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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

What makes someone a friend, or should i say how do you become friends with someone. Is it because you share common interests, because you have the same thoughs and opinions as each other. Or is it simply there is some kind of connection. Or is it the old chalk and cheese.

The people i have got to know online who have later become friends i think it is because we have the same ideas about things.

But i was just thinking about my best friend and we really are like chalk and cheese, shes quiet and laid back, doesnt dance or cause a riot everywhere she goes. But i guess we are both thoughtful people and although have never had to work at our relationship have always done things for each other, like buy flowers or treat the other to something, been there for each other through major things in our lives. She really is a part of me but if you met us you probely wouldnt pair us up together.

Oh and 26 years later we have only had one row

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for me it's a connection, a similar sense of humour and a similar values set.

they should show warmth, love, compassion and a willingness to share in lifes ups and downs.

my true friends i can count on both hands - don't even need my toes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess for me its just purely that we click, i have friends that i have absolutly nothing in common with and friends that we are so similar its spooky but i do not think any more or any less of them either way

i have friends that i agree with on everything and although this is nice i actually prefer the discussions i have with the friends that i agree on nothing with

i have a handfull of real friends i have made through swinging that should we give it all up i would make every effort to still see regularly, most of my friends have been made through work though not just colleagues but my clients too all from widely varying backgrounds its just purely that something clicks and we hit it off wonderfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any friends, I'm going to go eat worms now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have any friends, I'm going to go eat worms now. "

Ill be ya friend xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have any friends, I'm going to go eat worms now. "

have you any snot and bogey pie to go with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me friends are others that you feel free to be yourself around. People that will not judge you for being yourself & will not betray you or gossip about you behind your back.

I've still to meet someone like that. I have acquaintances, but nothing more.

I've been friends with too many back stabbing bitches who were around me for what they could get out of me.

I've been told that I'm too nice. How the hell can you be too nice? I'm not going to change for anyone, particularly a trait that I believe to be positive.

I would rather be "Billy no mates" than be used by a "friend" again, & I'm OK with that. I like my own company.

Friendship is all good, but I do think it's over-rated at times.

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By *iamondsmiles. OP   Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"To me friends are others that you feel free to be yourself around. People that will not judge you for being yourself & will not betray you or gossip about you behind your back.

I've still to meet someone like that. I have acquaintances, but nothing more.

I've been friends with too many back stabbing bitches who were around me for what they could get out of me.

I've been told that I'm too nice. How the hell can you be too nice? I'm not going to change for anyone, particularly a trait that I believe to be positive.

I would rather be "Billy no mates" than be used by a "friend" again, & I'm OK with that. I like my own company.

Friendship is all good, but I do think it's over-rated at times."

I agree that i would sooner have no friends than back stabbing ones, but not sure that i agree that friendship is overrated. If your in a relationship you have each other but if your on your own it can be different

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

think its someone you can be completly yourself with .accepting each other warts and all and still see the good in each other .you can let your guard completly down and know they wont abuse that trust or use it against you .

very rare to find this but im lucky to have couple of people i can call true friends like this . theyve seen me at my best and worst and still mad enough to be there lol ! even though may not see each other in months still no different between us when we eventually get together . heres to true friends and for not taking them for granted x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree that i would sooner have no friends than back stabbing ones, but not sure that i agree that friendship is overrated. If your in a relationship you have each other but if your on your own it can be different"

True, but you do adapt & learn how to keep loneliness at bay. I haven't had anyone....jeez must be 4/5 years that I felt like I could rely on. I've been with Tod 3 years so I know what it's like to be on both sides, & like I said, you figure out how to preoccupy yourself.

For me friendship is a luxury not a need, but we're all different & have different needs.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn


"think its someone you can be completly yourself with .accepting each other warts and all and still see the good in each other .you can let your guard completly down and know they wont abuse that trust or use it against you .

very rare to find this but im lucky to have couple of people i can call true friends like this . theyve seen me at my best and worst and still mad enough to be there lol ! even though may not see each other in months still no different between us when we eventually get together . heres to true friends and for not taking them for granted x"

+1

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I have a handful of true friends.. and others that I have disappointed in some way or they me..

but I wish them well and happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"think its someone you can be completly yourself with .accepting each other warts and all and still see the good in each other .you can let your guard completly down and know they wont abuse that trust or use it against you .

very rare to find this but im lucky to have couple of people i can call true friends like this . theyve seen me at my best and worst and still mad enough to be there lol ! even though may not see each other in months still no different between us when we eventually get together . heres to true friends and for not taking them for granted x

+1"

+ 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a handful of true friends.. and others that I have disappointed in some way or they me..

but I wish them well and happiness."

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The longest "friend" i had died last year of heart failure at 53.

All our lives we argues and fell out and then make up again...she did things i didnt like to myself and others with out any guilt, she was a user ..simples.

But i was so bloody shocked at her passing and still find it hard to deal with. I dont know what made her the way she was to be honest. ? we did have good times and a lot of laughs along the way.

I suppose i miss the goodtimes more than the shite she caused ?

who knows.

I think good friends sort of compliment each other , my old mate lin is like this. never had a cross word in 30 yrs

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