FabSwingers.com forum: How do you corrupt vanilla?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

'Vanilla' in this question meaning a man or woman that you meet in real life and not on a site such as this where 'kinky' sex (e.g. with the lights on) wouldn't be a surprise.

How do you raise the idea of anything other than 'man on top lights off'?

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

"'Vanilla' in this question meaning a man or woman that you meet in real life and not on a site such as this where 'kinky' sex (e.g. with the lights on) wouldn't be a surprise.

How do you raise the idea of anything other than 'man on top lights off'? "

Leave something kinky on the side and make the conversation flow. You would be surprised how many "vanilla" people would love to try kinky stuff

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

Also hi

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easy. Whisper in their ear as your dancing. That gets the attention you want.

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

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By *ornylittlesubWoman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

When I met my partner, about 5 years ago, I would say I was "pale" vanilla! Now, not so much..kink all the way, but I have no recollection on how the trickle to the dark side actually started! Mmmm the feker is obv very sly! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've slept with more 'vanilla' guys than guys on here and just because they aren't on here it doesn't mean they're boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suggested kink to my ex hub n he said no fuckin way.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've slept with more 'vanilla' guys than guys on here and just because they aren't on here it doesn't mean they're boring. "

I find vanilla guys better tbh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I met my partner, about 5 years ago, I would say I was "pale" vanilla! Now, not so much..kink all the way, but I have no recollection on how the trickle to the dark side actually started! Mmmm the feker is obv very sly! lol

I think a trickle is right. But I don't want to wait for that to happen. What if he's going to be horrified that I want to tie and tease him, and he'll tell all his mates?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

Don't dance just yet, I'm an ugly old hag.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Fuck me like you hate me"

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

Don't dance just yet, I'm an ugly old hag.

Let me be the judge of that

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By *ittle miss belleWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Following with interest..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""Fuck me like you hate me"

Bloody hell that made my clit twitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seriously doubt any guy you meet in the real world would decline an offer to be restrained (gently to start, silk scarf) and teased.

I've got vanilla guys I've dated to fuck and cum inside me then go down on me straight after to lick out and swallow every drop of their own cum.

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

It was always women who introduced me to kinky sex: water sports, my husband wants to watch you fuck me, if you really love me you will let me stub my cigarette out on your.....

I am beginning to think vanilla is the odd wo(man) out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fun is getting vanilla guys to try naughtier things. I feel like I'm leading them to the dark side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Passion. For me it's not about a specific act or look. It's about feeling the passion the other has for you. The desire. The lust. The longing to get at you and be with you.

Portray that and let them feel that and you'll feel it back. Anything goes after that in my eyes.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

Don't dance just yet, I'm an ugly old hag.

Let me be the judge of that

Your right to she's a belter

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

Don't dance just yet, I'm an ugly old hag.

Let me be the judge of that

Your right to she's a belter

Are you talking about me or op?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Passion. For me it's not about a specific act or look. It's about feeling the passion the other has for you. The desire. The lust. The longing to get at you and be with you.

Portray that and let them feel that and you'll feel it back. Anything goes after that in my eyes."

Absolutely. There isn't such a gulf between vanilla and "kinky" in my view. It's in your whole approach to sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the kinkest thing I managed to get G to do was fuckin my up my arse. I loved it cos he had a little Willy n when it was up my arse I could actually feel it.

PTU xxx

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I think the kinkest thing I managed to get G to do was fuckin my up my arse. I loved it cos he had a little Willy n when it was up my arse I could actually feel it.

PTU xxx "

Bwahahha

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

Don't dance just yet, I'm an ugly old hag.

Let me be the judge of that

Your right to she's a belter

Are you talking about me or op?

I ment op but if the cap fits wear it

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

Don't dance just yet, I'm an ugly old hag.

Let me be the judge of that

Your right to she's a belter

Are you talking about me or op?

I ment op but if the cap fits wear it

Twat

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

Don't dance just yet, I'm an ugly old hag.

Let me be the judge of that

Your right to she's a belter

Are you talking about me or op?

I ment op but if the cap fits wear it

Twat

Why I'd not be ashamed to wake up next to ether of you but both would be better

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By *igblackdomTV/TS
over a year ago

West Midlands

I think a trickle is right. But I don't want to wait for that to happen. What if he's going to be horrified that I want to tie and tease him, and he'll tell all his mates?

..a little trickle of chocolate sauce might do the trick

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Dax used toys on my to let me experience things like dp and dvp and then we got dirty talking about other men and me.

Then i wanted to kiss a lady and i loved it..

Corrupting a man i would say is quite easy.. Bring up a FFM threesome as your playing and see how he responds and take it from There

Boo x

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Just tell them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

Don't dance just yet, I'm an ugly old hag.

Let me be the judge of that

Your right to she's a belter

That reminded me of those people fighting in the car park when we were outside that pub.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" Passion. For me it's not about a specific act or look. It's about feeling the passion the other has for you. The desire. The lust. The longing to get at you and be with you.

Portray that and let them feel that and you'll feel it back. Anything goes after that in my eyes."

I really like this. Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just tell them

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I asked my husband if we could do stuff. He said no. I've not had a relationship since. I try to make sure they're up for a little bit of extra stuff before I meet anyone now.

I don't want a relationship.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Also hi

I pulled everyone I pulled

*Happy dance*

Mrs SB

Don't dance just yet, I'm an ugly old hag.

Let me be the judge of that

Your right to she's a belter

That reminded me of those people fighting in the car park when we were outside that pub.

Haha I'd forgot about that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its only on sites like this that people call it vanilla sex ..

In the real world it’s just sex, kinky or otherwise

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"its only on sites like this that people call it vanilla sex ..

In the real world it’s just sex, kinky or otherwise "

I was about to say something similar.

I met someone on here, ages ago, who tempted me to the vanilla side. It was lovely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"its only on sites like this that people call it vanilla sex ..

In the real world it’s just sex, kinky or otherwise "

I know, that's why I explained what I meant. Couldn't think of a better way to explain it sorry.

I don't like the term.

I think I'm just incredibly unlucky to have met men that are shocked by my ideas.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I was so 'vanilla' I had to ask my friend at the time what it meant.

To corrupt me she put me on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been down that road and it doesnt work.

Now i prefer to be upfront from the beginning - take me as i am or dont take me at all, because its a part of me i cannot give it up or suppress it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Vanilla' in this question meaning a man or woman that you meet in real life and not on a site such as this where 'kinky' sex (e.g. with the lights on) wouldn't be a surprise.

How do you raise the idea of anything other than 'man on top lights off'? "

Swap the bulbs for high wattage ones.

Ger a remote light switch and at the point of orgasm.... BOOM!

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By *edLionScotMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Try texting. The brain is the largest erogenous zone.

Start with some suggestive vanilla chat, then start to explore your more pistachio needs!

What kind of stuff would you like him to lead him towards?

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By *hitedoveWoman
over a year ago

Croydon

I love the way swingers think they are the only ones who have 'adventurous sex'. I always had it, even when I was in the 'vanilla' world. In fact I find for many more traditional swingers the only adventurous thing they do is swap partners otherwise it is always the same.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try texting. The brain is the largest erogenous zone.

Start with some suggestive vanilla chat, then start to explore your more pistachio needs!

What kind of stuff would you like him to lead him towards?"

I did this. He said I was the horniest woman he'd ever met.

I offered to tie him up and tease his cock with a nice slow oily wank. He said no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"'Vanilla' in this question meaning a man or woman that you meet in real life and not on a site such as this where 'kinky' sex (e.g. with the lights on) wouldn't be a surprise.

How do you raise the idea of anything other than 'man on top lights off'?

Swap the bulbs for high wattage ones.

Ger a remote light switch and at the point of orgasm.... BOOM!

But what if my head bag had accidentally fallen off... the shock would kill the poor guy!

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"Try texting. The brain is the largest erogenous zone.

Start with some suggestive vanilla chat, then start to explore your more pistachio needs!

What kind of stuff would you like him to lead him towards?

I did this. He said I was the horniest woman he'd ever met.

I offered to tie him up and tease his cock with a nice slow oily wank. He said no thanks.

Bin him he's obviously deranged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try texting. The brain is the largest erogenous zone.

Start with some suggestive vanilla chat, then start to explore your more pistachio needs!

What kind of stuff would you like him to lead him towards?

I did this. He said I was the horniest woman he'd ever met.

I offered to tie him up and tease his cock with a nice slow oily wank. He said no thanks.

0h my god - I would love to meet a woman who is actually comfortable talking about sex. My past relationships have all been with women that seemed shy to actually talk about what they wanted or what they'd like to do. It's been so refreshing being on here and finding ladies that are happy to tell you exactly what they like, what they want, and what they'd like to do to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'Vanilla' in this question meaning a man or woman that you meet in real life and not on a site such as this where 'kinky' sex (e.g. with the lights on) wouldn't be a surprise.

How do you raise the idea of anything other than 'man on top lights off'?

Swap the bulbs for high wattage ones.

Ger a remote light switch and at the point of orgasm.... BOOM!

But what if my head bag had accidentally fallen off... the shock would kill the poor guy!

You have control of the switch. If the bags come off, save it for next time.

You're welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chocolate sauce and crushed nuts!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Lead by example and communicate both ways. But nothing is better than someone else sharing their ideas, so you're on a joint mission.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love the way swingers think they are the only ones who have 'adventurous sex'. I always had it, even when I was in the 'vanilla' world. In fact I find for many more traditional swingers the only adventurous thing they do is swap partners otherwise it is always the same.

A very good point lots of vanilla swingers out there that all they do is swap partners, very boring x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So true, plenty of stories to tell from the vanilla world

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So true, plenty of stories to tell from the vanilla world

Agree, I have had plenty of adventurous sex all through my life, and hope to continue to do so, but would never call myself kinky or a swinger.

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