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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, I had a restart. I now have a bit more wisdom over the ways of fab. I've kept more of myself hidden as the attention was a bit overbearing last time. I have stricter filters and a new "Mean Bunny" ruthlessness when it comes to messaging/interacting.

If you could go back to newbie you what would you change or what advice would you give?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Who are ya? Who are ya?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who are ya? Who are ya?"

Just some girl....she used to live here...

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I would have waited and got to know the etiquette a bit better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to see you again.

I would go back and be the person I am on fab now, then. I think I spent far too much time being nice and explaining why I didn't want to meet certain people when now I see that that is time consuming and if I've politely said no I don't need to explain myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

He has a point. A bloody valid one at that.

As for what I would change? Nothing.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Change my newbie misconceptions that fab would be an easy place to get laid,

Ps I soon learned the error of my ways

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

Sometimes for the wrong reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be patient,its the key LOL

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I'd have found the forums sooner and grew a ' thicker skin' faster.

Now I don't give a toss if someone on the forums is rude about me!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

He has a point. A bloody valid one at that.

As for what I would change? Nothing. "

Yeah there are one or two I'm never allowed to forget

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By *fternoondelightsCouple
over a year ago

Rainham

Be yourself and have fun, dont take this site to seriously after all it just a casual sex site where you choose who you want to meet and what you want to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

Sometimes for the wrong reasons

There's a back story here, I can smell it.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

Yes and people know your username so you may still get the attention.

I wouldn't change anything.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nice to see you again.

Definitely this!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

Ah but I love you guys! I meant the hot pics thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who would want to be a newbie on here!!

No need to get back to basics .. just try being yourself and not what you think people want you to be..

I would change nothing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd have found the forums sooner and grew a ' thicker skin' faster.

Now I don't give a toss if someone on the forums is rude about me!"

Thicker skins should be provided with registration!

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"If you could go back to newbie you what would you change or what advice would you give? "

I wouldn't change anything other than maybe try and spend less time on Fab and more time in the real world.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

I am also in my second incarnation here.

The first time around my skin wasn't thick enough and to be honest I wasn't ready and took myself too seriously.

This time round I'm not anxious or anything. I am here for a laugh, I have no expectations and anything that develops from here is all well and good but I am more about the smiles and I spend far more time on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never have declared I fancy MsV in my first thread, saying you like someone and find them extremely attractive is frowned upon around here

Oops, did it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A mean and ruthless bunny makes me think of that wee beastie from Monty Python and The Holy Grail

But to answer the question, I don't believe I would do anything different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

change my age so im not out of most ladies lol, advice? Patience is a virtue and dont suffer fools gladly lol

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Probably would have avoided some people but apart from that nope not a thing.

Asskickingbunny....are you here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bunny....? It rings a bell but I can't place the name.

*adopts best Lardy boy voice*

Whoooooooooooooooooo?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Probably would have avoided some people but apart from that nope not a thing.

Asskickingbunny....are you here?

Hell yeah!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Bunny....? It rings a bell but I can't place the name.

*adopts best Lardy boy voice*

Whoooooooooooooooooo?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?"

No I wanted rid of the people who had hotlisted me. Even if I changed name etc they'd still be following my profile.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Apart from learning how to use the filters sooner I wouldn't change a thing.

Welcome back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was coming back with a new profile I’d certainly change my name too ...

Otherwise I’d have hidden the profile and rejigged it whilst on a sabbatical ..

Deletion is a tad final

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you could go back to newbie you what would you change or what advice would you give? "

If I restarted, I'd have more name changes for the year to have fun with for a week or so. But I don't think I'd do anything differently -- what I've done has led me here. And here is a place with some good friends and dear people. Here is good, albeit nerve wracking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me a couple of years to work out that to be myself on here got me far more success than being what I thought fab peeps wanted of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

Ah but I love you guys! I meant the hot pics thing! "

Removing the ability to Fab photos will put an end to that...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?

No I wanted rid of the people who had hotlisted me. Even if I changed name etc they'd still be following my profile."

Unless you have major filters on you'll be inundated as 'newbie meat'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To answer your question, in the beginning:-

Messages - used filters sooner & delete / block.

Forums - not tried to be everyone's mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?

No I wanted rid of the people who had hotlisted me. Even if I changed name etc they'd still be following my profile."

And they probably will again as you still have the same name

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

Ah but I love you guys! I meant the hot pics thing!

Removing the ability to Fab photos will put an end to that...

Just fabbed yours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?

No I wanted rid of the people who had hotlisted me. Even if I changed name etc they'd still be following my profile.

Unless you have major filters on you'll be inundated as 'newbie meat'.

I hid this profile for the first 5 days

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?

No I wanted rid of the people who had hotlisted me. Even if I changed name etc they'd still be following my profile.

And they probably will again as you still have the same name

Yeah but most added me because they saw me in hot pics. I can't imagine theyd remember me to go searching for my name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Threads on forums create a lot of attention.

Ah but I love you guys! I meant the hot pics thing!

Removing the ability to Fab photos will put an end to that...

Just fabbed yours.

Fanks

I don't have the hot pics problem so fab away....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?

No I wanted rid of the people who had hotlisted me. Even if I changed name etc they'd still be following my profile.

And they probably will again as you still have the same name

Yeah but most added me because they saw me in hot pics. I can't imagine theyd remember me to go searching for my name."

But you'll pop up in searches still, local people and such. If you were in their hotlist then, you'll go on their hotlist again.

Do you don't want attention you'd have to do more than what your already doing. Just my advise and opinion. It means nothing as women could probably advise you better.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?

No I wanted rid of the people who had hotlisted me. Even if I changed name etc they'd still be following my profile.

And they probably will again as you still have the same name

Yeah but most added me because they saw me in hot pics. I can't imagine theyd remember me to go searching for my name.

But you'll pop up in searches still, local people and such. If you were in their hotlist then, you'll go on their hotlist again.

Do you don't want attention you'd have to do more than what your already doing. Just my advise and opinion. It means nothing as women could probably advise you better. "

I agree,I didn't realise it was even a new profile

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I had a reinvention about 18 mths ago. I left the site as pink mist. Came back after a couple of months as _yldstyle. Not sure what I've done differently. I've never had the bombardment of attention either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?

No I wanted rid of the people who had hotlisted me. Even if I changed name etc they'd still be following my profile.

And they probably will again as you still have the same name

Yeah but most added me because they saw me in hot pics. I can't imagine theyd remember me to go searching for my name.

But you'll pop up in searches still, local people and such. If you were in their hotlist then, you'll go on their hotlist again.

Do you don't want attention you'd have to do more than what your already doing. Just my advise and opinion. It means nothing as women could probably advise you better. "

I agree. If you're not keen on the attention I'm only trying to help from what I've experienced over the time I've been on here, hope it comes across that way

BH aside from the fact that you're an attractive woman your age alone will attact an awful lot of attention.

If you take your current avatar, check how many fabs it's had in a short period of time for a nice but fairly tame photo, indicates you're on quite a few hot lists already. Upload something sexier and bam it will be winging its way to the top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not start my 2nd thread ever on this site or the 3rd ever

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Personally, I think if I was avoiding attention I would remove the fab my photo option or hide my profile and not make threads which attract attention...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why delete and restart straight away? Wouldn't it be better to just re-jig what you were already doing on the same profile?

No I wanted rid of the people who had hotlisted me. Even if I changed name etc they'd still be following my profile.

And they probably will again as you still have the same name

Yeah but most added me because they saw me in hot pics. I can't imagine theyd remember me to go searching for my name."

Course they will! I didn’t even realise you had left so those who hotlist you will be looking to see where you had gone...

Same name search.... and there you are! Hotlisted again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally, I think if I was avoiding attention I would remove the fab my photo option or hide my profile and not make threads which attract attention..."

Seconded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also your one public pic is currently residing on page 3 which won’t help you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'd do anything differently if I was a newbie, when I first joined I didn't actually meet for about 5/6 weeks.

However I'm just me, sometimes I have to watch my words on the forums to avoid holidays but that's it.

Lovely to see you back xx

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Welcome back darl xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hhmmm...I can't really explain the attention thing without a ban but its working is all I can say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have returned and no I have not done anything different other than be more selective with whom I allow into my igloo muhahah

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Welcome back darl xx"

Missed you n shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd change my profile name to hugedickbarebackarsedestroyer so people could see the softer side to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome back Bunny

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Welcome back Bunny

Thank you x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Welcome back darl xx

Missed you n shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hhmmm...I can't really explain the attention thing without a ban but its working is all I can say.

Okay well as long as it works out for you ~ If not you can always delete and start again..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't have put a face picture up in public for my first two weeks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a previous profile incarnation as a newbie, I posted a face pic ....without ticking private only. So it was public until a friend pointed it out. I still wonder who may have seen it and blown my now very private profile cover.

Oh and secondly...be more robust in using the block button and moving on when a little grief comes your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you could go back to newbie you what would you change or what advice would you give?

I wouldn't change anything other than maybe try and spend less time on Fab and more time in the real world."

This for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't change anything we did. We did everything perfectly, as is to be expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My last time here, I lost myself in trying to be all things to all people, trying to get as many meets as possible and generally seeing "Fabpopular" as the way to be.

I burnt out in a blaze of glory and was forced to take a 3 year break. It was dark times.

This time around I have identified what went wrong and have put my happiness and wellbeing foremost.

I also have little intention on meeting (not unless we really really click) so I am not concerned if people like me or not.

I hope you find things better this time round and can use Fab how you want!

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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I wouldn't change anything because I'm already fucking fantastic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't have put a face picture up in public for my first two weeks

But its such a pretty face!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't change anything because I'm already fucking fantastic.

B4L x

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