FabSwingers.com forum: Replies?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Theres lots of posts on here commenting on 'women' not replying to messages,,,reasons being- too many to answer, and men not reading profiles before messaging,,?? Hang on- we have messages from male/ female/ couples who do the exact same so the majority of us are guilty of this, just a little suggestion but to save all the " He does, she does, they do this' would it not be easier to just put on your status ' Thanks for messages guys, those without reply- sorry not for me but happy swinging',,, it takes 2 mins and saves all slating each other, We can spend time on here but not 2 mins to send a polite message??? We all expect respect- is it not about time we all gave it too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah but surely replying to every unsuitable approach would lead to threads bemoaning how someone people simply cant handle rejection .....

I could publish a book from the amount of disgruntled shit'ograms I receive from people who cant handle polite rejection .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah but surely replying to every unsuitable approach would lead to threads bemoaning how someone people simply cant handle rejection .....

I could publish a book from the amount of disgruntled shit'ograms I receive from people who cant handle polite rejection .....

You have rejected people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

all theses whingers opening threads must be a monday thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it will not belong before you get profiles complaining they sent a wink and never got one back

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By *atindollTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

Just got a message from a guy 5 foot 9,says he loves my pics and profile and would I like to meet...often I just ignore these but I just said how strange it is that he has read my profile and yet never noticed the very prominent point that I like my men to be at least six foot...finicky of me I know but I just got fed up of guys arriving that I could put under my arm and run away with.i await his next message with baited breath.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe if some grew up and stopped behaving like babies whinging just because someone they never spoke to before didn't answer their message.

Boo hoo.

No reply means not interested.

You shouldn't need site rules to tell you.

You shouldn't need anyone to tell you.

Grow up.

And if you are going to start whinging about others being rude?

What the hell do you want to interact with rude people for?

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By *atindollTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

It appears that he knows he is under 6 foot and straight but has been with a tgirl before so thought he'd ask anyway.

The urge to tell him to fuck right off is strong but I believe I shall just ignore as usual,I'm too polite by half!.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Just got a message from a guy 5 foot 9,says he loves my pics and profile and would I like to meet...often I just ignore these but I just said how strange it is that he has read my profile and yet never noticed the very prominent point that I like my men to be at least six foot...finicky of me I know but I just got fed up of guys arriving that I could put under my arm and run away with.i await his next message with baited breath."

Yep!

I'm 6' short men just don't do it for me either.

But I do love playing the 'banter game' when they carry on sending messages trying to convince me what they lack in height they make up for in other ways.

I don't care how big their cock is, how they can leave me a jibbering wreck with their tongue.

But bless them for their efforts lol!

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By *atindollTV/TS
over a year ago

edinburgh

Yep!

I'm 6' short men just don't do it for me either.

But I do love playing the 'banter game' when they carry on sending messages trying to convince me what they lack in height they make up for in other ways.

I don't care how big their cock is, how they can leave me a jibbering wreck with their tongue.

But bless them for their efforts lol! "

You're the fab saint sent to keep up the spirits of short men world-wide,its too hard on my back to stoop so low as that but I salute you...bravo..lol.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We state in our profile that no reply means a polite no thank you and a couple of circumstances under which we won't reply. Despite this we still get messages from people who have ignored the things we say we don't reply to.

I have no reason to believe that putting those things in our status update would make any difference.

Also a guy who had messaged us having clearly not read our profile started a thread once. He complained that despite religiously reading profiles and only contacting people whose criteria he matched nobody responded and we were all rude. I now take the whinging with a very large pinch of salt.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I had on my profile if they didn't meet my criteria I wouldn't reply, and I didn't!

Anyone who met my criteria received a response, whether it was a yeah or nay.

I've been on sites where a customised autoresponse was sent to those contacting you outside your criteria.

Do you think that made people happy? Did it fuck!!!

You're dealing with some who feel entitled/fragile egos. However you say "no" will still piss them off.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I don't get why people get so hung up on this.

If we don't get a reply,we just assume we werent for them and its no big deal.Make a private note so we don't bother them in future.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but I don't agree, some messages are wholly inappropriate and it would mean I would be thanking those people too. I have found if I send a polite no thanks it leads to it being questioned and the person saying they will come to me ect, I,'ve had a man being very rude saying my expectations were too high as i didn't want to travel to him by train miles away. No sorry I don't think I need to take 2 mins to reply to each message. I have tried it, it doesn't work. You run your profile how you want and let others run theirs how they want. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah but surely replying to every unsuitable approach would lead to threads bemoaning how someone people simply cant handle rejection .....

I could publish a book from the amount of disgruntled shit'ograms I receive from people who cant handle polite rejection .....

You have rejected people?

Indeed I have.... and I try so hard to be humble about it but that's a tall order for someone like me ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Theres lots of posts on here commenting on 'women' not replying to messages,,,reasons being- too many to answer, and men not reading profiles before messaging,,?? Hang on- we have messages from male/ female/ couples who do the exact same so the majority of us are guilty of this, just a little suggestion but to save all the " He does, she does, they do this' would it not be easier to just put on your status ' Thanks for messages guys, those without reply- sorry not for me but happy swinging',,, it takes 2 mins and saves all slating each other, We can spend time on here but not 2 mins to send a polite message??? We all expect respect- is it not about time we all gave it too?"
. Great idea. My g/f tried to help a single guy who was new on site other week on fab regarding messages. Basically he'd been blocked by a single women then named and shamed her on his update for not replying to messages before he got blocked. We both messaged him as she had a single women's profile for years and me a single guys profile so felt could help well after spending a good hour or so messaging we realised was wasting our time. I tried to explain some women get hundreds of messages a day and wasn't always possible to reply. Especially working full time and life outside of fab but sadly his response was should always reply. Always think you should never get upset if you don't get replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block... "

How rude of you to call people ignorant for not replying. You have a lot to learn young man.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block... "

Blimey, that's extreme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone doesn't respond then move on.

You may not be what they are looking for and they simply don't want to respond or don't have time. There are some people that will take the time to reply but if they don't then simply keep calm and carry on.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Fellas - Delete the 'sent' folder so you can't stew over wether your mail has been read or not.

I hardly ever read my mail. I'm here for the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fellas - Delete the 'sent' folder so you can't stew over wether your mail has been read or not.

I hardly ever read my mail. I'm here for the forums."

+1 for this. Delete your sent and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't tak much to say "Thanks but no thanks." Then again, it takes even less to take no reply as a "Thanks but no thanks" and move on withlout sending an offensive message about how you never fancied them anyway, then posting a request on the forum that people change their habits.

Perhaps if people had respect in the first place, the practice of ignoring basic and expectant messaging - "ur hot lets chat" - would never have evolved to become the norm.

Happy swinging!

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By *K430Man
over a year ago

Tipperary

Ah Jesus, if she doesn't reply, she's not interested, end of move on , it's not a correspondence group at all ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't tak much to say "Thanks but no thanks." Then again, it takes even less to take no reply as a "Thanks but no thanks" and move on withlout sending an offensive message about how you never fancied them anyway, then posting a request on the forum that people change their habits.

Perhaps if people had respect in the first place, the practice of ignoring basic and expectant messaging - "ur hot lets chat" - would never have evolved to become the norm.

Happy swinging!"

I see your point.

As has been said there are those that receive hundreds of messages a week and to simply reply to each and every one would mean you have no normal life or need to invest in a PA specifically for Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block...

How rude of you to call people ignorant for not replying. You have a lot to learn young man. "

Ooh Matron!

I'll have to screenshot this and frame it. It captures everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block...

Blimey, that's extreme.

Why go through all the heart ache and pain from being rejected twice over?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block...

How rude of you to call people ignorant for not replying. You have a lot to learn young man. "

What have I to lean then please ?

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block...

How rude of you to call people ignorant for not replying. You have a lot to learn young man.

What have I to lean then please ? "

How not to be rude?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block...

How rude of you to call people ignorant for not replying. You have a lot to learn young man.

What have I to lean then please ?

How not to be rude?

But I always mind my P's & Q's ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Brilliant thread OP.

So many replies that prove they can't read the OP!! Love it.

When I have a serious profile I do say something along the lines of "no reply means no thank you". It seems to work well.

I also agree respect works both ways. It's crazy how many people demand respect but don't give it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block...

How rude of you to call people ignorant for not replying. You have a lot to learn young man.

Ooh Matron!

I'll have to screenshot this and frame it. It captures everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Brilliant thread OP.

So many replies that prove they can't read the OP!! Love it.

When I have a serious profile I do say something along the lines of "no reply means no thank you". It seems to work well.

I also agree respect works both ways. It's crazy how many people demand respect but don't give it.

Well put Aretha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Brilliant thread OP.

So many replies that prove they can't read the OP!! Love it.

When I have a serious profile I do say something along the lines of "no reply means no thank you". It seems to work well.

I also agree respect works both ways. It's crazy how many people demand respect but don't give it.

I read the OP and replied to that, the putting of a message on status. Which incidentally wouldn't work anyway as status messages are time limited and also how are we supposed to put "horny could do with some cock" on our status if it's already saying " sorry for not replying to a message i am not actually sorry for replying too coz you haven't read my profile, your a cock, too far away ect" ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block...

How rude of you to call people ignorant for not replying. You have a lot to learn young man.

What have I to lean then please ? "

How the site actually works XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Brilliant thread OP.

So many replies that prove they can't read the OP!! Love it.

When I have a serious profile I do say something along the lines of "no reply means no thank you". It seems to work well.

I also agree respect works both ways. It's crazy how many people demand respect but don't give it.

You live a good Monday whinge don't you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they don't reply just check your sent messages, click on the ignorant person(s) profile and press block...

How rude of you to call people ignorant for not replying. You have a lot to learn young man.

What have I to lean then please ?

How the site actually works XXX"

How does it actually work ?

Your one line message is very expansive and as I'm a bit thick (IQ under 70?) You will have to break it down for a simpleton like me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i do not like a message i just delete

if they send continuous messages i block and delete

i never send messages first, i lets them message me and not short of offers to worry or concern me

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Put an auto-reply 'no thanks', with the option of blocking and reply levels will rocket. The forum will go quiet and men will moan about the volume of rejection they get in black and white - then moan that they are leaving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah but surely replying to every unsuitable approach would lead to threads bemoaning how someone people simply cant handle rejection .....

I could publish a book from the amount of disgruntled shit'ograms I receive from people who cant handle polite rejection .....

You have rejected people?

Tw#% I just spat my tea out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many people here see your phone ring number comes up u know its a telesales company...now do you ignore it move on and forget it done and dusted.or do you answer the phone to this person you don't know that is offering something ur not interested in...just to say thanks for your call but I'm not interested just to get them questioning u about u not being interested and omg not taking no for an answer till u rudely slam the phone down making u look like the bad person....sure u all get the analogy here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if i do not like a message i just delete

if they send continuous messages i block and delete

i never send messages first, i lets them message me and not short of offers to worry or concern me

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

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You're the fab saint sent to keep up the spirits of short men world-wide,its too hard on my back to stoop so low as that but I salute you...bravo..lol."

LOL.... more a sinner than saint, or at least I try to be

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