FabSwingers.com forum: Long e-mail exchanges

By *ouple_Spondon OP Couple
over a year ago

Spondon

Just to state, from the start, that this is not a criticism or complaint... we've noticed a fair number of people who will put on their profile (or in messages) that they're not into lengthy messages / discussions, that they want to get down and dirty pretty quickly!

We see no issue with this.

Yet, oddly enough, we rather enjoy the e-mail / messages exchange. Seeing the little tag stating that we have a message is actually rather exciting. As is the bulk of the conversations, which tend to lean towards each others' experiences. It's all e-flirting and getting to know people. Sure, we want a quick shag too every now and then, but we also like to wile away the days sending saucy messages.

Anyone else feel this way, or do people prefer the quick, abrupt, wanna shag messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They may not want a shag straight away but a social pretty quickly to establish if the person is who they claim to be. Can get a lot of fakes on here and people that just want wank chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to meet, nor particularly to message, but it can be nice to get to know someone from the forums a little better from time to time.

Not sure why I am here really, got into the forums when we were meeting as a couple. Then circumstances changed, but I enjoyed the banter of the forums so I came back just for that.

Never once found anything on fab to wank over, got plenty of memories for that. Don't particularly look at the photos in a sexual way either. Read profiles male female or couples to add to the personality in the forums.

Don't know, guess I am a bit of an odd one.

But when we did meet it would be minimal messages, then a social then maybe a few more messages building up to a proper meet. Or not, depends on the social, sometimes we would rush the coffee and get somewhere more private. Have sex and never see them again, others became friends and are still friends to this day. Every meet is different.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i like chatting, it's why i use the forums so much and talk to myself here mostly, at least i'm talking. find sex chat boring unless it's with someone i've already met who also talks to me about other stuff.

i'd love to find more chat sites really and not use here that much, but most other sites it's all people looking for sex chat except they're from abroad so you can't even understand what they're saying lol.

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By *hyguy-77Man
over a year ago

everywhere

Totally agree..

I personally don't like sex with a complete stranger, yes there are times it can be a raw, sensual, erotic occasion but mostly it's just plain awkward.

I also understand the excitement from the message flag too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do lengthy chats as i have done this in the past and it has not resulted in a meet. I want to meet people in real life. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy exchanging emails and banter , it's all part of foreplay leading up to a meet

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

I have got a statement along those lines in my profile..as it helps me wittle out those who want to meet and those that want ping pong emails and not intention to meet. That doesnt mean I am a "hello lets meet". There are other ways to get to know people outside of fab prior meeting.

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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

I'm a people person anyway and love chatting with new people and getting to know them.

Just general chat and banter with a smattering of saucy flirting is fun and love you Op, seeing that little yellow box light up is the highlight of my day..

I cannot wait to open that message to read "thank you for renewing your subscription with fab".. I love it, it makes my hole week..

Now all I need is for a real person to message me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't waste my time swapping messages with members who have meaninglessly empty profile content and expect me to spend my time asking them for the sort of information required to gauge sexual compatibility and mutual appeal ..

A profile should provide the sort of up-front information needed to sufficiently capture the attention of those who read it,,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree op. It's great to chat. It gives every one a better idea of how a meet may go. We find people are physically more attractive when we're attracted to their personalities too.

Fuzz

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I enjoy a fair bit of chat before I meet. Usually because meeting takes a fair bit of planning for me.

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By *atureandhornyCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

"They may not want a shag straight away but a social pretty quickly to establish if the person is who they claim to be. Can get a lot of fakes on here and people that just want wank chat. "

I agree about the 'wank chat' Guys message you asking to meet and what they want to do and asking what we would like them to do, then dissappear. I can spot time wasters and liars after a few messages, so yes I do like chatting to sort out the genuine people from the dickheads

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Some folk are worth keeping in touch with, building up a rapport, it helps to ensure that when you meet you know what you both want to do.

Probably more apt for those in situations where meets are more infrequent.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

As someone whose time to play is limited not to mention finding sex more satisfactory when there's a connection and chemistry there, I personally enjoy getting to know people via messages where you get to establish a connection and chemistry (or not) that ultimately decides if we want to progress to meeting.

Whilst a profile may provide a menu of sorts, messaging and forum posts provide the detail about what's in the dish and lead you to decide what you want to eat

No euphemisms were harmed during the making of this post

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