great

Sometimes mouths just don't match though

When that happens, the main act is rarely great

You're better getting out before Pearl & Dean finish

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By *hadesofmWoman
over a year ago

canterbury


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx"

Primarily I agree with your above post and I'm not too ashamed to say that I started on this site as a non kisser. (Because I didn't KNOW if it would be hard for me to see my partner kiss someone else or for him to see me kiss someone else) I didn't want to be that person/couple that had loads of boundaries and that caused other people to feel uncomfortable. We agreed that we would meet other people/ another person and just be really honest with them about our situation. The first couple we met were a soft swing/ new to the scene/ still a bit unsure of things type of couple. Lovely people but in a position similar to us. We were very fortunate to meet them. We realised immediately that it actually wasn't a big deal for us and left feeling totally ok with ourselves and having destroyed our concerns.

We had agreed that if we couldn't kiss and it was an issue that we would walk away from the site because clearly it wouldn't have been the right thing for us if it was going to cause issues in our relationship.

I don't have an issue with not kissing if people have a honest and genuine reason for it.

The person I *didnt* kiss on initial meeting had a perfectly reasonable explanation for me. That person was married, and openly so. And as a couple they felt that kissing was more involved in feelings and emotions than sex, the person I slept with didn't want to betray their partner and I respect that. We had multiple conversations about kissing between us not kissing and kissing and when it happened I knew it wasn't anything that was attached to emotions. It was purely a sexual urge and not a "omg now I have feelings for you" situation.

Again I'm not saying this would work for everyone, but im very fortunate to have open and honest conversations with the people I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx"

Following on from this it seems that you could make the same judgement for those only interested in soft swap ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i rarely kiss in a relationship or just with sex

i cannot get it

other than its wet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing is essential

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By *hadesofmWoman
over a year ago

canterbury


"It's something we keep for ourselves. We would turn down a meet who insisted on it.

Our preference. Shame a preference has to be ridiculed.

I'm not ridiculing anyone. Merely asking as it keeps coming up. I find it bizarre that someone would want to be naked and have sex with someone else without kissing. Dont see how their dick in your mouth is any less personal than a tongue. Each to their own tho

Ok may be ridiculed is too strong, but certainly made to feel different, odd, strange because we don't conform to the norm. Not nice is it ?

This.... i have been picked fun at when at a party for my preference... the oh how is it more personal... well kissing ia perhaps the most intimate part of sex... Not even sure Mr understands although as he knows my reasons for never having done it in the past even in relationships... maybe he has a better idea...

But you get the whole its akin to a working girl.. its robotic and such other comments.. which are in a manner ridiculing those that dont want to kiss.... or simply shock horror.. don't like it...

Everyone accepts that people may not want to do facials or anal... but have a no kissing preference and your practically called a freak.. in fact i have been told just that at a party. "

I agree that it's a bit harsh to say "it's robotic" and the same as being a "working girl" given that people saying these things are people who have never done it.

I personally didn't feel that way when I had sex without kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet anyone that didn't kiss.

Sex without kissing must be cold, clinical and passionless.....thats not going to get my fanny fluttering "

Totally this... the flutters start with just the talk and anticipation of the kisses... anything and everything else that follows happens from the kisses... ALL the kisses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't meet anyone that didn't kiss.

Sex without kissing must be cold, clinical and passionless.....thats not going to get my fanny fluttering

Totally this... the flutters start with just the talk and anticipation of the kisses... anything and everything else that follows happens from the kisses... ALL the kisses! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kissing essential

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't kiss. I haven't read the rest of this thread because I pretty much know what people think.

It's a preference, it annoys the bell out of some people I'm not sure why because it's easy for them to avoid us.

The bottom line is if kissing is important to you make sure it's important to the people you're going to meet too. It's hardly in the spirit of open minded, inclusiveness to denigrate other people's preferences but not kissing seems to be fair game for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx"
mines to do with the fact I dont feel comfortable.... it makes me feel squeamish.. unsexy and panicked... why....well id get a ban if I said why... but let's say it was something that meant until my current partner I never shared intimacy with anyone... it was always just sex.

No one needs to jusitfy anything.. I didn't kiss as a single... so no jealousy or issues there and I am more than happy for Mr to kiss.. thing is there is no reason for anyone to understand it anymore than its a preference... I am anything but cold and clinical.. I can be alluring and ignite passion in a group.. but I dont need to kiss to do so..

Ive done this longer than many... and as I have said many times. I can count on one hand the amount of times ive had to stop someone trying to kiss me. So while those that dont kiss are berated and treated like some weird leppers with jealousy issues on the forums. In actual real-life.. it seems to matter not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing essential "

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By *hadesofmWoman
over a year ago

canterbury


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xxmines to do with the fact I dont feel comfortable.... it makes me feel squeamish.. unsexy and panicked... why....well id get a ban if I said why... but let's say it was something that meant until my current partner I never shared intimacy with anyone... it was always just sex.

No one needs to jusitfy anything.. I didn't kiss as a single... so no jealousy or issues there and I am more than happy for Mr to kiss.. thing is there is no reason for anyone to understand it anymore than its a preference... I am anything but cold and clinical.. I can be alluring and ignite passion in a group.. but I dont need to kiss to do so..

Ive done this longer than many... and as I have said many times. I can count on one hand the amount of times ive had to stop someone trying to kiss me. So while those that dont kiss are berated and treated like some weird leppers with jealousy issues on the forums. In actual real-life.. it seems to matter not. "

I wish I could *like* this post.

Would anyone judge someone if they didn't like anal?

Or didn't like role play?

Or didn't like bondage?

Judgements should not be welcome here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing better than the intimacy from passionate kissing and caressing during sex.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xxmines to do with the fact I dont feel comfortable.... it makes me feel squeamish.. unsexy and panicked... why....well id get a ban if I said why... but let's say it was something that meant until my current partner I never shared intimacy with anyone... it was always just sex.

No one needs to jusitfy anything.. I didn't kiss as a single... so no jealousy or issues there and I am more than happy for Mr to kiss.. thing is there is no reason for anyone to understand it anymore than its a preference... I am anything but cold and clinical.. I can be alluring and ignite passion in a group.. but I dont need to kiss to do so..

Ive done this longer than many... and as I have said many times. I can count on one hand the amount of times ive had to stop someone trying to kiss me. So while those that dont kiss are berated and treated like some weird leppers with jealousy issues on the forums. In actual real-life.. it seems to matter not. "

Why do people THINK they know the right answer...there isn't one! Each to their own...and although the "non" kiss camp(of which I am one) is clearly in the minority, so what! Doesn't make it "wrong"!

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By *8Roost88Man
over a year ago

Derby

I very much like kissing when having sex as it allows you and the person/persons you are with a gage and feel each others passion making the experience all the stronger. This said I understand if people don't want to kiss because it is so intimate, after all I can see if people aren't in the right head space the wrong things could be felt and either people are lead on or some partners become suspicious and couples can have issue in relationships. And I can have sex without kissing, though certainly prefer doing so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's been times in a party situation, where I might have forgotten to kiss as I got so wrapped up in being fucked hard. I surprised myself at the time, but figured there is a place for that type of sex. But it would be a different matter if I knew it wasn't allowed under any circumstances.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"

Ive done this longer than many... and as I have said many times. I can count on one hand the amount of times ive had to stop someone trying to kiss me. So while those that dont kiss are berated and treated like some weird leppers with jealousy issues on the forums. In actual real-life.. it seems to matter not.

I wish I could *like* this post.

Would anyone judge someone if they didn't like anal?

Or didn't like role play?

Or didn't like bondage?

Judgements should not be welcome here."

I agree judgement shouldn't be welcome but for some reason it's acceptable to unfavourable judge people who prefer not to kiss. Yet it's rare to find a non kisser pointing the finger at kisses for being different to them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very much like kissing when having sex as it allows you and the person/persons you are with a gage and feel each others passion making the experience all the stronger. This said I understand if people don't want to kiss because it is so intimate, after all I can see if people aren't in the right head space the wrong things could be felt and either people are lead on or some partners become suspicious and couples can have issue in relationships. And I can have sex without kissing, though certainly prefer doing so."

See this attitude doesn't help... for me it's nothing to do with fear of feelings... I do not like intimacy with someone I dont trust implicitly which isnt going to be with a meet

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I very much like kissing when having sex as it allows you and the person/persons you are with a gage and feel each others passion making the experience all the stronger. This said I understand if people don't want to kiss because it is so intimate, after all I can see if people aren't in the right head space the wrong things could be felt and either people are lead on or some partners become suspicious and couples can have issue in relationships. And I can have sex without kissing, though certainly prefer doing so."

Why is intimacy necessary in casual sex?

What if it's as simple as a person just doesn't like kissing?

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"

Ive done this longer than many... and as I have said many times. I can count on one hand the amount of times ive had to stop someone trying to kiss me. So while those that dont kiss are berated and treated like some weird leppers with jealousy issues on the forums. In actual real-life.. it seems to matter not.

I wish I could *like* this post.

Would anyone judge someone if they didn't like anal?

Or didn't like role play?

Or didn't like bondage?

Judgements should not be welcome here.

I agree judgement shouldn't be welcome but for some reason it's acceptable to unfavourable judge people who prefer not to kiss. Yet it's rare to find a non kisser pointing the finger at kisses for being different to them...

"

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By *8Roost88Man
over a year ago

Derby


"I very much like kissing when having sex as it allows you and the person/persons you are with a gage and feel each others passion making the experience all the stronger. This said I understand if people don't want to kiss because it is so intimate, after all I can see if people aren't in the right head space the wrong things could be felt and either people are lead on or some partners become suspicious and couples can have issue in relationships. And I can have sex without kissing, though certainly prefer doing so.

Why is intimacy necessary in casual sex?

What if it's as simple as a person just doesn't like kissing?"

I don't find it necessary by any means but I can enjoy the sex more. Also I understand some people don't like kissing.

Again I understand there can be a variety of reason people have preferences either for only kissing or not at all. Personally I prefer kissing but don't have too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I very much like kissing when having sex as it allows you and the person/persons you are with a gage and feel each others passion making the experience all the stronger. This said I understand if people don't want to kiss because it is so intimate, after all I can see if people aren't in the right head space the wrong things could be felt and either people are lead on or some partners become suspicious and couples can have issue in relationships. And I can have sex without kissing, though certainly prefer doing so.

See this attitude doesn't help... for me it's nothing to do with fear of feelings... I do not like intimacy with someone I dont trust implicitly which isnt going to be with a meet "

If we didn't trust our meets implicitly we wouldn't play with them....

The non kissing issue does get a bad wrap but let's be honest, most of us kiss our kids, grandmother etc

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx"

Sorry but what the fuck who died and made you guys lord of the swingers.

Do we all need to doff our caps and submit our swinging credentials to you.

Non kissers don't get up tight, but there are some kissers out there who post utter crap.

People post their reasons the fact you don't accept that as the truth is your issue.

Pushing your own assumptions on to them is akin to people who don't swing assuming all swingers are sad lonely people who have self confidence issues and are unable to have deep meaningful relationships with anyone.

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx

Sorry but what the fuck who died and made you guys lord of the swingers.

Do we all need to doff our caps and submit our swinging credentials to you.

Non kissers don't get up tight, but there are some kissers out there who post utter crap.

People post their reasons the fact you don't accept that as the truth is your issue.

Pushing your own assumptions on to them is akin to people who don't swing assuming all swingers are sad lonely people who have self confidence issues and are unable to have deep meaningful relationships with anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too late and tired to read through thread but absolutely not, would rather not have sex it meant there bwould no kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx"

You have some dreadful issues. You're always trying to shift the blame onto other people.

If I don't kiss it's because I don't want to. Who will I get jealous of or have a row with? Your 'theory' may be true in some cases but not all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx

You have some dreadful issues. You're always trying to shift the blame onto other people.

If I don't kiss it's because I don't want to. Who will I get jealous of or have a row with? Your 'theory' may be true in some cases but not all. "

We never said all did we? It's plain when we said about having a row we were referring to couples, we guess our point is proven by the vitriol appearing on the thread now aimed at us and backs up our point that the no kissing/kissing numerous threads never reveal the truth

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By *itofamouthfullMan
over a year ago

cotswolds/herefordshire

I love to kiss, but if the other person didn't then it's no big deal still can have fun without kissing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx

You have some dreadful issues. You're always trying to shift the blame onto other people.

If I don't kiss it's because I don't want to. Who will I get jealous of or have a row with? Your 'theory' may be true in some cases but not all.

We never said all did we? It's plain when we said about having a row we were referring to couples, we guess our point is proven by the vitriol appearing on the thread now aimed at us and backs up our point that the no kissing/kissing numerous threads never reveal the truth"

You like to ignore the fact that ive posted several times why.

I dont like kissing people i dont have trust in. Trust takes a lot to give... I also wont kiss someone I have no connection too... so nsa meets are not going to be kissed.

Its personally very hard for me to enjoy intimacy with someone and always will be. Sex on the other hand I enjoy as long as its my way. 121 sex isnt something im on fab for.. Although Ive found with my partner it is better than any group experience but with others 3sums and more sums are what Im looking for.

Not kissing is just a preference same as not wanting anal or oral etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is always assumed that 'no kissing' is a couples thing and a rule made in order to keep the intimate loving aspect of sex purely for themselves. It's something that we have ever wanted but I understand that thought process.

Interesting to hear that some people genuinely dislike kissing, and that has intrigued me. Is this a blanket dislike of kissing, or is it a dislike of kissing people they are not close to? Is it something that really revolts them and they simply can't bare to do it? In which case I would compare it with my dislike of glory holes and being pissed/spat on (i.e. hard limit). Or is it that they aren't keen, in which case I would compare it with my view of kissing women (still unsure how I feel about that one but I'm trying), 69 position (boring and tedious, but I'll do it to please). Or it that they might learnt to enjoy it with right person, in which case I'll compare it with anal sex and me going down on a woman (not out of the question but unlikely).

I'm not judging or criticising. As someone who snogged for England as a teenage and therefore have a fairly blase attitude to kissing, I'm genuinely curious that there is a whole other way of viewing kissing.

Mrs

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx

You have some dreadful issues. You're always trying to shift the blame onto other people.

If I don't kiss it's because I don't want to. Who will I get jealous of or have a row with? Your 'theory' may be true in some cases but not all.

We never said all did we? It's plain when we said about having a row we were referring to couples, we guess our point is proven by the vitriol appearing on the thread now aimed at us and backs up our point that the no kissing/kissing numerous threads never reveal the truth"

Nope proven nothing.

This is very similar to when someone say so and so has a negative personality, they respond no I don't and QED you say your point is proven.

Posting your own assumptions as the truth behind someone else's preferences is never a great starting point. If you can't accept someone else's reasons that's more an issue for you. It does not invalidate their reasons.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I said further up thread that my preference is to kiss and that personally I found it odd the one time we played with a couple that didn't kiss.

That said, I wouldn't dream of saying some of the frankly rude and insulting things that have been said above about people that don't kiss - most of them assumptions based on absolutely nothing other than a lack of understanding or willingness to try and understand.

If someone doesn't want to kiss, surely that's their right just as it's their right not to have anal, or not to do full swap, or not to have sex unless they are wearing a pair of marigolds!!

Respect the preference rather than belittling it - sure try and understand it and when an explanation is given (as it has been several times throughout this thread) then accept it without question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I said further up thread that my preference is to kiss and that personally I found it odd the one time we played with a couple that didn't kiss.

That said, I wouldn't dream of saying some of the frankly rude and insulting things that have been said above about people that don't kiss - most of them assumptions based on absolutely nothing other than a lack of understanding or willingness to try and understand.

If someone doesn't want to kiss, surely that's their right just as it's their right not to have anal, or not to do full swap, or not to have sex unless they are wearing a pair of marigolds!!

Respect the preference rather than belittling it - sure try and understand it and when an explanation is given (as it has been several times throughout this thread) then accept it without question."

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok. I've read quite a lot of this and posted MY preference.

That's just it. It's our own preference.

When my partner and I first joined, we didn't think kissing would be appropriate.

That's changed in the several months we've been here but I get the reasons behind it.

It's not only intimate but it conveys emotion.

A few others have questioned it, such as why would you give oral sex but not kiss?

I'm sure I'm far more emotional with my partner kissing than I ever am doing anything else.

Backing up what a few have said, don't judge. It's personal choice and important to whoever is involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kissing is a must for us

The kiss/no kiss issue is raised fairly regularly on here, the no kissers get uptight generally and here is why....

No kissers generally have a reason for not kissing which is not conducive to swinging, namely fear of intimacy, jealousy issues, past problems etc etc

They will always fob it off with, well some people don't like anal etc, like they equate to the same thing!

The reality is you are never going to know the real reason for not kissing and as such these people are avoided by us and arguing with them in the forums will never enlighten you as we've never seen a true reason

So go on non kissers fess up let's hear someone say "we don't kiss because we will get jealous and probably have a row"

Not likely is it? Xx

Sorry but what the fuck who died and made you guys lord of the swingers.

Do we all need to doff our caps and submit our swinging credentials to you.

Non kissers don't get up tight, but there are some kissers out there who post utter crap.

People post their reasons the fact you don't accept that as the truth is your issue.

Pushing your own assumptions on to them is akin to people who don't swing assuming all swingers are sad lonely people who have self confidence issues and are unable to have deep meaningful relationships with anyone.

"

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By *r.MikeMan
over a year ago

Gran Canaria Maspalomas...sometimes in Grays

Yu have right!Our choice..obviously you see the person &you can deicide it if it.s luscious to kiss it!

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really really enjoy kissing Dorian and other ladies. But otherwise it's not something that is important to me.

Kissing is not essential to sex in my opinion and we personally do not kiss (asides from me kissing other ladies) as we like to keep some things for between us.

We are not jealous or insecure. Just our preference to have it this way and we make abundantly clear on our profile. So people can easily avoid us if they don't like it.

Far too many are bad at kissing anyway

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm either or, prefer to kiss but if people aren't comfortable with it, then I'm flexible and respectful enough to go along with their request

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I said further up thread that my preference is to kiss and that personally I found it odd the one time we played with a couple that didn't kiss.

That said, I wouldn't dream of saying some of the frankly rude and insulting things that have been said above about people that don't kiss - most of them assumptions based on absolutely nothing other than a lack of understanding or willingness to try and understand.

If someone doesn't want to kiss, surely that's their right just as it's their right not to have anal, or not to do full swap, or not to have sex unless they are wearing a pair of marigolds!!

Respect the preference rather than belittling it - sure try and understand it and when an explanation is given (as it has been several times throughout this thread) then accept it without question."

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this thread I don't think people have judged. Yes this is a thread where people have banged on about how important kissing is to them. Some have questioned why people don't kiss, and may have put forward their conclusions as to why people make these choices. No doubt there are a whole range of reasons in reality. We all know it's personal choice, we all know it's a preference. But it's interesting to discuss why people make certain choices.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband didn't kiss me for 27 ish years. I craved it so much.

I met someone 7 years ago who didn't kiss me for the first few years; I've never asked him why. The lack of kissing didn't make meeting him less enjoyable, but, when he did start kissing me it opened up a whole new level of sexual pleasure for me, and I think him too. Now, he kisses me a lot during sex, and it makes me feel closer to him.

I can, however, kiss someone and just enjoy the feeling of my mouth on theirs and not feel that intimacy. I'm going to guess that it's the same with people in relationships. If you don't have feelings for someone a kiss is just two body parts touching.

My partner told me that when I meet his friends they are not allowed to kiss me, but I like knowing he kisses his other women. We are all very different.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Reading this thread I don't think people have judged. Yes this is a thread where people have banged on about how important kissing is to them. Some have questioned why people don't kiss, and may have put forward their conclusions as to why people make these choices. No doubt there are a whole range of reasons in reality. We all know it's personal choice, we all know it's a preference. But it's interesting to discuss why people make certain choices.

Mrs"

I'm fine with stating preferences.

We love kissing.

But I also accept you can swing and not want to share all your sexuality with other people.

Some people keep kissing to their own partners, others keep whips and chains.

I don't expect them to be the same with me as they are with their life partner.

We are not sharing a everything when swinging, just fun times.

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By *r.MikeMan
over a year ago

Gran Canaria Maspalomas...sometimes in Grays

Yess... the correct words"kissing turn me on"

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

This has escalated somewhat , but here's something interesting .

We went out on Monday night , and it ended up being very busy . We met a few guys outdoors and none of them seemed to want to kiss , just suck and go , and one who gloved up and fucked my wife as she sucked a couple of guys . All good for what it was , but what it was wasn't really very good . Visually it didn't do much more me , and my wife felt it lacked any passion , or intimacy .

Why would it you ask .... it was a typical group outdoor session . Well here's the thing , most of our meets involve much more real passion which includes lots of kissing , and as a result of Monday nights meets , we have changed our profile , adding that kissing is essential . This will ineveitably mean that our choice of meets will change too . We wouldn't expect everyone to kiss on a typical group outdoor session , so we are reviewing our meet criteria to accommodate the kissing .

A meet with no kissing is just not going to cut it for us , it's just way too cold and meaningless .

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?


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Sex without kissing

So......kissing yes or no?

"

Has to be kissing, passionate kissing, soft gentle kisses.

Lots of kisses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a must for me, some sex may be meaningless but it's always passionate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I could not kiss, I've met people before who have been hesitant at the start - most people find kissing more personal than sex itself.

I find they get a bit more into it after having got their legs shaking from a much appreciated bit of oral on them

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