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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've seen this once or twice on profiles, especially women who block men single men from messaging. But how many of you are actually actively trying to find someone? Or are we all putting out adverts and profiles but no-one is taking the first step to mail. Are we all scared of having the message delete/unread?

Probably aiming this question to men more than the women, but when was the last time someone seemed genuinely interested in getting to know you, rather than receiving a FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Outside of forums?

Hasn't happened yet I believe.

Although my profile probably doesn't work in my favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had a few contact me but nothing has come of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been head hunted before. And been fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What that means is If I want you I will unblock men, let them message and pick from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see that too on couples profiles who aren’t specifically looking for men yet most of their verifications are from men

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I've seen this once or twice on profiles, especially women who block men single men from messaging. But how many of you are actually actively trying to find someone? Or are we all putting out adverts and profiles but no-one is taking the first step to mail. Are we all scared of having the message delete/unread?

Probably aiming this question to men more than the women, but when was the last time someone seemed genuinely interested in getting to know you, rather than receiving a FAF? "

It's very rare, though I had one this week. And another just pretend to get in my knickers and that makes me fucking livid!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funnily enough MrB, I've been chatting to a lovely lady that has this on her profile. I'm flattered that she messaged me and now we're friends I genuinely think that those that do say it mean it. Happy days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other than forum members I have only been messaged by men...oh and one couple who unfortunately were perfect other than their age.

And none of those were anything interesting other than what you'd expect to be sent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just put it on our profile to see if it reduces the amount of messages we receive. It's working...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ummm... it happens once in a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Funnily enough MrB, I've been chatting to a lovely lady that has this on her profile. I'm flattered that she messaged me and now we're friends I genuinely think that those that do say it mean it. Happy days "

This ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have recieved a few lovely first messages based on my posts, chatting away happily too!

Apart from that, one other message from someone local.

It's a buyers's market after all. If you aren't the customer, you are the product

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never message guys first as when I did they generally didn't fancy meeting a porker lol, I wait for messages from people who like bigger women

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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago

in the eye of the storm


"I've seen this once or twice on profiles, especially women who block men single men from messaging. But how many of you are actually actively trying to find someone? Or are we all putting out adverts and profiles but no-one is taking the first step to mail. Are we all scared of having the message delete/unread?

Probably aiming this question to men more than the women, but when was the last time someone seemed genuinely interested in getting to know you, rather than receiving a FAF? "

Interesting I view it as the lady in question saying this

Here to wank not meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Funnily enough MrB, I've been chatting to a lovely lady that has this on her profile. I'm flattered that she messaged me and now we're friends I genuinely think that those that do say it mean it. Happy days "

Happy days!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've just put it on our profile to see if it reduces the amount of messages we receive. It's working... "

Comeback with the results soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it dont bother me. either they mail me or not. nobodys loss if they dont.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

If I like the look of someone I will message them. Ive always bern lije that. It has never bother me to make the first move here or in real life. I'm a go-getter

Mrs SB

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I like the look of someone I will message them. Ive always bern lije that. It has never bother me to make the first move here or in real life. I'm a go-getter

Mrs SB "

Or FAF

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

The only guy I approached first from the search engines is still my favourite

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I mostly just go through messages I receive and don't bother actively looking for anyone.... But once in a very blue moon I might go 'hmmm... He seems interesting' and make the first move.... Thing is, chances are the guy will assume you're blowing smoke when you do make that move... So you get nowhere anyway or he'll take some convincing... You guys can be hard work too you know

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home


"If I like the look of someone I will message them. Ive always bern lije that. It has never bother me to make the first move here or in real life. I'm a go-getter

Mrs SB

Or FAF "

That's correct PSJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just put it on our profile to see if it reduces the amount of messages we receive. It's working... "

Blocking men altogether works better

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Although I've not got that line on my profile I'm always on the lookout

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"What that means is If I want you I will unblock men, let them message and pick from there. "

Not for us. For us, it means... if we would like to meet with a single guy or two, we will send messages to guys that Anita fancies and see if they're interested.

Cal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally message people I like or want to meet. I tend to ignore most of the initial messages I get unless something really catches my eye. I'm not shy in coming forward so to speak and might add that line to my profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I mostly just go through messages I receive and don't bother actively looking for anyone.... But once in a very blue moon I might go 'hmmm... He seems interesting' and make the first move.... Thing is, chances are the guy will assume you're blowing smoke when you do make that move... So you get nowhere anyway or he'll take some convincing... You guys can be hard work too you know "

Couldn't agree more if I send the first message the guy seems surprised ( like I have a alterier motive )

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Happened to me once!

within 5 minutes of signing up and uploading my first pic, which was of my face.

The lady messaged to welcome me to fab, because I looked like her ex!

Few hours chatting on here followed by chatting on WhatsApp, several hours of fone calls at night, constant texts during the day, adding on fb, really getting to know each other and discussing meeting and what she wanted me to do with her, only to be messed about the day before meeting and being blocked on everything! What a week that was!

No interest since

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Happened to me once!

within 5 minutes of signing up and uploading my first pic, which was of my face.

The lady messaged to welcome me to fab, because I looked like her ex!

Few hours chatting on here followed by chatting on WhatsApp, several hours of fone calls at night, constant texts during the day, adding on fb, really getting to know each other and discussing meeting and what she wanted me to do with her, only to be messed about the day before meeting and being blocked on everything! What a week that was!

No interest since "

Haha. Epic .

I'm

Laughing with you, not at you (or vice versa)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

And some guys have no public photos, so are less likely to be found

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...

I like to think I make an effort to talk to someone if they catch my eye

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine doesn't say it but I do message first. Usually on the back of a forum post or seeing them in chat. I rarely browse profiles. I probably should, I need to start mixing with the locals!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours says 'single guys we will find you' but we don't filter them out, I find that generally we get messages that are just nice and friendly and if they're not I just delete

And actively looking?

Always

Peach x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I've seen this once or twice on profiles, especially women who block men single men from messaging. But how many of you are actually actively trying to find someone? Or are we all putting out adverts and profiles but no-one is taking the first step to mail. Are we all scared of having the message delete/unread?

Probably aiming this question to men more than the women, but when was the last time someone seemed genuinely interested in getting to know you, rather than receiving a FAF? "

Quite often actually but I tend to slow the convo down and stop chatting as a self destructive streak in me can't quite imagine why anyone would want to.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull


"Happened to me once!

within 5 minutes of signing up and uploading my first pic, which was of my face.

The lady messaged to welcome me to fab, because I looked like her ex!

Few hours chatting on here followed by chatting on WhatsApp, several hours of fone calls at night, constant texts during the day, adding on fb, really getting to know each other and discussing meeting and what she wanted me to do with her, only to be messed about the day before meeting and being blocked on everything! What a week that was!

No interest since

Haha. Epic .

I'm

Laughing with you, not at you (or vice versa) "

Thank you MisterBee (I think)

It was good while it lasted

'on site' experience since has literally been an anticlimax, an experience nonetheless and I'm still here! mainly on the forums haha

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We have something along those lines on our profile.

When we're actively looking, we do just that. I like doing the searching (and if Mr agrees) we send a message, much more fun.

Most of the men, we've met have been through us making first contact.

Our skin is thick enough to handle rejection/ a deleted message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone catches my eye I will chat to them and you can moreorless tell if they want to chat to

Waffle over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only look for single guys myself. It's really hard though because I want something specific, and with very little info on their profile it's hard to know who to message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent a long time deliberating over whether to send messages. It's a tough call, especially to those in the forums. You don't want to look like you're desperate but at the same time you'd love to make contact without the whole place reading your thoughts.

I really began to understand at that point how tough the men have it here.

It really makes you feel quite vulnerable and open to being rejected

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"Although I've not got that line on my profile I'm always on the lookout "

You couldn't look a bit harder, could you?

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