FabSwingers.com forum: What are the 2 things....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

...that you look at first in a profile which then make you decide to read more or move on?

This could be useful and informative for all of us. May not be anything obvious either and might be something that can be changed which helps our own profiles too.

For me it's. ..

1. Can they accommodate.

2 Do they smoke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go straight to the pics

Then read the profile

Then if any veris I read those to

Look at the pics again

Decide if I'm going to message ... chicken out then move onto the next profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The pics is the makes up 50% of my decision, need to know if I'm attracted to them

The bio makes up the rest, if it's full of "don't do this" and "won't do that" I'll just leave them alone, who needs that kind negativity in their life

The warning to Sydney university can also trump all of the above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly I watch what they say first. Do they sound like the sort of person I could spend time with?

On to the profile I'd go with

1. They want to engage with me on an intellectual level as well as physical

2. Intensity - I'm all about the mysterious and often darker side of a person. This intrigues me a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first things are age and height. Everything else is negotiable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Photos & username tells me all I need to know.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

are they straight and have they bothered to right a decent profile

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

General personal information and overall tone.

Pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly we're all compatible then that they can accommodate. Then I check out the rest of the profile and pics last x

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Boobs. I look at boobs first

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Pics

Profile

No effort, no interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pictures

Profile/veris

Age/location

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I go straight to the pics

Then read the profile

Then if any veris I read those to

Look at the pics again

Decide if I'm going to message ... chicken out then move onto the next profile

You could just keep reading profile. .. start Wi Aa. Then aab and so on we need it all alphabeticalised . X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The pics is the makes up 50% of my decision, need to know if I'm attracted to them

The bio makes up the rest, if it's full of "don't do this" and "won't do that" I'll just leave them alone, who needs that kind negativity in their life

The warning to Sydney university can also trump all of the above "

I get you totally on the don'ts and won't s totally. I'm sure I'd have skipped alot anyway with mine 2.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go straight to the pics

Then read the profile

Then if any veris I read those to

Look at the pics again

Decide if I'm going to message ... chicken out then move onto the next profile

You could just keep reading profile. .. start Wi Aa. Then aab and so on we need it all alphabeticalised . X"

Haha .....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mostly I watch what they say first. Do they sound like the sort of person I could spend time with?

On to the profile I'd go with

1. They want to engage with me on an intellectual level as well as physical

2. Intensity - I'm all about the mysterious and often darker side of a person. This intrigues me a lot "

How do you know if they'll be that engaging just by the profile though?

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I look for a face pic and then height. Doesn't mean I don't look at the rest but those are the first two

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I go straight to the pics

Then read the profile

Then if any veris I read those to

Look at the pics again

Decide if I'm going to message ... chicken out then move onto the next profile

You could just keep reading profile. .. start Wi Aa. Then aab and so on we need it all alphabeticalised . X

Haha .....

I think I messaged you through forum so that how you got one or 10 from me. You were engaging too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mostly I watch what they say first. Do they sound like the sort of person I could spend time with?

On to the profile I'd go with

1. They want to engage with me on an intellectual level as well as physical

2. Intensity - I'm all about the mysterious and often darker side of a person. This intrigues me a lot

How do you know if they'll be that engaging just by the profile though?"

The profile says it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Pictures

Profile/veris

Age/location"

That 2 +2

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Distance

Whether they can accomadate

Dealbreakers for me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mostly I watch what they say first. Do they sound like the sort of person I could spend time with?

On to the profile I'd go with

1. They want to engage with me on an intellectual level as well as physical

2. Intensity - I'm all about the mysterious and often darker side of a person. This intrigues me a lot

How do you know if they'll be that engaging just by the profile though?

The profile says it

Ok.

Want to give an example? Genuinely interested as you may know.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

How far away they are from me.

Age range

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can they accommodate.

Pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Distance

Whether they can accomadate

Dealbreakers for me!

I get that accommodation thing as I've been stung for it on more than 2 occasions. ..but distance. One can travel quite a way to meet someone. That's maybe for another post later.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pictures

Profile/veris

Age/location

That 2 +2

I'm greedy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mostly I watch what they say first. Do they sound like the sort of person I could spend time with?

On to the profile I'd go with

1. They want to engage with me on an intellectual level as well as physical

2. Intensity - I'm all about the mysterious and often darker side of a person. This intrigues me a lot

How do you know if they'll be that engaging just by the profile though?

The profile says it

Ok.

Want to give an example? Genuinely interested as you may know. "

Various bits about themselves yadda yadda then...

"I'm looking for a connection of minds" or "I want to get to know someone on an intellectual level"

You get the gist. Any variants of the above.

Btw have you done this thread just to get tips for your own?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I look for a face pic and then height. Doesn't mean I don't look at the rest but those are the first two

Be interested to know how many refuse to show face pics.... i will now but only if the other who asks shows theirs first. That more often not ends the conversation I've found so far though. Most women won't show their face first in my experience.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Distance

Whether they can accomadate

Dealbreakers for me!

I get that accommodation thing as I've been stung for it on more than 2 occasions. ..but distance. One can travel quite a way to meet someone. That's maybe for another post later."

Not when you have limited availability. I prefer to spend less time in my car and more time in the boudoir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually there had to be done trigger for me to go and look at a profile forum post or status post or just someone see wandering around the forums...

Then first usually the avatar and profile and if it captures my imagination and I think there may be some connection

Then the pictures...

Then I just bottle it and go back to the man cave because they are out of my league..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mostly I watch what they say first. Do they sound like the sort of person I could spend time with?

On to the profile I'd go with

1. They want to engage with me on an intellectual level as well as physical

2. Intensity - I'm all about the mysterious and often darker side of a person. This intrigues me a lot

How do you know if they'll be that engaging just by the profile though?

The profile says it

Ok.

Want to give an example? Genuinely interested as you may know.

Various bits about themselves yadda yadda then...

"I'm looking for a connection of minds" or "I want to get to know someone on an intellectual level"

You get the gist. Any variants of the above.

Btw have you done this thread just to get tips for your own?

No...but I'm open to always improving my profile though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Distance

Whether they can accomadate

Dealbreakers for me!

Bugger!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Distance

Whether they can accomadate

Dealbreakers for me!

I get that accommodation thing as I've been stung for it on more than 2 occasions. ..but distance. One can travel quite a way to meet someone. That's maybe for another post later.

Not when you have limited availability. I prefer to spend less time in my car and more time in the boudoir

I appreciate that...but they may be willing to travel to meet you nearby. That's how I'd see a easy way around that. .. still leaves more options then for you. Maybe you don't need more though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Distance

Whether they can accomadate

Dealbreakers for me!

Bugger!

And yours are?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The pics is the makes up 50% of my decision, need to know if I'm attracted to them

The bio makes up the rest, if it's full of "don't do this" and "won't do that" I'll just leave them alone, who needs that kind negativity in their life

The warning to Sydney university can also trump all of the above "

See I would agree with you on that however we have some "don'ts" on ours for the simple reason that people seem to ignore what you say. So I've had to put some "donts" in to make it clear as day...

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Distance

Whether they can accomadate

Dealbreakers for me!

I get that accommodation thing as I've been stung for it on more than 2 occasions. ..but distance. One can travel quite a way to meet someone. That's maybe for another post later.

Not when you have limited availability. I prefer to spend less time in my car and more time in the boudoir

I appreciate that...but they may be willing to travel to meet you nearby. That's how I'd see a easy way around that. .. still leaves more options then for you. Maybe you don't need more though."

I get that a lot but I don't do hotels because for me it doesn't work as a regular thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Distance

Whether they can accomadate

Dealbreakers for me!

I get that accommodation thing as I've been stung for it on more than 2 occasions. ..but distance. One can travel quite a way to meet someone. That's maybe for another post later.

Not when you have limited availability. I prefer to spend less time in my car and more time in the boudoir

I appreciate that...but they may be willing to travel to meet you nearby. That's how I'd see a easy way around that. .. still leaves more options then for you. Maybe you don't need more though.

I get that a lot but I don't do hotels because for me it doesn't work as a regular thing. "

That I completely get too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wonder.... am I the only one who hasn't looked at anyone's profile on this post so far?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a single one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Usually there had to be done trigger for me to go and look at a profile forum post or status post or just someone see wandering around the forums...

Then first usually the avatar and profile and if it captures my imagination and I think there may be some connection

Then the pictures...

Then I just bottle it and go back to the man cave because they are out of my league.. "

This I get 100% and have bottled it loads of times... maybe daily. I keep my 'visual on' look...if they don't show an interest then I know they wouldn't reply either. I'd say there are hundreds of us men like that too...maybe thousands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was too busy writing a very serious and long response to a thread and it's disappeared.

That's ten mins I'll never get back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not a single one

I like discipline....focused on the task.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics ... age....size....decision to contact based on reading profile .... do they sound stuck ip their own arse.

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By *hygirl76Woman
over a year ago

Derry

There age if they r on the site long and there ver so u know if they r real or not they way they chat to u if they live far away honest if they r up frount easy to talk with when u meet up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There age if they r on the site long and there ver so u know if they r real or not they way they chat to u if they live far away honest if they r up frount easy to talk with when u meet up "

I'm picking up on one thing....' the way they chat to you.'...

Want to explain that more?

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By *hygirl76Woman
over a year ago

Derry

What they r into. Get to know what kind of things they like to do if they r bi or not just take an interest. In what they do

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Height & age.

If that's not right no point even looking at owt else

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By *hygirl76Woman
over a year ago

Derry

And they don't expect. U to drop everything just cause they want to shag there and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go straight to the pics

Then read the profile

Then if any veris I read those to

Look at the pics again

Decide if I'm going to message ... chicken out then move onto the next profile

Exactly what Penelope does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The pics is the makes up 50% of my decision, need to know if I'm attracted to them

The bio makes up the rest, if it's full of "don't do this" and "won't do that" I'll just leave them alone, who needs that kind negativity in their life

The warning to Sydney university can also trump all of the above

See I would agree with you on that however we have some "don'ts" on ours for the simple reason that people seem to ignore what you say. So I've had to put some "donts" in to make it clear as day..."

Some is fine as long as there is a nice balance between positives and negatives. If it's just a page of donts and wonts then I'm not interested . If a bio is fully of negativity (and sometimes comes across as aggressive) then I assume the person behind the profile is as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder.... am I the only one who hasn't looked at anyone's profile on this post so far?"

Can't say never but definitely not tonight, honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone who joined in. It's good to see how our profiles appeal or repel others. Often we don't see how it impacts others viewing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile name and pictures tell me most what I need to know, I usually know by then if I will message

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By *ack-rayMan
over a year ago

worthing

Profile name then if they actually seem a laugh and normal is the key

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And they don't expect. U to drop everything just cause they want to shag there and then

I'm sure some can be persuasive enough though. Could be fun thinking about it.

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By *hygirl76Woman
over a year ago

Derry

Yep on a guy. U meet b 4. But not one u haven meet b 4.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proximity and photos.

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Age/s before I'll even click on the profile then the oldie but goodie - pics!

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