FabSwingers.com forum: Clique?

By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I'm having a hard time understanding this concept and how it's perception impacts ppl using the forum. I see friendships and camaraderie which makes me smile. Surely that can't be wrong, if that didn't exist there would be no forum. I've read a profile today that claims that the forum is full of pretentious t***s. I'm a firm believer things are what you make of them, I stumbled into the forum about 5 months ago. I wasn't verified, had no veris and a silhouette. The only positive I was female but even that was questionable. I did a little browsing and watching initially to understand the dynamics. Then just posted what I wanted where I wanted in and around friendship groups. Fair enough I'm not shy and I like a challenge. I'm interested to understand how "cliques" impact others using the forum.

Does it stop you posting on certain threads? Do you not post on threads started by certain ppl? Have you gone onto a thread with the intention of saying, I'm in, I want to come etc, seen the comments already there and ran a mile? If so why? What is it that worries you or do you just feel you won't be included?

All comments would be appreciated and constructive responses may help a few enjoy the forum more, in other words play nicely

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I saw what I perceived to be a "clique" when I first started using, but that was because I saw the word being thrown about. After some tentative first steps I saw that it was simply friendships and people that clearly got on having a bit of banter rather than singling people out.

The more I used the forums the more I understood how easy it is to miss a comment and not reply. This may be taken as being ignored, but I can honestly say it's not the case. It's so easily done especially on a busy thread.

Yes, there are posters who's threads I will peep at if it's someone I know that normally makes me laugh, or makes me ponder.

There are others I'll look at if the title entices me.

There are some I don't bother even looking at if the title mentions something I've no interest in (certain sports)

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I saw what I perceived to be a "clique" when I first started using, but that was because I saw the word being thrown about. After some tentative first steps I saw that it was simply friendships and people that clearly got on having a bit of banter rather than singling people out.

Yes, there are posters who's threads I will peep at if it's someone I know that normally makes me laugh, or makes me ponder.

There are others I'll look at if the title entices me.

There are some I don't bother even looking at if the title mentions something I've no interest in (certain sports)

Certain sports

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the forums learnt so much from them and I am def a lurker

Is there a clique no I love the diff point of opinions they are great

Yes there is friendships and why the hell shouldn't there be . This is a grown up site not school and there is people from all parts of the world with huge and varied interests and opinions .

Long may the forum reign

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Yes, there are posters who's threads I will peep at if it's someone I know that normally makes me laugh, or makes me ponder.

There are others I'll look at if the title entices me.

There are some I don't bother even looking at if the title mentions something I've no interest in (certain sports)

Certain sports

Shut up you

I actually meant real sport, hadn't even considered the water variety

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I love the forums learnt so much from them and I am def a lurker

Is there a clique no I love the diff point of opinions they are great

Yes there is friendships and why the hell shouldn't there be . This is a grown up site not school and there is people from all parts of the world with huge and varied interests and opinions .

Long may the forum reign

Thank you for commenting, nothing wrong with a bit of

I cry laughing at some of the stuff I see when I'm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been a temp host (the OP went awol) of the outcast one, I got the feeling that numerous quoted posts where it's clear there's a conv going on did put a few off. They'll post but the three/four people posting will be too busy in their own conversation to acknowledge their comment.

I can see why that would put off a few.

I find it quite funny. I'm passed by quite a bit but I keep coming back for more (glutton for punishment

) but others might not feel that way.

There are often times when some comments should maybe taken to pm so others get a say too.

Btw I thought there was no clique

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Yes, there are posters who's threads I will peep at if it's someone I know that normally makes me laugh, or makes me ponder.

There are others I'll look at if the title entices me.

There are some I don't bother even looking at if the title mentions something I've no interest in (certain sports)

Certain sports

Shut up you

I actually meant real sport, hadn't even considered the water variety

If you say so

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Whilst there are some forumites that obviously know each other, bounce and spark of one another I don't think there's a clique as such although can understand why someone new to the forums might see it that way sometimes, especially if they're overlooked in threads, or they see a post they'very made get ignored, only for a more "popular" person to post the same thing a while later and generate lots of responses.

The thing is though that's the way of internet forums regardless of the subject matter, it's not always easy to make an impression, especially if you're new. As we all know it's not always a case of being deliberately overlooked just at times the speed of the thread, or the way you've worded something, or even simply your avatar pic being different to your normal one, can result in your post not getting noticed over someone else's.

Yeah there are some people whose threads or posts I will tend to avoid - usually because experience has shown that I rarely agree with what that person has to say or find what they post interesting - that's not to be rude, it's part of human nature.

There are times I go to post on a thread and then back off usually because the point I was going to make has been made already, or the thread has changed tack from the original point.

Mostly I adopt a live and let live approach and post what I like when I like and if people don't like what I have to say then that is of course their right, just as it's mine not to like what they may have to say either.

There's space here for everyone and any number of topics to be discussed, and I for one hope that continues for a time to come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think sometimes a group of friends/acquaintances can "hog" a thread for want of a better expression. This might lead to someone in that circle feeling a little excluded. I'd don't necessarily think this is "the clique" it's just the nature of the platform we're all using. I also think people take things too seriously sometimes, if you don't like what you see why don't you all go off and do something less boring instead huh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless I'm poorly like the other week tbh I don't notice any cliques. I pretty relaxed these days so I don't worry about who posts what where or if I'm being ignored.

In the early days I was the annoying little bitch.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone whose been coming here longer than most and seen the forum dynamic constantly change due too the many comings and going of what could be described as regular posters....

I've never felt the presence of an exclusive clique and to be totally honest I would never be part of a clique that would have me.....

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Having been a temp host (the OP went awol) of the outcast one, I got the feeling that numerous quoted posts where it's clear there's a conv going on did put a few off. They'll post but the three/four people posting will be too busy in their own conversation to acknowledge their comment.

I can see why that would put off a few.

I find it quite funny. I'm passed by quite a bit but I keep coming back for more (glutton for punishment

) but others might not feel that way.

There are often times when some comments should maybe taken to pm so others get a say too.

Btw I thought there was no clique

Yes we're all guilty of getting carried away on a thread

. As OP I feel it's my duty to be inclusive as I've actually invited ppl to post. Therefore I should acknowledge all who post whoever they are. It's also a good way to make a new friend, that's how we started messaging initially on someone's thread

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I like to include everyone.

I have a deeper level of banter with others but that is simply because I have been speaking to them or have met them.

Sometimes threads are not always inclusive but we all get overlooked at some point.

People here have friendship groups like anywhere it doesn't mean there is a clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone would like to be in my gang, call me?

I'm sure it's a perfectly great post Op. but I didn't read it all. It was too long.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know about a clique but I think some people are very confident posting. Lots of quick witted people and sometimes hard to keep up with a fast moving thread.

I don't avoid any threads but some don't interest me or I can't be bothered to repeat the same argument. Most people have been very welcoming on here and I chat to a nice variety of forumites.

I suppose at times we can all feel excluded from certain chats it's not the posters fault it's just the way conversations turn. And when two people flirt it can take over a thread. But that's the way of the site, we all do it.

I try and include everyone in a thread but it's not always possible as some can be resistant to being included.

Overall I enjoy being on the forums, I have only had a few negative experiences but luckily have had a few forumites to support me behind the scenes.

I think it's about gaining confidence by joining in the fun threads and getting yourself known, not making your first thread a complaint. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to add too tho 've learnt not to join in the snog fuck avoid threads or any lamp post pissing threads. I'm not perfect by any means and I do still get axnsty and/or jel from time to time. My nerves still attack me from time to time too. Kinda been having a bit of a moment since the social but need to get my balls in my hand n sort that one out. We all feel like a knob from time to time don't we.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think sometimes a group of friends/acquaintances can "hog" a thread for want of a better expression. This might lead to someone outside that circle feeling a little excluded. I'd don't necessarily think this is "the clique" it's just the nature of the platform we're all using. I also think people take things too seriously sometimes, if you don't like what you see why don't you all go off and do something less boring instead huh?

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Whilst there are some forumites that obviously know each other, bounce and spark of one another I don't think there's a clique as such although can understand why someone new to the forums might see it that way sometimes, especially if they're overlooked in threads, or they see a post they'very made get ignored, only for a more "popular" person to post the same thing a while later and generate lots of responses.

There are times I go to post on a thread and then back off usually because the point I was going to make has been made already, or the thread has changed tack from the original point.

There's space here for everyone and any number of topics to be discussed, and I for one hope that continues for a time to come.

Yes new blood is needed to keep the forum alive that's what we need to remember. I occasionally start chatting with a called caller and entice them onto the forum if I think they'd enjoy it. Sorry, yes more men on the forum guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't know about a clique but I think some people are very confident posting. Lots of quick witted people and sometimes hard to keep up with a fast moving thread.

I don't avoid any threads but some don't interest me or I can't be bothered to repeat the same argument. Most people have been very welcoming on here and I chat to a nice variety of forumites.

I try and include everyone in a thread but it's not always possible as some can be resistant to being included.

Overall I enjoy being on the forums, I have only had a few negative experiences but luckily have had a few forumites to support me behind the scenes.

I think it's about gaining confidence by joining in the fun threads and getting yourself known, not making your first thread a complaint. X "

Very well put xx

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I think sometimes a group of friends/acquaintances can "hog" a thread for want of a better expression. This might lead to someone in that circle feeling a little excluded. I'd don't necessarily think this is "the clique" it's just the nature of the platform we're all using. I also think people take things too seriously sometimes, if you don't like what you see why don't you all go off and do something less boring instead huh?

I hog threads at times. That's normally when peepsies need a trip to A&E coz I got them in stitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love the forums - the so called cliquey stuff i think might come across on say the MSL threads - but really thats just familiarisation and knowing each other - just the same as two people flirting/bantering/mentioning things they have shared might do, but on a larger scale - and to someone on the outside of that might feel not part of the crowd - generally though i think the forums are a good mix of all - i prefer to have fun here but do get involved in serious topics - occasionally i get really angry and follow through or walk away - depends on my mood at the time - have learnt to write and delete more before pressing send

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I've got the theme tune to Why don't you? going round in my head now. Yes also I'm interpreting posts is a massive problem. I would recommend in this instance where possible send a polite pm and usually things can be very quickly resolved

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"If anyone would like to be in my gang, call me?

I'm sure it's a perfectly great post Op. but I didn't read it all. It was too long.

You don't read anything including profiles. I do believe I'm already in your coffee gang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the "clique" is basically forumites who have been around a while, have learned about each other and can banter back and forth because of that.

Its constantly changing. Half the regulars who were around when I joined aren't here now and the regulars posting now are the new "clique". Everyone started off as a newbie though and had to hang around and post enough to let people get to know them.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I don't know about a clique but I think some people are very confident posting. Lots of quick witted people and sometimes hard to keep up with a fast moving thread.

I don't avoid any threads but some don't interest me or I can't be bothered to repeat the same argument. Most people have been very welcoming on here and I chat to a nice variety of forumites.

I try and include everyone in a thread but it's not always possible as some can be resistant to being included.

Overall I enjoy being on the forums, I have only had a few negative experiences but luckily have had a few forumites to support me behind the scenes.

I think it's about gaining confidence by joining in the fun threads and getting yourself known, not making your first thread a complaint. X "

Yes opening with a complaint never ends well, that's what causes comments like "pretentious t***s" appearing on profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dunno. Spent a lot of time here in my old profile and I will say that I was stopped from posting sometimes. Can feel that if you disagree with a person you need to just shut your mouth, if you speak out you risked having personal insults thrown at you from a group of strangers. Seen it happen. Not to me though.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Just to add too tho 've learnt not to join in the snog fuck avoid threads or any lamp post pissing threads. I'm not perfect by any means and I do still get axnsty and/or jel from time to time. My nerves still attack me from time to time too. Kinda been having a bit of a moment since the social but need to get my balls in my hand n sort that one out. We all feel like a knob from time to time don't we.

PTU xxx "

Get your bum on the lounge chat lady, we talk a lot of crap on there and you make me laugh

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Also the "clique" is basically forumites who have been around a while, have learned about each other and can banter back and forth because of that.

This is it ain't it. I mean I could call PB a tosser and nobody would bat an eyelid.

If I called a newbie a tosser they wouldn't know I was messing, and I wouldn't do it anyway coz I don't know them well enough to do that.

Familiarity. All it is.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"If anyone would like to be in my gang, call me?

I'm sure it's a perfectly great post Op. but I didn't read it all. It was too long.

You don't read anything including profiles. I do believe I'm already in your coffee gang

Another clique

Shut it boobies

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"i love the forums - the so called cliquey stuff i think might come across on say the MSL threads - but really thats just familiarisation and knowing each other - just the same as two people flirting/bantering/mentioning things they have shared might do, but on a larger scale - and to someone on the outside of that might feel not part of the crowd - generally though i think the forums are a good mix of all - i prefer to have fun here but do get involved in serious topics - occasionally i get really angry and follow through or walk away - depends on my mood at the time - have learnt to write and delete more before pressing send

Think before you send, I call that hover mode it can prevent an unforeseen mini break

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

If there is a clique I'm sure glad we aren't in it .

We treat everyone with the same level of contempt , no matter who they are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also the "clique" is basically forumites who have been around a while, have learned about each other and can banter back and forth because of that.

This is it ain't it. I mean I could call PB a tosser and nobody would bat an eyelid.

If I called a newbie a tosser they wouldn't know I was messing, and I wouldn't do it anyway coz I don't know them well enough to do that.

Familiarity. All it is."

Yeah but everyone knows PB is a tosser

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If anyone would like to be in my gang, call me?

I'm sure it's a perfectly great post Op. but I didn't read it all. It was too long.

You don't read anything including profiles. I do believe I'm already in your coffee gang

Another clique

Shut it boobies

I don't drink coffee anyway. You can all shove it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a year of basically spouting bollocks on here I've come to a couple of conclusions about the whole 'clique' shite.

1: it doesn't exist. It's just folk that know each other more than others.

2: the folk that moan about the 'clique' shite, are usually folk who try to venture into the world of the forums and simply feel excluded. Or they're intensely jealous because someone they have designs on is more friendly with someone else than them.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Also the "clique" is basically forumites who have been around a while, have learned about each other and can banter back and forth because of that.

That's the thing just post, any old crap will do, just play nicely, it is possible to have an opinion and play nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If there is a clique I'm sure glad we aren't in it .

We treat everyone with the same level of contempt , no matter who they are

Yes! That's what I'm talking about. Not giving a bunch of fucks about anything.

Faf?

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"If anyone would like to be in my gang, call me?

I'm sure it's a perfectly great post Op. but I didn't read it all. It was too long.

You don't read anything including profiles. I do believe I'm already in your coffee gang

Another clique

Not exactly he just wants coffee regularly so needs drinking buddies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just feel for those feeling left out.

I need to stop feeling.

Feelings aren't meant for fab, except the gropey type

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"If there is a clique I'm sure glad we aren't in it .

We treat everyone with the same level of contempt , no matter who they are

Don't you just love familiarity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did have to smile, on a previous clique thread, when someone angrily proclaimed "there IS no clique! I just respond to those people I'm friendly with and who interest me and ignore everyone else!"

This site is FULL of cliques. Don't go arguing there isn't. But that's human nature. There are cliques in EVERY walk of life.

I'll often reply to zero response threads. Very rarely are they started by the 'Forum elite'. Mostly by non-forum famous men which is always quite telling

To a degree an event of cliqueyness is healthy - it's good to have bonds and friendship. Where it becomes destructive is when it's exclusive and people 'gang up' on those that dare to challenge their mates.

It's easy to avoid those threads though. I've not posted in any of the Social Meet threads or Lounge Chat threads as they can appear to be a bit cliquey if I'm honest.

Many might say I'm in the clique. But I try to inclusive and not exclude anyone, unless they've proved to me they're a twat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of stuff I write in the forums is utter shite and not neccesarily worthy of comment.

However, sometimes I do get a bit of banter and end up having a conversation.

Participation in the forums can end up with a hit and miss as far as responses go, but as with anything else on t'interwebs you need to take things with a pinch of salt.

Last time I was here, I used the forums to raise my profile. This time round it is just to get involved.

I have ended up chatting with some lovely people as a result.

If you have your posts routinely ignored, there is nothing sinister in it, it is just how fab is.

If you percieve you are outside of the "inner circle", you will see the wall that blocks you. If you forget about any clique and get involved, you'll see it is a hot tub that you can dip in and out of and feel lovely having been in there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The perception of Cliques are usually as a result of your own insecurities in my opinion.

Join in. Sitting in the background feeling left out and not joining in, is no ones fault but our own.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"After a year of basically spouting bollocks on here I've come to a couple of conclusions about the whole 'clique' shite.

1: it doesn't exist. It's just folk that know each other more than others.

Or they're the ones that posted I've been her 3 days and I'm not knee deep in clunge, where's all the filthy sluts at?

And wonder why they get a dose of reality.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"After a year of basically spouting bollocks on here I've come to a couple of conclusions about the whole 'clique' shite.

1: it doesn't exist. It's just folk that know each other more than others.

Oh now I hadn't considered not receiving a FAF being the reason for someone feeling there was a clique

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I just feel for those feeling left out.

I need to stop feeling.

Feelings aren't meant for fab, except the gropey type

I have feelings

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just feel for those feeling left out.

I need to stop feeling.

Feelings aren't meant for fab, except the gropey type

I have feelings

I know

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I did have to smile, on a previous clique thread, when someone angrily proclaimed "there IS no clique! I just respond to those people I'm friendly with and who interest me and ignore everyone else!"

This site is FULL of cliques. Don't go arguing there isn't. But that's human nature. There are cliques in EVERY walk of life.

I'll often reply to zero response threads. Very rarely are they started by the 'Forum elite'. Mostly by non-forum famous men which is always quite telling

It's easy to avoid those threads though. I've not posted in any of the Social Meet threads or Lounge Chat threads as they can appear to be a bit cliquey if I'm honest.

Many might say I'm in the clique. But I try to inclusive and not exclude anyone, unless they've proved to me they're a twat!

The only post I put on the tea party thread was wishing them a brilliant time. I wasn't going so knew the stuff in there was irrelevant, however I genuinely hoped they had fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted. "

Ah good times. I'm still waiting for my clique t-shirt I was promised on that thread.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Thetes an interesting thing about the continuing threads i noticed from my previous visit here. Was usually one or two people who would start off a certain one which i wont name. Once soneone else started it. Theres was ignored when one of the regulars created one a little later. That amused me a little bit.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I did have to smile, on a previous clique thread, when someone angrily proclaimed "there IS no clique! I just respond to those people I'm friendly with and who interest me and ignore everyone else!"

This site is FULL of cliques. Don't go arguing there isn't. But that's human nature. There are cliques in EVERY walk of life.

I'll often reply to zero response threads. Very rarely are they started by the 'Forum elite'. Mostly by non-forum famous men which is always quite telling

It's easy to avoid those threads though. I've not posted in any of the Social Meet threads or Lounge Chat threads as they can appear to be a bit cliquey if I'm honest.

Many might say I'm in the clique. But I try to inclusive and not exclude anyone, unless they've proved to me they're a twat!

The LCT wasn't intended to be a clique, however you can't make ppl post. If I see new blood on there when I'm around I try to include them. I like seeing new folk join in and as far as I'm aware no one has felt excluded. I may have inadvertently upset someone which I intend to remedy. I think something was misinterpreted that I posted

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"If there is a clique I'm sure glad we aren't in it .

We treat everyone with the same level of contempt , no matter who they are

Yes! That's what I'm talking about. Not giving a bunch of fucks about anything.

Faf?"

Hell yeah .... that's why we're here

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted. "

Yes let's not go there

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

Yes let's not go there

I missed that one!

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"The perception of Cliques are usually as a result of your own insecurities in my opinion.

Join in. Sitting in the background feeling left out and not joining in, is no ones fault but our own. "

Where the hell have you been hiding?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did have to smile, on a previous clique thread, when someone angrily proclaimed "there IS no clique! I just respond to those people I'm friendly with and who interest me and ignore everyone else!"

This site is FULL of cliques. Don't go arguing there isn't. But that's human nature. There are cliques in EVERY walk of life.

I'll often reply to zero response threads. Very rarely are they started by the 'Forum elite'. Mostly by non-forum famous men which is always quite telling

It's easy to avoid those threads though. I've not posted in any of the Social Meet threads or Lounge Chat threads as they can appear to be a bit cliquey if I'm honest.

Many might say I'm in the clique. But I try to inclusive and not exclude anyone, unless they've proved to me they're a twat!

yes id hate to upset someone anywhere - apart from the fun threads where i may say avoid haha -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted. "

I missed it, well saw the thread started reading a few names, phone went off, refreshed and then got the "sorry you don't have permission to view this thread" I was like mother fuckers, I wanted to see if I was on it.

Would've been teabags then, anybody know if the old teabags account was in the clique?

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

Ah good times. I'm still waiting for my clique t-shirt I was promised on that thread."

Surely you mean a tea shirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

Would've been teabags then, anybody know if the old teabags account was in the clique?"

That would have been a given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There washl a thread started recently by a guy who had just started using the forums and the treatment he got from a lot of forum regulars was fuckin disgraceful. Friendly isn't a word I'd use to describe the forums. There's some real nasty pieces of work on here who get away with their vitriol because they're so popular.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Thetes an interesting thing about the continuing threads i noticed from my previous visit here. Was usually one or two people who would start off a certain one which i wont name. Once soneone else started it. Theres was ignored when one of the regulars created one a little later. That amused me a little bit."

That's why the LCT has no ownership it's for everyone but so is the rest of the forum. You can't please everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see why that would put off a few.

I find it quite funny. I'm passed by quite a bit but I keep coming back for more (glutton for punishment

) but others might not feel that way.

AWOL? I went to the pub, just forgot to come back

There are often times when some comments should maybe taken to pm so others get a say too.

Btw I thought there was no clique

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted. "

That fella was a straight talker, often disliked for some of his forthright comments and direct style, but mostly spot on. I think on that particular thread his list was posted through a proxy (or so I'm led to believe) and sadly it had been deleted before I saw it, but it's a shame as I bet that thread was absolute Forum gold!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As someone whose been coming here longer than most and seen the forum dynamic constantly change due too the many comings and going of what could be described as regular posters....

I've never felt the presence of an exclusive clique and to be totally honest I would never be part of a clique that would have me.....

"
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Reverse psychology hey... Well I'm not falling for it... Your in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

Would've been teabags then, anybody know if the old teabags account was in the clique?

That would have been a given

Nah I'm quite marmite on here, half of them hate me and the other half would love to see me on the end of a knife!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a year of basically spouting bollocks on here I've come to a couple of conclusions about the whole 'clique' shite.

1: it doesn't exist. It's just folk that know each other more than others.

This

. It's only natural that some people will gravitate towards each other. Some are meeting or have made friends with some more than others. It doesn't bother me if groups chat amongst themselves sometimes, it can be entertaining to read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless I'm poorly like the other week tbh I don't notice any cliques. I pretty relaxed these days so I don't worry about who posts what where or if I'm being ignored.

In the early days I was the annoying little bitch.

PTU xxx"

That post didn't make any scence

. What I ment to say is if I'm poorly like I was the other week I can get my arse in my hand over threads/cliques and being ignored but mostly I don't worry over them.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day you'll always get people who don't post much not feeling like they're part of what's going on.

I feel for those yet I understand there's people here who have known oneanother for years.

You can't expect to be pally pally with everyone immediately. I'm certainly not but i don't let that worry me. I've got a lovely friends list and although I may be ignored a few times, I do carry on because I know someone at some point will reply.

Maybe that means I'm stubborn, I'm not really bothered if a few don't like me - that's life in general - but giving up and moaning about it is not the way to go.

Yes accept there are lots who know eachother and get on well together, but that's it. There's nothing more to it than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll post wherever the fuck I want and couldn't give a monkeys if I'm ignored. I barely remember where I've commented and what I've written anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a year of basically spouting bollocks on here I've come to a couple of conclusions about the whole 'clique' shite.

1: it doesn't exist. It's just folk that know each other more than others.

This

But that's EXACTLY what a clique is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

Ah good times. I'm still waiting for my clique t-shirt I was promised on that thread.

Surely you mean a tea shirt

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"There washl a thread started recently by a guy who had just started using the forums and the treatment he got from a lot of forum regulars was fuckin disgraceful. Friendly isn't a word I'd use to describe the forums. There's some real nasty pieces of work on here who get away with their vitriol because they're so popular."

I think a lot is how things are perceived. I write stuff in my own voice and it's calm, or sometimes scatty. Depending on the mood the reader is in it can be taken completely differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

took me a while to post - i read for ages and got a feel for the place - then posted the odd comment - took a long time before i felt i was part of anything and even now can be ignored - does it bother me - nope not at all - its just the way it is here - its an online forum - love the people ive met and there are so many id love to meet - and i do think about stuff chatted about here when im elsewhere

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"At the end of the day you'll always get people who don't post much not feeling like they're part of what's going on.

I feel for those yet I understand there's people here who have known oneanother for years.

Maybe that means I'm stubborn, I'm not really bothered if a few don't like me - that's life in general - but giving up and moaning about it is not the way to go.

Yes accept there are lots who know eachother and get on well together, but that's it. There's nothing more to it than that

Yaaaaaay

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Thank you for your comment and before this descends into a car crash, we know there are some that are here just to incite trouble. However they are a minority and we shouldn't all be tarred with the same brush. Nor should all single males or any other group that is generally hated. That's a massive generalisation

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

There's something but not sure if 'clique' is the right word. I know people choose who to reply to and who not but I consistantly see people's reply get ignored, only for someone else to say it and get replies and thumbs.

I see it consistantly and have posted for a few years now.

I post regardless of the OP but it's the subject that keeps me out of threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot is how things are perceived. I write stuff in my own voice and it's calm, or sometimes scatty. Depending on the mood the reader is in it can be taken completely differently. "

this is where actually meeting folks is a bonus - i totally get you now ive met you - xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

"
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You were in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could easily name who's in who's cliques. I won't because that's silly.

Your all in groups and will probably be in each other's friends lists.

If your not, and you stick around long enough, you soon will be.

It happens, we find friends.

Each time I see certain names in a thread, i know if they'll interact with me or not, depending who else is commenting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a year of basically spouting bollocks on here I've come to a couple of conclusions about the whole 'clique' shite.

1: it doesn't exist. It's just folk that know each other more than others.

This

But that's EXACTLY what a clique is! "

It's just friends and playmates

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I'll post wherever the fuck I want and couldn't give a monkeys if I'm ignored. I barely remember where I've commented and what I've written anyway

The way to be.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

Would've been teabags then, anybody know if the old teabags account was in the clique?

That would have been a given

Nah I'm quite marmite on here, half of them hate me and the other half would love to see me on the end of a knife!

I'd sooner see you on the end of my cock as I finish a piss to be fair . With my wife shaking it into your mouth

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"At the end of the day you'll always get people who don't post much not feeling like they're part of what's going on.

I feel for those yet I understand there's people here who have known oneanother for years.

Maybe that means I'm stubborn, I'm not really bothered if a few don't like me - that's life in general - but giving up and moaning about it is not the way to go.

Yes accept there are lots who know eachother and get on well together, but that's it. There's nothing more to it than that

For goodness sake woman stop posting I have keep replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trouble with the written word is that it's very hard to decipher. Humour/sarcasm can be missed by some, which is occasionally the reason why some threads go bad.

Cliques- Not really, I guess it's like being In a pub on the edges of a conversation....sometimes you have something valid or funny to contribute....Sometimes you're better of laughing along and getting another pint in and offering around your nuts......KP you gutter dwellers

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By *lueWonderMan
over a year ago

Preston.....ish

"I just feel for those feeling left out.

I need to stop feeling.

Feelings aren't meant for fab, except the gropey type

I have feelings

I know

I have feelings too

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Unless I'm poorly like the other week tbh I don't notice any cliques. I pretty relaxed these days so I don't worry about who posts what where or if I'm being ignored.

In the early days I was the annoying little bitch.

PTU xxx

That post didn't make any scence

. What I ment to say is if I'm poorly like I was the other week I can get my arse in my hand over threads/cliques and being ignored but mostly I don't worry over them.

PTU xxx "

I really believe it's less about being ignored on purpose and more about accidentally overlooked/missed. Xx

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

That's why the LCT has no ownership it's for everyone but so is the rest of the forum. You can't please everyone

All too true.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I'll post wherever the fuck I want and couldn't give a monkeys if I'm ignored. I barely remember where I've commented and what I've written anyway

Exactly just post what you want where you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PTU xxx

Get your bum on the lounge chat lady, we talk a lot of crap on there and you make me laugh

It moves to quick for me

by the time I've read it thro n though of a reply it's gone onto another topic.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dunno. Spent a lot of time here in my old profile and I will say that I was stopped from posting sometimes. Can feel that if you disagree with a person you need to just shut your mouth, if you speak out you risked having personal insults thrown at you from a group of strangers. Seen it happen. Not to me though. "

Good point. Your post was ignored though so maybe wrong wording?

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"After a year of basically spouting bollocks on here I've come to a couple of conclusions about the whole 'clique' shite.

1: it doesn't exist. It's just folk that know each other more than others.

This

But that's EXACTLY what a clique is! "

Haven't you got some work to do or a meet to arrange?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to addresss the room rather than quote individuals, a bit like the queen, I keep my gloves on and just mingle.

I do read everybodies contribution though if it's a thread started by myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trouble with the written word is that it's very hard to decipher. Humour/sarcasm can be missed by some, which is occasionally the reason why some threads go bad.

I wish I'd written this. This is exactly right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also! Most of the regular posters are sarky bastards so what may seem like an "attack" on a new poster would be seen as banter elsewhere.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"There's something but not sure if 'clique' is the right word. I know people choose who to reply to and who not but I consistantly see people's reply get ignored, only for someone else to say it and get replies and thumbs.

I see it consistantly and have posted for a few years now.

I post regardless of the OP but it's the subject that keeps me out of threads. "

I think ppl choose to reply to friends because it's safe everyone has insecurities

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

I've only been in fab a couple of months and only been reading the forums for a few weeks, I haven't noticed any cliques as such, but there are some that are more regular contributors than others, and I notice a few familiar names on this thread (waves) they do have banter between each other so I could see how they could be possibly perceived as a clique, but they aren't! They are a lovely group of people who will chat with other posters on a thread, have some banter and share their opinions, but they're not opinionated! In my limited experience I've had better conversations and banter with some of the forumites than I have with fabbers in my local area.

If you feel excluded from a thread you have commented on chances are it's just because it's been missed due to the speed of the thread so don't take it personally.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think a lot is how things are perceived. I write stuff in my own voice and it's calm, or sometimes scatty. Depending on the mood the reader is in it can be taken completely differently.

this is where actually meeting folks is a bonus - i totally get you now ive met you - xxx "

I really am the same ain't I? I agree tho, once you meet the person/people behind the post it's far easier to see the intent and read it in their voice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

You were in it

I'm quite sure I was! I admit to being in a number of cliques! As I said above it's human nature and happens everywhere in life!

It's those in denial about it that makes me smile

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I could easily name who's in who's cliques. I won't because that's silly.

Your all in groups and will probably be in each other's friends lists.

If your not, and you stick around long enough, you soon will be.

It happens, we find friends.

Each time I see certain names in a thread, i know if they'll interact with me or not, depending who else is commenting. "

That's a very balanced view, you can have a hug for that

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Trouble with the written word is that it's very hard to decipher. Humour/sarcasm can be missed by some, which is occasionally the reason why some threads go bad.

Perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could easily name who's in who's cliques. I won't because that's silly.

Your all in groups and will probably be in each other's friends lists.

If your not, and you stick around long enough, you soon will be.

It happens, we find friends.

Each time I see certain names in a thread, i know if they'll interact with me or not, depending who else is commenting.

That's a very balanced view, you can have a hug for that

in the main we are all here to connect with others one way or another

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Good point. Your post was ignored though so maybe wrong wording?

This is what I mean by missed or overlooked. It easily done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

You were in it

I'm quite sure I was! I admit to being in a number of cliques! As I said above it's human nature and happens everywhere in life!

It's those in denial about it that makes me smile

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Ah the old non denial denial... Sneaky

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I've only been in fab a couple of months and only been reading the forums for a few weeks, I haven't noticed any cliques as such, but there are some that are more regular contributors than others, and I notice a few familiar names on this thread (waves) they do have banter between each other so I could see how they could be possibly perceived as a clique, but they aren't! They are a lovely group of people who will chat with other posters on a thread, have some banter and share their opinions, but they're not opinionated! In my limited experience I've had better conversations and banter with some of the forumites than I have with fabbers in my local area.

If you feel excluded from a thread you have commented on chances are it's just because it's been missed due to the speed of the thread so don't take it personally."

Yaaaaay! Sense talking right there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

Would've been teabags then, anybody know if the old teabags account was in the clique?

That would have been a given

Nah I'm quite marmite on here, half of them hate me and the other half would love to see me on the end of a knife!

I'd sooner see you on the end of my cock as I finish a piss to be fair . With my wife shaking it into your mouth

Yeah but I think we're in the sexually unwell clique!

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

PTU xxx

Get your bum on the lounge chat lady, we talk a lot of crap on there and you make me laugh

It moves to quick for me

by the time I've read it thro n though of a reply it's gone onto another topic.

PTU xxx "

Just post any old crap we all do

. It's what you want to post add your own topic and thoughts xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm having a hard time understanding this concept and how it's perception impacts ppl using the forum. I see friendships and camaraderie which makes me smile. Surely that can't be wrong, if that didn't exist there would be no forum. I've read a profile today that claims that the forum is full of pretentious t***s. I'm a firm believer things are what you make of them, I stumbled into the forum about 5 months ago. I wasn't verified, had no veris and a silhouette. The only positive I was female but even that was questionable. I did a little browsing and watching initially to understand the dynamics. Then just posted what I wanted where I wanted in and around friendship groups. Fair enough I'm not shy and I like a challenge. I'm interested to understand how "cliques" impact others using the forum.

All comments would be appreciated and constructive responses may help a few enjoy the forum more, in other words play nicely

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too much time on your hands sweetie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't help when i type slow and my phone makes all sorts of word changes.

By the time I've said what i want, the moment is gone so I tend to look out for slower moving threads.

Not avoiding a clique or anything, I just can't physically keep up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I barely notice/remember usernames so can't be in a clique even if I wanted to be.

I will respond to anyone regardless of who they are, but the people I have more of a connection with will obviously get more of a response from me.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

You were in it

I'm quite sure I was! I admit to being in a number of cliques! As I said above it's human nature and happens everywhere in life!

It's those in denial about it that makes me smile

So, because I reply to you Dan, are we in our very own clique coz I don't think we are, I just know your magic eye is a heart (yes, i can do it ha!)and I think you are a decent bloke with interesting stuff to say.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

All comments would be appreciated and constructive responses may help a few enjoy the forum more, in other words play nicely

too much time on your hands sweetie "

Would you like to help with that?

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"It doesn't help when i type slow and my phone makes all sorts of word changes.

By the time I've said what i want, the moment is gone so I tend to look out for slower moving threads.

Not avoiding a clique or anything, I just can't physically keep up!

That's it you can reply to your own posts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

You were in it

I'm quite sure I was! I admit to being in a number of cliques! As I said above it's human nature and happens everywhere in life!

It's those in denial about it that makes me smile

Aw thank you! But no in that circumstance it's not a clique. Although we ARE part of the Magic Eye see-ers clique!! That rival Magic Eye non-see-ers clique can jolly well sod off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't help when i type slow and my phone makes all sorts of word changes.

By the time I've said what i want, the moment is gone so I tend to look out for slower moving threads.

Not avoiding a clique or anything, I just can't physically keep up!

Need to work on your finger speed

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"It doesn't help when i type slow and my phone makes all sorts of word changes.

By the time I've said what i want, the moment is gone so I tend to look out for slower moving threads.

Not avoiding a clique or anything, I just can't physically keep up!

That's it you can reply to your own posts

I sent myself a mesaage the other day by hitting reply privately by accident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All comments would be appreciated and constructive responses may help a few enjoy the forum more, in other words play nicely

too much time on your hands sweetie

Would you like to help with that?

"
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Yes I'm really drawn to your silhouette

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

You were in it

I'm quite sure I was! I admit to being in a number of cliques! As I said above it's human nature and happens everywhere in life!

It's those in denial about it that makes me smile

Aw thank you! But no in that circumstance it's not a clique. Although we ARE part of the Magic Eye see-ers clique!! That rival Magic Eye non-see-ers clique can jolly well sod off

Do I need cream for that coz I thought I was clique free?

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

I mainly post random shizzle as and when. Try to keep it light hearted and offer advice when asked.

If there are cliques on here I'm oblivious to it.

Made some good friends from it.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

All comments would be appreciated and constructive responses may help a few enjoy the forum more, in other words play nicely

too much time on your hands sweetie

Would you like to help with that?

Yes I'm really drawn to your silhouette "

That's understandable it's aesthetically pleasing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A clique is just a label when someone on the outside observes a group of people that already know eachother. In the forum context the clique is irrelevent as if i see a topic i wish to comment on then i read the OP, formulate a response, post it, then maybe read the other comments. So no the clique never influences on whether or not i post. At the end of the day this is just a bunch of people having a chat. I fail to understand why a percieved clique would prevent anyone from saying something, as the only way to be a part of the clique is to join in. If they all decide to turn their backs and ignore you then they are hardly worth knowing or worrying about. i still speak my mind regardless.

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I mainly post random shizzle as and when. Try to keep it light hearted and offer advice when asked.

If there are cliques on here I'm oblivious to it.

Made some good friends from it.

That's made me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Trouble with the written word is that it's very hard to decipher. Humour/sarcasm can be missed by some, which is occasionally the reason why some threads go bad.

Bang on the money, sums it up perfectly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There was that awesome thread where the clique were all named... until it got deleted.

You were in it

I'm quite sure I was! I admit to being in a number of cliques! As I said above it's human nature and happens everywhere in life!

It's those in denial about it that makes me smile

I'm not sure it's about denial Dan. I think it's about personal perception. Some will see it different to you. I personally don't see it as being a clique mentality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unless I'm poorly like the other week tbh I don't notice any cliques. I pretty relaxed these days so I don't worry about who posts what where or if I'm being ignored.

In the early days I was the annoying little bitch.

PTU xxx

That post didn't make any scence

. What I ment to say is if I'm poorly like I was the other week I can get my arse in my hand over threads/cliques and being ignored but mostly I don't worry over them.

PTU xxx

I really believe it's less about being ignored on purpose and more about accidentally overlooked/missed. Xx"

Yes!

But really how can anyone miss me!

ignore yes but miss??? Mwah

PTU xxx

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"A clique is just a label when someone on the outside observes a group of people that already know eachother. In the forum context the clique is irrelevent as if i see a topic i wish to comment on then i read the OP, formulate a response, post it, then maybe read the other comments. So no the clique never influences on whether or not i post. At the end of the day this is just a bunch of people having a chat. I fail to understand why a percieved clique would prevent anyone from saying something, as the only way to be a part of the clique is to join in. If they all decide to turn their backs and ignore you then they are hardly worth knowing or worrying about. i still speak my mind regardless. "

I can't really add to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PTU xxx

Get your bum on the lounge chat lady, we talk a lot of crap on there and you make me laugh

It moves to quick for me

by the time I've read it thro n though of a reply it's gone onto another topic.

PTU xxx

Just post any old crap we all do

. It's what you want to post add your own topic and thoughts xxx"

Awwwww u missin me woman?

I will do. I promise although you mite regret it.

PTU xxx

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Unless I'm poorly like the other week tbh I don't notice any cliques. I pretty relaxed these days so I don't worry about who posts what where or if I'm being ignored.

In the early days I was the annoying little bitch.

PTU xxx

That post didn't make any scence

. What I ment to say is if I'm poorly like I was the other week I can get my arse in my hand over threads/cliques and being ignored but mostly I don't worry over them.

PTU xxx

I really believe it's less about being ignored on purpose and more about accidentally overlooked/missed. Xx

Yes!

But really how can anyone miss me!

ignore yes but miss??? Mwah

PTU xxx "

Very true

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple
over a year ago

west midlands

I haven't noticed cliques but I do have an annoyance with posts asking for profile help from single males, there must be 6 a day posted and 99% of the time the same advice is applicable to all, also the replies sometimes get a little too harsh in my opinion, I tend to just bypass them and save myself from being annoyed but sometimes the temptation to look is too much lol

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I don't think Clique is the right word but, there are certainly lots of people who've used the forums a long time & gotten to know each other. Sure you sometimes feel like you're a lost voice in some of the threads but I guess it's to be expected. I'm quite new to the forums but still comment on any old threads that interest me - whether I'm noticed or not

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

PTU xxx

Get your bum on the lounge chat lady, we talk a lot of crap on there and you make me laugh

It moves to quick for me

by the time I've read it thro n though of a reply it's gone onto another topic.

PTU xxx

Just post any old crap we all do

. It's what you want to post add your own topic and thoughts xxx

Awwwww u missin me woman?

I will do. I promise although you mite regret it.

PTU xxx "

We had 2 threads talking about pooh so anything you have to contribute has got to be an improvement

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I haven't noticed cliques but I do have an annoyance with posts asking for profile help from single males, there must be 6 a day posted and 99% of the time the same advice is applicable to all, also the replies sometimes get a little too harsh in my opinion, I tend to just bypass them and save myself from being annoyed but sometimes the temptation to look is too much lol"

Yes that's how I stumbled across "pretentious t***s"

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I don't think Clique is the right word but, there are certainly lots of people who've used the forums a long time & gotten to know each other. Sure you sometimes feel like you're a lost voice in some of the threads but I guess it's to be expected. I'm quite new to the forums but still comment on any old threads that interest me - whether I'm noticed or not

Good for you and so you should

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

PTU xxx

Get your bum on the lounge chat lady, we talk a lot of crap on there and you make me laugh

It moves to quick for me

by the time I've read it thro n though of a reply it's gone onto another topic.

PTU xxx

Just post any old crap we all do

. It's what you want to post add your own topic and thoughts xxx

Awwwww u missin me woman?

I will do. I promise although you mite regret it.

PTU xxx

We had 2 threads talking about pooh so anything you have to contribute has got to be an improvement

*whistles innocently*

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

reading through this post has been fun and oh boy what short memories a lot of you seem to have .

I'm talking about the tell all post from a few months ago posted by a certain someone as she was leaving that spilled all the dirty back stabbing going on in rather large fucking cliques no pun intended .

most cliques on here are a negative influence because its all talking about people negativity privately which then slowly spills in to forum posts.

nothing you can do about such behaviour except to try and keep yourself to yourself and your opinions about others to yourself by doing that you tend not to flame any such behaviour when you come across it but your also unlikely to become part of a clique by doing so .

be your own man as my mother used to say .

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"reading through this post has been fun and oh boy what short memories a lot of you seem to have .

most cliques on here are a negative influence because its all talking about people negativity privately which then slowly spills in to forum posts.

be your own man as my mother used to say .

I missed that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PTU xxx

Get your bum on the lounge chat lady, we talk a lot of crap on there and you make me laugh

It moves to quick for me

by the time I've read it thro n though of a reply it's gone onto another topic.

PTU xxx

Just post any old crap we all do

. It's what you want to post add your own topic and thoughts xxx

Awwwww u missin me woman?

I will do. I promise although you mite regret it.

PTU xxx

We had 2 threads talking about pooh so anything you have to contribute has got to be an improvement

Oh shit. Rolf

PTU xxx

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"reading through this post has been fun and oh boy what short memories a lot of you seem to have .

most cliques on here are a negative influence because its all talking about people negativity privately which then slowly spills in to forum posts.

be your own man as my mother used to say .

I like the friends I've made, I tell the those I think are being knobs directly via pm. Some will get a subtle message to make them think. However I also realise my behaviour isn't beyond reproach and accept the criticism of "friends" that I've made. Their opinion I value and I know I'm not always right. So be my own man, I usually am but I don't want to stand alone while I'm doing it

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

PTU xxx

Get your bum on the lounge chat lady, we talk a lot of crap on there and you make me laugh

It moves to quick for me

by the time I've read it thro n though of a reply it's gone onto another topic.

PTU xxx

Just post any old crap we all do

. It's what you want to post add your own topic and thoughts xxx

Awwwww u missin me woman?

I will do. I promise although you mite regret it.

PTU xxx

We had 2 threads talking about pooh so anything you have to contribute has got to be an improvement

Oh shit. Rolf

PTU xxx "

Rolf wasn't on the thread no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some threads i just wont go in because the clique have taken over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're all dickheads, it's why I stay away from all this shit.

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"reading through this post has been fun and oh boy what short memories a lot of you seem to have .

most cliques on here are a negative influence because its all talking about people negativity privately which then slowly spills in to forum posts.

be your own man as my mother used to say .

you enter this world alone and you will leave it alone .

keep your own council unless provoked then never bitch about said person to others just tell them straight to there face where they can go .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some threads i just wont go in because the clique have taken over it "

Can't get a word in edgeways.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I just post when and if I feel like it and do my own thing.

Sometimes, someone might reply and other times not. *Shrugs*

It doesn't stop me posting or keep me awake at night.

Yes, there are groups on the forums. They often change every few months once new people come and others go. Think it's natural on most forums that certain people will be drawn to each other, especially if they share beliefs / hobbies or have met in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're all dickheads, it's why I stay away from all this shit.

Go....fuck.....yourself.

What, again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"reading through this post has been fun and oh boy what short memories a lot of you seem to have .

most cliques on here are a negative influence because its all talking about people negativity privately which then slowly spills in to forum posts.

be your own man as my mother used to say .

How do you know what people talk about privately?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see why that would put off a few.

I find it quite funny. I'm passed by quite a bit but I keep coming back for more (glutton for punishment

) but others might not feel that way.

There are often times when some comments should maybe taken to pm so others get a say too.

Btw I thought there was no clique

Yes we're all guilty of getting carried away on a thread

There is a significant challenge in being inclusive, especially if you have attended a recent social that has everyone buzzing. The Lounge Thread is a good example - the intention was to be inclusive - yet it is dominated by those who were able to attend the Manchester social, so naturally feels slightly exclusive because of the in-jokes, friendships and acquaintances formed at the social and the plethora of pre social threads that started that set of interactions.

I'll post anywhere on the forum usually and completely expect to get 'ignored' 80% of the time because at least 80% of what I post is crap. However, the Lounge thread is particularly difficult to break into. The Nocturnal thread is somewhat similar but to a lesser extent, because only the OP and maybe one or two others are trying to be inclusive, but the sheeer volume of posts makes that a difficult task. So in both cases the thread is naturally dominated by those who post regularly in them.

Threads where truly inclusive dialogue occurs may be the real unicorn on the forum - any forum

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"You're all dickheads, it's why I stay away from all this shit.

Go....fuck.....yourself.

What, again?

Have you ever tried to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're all dickheads, it's why I stay away from all this shit.

Go....fuck.....yourself.

What, again?

Have you ever tried to?

Who hasnt?

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"reading through this post has been fun and oh boy what short memories a lot of you seem to have .

most cliques on here are a negative influence because its all talking about people negativity privately which then slowly spills in to forum posts.

be your own man as my mother used to say .

How do you know what people talk about privately?"

tell all threads when people blow and go plus I've been to enough socials ,

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just post where i want to and do what i want and dont get.involved in the behind the scenes dramas

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

I started reading thinking this was something to do with the hit BBC drama of the same name.

You clearly have written this observive eye and made best to iron out superfluous arguments. Its clear you have a university education. And the op initial thread reads like an explanation to research. By any chance you are not Sydney university? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PTU xxx

Get your bum on the lounge chat lady, we talk a lot of crap on there and you make me laugh

It moves to quick for me

by the time I've read it thro n though of a reply it's gone onto another topic.

PTU xxx

Just post any old crap we all do

. It's what you want to post add your own topic and thoughts xxx

Awwwww u missin me woman?

I will do. I promise although you mite regret it.

PTU xxx

We had 2 threads talking about pooh so anything you have to contribute has got to be an improvement

Oh shit. Rolf

PTU xxx

Rolf wasn't on the thread no

Oh was he not? I'll give him a kick.

PTU xxx

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

It's not the cliques you should worry about it's the sub-cliques and the cliques inside them are even worse!

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"You're all dickheads, it's why I stay away from all this shit.

Get back to Hamburg you

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I like to stir things up a bit at times. Being single I've no one to debate with at home.

It's nice when a post gets a comment but this isn't Facebook I'm not looking to win popularity contests. I've had lovely PM from some and I've PMd others with advice which was too personal to post on a forum.

It does annoy me when conversations start but I'm just as guilty of doing it in the Scotland forum when it's people I know. Not really a clique just becomes banter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not the cliques you should worry about it's the sub-cliques and the cliques inside them are even worse!

Now I'm REALLY confused.

Bollox...i posted. Sorry Pink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're all dickheads, it's why I stay away from all this shit.

Get back to Hamburg you

Beginning to think thaymt I'm more welcone there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not the cliques you should worry about it's the sub-cliques and the cliques inside them are even worse!

Like the platinum members?

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I just see cliques as friendships groups. Can they dominate a thread? Yes of course but who cares. People are free to comment if they wish. I just dip in and out of what I want to comment on. The only time I am put off posting is when people are being insulting, confrontational and deliberately argumentative. I'm here for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not the cliques you should worry about it's the sub-cliques and the cliques inside them are even worse!

Like the platinum members?

Don't you have a platinum membership? Aww shame

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I can see why that would put off a few.

I find it quite funny. I'm passed by quite a bit but I keep coming back for more (glutton for punishment

) but others might not feel that way.

There are often times when some comments should maybe taken to pm so others get a say too.

Btw I thought there was no clique

Yes we're all guilty of getting carried away on a thread

Threads where truly inclusive dialogue occurs may be the real unicorn on the forum - any forum

I don't think pooh was an in joke, or crisps or spiders etc etc and majority were friends beforehand. So get yourself on the thread for a chat we don't bite

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"It's not the cliques you should worry about it's the sub-cliques and the cliques inside them are even worse!

Like the platinum members?

Don't you have a platinum membership? Aww shame

You and you're dodgy snake oil ....

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I think it's about gaining confidence by joining in the fun threads and getting yourself known, not making your first thread a complaint. X

Yes opening with a complaint never ends well, that's what causes comments like "pretentious t***s" appearing on profiles

I am not sure why a newbie starting a thread with a complaint deserves a different reaction to a "regular" starting a thread with a complaint on it. It comes across as very unfriendly

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"You're all dickheads, it's why I stay away from all this shit.

Get back to Hamburg you

Beginning to think thaymt I'm more welcone there.

Don't say that we love you really

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

A lot of the same people post often enough but everyone was new once - my advice is just join in and keep paying and eventually you'll be a regular.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

Interesting and thought provoking thread; there are threads I read and would never contribute to because it's an obvious bunch of mates chatting amongst themselves and I don't understand the subtleties. I tend to pm folk from the forums that I find interesting - it's led to interesting meets...

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I think it's about gaining confidence by joining in the fun threads and getting yourself known, not making your first thread a complaint. X

Yes opening with a complaint never ends well, that's what causes comments like "pretentious t***s" appearing on profiles

I am not sure why a newbie starting a thread with a complaint deserves a different reaction to a "regular" starting a thread with a complaint on it. It comes across as very unfriendly"

I think there are complaints then there are complaints that's more the point. Everyone is entitled to complain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're all dickheads, it's why I stay away from all this shit.

Get back to Hamburg you

Beginning to think thaymt I'm more welcone there.

Don't say that we love you really

Aww, shucks

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"A lot of the same people post often enough but everyone was new once - my advice is just join in and keep paying and eventually you'll be a regular. "

Very true

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think it's about gaining confidence by joining in the fun threads and getting yourself known, not making your first thread a complaint. X

Yes opening with a complaint never ends well, that's what causes comments like "pretentious t***s" appearing on profiles

I am not sure why a newbie starting a thread with a complaint deserves a different reaction to a "regular" starting a thread with a complaint on it. It comes across as very unfriendly"

I'm guessing it's because it's generally the same complaints and normally have an offensive undertone, something similar to

"I've been on 3 days and not knee deep in clunge yet, where are all the horny sluts at?"

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By *ink Panther. OP Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Interesting and thought provoking thread; there are threads I read and would never contribute to because it's an obvious bunch of mates chatting amongst themselves and I don't understand the subtleties. I tend to pm folk from the forums that I find interesting - it's led to interesting meets... "

I'm glad it's helping even if you don't always post

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

He didn't generalise. he said "There washl a thread started recently by a guy who had just started using the forums and the treatment he got from a lot of forum regulars was fuckin disgraceful."

What he says is true, it does happen with "regulars". Some dress it up as "banter" when challenged but it comes across as unfriendly and downright nasty at times, especially the asking for advice / meets threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just see cliques as friendships groups. Can they dominate a thread? Yes of course but who cares. People are free to comment if they wish. I just dip in and out of what I want to comment on. The only time I am put off posting is when people are being insulting, confrontational and deliberately argumentative. I'm here for fun

I guess for me it depends on whether a person just wants to comment, be acknowledged or engage in a conversation. Engaging in a conversation is difficult on a forum, expecting to acknowledged for what a person thinks is a witty or insightful comment is also unrealistic,. However this does happen more frequently when interacting amongst friends. Hence those who wish to engage in conversation or be acknowledged may feel excluded and cry 'clique'!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I think it's about gaining confidence by joining in the fun threads and getting yourself known, not making your first thread a complaint. X

Yes opening with a complaint never ends well, that's what causes comments like "pretentious t***s" appearing on profiles

I am not sure why a newbie starting a thread with a complaint deserves a different reaction to a "regular" starting a thread with a complaint on it. It comes across as very unfriendly

I'm guessing it's because it's generally the same complaints and normally have an offensive undertone, something similar to

"I've been on 3 days and not knee deep in clunge yet, where are all the horny sluts at?"

It isn't the same complaint to the person asking. If they annoy people so much they should avoid them

Also people who see the post as for eg "I've been on 3 days and not knee deep in clunge yet, where are all the horny sluts at" when it is a question of what do I do to get a meet doesn't help either.

A straight forward question is not offensive.

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