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Self regulating standards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What makes us deviate away from our self imposed standards. So we put..... won't meet smokers. Great smokers know where they stand. However why deviate away from that? Does desperation take over? Is it because we can overlook some criteria because we see potential? If we can overlook it why put it in the first place. Just curious so please don't slay me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The hornier you get, the lower your standards go in hope for a quick fix, Abraham Lincoln said that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think standards, rules or no goers are OK to have and they are usually built off of something (a previous positive or negative experience, an irrational fear or what ever it may be). It's also acceptable to venture away from that if whether that be to challenge or to re-confirm your believe in the original stance.

The beauty of rules or a framework, if intrinsicly operated, is that you don't have to justify it and thus you are free to be as flexible as you so wish should the personal of your dreams come along

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

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Desperation.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"What makes us deviate away from our self imposed standards. So we put..... won't meet smokers. Great smokers know where they stand. However why deviate away from that? Does desperation take over? Is it because we can overlook some criteria because we see potential? If we can overlook it why put it in the first place. Just curious so please don't slay me "

I think that's more preference than standards....but in answer to the question, because there is so much connection, engagement and chemistry you are willing to check someone out before making a final decision. I don't want to meet anyone who stinks of smoke, but that was not the case for one reason or another with the smokers I decided to make an exception for. I'm pretty open minded about nearly all of my preferences, it's hard to find people you really connect with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What makes us deviate away from our self imposed standards. So we put..... won't meet smokers. Great smokers know where they stand. However why deviate away from that? Does desperation take over? Is it because we can overlook some criteria because we see potential? If we can overlook it why put it in the first place. Just curious so please don't slay me

I think that's more preference than standards....but in answer to the question, because there is so much connection, engagement and chemistry you are willing to check someone out before making a final decision. I don't want to meet anyone who stinks of smoke, but that was not the case for one reason or another with the smokers I decided to make an exception for. I'm pretty open minded about nearly all of my preferences, it's hard to find people you really connect with."

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think standards, rules or no goers are OK to have and they are usually built off of something (a previous positive or negative experience, an irrational fear or what ever it may be). It's also acceptable to venture away from that if whether that be to challenge or to re-confirm your believe in the original stance.

The beauty of rules or a framework, if intrinsicly operated, is that you don't have to justify it and thus you are free to be as flexible as you so wish should the personal of your dreams come along "

Many thanks. Interesting reading xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" ....the code is more what you'd call "guidelines" than actual rules."

- Captain Barbossa, Pirates of the Caribbean

I guess we all have areas that are non-negotiable and areas that are negotiable, they will depend on a many number of factors but as a general rule they are what we put in our profiles.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

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" " ....the code is more what you'd call "guidelines" than actual rules."

- Captain Barbossa, Pirates of the Caribbean

I guess we all have areas that are non-negotiable and areas that are negotiable, they will depend on a many number of factors but as a general rule they are what we put in our profiles. "

What he said. Say for example you have 5 things you dont like and a petson can have a max of 2 of those and they are discarded. That might explain why you would let something slide.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" " ....the code is more what you'd call "guidelines" than actual rules."

- Captain Barbossa, Pirates of the Caribbean

I guess we all have areas that are non-negotiable and areas that are negotiable, they will depend on a many number of factors but as a general rule they are what we put in our profiles.

What he said. Say for example you have 5 things you dont like and a petson can have a max of 2 of those and they are discarded. That might explain why you would let something slide."

Interesting xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" " ....the code is more what you'd call "guidelines" than actual rules."

- Captain Barbossa, Pirates of the Caribbean

I guess we all have areas that are non-negotiable and areas that are negotiable, they will depend on a many number of factors but as a general rule they are what we put in our profiles. "

God I love that quote xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always state that I look for dark hair on guys but I'd meet an exceptional blonde if I fancied him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In nsa there is no rules, is just a shag, keep it clinical lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've lost count of the women that have contacted me, but stated on their profile that they are not into black guys, it's flattering and all, but I can't get my head round it

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East


" " ....the code is more what you'd call "guidelines" than actual rules."

- Captain Barbossa, Pirates of the Caribbean

I guess we all have areas that are non-negotiable and areas that are negotiable, they will depend on a many number of factors but as a general rule they are what we put in our profiles.

What he said. Say for example you have 5 things you dont like and a petson can have a max of 2 of those and they are discarded. That might explain why you would let something slide.

Interesting xx"

Factor in different weighting of the things you dont like too of course. Sonethings one might consider an absolute no. Im refering to minor issues ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you find you click with someone, you just click.

I operate to guidelines as you can miss some absolute diamonds if you cannot be flexible from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you find you click with someone, you just click.

I operate to guidelines as you can miss some absolute diamonds if you cannot be flexible from time to time."

I am in agreement totally. Xx

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