FabSwingers.com forum: Last minute cancellations

By *teveNW81 OP Man
over a year ago

wigan

Is there anything quite as uniquely frustrating as being cancelled on last minute?

I've been on Fab for 5 years now on and off, I've only spoken at length to a point where we've agreed to meet to a three ladies, all older than me.

First meet went off without a hitch and led to some of the most memorable afternoons/evenings of my life, second was a cancellation the day before which to be honest I was expecting and then today... been speaking with a lady from here for well over 12 months, got to know each other well but time and opportunity was always against us to meet until this weekend, planned a few weeks in advancer for for me to visit her this afternoon but then woke up to a message this morning to say she'd changed her mind, she was sorry for leading me on etc and I was too young for her.

I consider myself to be an understanding kind of guy so I took it on the chin but it's massively frustrating and disappointing.

It'll probably be the last time I try on here now, I wouldn't say I've had my time wasted as I've enjoyed speaking with people but ultimately it just doesn't seem to be happening for me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Goodbye then.....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

But I bet you stay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've left 3 times and yet here I am again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FairPlay to you.

Last minute cancellations are always frustrating but sadly will always happen. You out a lot of groundwork in and I commend you for that. I would advise suggesting a social earlier on than 12 months, because that is a lot of time you're committing. Few people would be willing to commit that time to someone that they hadn't met.

It would presumably reduce the disappointment too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people change their minds,they suffer crises of confidence,things happen that scupper plans.

Whatever the reason,the decent thing to do is to let the other person know,rather than just not show up or just to disappear.

OP,maybe be thankful that you were at least kept informed and,,,,better luck next time.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Is there anything quite as uniquely frustrating as being cancelled on last minute?

I've been on Fab for 5 years now on and off, I've only spoken at length to a point where we've agreed to meet to a three ladies, all older than me.

I consider myself to be an understanding kind of guy so I took it on the chin but it's massively frustrating and disappointing.

It'll probably be the last time I try on here now, I wouldn't say I've had my time wasted as I've enjoyed speaking with people but ultimately it just doesn't seem to be happening for me."

you do realise people are allowed a change of heart

what's the problem from the way I see it she told you early enough she had had a change of heart .

didn't ignore you leading up to the meet she was just a adult about such things where as op I have to say your behaving a little bit like a spoilt child over this in my opinion .

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By *teveNW81 OP Man
over a year ago

wigan

"Is there anything quite as uniquely frustrating as being cancelled on last minute?

I've been on Fab for 5 years now on and off, I've only spoken at length to a point where we've agreed to meet to a three ladies, all older than me.

I consider myself to be an understanding kind of guy so I took it on the chin but it's massively frustrating and disappointing.

It'll probably be the last time I try on here now, I wouldn't say I've had my time wasted as I've enjoyed speaking with people but ultimately it just doesn't seem to be happening for me.

you do realise people are allowed a change of heart

what's the problem from the way I see it she told you early enough she had had a change of heart .

didn't ignore you leading up to the meet she was just a adult about such things where as op I have to say your behaving a little bit like a spoilt child over this in my opinion . "

Being disappointed that I didn't get to meet with somebody that I'd become friends with over a period of 12 months is "behaving like a spoilt child"? OK.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"Is there anything quite as uniquely frustrating as being cancelled on last minute?

I've been on Fab for 5 years now on and off, I've only spoken at length to a point where we've agreed to meet to a three ladies, all older than me.

I consider myself to be an understanding kind of guy so I took it on the chin but it's massively frustrating and disappointing.

It'll probably be the last time I try on here now, I wouldn't say I've had my time wasted as I've enjoyed speaking with people but ultimately it just doesn't seem to be happening for me.

you do realise people are allowed a change of heart

what's the problem from the way I see it she told you early enough she had had a change of heart .

didn't ignore you leading up to the meet she was just a adult about such things where as op I have to say your behaving a little bit like a spoilt child over this in my opinion .

Being disappointed that I didn't get to meet with somebody that I'd become friends with over a period of 12 months is "behaving like a spoilt child"? OK. "

yes because all your considering is your own feeling other you not getting what you wanted that childish behaviour becoming of a child not a adult in my opinion .

and so is starting a post like this about the woman in question .

did you stop to think how seeing this post may make her feel bet you didn't because your to caught up in your own self pity in my opinion to think of anyone but yourself .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

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I'd aim to interact and be building to meet more than 3 or 4 people in those years, so that any negative result is but a tiny drop in the ocean.

And if one approach is a tad unlucky, consider alternatives

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By *teveNW81 OP Man
over a year ago

wigan

You're making a lot of assumptions about the feelings of somebody you don't know here, i'm disappointed is all. The lady in question doesn't come on the forum so won't see this and as I said in the original post, I understood and considered her feeling, acted like a gentleman and moved on.

No self pity, no "childish behaviour" just disappointed that something more didn't come from it and felt like discussing it on a forum of like minded people...if I'd wanted a childish slanging match I'd have gone on Twitter.

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