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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've read a few posts where people have met their partners through this site, not looking for love not expecting it but it happens all the same.

On a similar theme do you think it's possible to fall in love before even meeting up, just by chatting and getting to know each other over the net?

Many females I know refuse to enter into conversation with soldiers in hot spots around the world looking for a bit of normality and company.

But are they any different from those soldiers who used to get 'blueys' from women they had never met when serving in the Gulf?

Or indeed any different from those soldiers in the trenches who used to get letters delivered to the front during the world wars?

Many used to return from the wars and marry those sweethearts they only really knew through the written word.

I use serving personnel only as an example, there are many dating sites etc. out there which allow people from all over the globe to 'fall in love' before even meeting.

Do you think thanks to the net it enables people to fall in love faster as it's instantaneous and not dependent on 'snail mail' or is there no substitute for face to face meeting and encounters?

Do those long distance romances last once people actually meet?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I think it is fantastic when people meet on here and find genuine love and I wish them every happiness.

I also think some declare their love for each other publically too quickly.... and it sadly goes tits up.

happiness to them all. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the internet takes away from the social physical aspect of dating however through instant messaging/emails/texting/phone calls if you tot up how many hours a person spends interacting with a person via these methods it would amount to a considerable amount of time. A lot more time than a person would be able to spend talking on a date perhaps.

So getting to know someone is far more intense and a quicker experience. My mum left my dad and their marriage for a man she had never met before. The day they met was the day she moved in with him (she didnt mess around) and they have been together for almost 7 years now, she is also the happiest i have ever seen her. I believe it can work.. yet to find my mr right though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is fantastic when people meet on here and find genuine love and I wish them every happiness.

I also think some declare their love for each other publically too quickly.... and it sadly goes tits up.

happiness to them all. x"

whether its lurve/lust/or love i think that if thats how the couple feel at the time then let them crack on,, even if it isnt the real deal but are blinded by the whirlwind just let them enjoy it :D

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had a friend fall on love with an American she met through a dating site, went to America twice to see him. However when he came to visit here he had only been off the plane an hour and she brought him to my house saying she was bored with him already.

Long story short but he ended up flying back to the States 48 hrs into his two week holiday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met Tod on another site...I was looking for a NSA thing, but BAM! First date & I was smitten.

I think dating sites etc, help break the ice a little, kinda get the ball rolling so to speak, but falling love without meeting?

Fall in lust hell yeah, but love? Don't think so.

To me love is when even after the most angry argument, after seeing their worst habits, after being kept awake by their snoring, of being round their annoying best friend, you are able to look past that & still be nuts about them.

How the hell can you see their annoying side via email, skype etc?

Personally I think you can light the embers on-line, but you need to be in the same room to get an inferno going.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I think it is fantastic when people meet on here and find genuine love and I wish them every happiness.

I also think some declare their love for each other publically too quickly.... and it sadly goes tits up.

happiness to them all. x

whether its lurve/lust/or love i think that if thats how the couple feel at the time then let them crack on,, even if it isnt the real deal but are blinded by the whirlwind just let them enjoy it :D"

and good luck to them... I am a believer in a dignified silence is also good at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In this electronic age we live in the internet has fast become where people meet. Instant messaging, cams, video calls, people can spend many many hours getting to know one another, balance that against meeting a guy whose been drinking in a bar and you cant really have a proper conversation with loads of people around. But of course body language is the main factor and thats missing online.

Id probably be a bit sceptical of talking to a guy in a different country. I wouldnt give up my life to move to where they were (unless they live in a penthouse overlooking Central Park and are 97 years old).

But I do think that meeting people online can be the start of a deep and meaningful relationship, but for it to work surely there has to be opportunity to meet regularly too.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Friend of mine was contacted by a guy, chatted on line and met him over the next two weeks for coffee.

Met him again and later that day both of them realised that they had fallen head over heels in love.

Although not together as a couple they are still meeting some two and a half years later.

Sometimes you find love in the strangest places

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

A friend of mine got married to a guy she had been "courting" she is american him english. It was a year until they first met then he would go over about every six months and finally they married in april.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It would seem that the advent of MSN chat cams dating sites etc. does to a certain extent speed up getting to know each other, compared to a couple of hours in a pub fighting to be heard over music or other people every Saturday night for months.

I know that people open up and share more intimate knowledge when sitting at a keyboard and screen.

But that instant hit of knowledge is the pay-off against learning each others quirks and foibles not something that can be conveyed over the net.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive used the internet for socialising for over ten years now and although im eternally single have seen lots of romances, marriages, and babies thru online meets. Several from different countries.

Some have not lasted but the majority have.

Im very proud to have introduced couples when I was a chat host and pushed a few together at socials.

I think its very much a real way to meet your soulmate but has to be taken with a pinch of salt thanks to the fruitcakes and fakes

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Also following on from the holiday romance thread, people meet on a weeks holiday and continue to develop their relationship via msn, text skype etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone through another site, we chatted for ages, getting to know each other a little better before meeting up, she knew I was still married, but that it was over, we met for a drink and had a laugh, we met again, went out for dinner, had a laugh.

It was a while before we slept with each other, but the fact that I had to go home played heavy on her.

I fell for her big time and she was falling for me but by the time I had made up my mind to leave my wife, she had made her mind up to end it.

I dont think you can fall in love just by emails and messages, but it can kick start the feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my now husband on a dating site! We talked over the net and by phone for a couple of months then when we met it was really comfortable because we already knew a lot about eachother! We got married a year and a half after meeting and now we've got 2 daughters together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is fantastic when people meet on here and find genuine love and I wish them every happiness.

I also think some declare their love for each other publically too quickly.... and it sadly goes tits up.

happiness to them all. x"

Agree with _iew on this

As for me falling in love again, got more chance of sprouting wings. lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is fantastic when people meet on here and find genuine love and I wish them every happiness.

I also think some declare their love for each other publically too quickly.... and it sadly goes tits up.

happiness to them all. x

Agree with _iew on this

As for me falling in love again, got more chance of sprouting wings. lmao "
you can never know though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh i do...

got this 6ft thick brick wall erected....and its solid cuz im good with erections

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh i do...

got this 6ft thick brick wall erected....and its solid cuz im good with erections "
now you know you may have to proove that!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wot...that i can build walls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot...that i can build walls "
HA ha, what you like, but your erecting skills are being questioned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe its just me, and my fear of everything involving relationships, but if i met someone online, i can guarantee i'd have about 3 other guys on the go at the same time....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it life-affirming when it does happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot...that i can build walls HA ha, what you like, but your erecting skills are being questioned"

Oh well i have big testimonials ya know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot...that i can build walls HA ha, what you like, but your erecting skills are being questioned

Oh well i have big testimonials ya know "
I may need to check out your qualifications though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting, and I shall get back to you once I know the answers!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot...that i can build walls HA ha, what you like, but your erecting skills are being questioned

Oh well i have big testimonials ya know I may need to check out your qualifications though "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wot...that i can build walls HA ha, what you like, but your erecting skills are being questioned

Oh well i have big testimonials ya know I may need to check out your qualifications though

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seems like we may have hijacked the thread, but cant do do it off forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Go on peaches and ozzy I'm taking notes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go on peaches and ozzy I'm taking notes! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go on peaches and ozzy I'm taking notes!

"
ops forgot there were other people watching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't believe that love has any rules or boundaries, the beauty of love is that we don't control it, it can't be created to order or picked off a shelf. It doesn't let you know when it's coming or how it will arrive.

I've learnt never to underestimate love, or the means by which people find it.

If people fall in love over the Internet, that's great. At the end of the day, they're the only ones who know loves arrived.

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

met a lady last year we had a wonderful six month but distance and shift work forboth of us was a problem we parted as friends so it does work a little romance is nice too Paul

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I tried it once but I fell off.

I would urge anyone planning love on the net to put some cushions down first, my coccyx has never been the same.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

Indeed it can and does work, and for those who have a distance issue then it makes the time you do spend together all the more special

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Indeed it can and does work, and for those who have a distance issue then it makes the time you do spend together all the more special"

I was like that with my ex husband, he worked away half the year. Was great. Because as soon as he was starting to get on my nerves it was time for him to go again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Indeed it can and does work, and for those who have a distance issue then it makes the time you do spend together all the more special

I was like that with my ex husband, he worked away half the year. Was great. Because as soon as he was starting to get on my nerves it was time for him to go again. "

Well im happy behind my brick wall ta, despite me nice stalker

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