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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Last night I was eating in a nice Hotel and a mature couple sat on the next table. Over hearing the conversation it was obvious it was a first date. His topic of conversation was at best dull. Anyway they finished the meal and the bill arrived. He pulled a purse out and said to the lady should we go halves. This she did no problem.Having bored her to death she then had to pay for it. Double whammy. She smiled at me on the way out.Dont think a second date is on the cards for this fella.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

On the positive side she'll probably get better at filtering guys she wants to date

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

True. Felt sorry for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe he didn't fancy her either and didn't expect a second date hence pulled the 'halves' card! Cut his own losses...

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Also true. However she was good looking.You could be right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

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By *ockandkeyCouple
over a year ago

Aylesbury


"Maybe he didn't fancy her either and didn't expect a second date hence pulled the 'halves' card! Cut his own losses..."

Note to self. Forget purse/wallet if ever out with Dan!!

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really. "

Because modern doesn't mean better.

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

It's not a problem. You are correct it is a modern thing.I am old fashioned unfortunately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better. "

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"It's not a problem. You are correct it is a modern thing.I am old fashioned unfortunately. "

This is the mental picture i have of the guy: https://youtu.be/uhiCFdWeQfA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last night I was eating in a nice Hotel and a mature couple sat on the next table. Over hearing the conversation it was obvious it was a first date. His topic of conversation was at best dull. Anyway they finished the meal and the bill arrived. He pulled a purse out and said to the lady should we go halves. This she did no problem.Having bored her to death she then had to pay for it. Double whammy. She smiled at me on the way out.Dont think a second date is on the cards for this fella."

The only words I can think of are 'you nosey bastard'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ever heard of privacy

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates "

Equality doesn't mean pretending we are the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally pay even when i know it isnt going any where unless the women was rude or generally not nice then fuck her she can pay half. On bit of a side note I hate when you for dinner with a group of friends and the bill comes out and people start going through the bill picking what they had just divide the amount by how many people there is and that's what you pay shouldn't be picky with your friends over some one having an extra drink or a pudding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't expect a man to pay. I always pay my half

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Sorry don't watch First Dates.My opinion only maybe a Northern thing. I invite someone out for a meal I pay. If the lady insists on going half I will take it. Not a problem.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Last night I was eating in a nice Hotel and a mature couple sat on the next table. Over hearing the conversation it was obvious it was a first date. His topic of conversation was at best dull. Anyway they finished the meal and the bill arrived. He pulled a purse out and said to the lady should we go halves. This she did no problem.Having bored her to death she then had to pay for it. Double whammy. She smiled at me on the way out.Dont think a second date is on the cards for this fella.

The only words I can think of are 'you nosey bastard' "

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

They did not supply ear plugs.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

Always have that fake emergency telephone call at the ready

Time for a sHarp exit!

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

You are correct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they might have a second date you never know.. all the negativity lol

a smile that may of been polite as they passed you

on the brightside they were together you were sat on your todd, maybe the smiile was because she felt ohh look at that poor guy on his own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last night I was eating in a nice Hotel and a mature couple sat on the next table. Over hearing the conversation it was obvious it was a first date. His topic of conversation was at best dull. Anyway they finished the meal and the bill arrived. He pulled a purse out and said to the lady should we go halves. This she did no problem.Having bored her to death she then had to pay for it. Double whammy. She smiled at me on the way out.Dont think a second date is on the cards for this fella.

The only words I can think of are 'you nosey bastard'

"
2 words summed it up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry don't watch First Dates.My opinion only maybe a Northern thing. I invite someone out for a meal I pay. If the lady insists on going half I will take it. Not a problem."

No its not a northern thing. I have met guys who insist they pay when I have offered. So its not a problem. Just saying that some women expect a guy to pay.

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

True.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I always pay my share.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I would never expect a date to pay for my meal, I expect to pay my fair share. If a guy insists I will let him because I don't want to offend but will insist it's my turn next time.

It's the same when I go to swinging clubs with my FB. I won't let him pay every time and it's become a bit of a game to see who can hand over the cash first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe he didn't fancy her either and didn't expect a second date hence pulled the 'halves' card! Cut his own losses...

Note to self. Forget purse/wallet if ever out with Dan!! "

hey I'm all for equality and all that!

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Good on you. It seems you Southern Ladies dont mind splashing the cash.

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates "

The men dont pay on that show.....the show pays for the meal. They are given the money to pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better. "

It's chivalrous to offer. But many ladies insist on paying their share. It can be insulting (to some) if the man continues to insist.

For the guy the OP refers to above to demand they go halves (assuming this wasn't all discussed and agreed in advance, of course, none of us know!) as soon as the bill arrived wasn't very chivalrous I agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates

Equality doesn't mean pretending we are the same. "

Really? I'm more than happy to pay for something I've eaten. Fairs fair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

reminds myself not to go on a date near where the op is staying/eating

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By *ercuryMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Maybe some women want to pay, in order to lose any sense of entitlement on the part of the man?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates

Equality doesn't mean pretending we are the same.

Really? I'm more than happy to pay for something I've eaten. Fairs fair. "

We are not seahorses. The male of the species preens his feathers and performs the mating rituals to inspire the female to accept his gene pool. As it was in the beginning and will be forever more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am rarely ok with having things paid for by someone else. Only if I know I will be able to pay next time will I squirm n say ok. Is not because I feel they might think they are entitled to anything from me, it just doesn't sit right with me, I have never been on a proper date nor treated like, well whatever that is, unequal I suppose, maybe it's the princess thing, I'm not one, clearly lol, and I have never really been looked after by anyone since I left my parents home. I actually wouldn't go on a date with someone if I couldn't pay my half at least. Especially if I wasn't sure if I woukd see them again or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates

Equality doesn't mean pretending we are the same.

Really? I'm more than happy to pay for something I've eaten. Fairs fair.

We are not seahorses. The male of the species preens his feathers and performs the mating rituals to inspire the female to accept his gene pool. As it was in the beginning and will be forever more. "

Probably the only thing we'll ever agree on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates

The men dont pay on that show.....the show pays for the meal. They are given the money to pay "

Really? Why am i certain i have seen a woman comment how tight the guy was? hmm

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates

The men dont pay on that show.....the show pays for the meal. They are given the money to pay

Really? Why am i certain i have seen a woman comment how tight the guy was? hmm "

Because it makes a good show.....if it was all straight forward it wouldnt make good viewing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates

The men dont pay on that show.....the show pays for the meal. They are given the money to pay

Really? Why am i certain i have seen a woman comment how tight the guy was? hmm

Because it makes a good show.....if it was all straight forward it wouldnt make good viewing. "

How do you know that the programme pays for it then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just found this online from a celebrity news site.

Do they really have to pay for their meal, though?

Well, kind of. We’re told each dater is given £25 before arriving for their dinner – so that’s £50 per couple. ‘When you see the blokes offering to foot the bill at the end, bear in mind most of it’s already been paid for, as the set menu at the Chop House is £25 for three courses,’ says our insider. ‘Obviously, that doesn’t include cocktails at £8 a pop.’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I ask a lady out for dinner I wouldn't expect her to pay for anything. But if she offers to pay her half I still say no, but you can pay next time. Hinting towards a second date if I'm interested.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates

Equality doesn't mean pretending we are the same.

Really? I'm more than happy to pay for something I've eaten. Fairs fair.

We are not seahorses. The male of the species preens his feathers and performs the mating rituals to inspire the female to accept his gene pool. As it was in the beginning and will be forever more.

Probably the only thing we'll ever agree on "

We took a big step today

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I am rarely ok with having things paid for by someone else. Only if I know I will be able to pay next time will I squirm n say ok. Is not because I feel they might think they are entitled to anything from me, it just doesn't sit right with me, I have never been on a proper date nor treated like, well whatever that is, unequal I suppose, maybe it's the princess thing, I'm not one, clearly lol, and I have never really been looked after by anyone since I left my parents home. I actually wouldn't go on a date with someone if I couldn't pay my half at least. Especially if I wasn't sure if I woukd see them again or not "

But herein lies the problem, your reason for paying is not to be equal. It's to avoid obligation. A man who pays the full bill should be a gentleman. A gentleman does not put obligations on woman. Someone who pays the bill to get sex is a manipulator and should be called out as such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I ask a lady out for dinner I wouldn't expect her to pay for anything. But if she offers to pay her half I still say no, but you can pay next time. Hinting towards a second date if I'm interested."

I like your style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"Ever heard of privacy "

Cos no one ever earwigs on a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am rarely ok with having things paid for by someone else. Only if I know I will be able to pay next time will I squirm n say ok. Is not because I feel they might think they are entitled to anything from me, it just doesn't sit right with me, I have never been on a proper date nor treated like, well whatever that is, unequal I suppose, maybe it's the princess thing, I'm not one, clearly lol, and I have never really been looked after by anyone since I left my parents home. I actually wouldn't go on a date with someone if I couldn't pay my half at least. Especially if I wasn't sure if I woukd see them again or not

But herein lies the problem, your reason for paying is not to be equal. It's to avoid obligation. A man who pays the full bill should be a gentleman. A gentleman does not put obligations on woman. Someone who pays the bill to get sex is a manipulator and should be called out as such. "

It isn't, it is because I just don't feel comfortable with it. I don't need someone else to pay for me and if I was ok with it I wouldn't feel I owed them anything other than the same in return, surely that is just manners? Especially if it's someone I don't know. So if I am not sure if I will be seeing them again, regardless of male or female btw, then I pay for myself. I am not sure why this is a problem...I just like to pay my way

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I am rarely ok with having things paid for by someone else. Only if I know I will be able to pay next time will I squirm n say ok. Is not because I feel they might think they are entitled to anything from me, it just doesn't sit right with me, I have never been on a proper date nor treated like, well whatever that is, unequal I suppose, maybe it's the princess thing, I'm not one, clearly lol, and I have never really been looked after by anyone since I left my parents home. I actually wouldn't go on a date with someone if I couldn't pay my half at least. Especially if I wasn't sure if I woukd see them again or not

But herein lies the problem, your reason for paying is not to be equal. It's to avoid obligation. A man who pays the full bill should be a gentleman. A gentleman does not put obligations on woman. Someone who pays the bill to get sex is a manipulator and should be called out as such.

It isn't, it is because I just don't feel comfortable with it. I don't need someone else to pay for me and if I was ok with it I wouldn't feel I owed them anything other than the same in return, surely that is just manners? Especially if it's someone I don't know. So if I am not sure if I will be seeing them again, regardless of male or female btw, then I pay for myself. I am not sure why this is a problem...I just like to pay my way"

Sorry i misread your original post!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


"I am rarely ok with having things paid for by someone else. Only if I know I will be able to pay next time will I squirm n say ok. Is not because I feel they might think they are entitled to anything from me, it just doesn't sit right with me, I have never been on a proper date nor treated like, well whatever that is, unequal I suppose, maybe it's the princess thing, I'm not one, clearly lol, and I have never really been looked after by anyone since I left my parents home. I actually wouldn't go on a date with someone if I couldn't pay my half at least. Especially if I wasn't sure if I woukd see them again or not

But herein lies the problem, your reason for paying is not to be equal. It's to avoid obligation. A man who pays the full bill should be a gentleman. A gentleman does not put obligations on woman. Someone who pays the bill to get sex is a manipulator and should be called out as such. "

You can be a gentleman and hopefull of nookie at same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always offer to go halves but it's nice to be treated occasionally. But I would rather a guy go out his way to open doors for me etc. I like traditional and I'm not bothered about equality, I like to be made to feel special. However if a guy pays once I would offer to pay the next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people you can chat with and some you cant - its just the nature of things - dont see a problem of sharing the bill i would always offer that - mind you i more likely to meet for a social coffee or drink first before going for a meal - cash damage limitations and all that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Its the modern thing to go dutch isnt it? At least he didnt expect her to foot the whole bill. Dont see a problem really.

Because modern doesn't mean better.

Dont women want equality? Its come from women really.

I dont mind a guy paying if he insists. I am happy to go dutch.. but some women expect a guy to pay. You only have to watch the TV programme First Dates "

That really annoys me. The woman is there by choice, she knows the meal will need to be paid for but expects the guy to pay . It's nice to see that most women offer anyway though.

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"reminds myself not to go on a date near where the op is staying/eating "

Problem?

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"some people you can chat with and some you cant - its just the nature of things - dont see a problem of sharing the bill i would always offer that - mind you i more likely to meet for a social coffee or drink first before going for a meal - cash damage limitations and all that "

Nice to hear a Maccys brew it is then.

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always offer to pay for the second coffee on a social, I would pay for my own coffee too. For a meal I would ask if they wanted me to pay half but I would probably not do a meal first social anyway. I offered to pay for breakfast when my FWB was dropping me home after our overnighter but he declined my offer. I don't have a, problem with paying my way XXX

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By *haremore OP   Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I always offer to pay for the second coffee on a social, I would pay for my own coffee too. For a meal I would ask if they wanted me to pay half but I would probably not do a meal first social anyway. I offered to pay for breakfast when my FWB was dropping me home after our overnighter but he declined my offer. I don't have a, problem with paying my way XXX"

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