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By *ornylittlesub OP   Woman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

I keep getting told I shouldn't answer all my messages as this gives guys the wrong impression, that I am interested, and only ends up with me getting abuse when they find out I am not! To me its just manners...but its defo making me think, maybe I am wrong!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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do what you want. men are stupid no matter what you do. ooh she didn't reply does she wanna fuck me? ooh she did reply does she wanna fuck me, best read my message and aw she gave the wrong impression by being on sex site and not saying yes to sex.

#notallmen #but

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By *uperunknown1Man
over a year ago

Chichester

As a single guy, who obviously gets no replies sometimes I can honestly say it's a little disheartening. I can see why some don't reply as it takes time and the amount of messages single ladies must get is a factor too.

Sometimes though even a polite no is welcomed.

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By *ornylittlesub OP   Woman
over a year ago

Grangemouth

Yea that's what I think too...a polite "no thanks" is my most popular message! lol Only manners!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea that's what I think too...a polite "no thanks" is my most popular message! lol Only manners! "

A rare commodity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you feel is right hun. I reply to many that send complimets just to say thanks. If they want to chat further I politely say I'm not interested in chatting but wanted to thank them for the compliments, none have really got arsey with me but if they did I couldn't really give a toss, they are the one with issues.

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By *uperunknown1Man
over a year ago

Chichester


"Yea that's what I think too...a polite "no thanks" is my most popular message! lol Only manners! "

I'm sure it is...whenever I see I have received a message I always assume it's one of those (not from you, I've never messaged you)

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's up to you how you run your profile OP and know it goes against the "norm" but site FAQS make it quite cLear that no reply should be taken as a "thanks but no thanks" and any single guy that can't accept that, or can't accept your polite no thanks without resorting to abuse, isn't worth worrying about to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

before filters i would receive around 100 plus a week when not online, in some

i would delete them all in one go

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

There's no right or wrong, it's up to you

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I keep getting told I shouldn't answer all my messages as this gives guys the wrong impression, that I am interested, and only ends up with me getting abuse when they find out I am not! To me its just manners...but its defo making me think, maybe I am wrong! "

Do what you want to do.

We'll usually reply to messages (when meeting) even if we're not interested.

I can count on one hand, the times we've got abuse or hassle back. Most, thank us for replying and send best wishes etc.

However, if your finding it a pain and a full time job. Then only reply to those that interest you. Fab should be enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's up to you how you run your profile OP and know it goes against the "norm" but site FAQS make it quite cLear that no reply should be taken as a "thanks but no thanks" and any single guy that can't accept that, or can't accept your polite no thanks without resorting to abuse, isn't worth worrying about to be honest "

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By *uperunknown1Man
over a year ago

Chichester


"I keep getting told I shouldn't answer all my messages as this gives guys the wrong impression, that I am interested, and only ends up with me getting abuse when they find out I am not! To me its just manners...but its defo making me think, maybe I am wrong!

Do what you want to do.

We'll usually reply to messages (when meeting) even if we're not interested.

I can count on one hand, the times we've got abuse or hassle back. Most, thank us for replying and send best wishes etc.

However, if your finding it a pain and a full time job. Then only reply to those that interest you. Fab should be enjoyable. "

I always send a polite response to a "thanks, but no thanks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"do what you want. men are stupid no matter what you do. ooh she didn't reply does she wanna fuck me? ooh she did reply does she wanna fuck me, best read my message and aw she gave the wrong impression by being on sex site and not saying yes to sex.

#notallmen #but"

true dat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep getting told I shouldn't answer all my messages as this gives guys the wrong impression, that I am interested, and only ends up with me getting abuse when they find out I am not! To me its just manners...but its defo making me think, maybe I am wrong! "

its up to you what you do with your messages..

I used to respond to most of mine but eventually ended up blocking them after getting abuse..

yes it is only polite but not when you get abused for it..

I only respond to people I know now

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Its entirely up to you what you do,we dont reply when its obvious that someone hasnt read our profile though

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep getting told I shouldn't answer all my messages as this gives guys the wrong impression, that I am interested, and only ends up with me getting abuse when they find out I am not! To me its just manners...but its defo making me think, maybe I am wrong!

Do what you want to do.

We'll usually reply to messages (when meeting) even if we're not interested.

I can count on one hand, the times we've got abuse or hassle back. Most, thank us for replying and send best wishes etc.

However, if your finding it a pain and a full time job. Then only reply to those that interest you. Fab should be enjoyable. "

This.

OP if you say no thanks and they reply asking "but whyyyyy" just delete. You already said no thanks. If they are abusive report them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all know women get inundated with msgs, so most got no time to reply lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking fit like u do y not sara

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Do what you want to do, I've been here for 9 years and have learnt to avoid receiving abuse is to ignore messages, it doesn't resolve the whole problem but it does reduce them

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

kind of know where you are coming from OP. Some seem to find a no thanks as a green light because they get a reply. I've had it as well.

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield


"I keep getting told I shouldn't answer all my messages as this gives guys the wrong impression, that I am interested, and only ends up with me getting abuse when they find out I am not! To me its just manners...but its defo making me think, maybe I am wrong! "

I think you should just ignore all the messages except ours!! I know that may come a cross as a bit bias and selfish, but we don't care you're super hot!!!

Aj&Alex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never abuse someone no matter what, everyone has right to do what they want if i dont get a reply i take it as a polite no thanks. But a no thanks in a return message i will always say thanks for at least replying and happy fabbing x

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"do what you want. men are stupid no matter what you do. ooh she didn't reply does she wanna fuck me? ooh she did reply does she wanna fuck me, best read my message and aw she gave the wrong impression by being on sex site and not saying yes to sex.

#notallmen #but

true dat"

at least you notice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you're not wrong everyone has a right to do what they want but i think it is but that how this site works which is impolite i think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I keep getting told I shouldn't answer all my messages as this gives guys the wrong impression, that I am interested, and only ends up with me getting abuse when they find out I am not! To me its just manners...but its defo making me think, maybe I am wrong! "

So as a newbie and single guy I get why I dont get replied back by everyone but any that do and it's usually no thanks I was respond thanking them and wishing them good luck. I'd continue doing what you feel is right for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try (and fail) to do the same & reply to as many as I can. But I'm been fortunate that more of the follow up responses are "thank you for taking the time to reply".

I know it's disheartening not to have a message responded to and hard for guys having to always being the one who has to put the effort in with messaging, but I guess it's completely up to you about what you feel most comfortable with, no right or wrong. x

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