FabSwingers.com forum: Compliments

By *iss.Honey OP Woman
over a year ago

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Do you accept them gracefully or bat them off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Accept, I get few, so when they come along...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Accept gracefully. I had a lovely one last night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bat them off, I find I get very embarrassed. Not the easiest thing to accept. X

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I accept them gracefully as assertiveness is important

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just say thank you.

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By *iss.Honey OP Woman
over a year ago

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"Accept gracefully. I had a lovely one last night"

I had one this morning, different but good.

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By *ola.Woman
over a year ago

Just where I need to be.

Depends who is complimenting. On here as the most gorgeous woman with a fit body, well that is what is messaged to me, I don't take any notice. From people who have nothing to gain by complimenting me I accept gracefully but I find it quite hard to do.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

It's depends on the compliment and whom it's from

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I have got better at accepting them over the years - especially the genuine ones.

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By *ella-donnaWoman
over a year ago

York

I accept if they're genuine compliments. I prefer original ones with some thought behind them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More than happy to accept

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I smile and say thank you. If they're genuine my smile is genuine if they're the "you're stunning and look 35 now shag me" type my smile is ironic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All compliments greatly received by both of us and always replied to accordingly. Smashing blouse you have on today OP

Fuzz

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'll know it when I find it.

It depends on who they are from and what type of compliment? I tried to work out a way of saying it without resorting to a clichéd forum response but it really does. Some I question because they are laughable - ones that say what a hot Asian woman I am for example and then the person unloses quickly after. Others just seem more sincere - rightly or wrongly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly I bat them off but compliments off some people make me go mushy.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bat them off, I find I get very embarrassed. Not the easiest thing to accept. X

This ^^

I seem to regress to the kid that hid his face in his jumper if I receive a positive comment. Which is odd, as I have posted on many threads that are blatantly fishing for compliments... Awkward in more ways than one I guess

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I usually bat them off. Most just say nice things in the hope of getting me to share my biscuits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Erm, never get any!

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Reject them, I know myself better than anybody else, but my view of myself is somewhat skewed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm getting better at accepting as I get older and more confident in myself

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

Sometimes it's just nice to be nice; if someone has posted an update or a picture that catches my attention in a good way.

And it's fun to receive them occasionally too.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

To be honest im pretty terrible if i know its genuine. I smile, say thankyou then preceed to walk round like lady muck. Jay has to endure it if i get one while im with him.

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By *iss.Honey OP Woman
over a year ago

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I am a 'batter' rarely will I say thanks etc

Usually an excuse of sorts is used in reply, "Oh this old thing?"

On rare occasions I will have a meltdown and blush/giggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bat them off but I am trying to learn to say thank you (even if i think they are bullshit) compliments havent been a part of my life for the last few years so I'm finding it hard x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learnt to do the very non Brit thing of graciously accepting compliments. Never used to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not that I get many but most definitely batted away

Mr P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends who is complimenting. On here as the most gorgeous woman with a fit body, well that is what is messaged to me, I don't take any notice. From people who have nothing to gain by complimenting me I accept gracefully but I find it quite hard to do."

Same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are these compliments you speak of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take compliments here with a pinch of salt.

In the "real" world I still struggle. Lots of men bullshit to get what they want. So I've learnt.

I don't think I'm butt ugly though. It's just a trust thing.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If I'm complimented in rl I do my best to graciously accept through the blushes. On here.....pppfffttttt...they'll say anything to get into your knickers!!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"Do you accept them gracefully or bat them off? "

I always accept them gracefully as it's always nice to be complimented in some way but like others have said, it depends who is doing the complimenting, their motives and what it is they're complimenting me on.

If it's something I've said or done then I find that much easier to accept. If they're complimenting me on my physical appearance in some way then that's a whole other ballgame. Only if that person had seen me and met me in the flesh would I wholly take their compliment on board. That's all a minefield for me, there's a lifetime of self-doubt and low self-esteem to wade through before my brain will accept it. Only one person has ever complimented me in that way...and it meant the world to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe most but say thanks anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments make me a little uncomfortable, I don't really know how to deal with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am complimentary to a lot of a women and I do genuinely mean it. Pretty much all of them I am unlikely to ever meet, from all corners of the UK so I'm not gaining anything from it.

I do however undrstand the womans point of view on this and seeing it as a means to getting in your knickers and nothing else.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

I try and accept gracefully, to which I am getting better at doing, but generally I just blush and make a joke of it....

It was someone getting offended at me doing the latter and telling me so that made me learn to accept more gracefully

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Very much depends on the compliment AND the complimenter to be honest - I don't tend to believe them either way and will usually make a jokey deflecting or self-deprecating comment in response, although on the occasions they're given and are obviously sincere and genuine then I'll gracefully accept with a thanks and a

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Accept but there's always part of me thinking that the person giving it is taking the mick

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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Just gonna throw this out there.

If you are complimented by someone you like your more likely to be all gooey over it. Human nature.

Same with attention. Its wanted off a hotty. Unwanted off a not so hotty.

Generally speaking anyways.

Personally i give compliments out a fair bit. Most often on here in the forum and on random threads. How the individual takes them is up to them. Also dont care if i get called a white knight or suck up because of it. I say it how i see it. Take it or leave it.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I blush uncontrollably

I say thank you as I'm shuffling my feet and fidgeting.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Well recently I have had a few nice comments and I have messaged the people to say thank you for the compliments - I don't know if they are being nice or if there is more to it

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

Not often I get any but when I do I shuffle from foot to foot look down at the ground sometimes go a bit pink and then mumble something usually incomprehensible

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Compliments about how I look etc I take with a pinch of salt unless it's from someone I know.

Compliments on my personality usually give me a lump in my throat. Regardless of what I look like my personality is me, it's my whole being and to have people say positive things about my soul is very humbling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bat them off tbf, it can't be me they are talking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do both. I thank them then make a joke.

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By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton

I try to smile and say thank you though the temptation is to be a batter The complimenter is trying to do a nice thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't take them, I feel the person is lying, even though they have no need to.

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By *emarkablybobMan
over a year ago

Bradley Stoke,south Gloucestershire

"Do you accept them gracefully or bat them off? "

If only had to look the word up in the dictionary

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By *ohnnybadman666Man
over a year ago

Warrington

I like them but when i get them i bat them off... is that normal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like them but feel embaressed too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take them as the gifts they are intended to be

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I've complimented lots of people on Fab for different reasons and I can honestly say they're genuine, heart felt compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I proceed to stalk and watch evwry move the person makes from that moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Away from fab I get embarrassed and shy if I get complemented.

On fab I brush them off and take no notice as you could look like Susan Boyle and be wearing a bin bag and you would still get complements as people on here would sink to any level to get a shag.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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Its all part of fab life. Indeed all life. Take the compliment. If its bs its bs. Decide whether to meet soneone off here based on other factors not whether they compliment you or not. Happened to me once off here. My pics where considered worthy of a Phwoar. Yes i did have pics up previously lol.

That grabbed my attention and we messaged back and forth a bit and eventually met for a brew. Isnt that how this works after all?

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Do you accept them gracefully or bat them off? "

Compliments always take me surprised and often come when I'm doing something that I feel I could have done better.

Cal

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I don't believe a word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually say thank you and if im not interested in who its from i don't reply to further messages which there always is...

Trying to be polite and accept graciously is often seen as interest so it's tempting to just not respond at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept and thank. If I'm interested my response will be more than that. If not it's just a thank you

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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outright comments i tend to ignore, anyone can give those compliments and they usually mean nothing and are just someones opinion of you. even so if the person is nice i will usually say thanks.

things that people say that aren't outright compliments i can take as compliments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just say thank you. "

On here that's whats I do, in real life I'm a little more gracious.

It normally only tends to be about my tattoos though.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

Except them and run for the hills lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here, I never believe them lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I'm getting older,ive learned to accept them and say thankyou.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On here, I never believe them lol x"

You should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely accept, bad past relationships have made me very self conscious and shy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just say thank you.

On here that's whats I do, in real life I'm a little more gracious.

It normally only tends to be about my tattoos though. "

Well they do look good

I should add that I don't get any compliments in real life. Folk just usually tell me how tall i am, like i didn't already know. It's gotten a bit old now so i just smile and move on quick before they start taking the piss out of me (i.e how's the weather up there).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bat them Off, especially on here.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

It 'depends'. Let's just say I take a lot of convincing

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Bat them Off, especially on here."

Your gorgeous you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general I reply with a 'thank you', regardless of whether I believe them or not.

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"Bat them Off, especially on here."

Why is that then?

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @

"It 'depends'. Let's just say I take a lot of convincing

Believe the hype and except it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept them gracefully

Like all good things, they come to an end. 1 day no1 will be saying oh u got lovely hair, smooth skin, nice teeth lol

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

"Do you accept them gracefully or bat them off? "

Unfortunately I always seem to look over my shoulder thinking that the words are directed to someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say something really stupid and fuck up their good intentions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time I receive one, I'll let you know. Can't remember the last...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say something really stupid and fuck up their good intentions.

I associate with that so much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on who is dishing the compli's out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bat them off, I find I get very embarrassed. Not the easiest thing to accept. X

We agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a special stick to bat them away with. It still looks relatively fresh but I keep it close just in case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say something really stupid and fuck up their good intentions.

I associate with that so much x "

I do the same when giving compliments. I end up insulting them and digging myself into a dark hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say something really stupid and fuck up their good intentions.

I associate with that so much x

I do the same when giving compliments. I end up insulting them and digging myself into a dark hole.

Like the guy that once messaged me to tell me I was a sexy little fat bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you accept them gracefully or bat them off? "

Depends upon whether i believe they are sincere or not.

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

My compliments are always genuine be they extended on here or in The Real World. Sometimes I will PM someone just with a compliment and make clear that there is no ulterior motive.

I am getting better at accepting compliments and am always flattered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bat them off, I find I get very embarrassed. Not the easiest thing to accept. X

We agree with you "

It's trying hard to accept the ones you know are genuine that's difficult as well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely accept everyone surely loves a compliment... jade here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I accept them greatfully

it's always nice to know someone likes something about you

usually it's my cheeky smile.

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