FabSwingers.com forum: Housework and kids

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just curious here.. Now all the kids in my house have jobs around the house that they must do. If they dont do it then they get things refused..

*xbox time

*tv

*going out

* having mates in etc.

But someone I know has said kids doing chores is slavery...( which in a way maden me laugh)

Now surely kids have to learn to clean up and that everyone has responsibilities..

It is things like.. They have to help clean out their pets..

Hoover their own rooms

make their own beds.

and they take it in turns to help wash up with me etc..

They all have at least one thing that they must do every day and I expect them not to leave clothes on the floor, put pots in the kitchen, and put rubbish in the bin.

Although just lately my Son has started to object to doing what he sees as womens work.. ( btw this has come from his father, where his step mother has OCD and will not allow anyone else to do anything lol not to do with my M/s Status.. lol )

So I gave him mans jobs, like put the bins out, clean the car.. lol

She says kids dont need to do chores as thats why they have parents..

What do you think..

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no pocket money

no treats such as snacks chocolate etc

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By *ilandlarryCouple
over a year ago

more north lincs than mids!

My 10 year old has some jobs to do around the house but I am forever asking her to do them.

Sometimes it's just easier for me to get on with them and for her to go out and leave me to it ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lock them in the cupboard

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I have a cupboard under the stairs.

Bread, water etc. You know the deal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was thinking about this after my tongue in cheek comment on the tarzen and Jane thread..

but it seems to me my friend is teaching her kids much more that a womans value is in cooking and cleaning and waiting on her man and little ones than I ever do.

Everyone makes the mess, so I expect everyone to help sort the house.. Yes I will often have to go up and make the beds properly... or hoover all the bits missed.. but its the fact they have done as asked and tried that is important to me

I always had chores as a kid.. and didnt get pocket money.. but if my room wasnt tidy I couldnt go out..and if I hadnt done my chores then chances were I would go without a treat.

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yup it's right that kids should learn to fend for themselves, but there is a lower age limit where i think it's acceptable - i'd say 7/8 upwards

by the time they're teenagers they should be able to cook, clean, iron, wash, tidy up etc

i was expected to do it - and there were no incentives offered, just a simple case of 'in life, you have to help out'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How on earth are kids supposed to survive on their own when they go to uni or leave home if they don't know the basics?

All the chores and helping around the house is training them to be a self sufficient adult not slavery.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's not a case of doing chores for pocket money, more out of respect to help you (the parent) with the amount of work you do every day.

Once they see the amount of work that goes into keeping things clean and tidy, they think twice before doing stuff (in my experience anyway)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I would show my friend this thread but the avatars may make her shocked lol

My 5 year old has chores.. but its simple things.. like put her own toys away.. put her quilt straight and feed her bunny and hamster.

She does like to hoover though..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are supposed to be getting kids ready to enter the big wide world, how the hell are they gonna be able to do so without knowing how to cook, clean, wash and iron and generally look after themselves.

FFS...

to much mamby pambering of kids these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember my eldest son when he was two years old being so proud of making his own bed, he used to stand on the pillow and wave the duvet up and down a bit and I'd sneak in after him and do it properly.

But he was learning all the time while he was having fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 10 year old has some jobs to do around the house but I am forever asking her to do them.

Sometimes it's just easier for me to get on with them and for her to go out and leave me to it ha ha"

i know that feeling my 12yr old daughters the same. her brother now 18 was the opposite still is will always help. i think they need to learn the basics to survive when they leave home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get them doing chores because you never know how long its going to be before they can afford to move out!

My friend did everything for her sons so they could "enjoy their childhood" now both late 20's she does nothing but moan about them being lazy lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember my eldest son when he was two years old being so proud of making his own bed, he used to stand on the pillow and wave the duvet up and down a bit and I'd sneak in after him and do it properly.

But he was learning all the time while he was having fun. "

My little one isnt at that stage yet but we always pack toys away together and i have plenty of photo's of her trying to do the hoovering and dusting like mummy does.. she's lush

disclaimer she doesnt use anti bacterial wipes like i do, she uses baby wipes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hence why we now have a generation of girls who cant cook or look after themselves let alone the kids they keep having and a generation of lads who do sod all But father said kids and parents sit and wonder why.....jeez

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But he was learning all the time while he was having fun.

My little one isnt at that stage yet but we always pack toys away together and i have plenty of photo's of her trying to do the hoovering and dusting like mummy does.. she's lush

disclaimer she doesnt use anti bacterial wipes like i do, she uses baby wipes lol

When my older two were little I used to sing the 'duster muster' song from a kids programme and they insisted on it being sung every time we picked up a duster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But he was learning all the time while he was having fun.

My little one isnt at that stage yet but we always pack toys away together and i have plenty of photo's of her trying to do the hoovering and dusting like mummy does.. she's lush

disclaimer she doesnt use anti bacterial wipes like i do, she uses baby wipes lol

When my older two were little I used to sing the 'duster muster' song from a kids programme and they insisted on it being sung every time we picked up a duster.

its all fun and games at this age, Amber is like my little lamb and follows me everywhere and wants to do what i do. When i do the washing up, she wants to play with the bubbles.. (gotta love fairy liquid) so i'll perch her on the side and she watches me. I sing the song from the cbeebies show 'big cook, little cook' about cleaning the kitchen and she gets super excited bobbing along.

Just teaches her routine. Im not telling her to do these jobs, but she knows that i do the dishes after we have both had 'yum yums'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I really ask my two is to keep their bedroom tidy if this does not happen no friends to play and no top up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just curious here.. Now all the kids in my house have jobs around the house that they must do. If they dont do it then they get things refused..

*xbox time

*tv

*going out

* having mates in etc.

But someone I know has said kids doing chores is slavery...( which in a way maden me laugh)

Now surely kids have to learn to clean up and that everyone has responsibilities..

It is things like.. They have to help clean out their pets..

Hoover their own rooms

make their own beds.

and they take it in turns to help wash up with me etc..

They all have at least one thing that they must do every day and I expect them not to leave clothes on the floor, put pots in the kitchen, and put rubbish in the bin.

So I gave him mans jobs, like put the bins out, clean the car.. lol

She says kids dont need to do chores as thats why they have parents..

What do you think..

Cali x"

i agree kids should muck in once they get to a certain age, thing is i think i left mine a bit late before i started trying to get them to help out they had gotten that used to me doing anything when i asked them to help they refused, so i stopped giving them pocket money and put a price on jobs so the more they did the more they got, with a potential to earn far more than they was getting and do you know they went without, they'd have sooner had no money than wash a pot or clean the bath out

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Children need to learn the house only works as a team,as well as the valuable life skills.

My boys don't have set chores, we tried that and they tried to do each others to get the rewards

So instead they are just expected to help with regular stuff,umpacking the shopping, washing up,hanging out washing ect.

Btw Cali, i hope you asked your friend what was so wrong with slavery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister and I took turns at washing and drying the dishes, hoovering our own rooms ( so Mum wouldn't freak out at the mess), feeding the animals and walking the dogs as we got older... it's surely the most normal thing? My friend's daughter helped her out when she looked after my cats when I was on hols- no reward was offered, she just wanted to help like she does at home ( gave her some pocket money for it though when I got back and she put it straight into her piggy bank) So can't really see a problem whether there's a reward system or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Btw Cali, i hope you asked your friend what was so wrong with slavery "

she did actually suggest that perhaps I feel its okay because I am a slave.. I laughed at that..

And there is nothing wrong with being one and a million mmmm reasons to be one.

cali

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By *ornyHorwichCpl aka HHCCouple
over a year ago

horwich

As soon as I was old enough to iron I had to do my own. We shared doing the dishes between my brothers and I aswell as other jobs. I left home able to cook clean and look after myself.

Teaching it like a game to youngsters get them ready for being older when they are more likely to complain if they are then asked to start doing it.

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By *issbehaveCouple
over a year ago

wrexham

"We are supposed to be getting kids ready to enter the big wide world, how the hell are they gonna be able to do so without knowing how to cook, clean, wash and iron and generally look after themselves.

FFS...

to much mamby pambering of kids these days

Couldn't have said it better! Our little one who is 10 has jobs to do, and she loves cooking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 13th year old can cook basic meals. and washes up his own dishes after food. He has also just learnt to iron a shirt..

I'm very proud of his independence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 13th year old can cook basic meals. and washes up his own dishes after food. He has also just learnt to iron a shirt..

I'm very proud of his independence.

Brill.

well done mom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Children need to learn the house only works as a team,as well as the valuable life skills.

My boys don't have set chores, we tried that and they tried to do each others to get the rewards

So instead they are just expected to help with regular stuff,umpacking the shopping, washing up,hanging out washing ect. "

Couldn't agree more. At present, ours are too young to understand the concept of chores or money in return for them but they grasp the idea of the help they give.

At 5 our daughter already takes the pots to the kitchen and understands if we dont wash up, there'll be no clean plates. She loves helping load the washer so all her clothes are 'sparkly and clean'. We tidy away so we can find things next time, lids back on pens and basic things.

Even our youngest at 18 months responds to me saying "lets put the toys away".. albeit in a nappy clad stagger towards the toybox with a random object to drop in. When he's put the item in he claps his hands as if to say 'look mummy, i helped'.

Just hoping the helpfulness remains!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hence why we now have a generation of girls who cant cook or look after themselves let alone the kids they keep having and a generation of lads who do sod all But father said kids and parents sit and wonder why.....jeez

my son learnt to cook from 11 a god send when i had flu in bed for 3wks my ex was useless my son cooked for his sister. he is now teaching his 18yr old girlfriend to cook

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

live in, chip in, normal.

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