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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Being the big geek I am I have been reading a lot of psychology/psychiatry recently and got thinking what makes people happy or leads to happiness.

I did discuss with a friend writing a short book on it but more of a visual text with exercises.

What do people think makes them happy and other?

I believe good relations and quality time with close ones is very important.

Also I concluded looking for happiness is the wrong mind set. Bring happy and doing happy things is key and lots of them.

Any thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chocolate makes you happy

And sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The key to happiness is being true to yourself, and surrounding yourself with people who allow you to be you

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By *VBethTV/TS
over a year ago

Chester

The most important opinion about you is your own. Don't live for others, live for you. You cannot be happy trying to be what someone else wants you to be or thinks you should be!

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By *uteness69Woman
over a year ago

Walthamstow

Nature, security, love, sex, food.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maslow's triangle of need apparently works for all humanity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happiness isn't a destination it's a state of mind.

But purpose in life and love/loving works in my mind.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"The most important opinion about you is your own. Don't live for others, live for you. You cannot be happy trying to be what someone else wants you to be or thinks you should be! "

Always xx Storm xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self acceptance.... Everything else should fall into place after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find living in the moment rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about that future is a good approach.

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By *est Wales WifeCouple
over a year ago

Near Carmarthen

Being content with yourself. If you're always desiring things you'll never be happy.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Stop the pursuit, simply be you. Slow down.

The golden rule - shag someone like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope I haven't missed much

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

Hobbies and friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The key to happiness is being true to yourself, and surrounding yourself with people who allow you to be you"

this ......... and tolerance of others that dont

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yesterday has gone

Tomorrow never comes

We have only today

Smile breath deeply enjoy the moment

And if you can make someone else happy today..

Then you will find peace love and contentment

What else do we all need...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right now its knowing that in 4 hours I'm gonna see my granddaughter for the first time

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Happy for me is being content with my lot. I have a friend who never is happy cos he's always moaning other people have got better things than him. If jealousy could make one ill, then she's got it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Self acceptance.... Everything else should fall into place after that. "

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

In a relationship openess and honesty.

If not say hi to the divorce courts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being content with yourself. If you're always desiring things you'll never be happy."

This works for me. If you have no relatives or many friends you can still be content and happy with your life.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Contentment not possesions. Some seek possesions im just contented with my lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happiness cannot be constant, lifes about balance

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

For us , our lives are as pretty much happy and content as could be .

No money problems , a happy healthy child , true love for each other , as much fun as we can handle , yep , life's good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

walking Pooch , taking the time to enjoy and live for every moment , moment by moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex and chocolate even better if combined .

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I used to be unhappy with what I didn't have, few life lessons on and I'm very happy with the little I do have.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Oh and most important of all communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happiness truly comes from within. Materialistic things don't lead to happiness. Personally it's being very content with who I am, and spending time with family and friends, doing things I enjoy, and having a positive outlook on life.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Lots of money helps

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Being the big geek I am I have been reading a lot of psychology/psychiatry recently and got thinking what makes people happy or leads to happiness.

I did discuss with a friend writing a short book on it but more of a visual text with exercises.

What do people think makes them happy and other?

I believe good relations and quality time with close ones is very important.

Also I concluded looking for happiness is the wrong mind set. Bring happy and doing happy things is key and lots of them.

Any thoughts? "

I consider myself very fortunate. Throughout my life I've been a 'glass is half full' kind of person - i.e. Unless life is going drastically wrong I'm naturally happy - and it takes a lot to change that state!

Whether it's chemical balance or not I'm not quite sure - but I've observed that of my 3 children, 2 are 'naturally happy' like me - but the third isn't. Like her father she is naturally dissatisfied unless everything in her life is going her way. I feel sorry for her because life is/will be harder for her than her siblings as it takes much more to fill her with wellbeing!

So for me - the answer to happiness is simply the status quo. Work, family, friends, day to day life!

For her and others like her, to be happy all the stars have to align and it has to be an 'exceptional ' day in some way!

Like I said - I'm very lucky!!

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Lots of money helps "

Probably said in jest but I've seen how this isn't true.

It can lead to happyness but it's far from a guarantee.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Right now its knowing that in 4 hours I'm gonna see my granddaughter for the first time"

Awww that's so lovely!

I can't wait to be a grandma one day! My next big adventure in life I hope!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There was a huge study done where different teams of psychiatrists followed a cohort of thousands of people, I think from the 1920's on wards. Just followed them then after about 50 years they where given questionnaires, they where interviewed and every decade therefore after this was all measu_ed again.

It was found that those with "Good relation" that is had close friend and family and spent regular time with them sco_ed better on depression scales, lived longer and had a decreased incidence of CVS disease.

That is quite neat I think

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maslow's triangle of need apparently works for all humanity"

I do think Maslows Hierarchy of needs does have its place

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is an interesting relationship with money and happiness also

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Lots of money helps "
it doesn't make you happy. It gives you choices which having little money doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right now its knowing that in 4 hours I'm gonna see my granddaughter for the first time

Awww that's so lovely!

I can't wait to be a grandma one day! My next big adventure in life I hope! "

I was looking forward to being a nan one day just wasn't expecting it to be b4 I was 40 and definitely wasnt expecting my daughter to announce it was her turn so the second one is due 6 months later...but after the initial shock I was well happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lots of money helps it doesn't make you happy. It gives you choices which having little money doesn't. "

So I looked at this

There are many examples of people being rich and unhappy and poor and happy. I think we have all sat down when we have had debates about life over coffee.

Endless amount of accounts of famous people, with the world at their feet very unhappy.

Happiness seems to correlate with money to a point. Which sort of makes sense. Having no money, not being able to eat or pay the bills would obviously cause stress and unhappiness. However one you "Needs are met". Like on Maslows hierarchy. You have food, warm and shelter. Then the correlation is weak between money and happiness.

Like Biggie Smalls once wrote "More money more problems"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Right now its knowing that in 4 hours I'm gonna see my granddaughter for the first time

Awww that's so lovely!

I can't wait to be a grandma one day! My next big adventure in life I hope!

I was looking forward to being a nan one day just wasn't expecting it to be b4 I was 40 and definitely wasnt expecting my daughter to announce it was her turn so the second one is due 6 months later...but after the initial shock I was well happy "

That is very lovely

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Lots of money helps it doesn't make you happy. It gives you choices which having little money doesn't.

So I looked at this

There are many examples of people being rich and unhappy and poor and happy. I think we have all sat down when we have had debates about life over coffee.

Endless amount of accounts of famous people, with the world at their feet very unhappy.

Happiness seems to correlate with money to a point. Which sort of makes sense. Having no money, not being able to eat or pay the bills would obviously cause stress and unhappiness. However one you "Needs are met". Like on Maslows hierarchy. You have food, warm and shelter. Then the correlation is weak between money and happiness.

Like Biggie Smalls once wrote "More money more problems" "

Didn't do him any good

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Lots of money helps "

In our experience all that helps with is paying a bigger settlement.

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Lots of money helps

it doesn't make you happy. It gives you choices which having little money doesn't. "

I didn't say it makes happynes I sed it helps

And wen you don't have mutch els spending it helps parce the time

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Lots of money helps

In our experience all that helps with is paying a bigger settlement. "

And you just look at most celebs, do they ever look happy together??

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Happiness begins with staying away from negative people

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"Happiness begins with staying away from negative people"

Ill Agree thar

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Mr Micawber's famous, and oft-quoted, recipe for happiness:

"Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen [pounds] nineteen [shillings] and six [pence], result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery."

Charles Dickens, David Copperfield

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By *allyandJonCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Our happiness can be found in sunny sexy sandy nudist beaches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happiness begins with staying away from negative people"

well some people can be portray happiness but deep down they could all so be negative too

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea


"I used to be unhappy with what I didn't have, few life lessons on and I'm very happy with the little I do have.

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I can relate to this

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Loving yourself is a start x Storm x

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

Where there is love there is life x

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