FabSwingers.com forum: No sex at home

By *ettyboop61 OP Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

I keep seeing on profiles that the sex at home is non existent and lustless. .....and no passion I don't understand people who stay with none of that available? ??? Views on this anybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no views. I don't know these people.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

It's rather startling to see how many people are affected by no sex at home........either that or a lot of them are lying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's rather startling to see how many people are affected by no sex at home........either that or a lot of them are lying"

You don't mean they might be telling porkies to get a leg over off of an interweb site do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need to understand. Either meet them, or don't and let them deal with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Been there done that!

Every circumstance is different. Commitments, money, kids, disability.

At least they're honest and telling you.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Sex is an important part of a relationship, if it isnt there they look elsewhere ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because for many every other aspect of their relationship could be great. Could be many reasons why their partner doesn't or can't have sex.

We shouldn't judge as we're not the ones who have to make and deal with the consequences of their actions.

And I've been cheated on throughout my marriage so know how devestating it can be. But for some withholding sex can be a form of power play. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you. "

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Because for many every other aspect of their relationship could be great. Could be many reasons why their partner doesn't or can't have sex.

We shouldn't judge as we're not the ones who have to make and deal with the consequences of their actions.

And I've been cheated on throughout my marriage so know how devestating it can be. But for some withholding sex can be a form of power play. X "

Personally i have a few ex's that tried to use sex as a power play. To me it's the number one red flag in a relationship. In my opinion a lot of men get themselves in that situation because they won't have a conversation with their partner about shared values before they get married.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I keep seeing on profiles that the sex at home is non existent and lustless. .....and no passion I don't understand people who stay with none of that available? ??? Views on this anybody "

Relationships aren't restricted to sex lives.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?"

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation. "

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's more to a relationship than just sex, when the laughter stops, that's when you should start worrying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep seeing on profiles that the sex at home is non existent and lustless. .....and no passion I don't understand people who stay with none of that available? ??? Views on this anybody "

Could it be that there is more to a relationship than sex? Maybe not for you. But for a lot of people, sex is a part of a relationship, not the entirety of it.

So you can be in a sexless marriage but happy in all other aspects of it.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Been there done that!

Every circumstance is different. Commitments, money, kids, disability.

At least they're honest and telling you. "

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By *rouble1110Woman
over a year ago

Cleveland

I've been in a sexless relationship,there are many reasons why,I can't pm you as you have blocked females,if you want to know my reasons why I will tell you

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"It's rather startling to see how many people are affected by no sex at home........either that or a lot of them are lying

You don't mean they might be telling porkies to get a leg over off of an interweb site do you?

Surely not! People online telling porkies, whatever next?

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By *ettyboop61 OP Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

"Because for many every other aspect of their relationship could be great. Could be many reasons why their partner doesn't or can't have sex.

We shouldn't judge as we're not the ones who have to make and deal with the consequences of their actions.

And I've been cheated on throughout my marriage so know how devestating it can be. But for some withholding sex can be a form of power play. X

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By *ettyboop61 OP Woman
over a year ago

St Neots

"I've been in a sexless relationship,there are many reasons why,I can't pm you as you have blocked females,if you want to know my reasons why I will tell you "

It's ok just wanted some feedback that's all....as I left a marriage woth no touching or sex etc .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it's nobodies business why I am here, or you are here OP? I might choose to explain to people I become friendly with on here the complexities of my life and relationship.

But essentially- aren't we it's all here for sex?

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

"It's rather startling to see how many people are affected by no sex at home........either that or a lot of them are lying

You don't mean they might be telling porkies to get a leg over off of an interweb site do you?

Surely not! People online telling porkies, whatever next?

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I know, shocking! Some even have 10 year old pictures apearing to make them selves more attractive too so I'm told!

What's the FABworld coming too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'"

And we wouldn't understand the explanation of that because?

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By *icoleAndLisaTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Shared house and other assets, and fear of losing them in a separation? For the sake of the kids? Because, apart from the crap sex life, things ain't bad? Shame of admitting to a failed marriage? Partner they still love, but with incompatible sex drives? Partner with an illness or disability (not present when the relationship started) that makes sex painful or difficult? Partner using sex as a means of control and making them miserable? The need to indulge a gay/bi or kinky side, having been forced down the heteronormative path by an intolerant society (and yes, it still is) that says God owns your genitals and you're only allowed to use them for making babies?

Don't judge an individual until you've walked a mile in their shoes. Everyone imagines the nasty cheat, going behind the doting partner's back while they pander to their every need. That's only one of many possibilities.

Half the problem is people projecting their own relationship insecurities onto others. If you can convince yourself that only bad people cheat, then your partner couldn't possibly do it to you because they're not a bad person. And then there are the ones with axes to grind over being cheated on themselves in the past.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I keep seeing on profiles that the sex at home is non existent and lustless. .....and no passion I don't understand people who stay with none of that available? ??? Views on this anybody "

Maybe, because their relationship is good in every other way.

Life isn't just black or white.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I have no views. I don't know these people. "

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'

And we wouldn't understand the explanation of that because?"

People don't want to admit they fucked up so they will feed you non-sensical bullshit instead of an explanation that makes sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no views. I don't know these people. "

Awesome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'

And we wouldn't understand the explanation of that because?

People don't want to admit they fucked up so they will feed you non-sensical bullshit instead of an explanation that makes sense"

Pretty sure this is going round in circles.

I'm done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'

And we wouldn't understand the explanation of that because?

People don't want to admit they fucked up so they will feed you non-sensical bullshit instead of an explanation that makes sense"

What about if someone has no libido? Or depression? Who's making a mistake here? Pretty harsh assumption.

I think you don't stay in the relationship if you loved them and wanted to spend your life with them. Maybe sex is less important than that. I dunno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'

And we wouldn't understand the explanation of that because?

People don't want to admit they fucked up so they will feed you non-sensical bullshit instead of an explanation that makes sense

What about if someone has no libido? Or depression? Who's making a mistake here? Pretty harsh assumption.

I think you don't stay in the relationship if you loved them and wanted to spend your life with them. Maybe sex is less important than that. I dunno"

You do stay in the relationship*

fucking auto correct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?"

Because some people will not want to understand and argue their case when given information.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a mistake to stay in a sexless relationship. This is why I said you wouldn't understand if they did explain.

The reasons so many people stay in sexless relationship are many and varied. Not everyone in one cheats.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'

And we wouldn't understand the explanation of that because?

People don't want to admit they fucked up so they will feed you non-sensical bullshit instead of an explanation that makes sense

What about if someone has no libido? Or depression? Who's making a mistake here? Pretty harsh assumption.

I think you don't stay in the relationship if you loved them and wanted to spend your life with them. Maybe sex is less important than that. I dunno"

Good question. Personally i think couples should talk before they get married about the most important things they expect out of the marriage. Once they agree what those things are, they should be honest about whether they can give that to each other and what they would do if some change meant they couldn't. So the mistake was not getting depressed, it was failing to discuss a basic pinciple of what happens if husband can't get something from wife that is very important to husband.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'

And we wouldn't understand the explanation of that because?

People don't want to admit they fucked up so they will feed you non-sensical bullshit instead of an explanation that makes sense"

Or they don't want to hear the truth because they like laying blame on someone, so call it bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'

And we wouldn't understand the explanation of that because?

People don't want to admit they fucked up so they will feed you non-sensical bullshit instead of an explanation that makes sense

What about if someone has no libido? Or depression? Who's making a mistake here? Pretty harsh assumption.

I think you don't stay in the relationship if you loved them and wanted to spend your life with them. Maybe sex is less important than that. I dunno

How does anyone know 10 years down the line if they will stop wanting sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep seeing on profiles that the sex at home is non existent and lustless. .....and no passion I don't understand people who stay with none of that available? ??? Views on this anybody "
cash and a big house 2 holidays and a smart car

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people can be in love still and not have sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They should seek counselling and talk about it.

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By *y Favorite PornstarCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"You probably wouldn't understand if they explained it to you.

Because were a bunch thickos with no life experience?

Because the only way to explain it properly means admitting they made a mistake. So they won't explain it properly and therefore you won't understand their explanation.

So a non-existent sex life can only happen when someone has made a mistake?

Think of it more like 'when you find yourself in a shitty situation then something has gone wrong'

And we wouldn't understand the explanation of that because?

People don't want to admit they fucked up so they will feed you non-sensical bullshit instead of an explanation that makes sense

What about if someone has no libido? Or depression? Who's making a mistake here? Pretty harsh assumption.

I think you don't stay in the relationship if you loved them and wanted to spend your life with them. Maybe sex is less important than that. I dunno

How does anyone know 10 years down the line if they will stop wanting sex? "

You seem to be arguing points that don't follow what I'm actually saying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They should seek counselling and talk about it."

why dont you offer your services as a sex therapist shags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They should seek counselling and talk about it.

why dont you offer your services as a sex therapist shags

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Yes I should and offer some haribos to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect the stories would be very different from the partner who's not a member here.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Non existent sex life, passionless marriage...

Get a divorce, I did and never looked back

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