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NO! How do you say it?

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

No means NO. There is no other interpretation.

HOWEVER

I do know it takes a certain kind of person to be able to say NO clearly , without ambiguity that is face saving for all concerned.

Do you .......

1. giggle at the advance and move away.

2. move someones hand away and say nothing or just shake your head or nicely say no thanks.

3. pull your clothes around you and tut.

4. simply change places by another friend and try to shake it off.

5. smile at the unwanted person and go Ah ah ahhhhhhhhhh noooooooo etc.

6. tut huffily , shake your hair.

7. just refuse to look at the person and do the ostrich thing - almost pretending they're not there.

8. go to the toilet and hope they'll be gone when you get back.

It's so easy to mis read all of the above as 'play'

How do you make NO clear ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With a menacing smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There isn't a uniform no for me. When i say no to a door to door saleman it is different to what i will say to a guy propositioning me in a pub or a club and even then it will always be different. The one think i am consistent with is eye contact though when saying it.

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"No means NO. There is no other interpretation.

HOWEVER

I do know it takes a certain kind of person to be able to say NO clearly , without ambiguity that is face saving for all concerned.

Do you .......

1. giggle at the advance and move away.

2. move someones hand away and say nothing or just shake your head or nicely say no thanks.

3. pull your clothes around you and tut.

4. simply change places by another friend and try to shake it off.

5. smile at the unwanted person and go Ah ah ahhhhhhhhhh noooooooo etc.

6. tut huffily , shake your hair.

7. just refuse to look at the person and do the ostrich thing - almost pretending they're not there.

8. go to the toilet and hope they'll be gone when you get back.

It's so easy to mis read all of the above as 'play'

How do you make NO clear ? "

yeah i do all of those and just as they lose interest give in and say oooh you are awful ,but if you insist

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"There isn't a uniform no for me. When i say no to a door to door saleman it is different to what i will say to a guy propositioning me in a pub or a club and even then it will always be different. The one think i am consistent with is eye contact though when saying it. "

Couldn't agree more. Eyeball every time.

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"No means NO. There is no other interpretation.

HOWEVER

I do know it takes a certain kind of person to be able to say NO clearly , without ambiguity that is face saving for all concerned.

Do you .......

1. giggle at the advance and move away.

2. move someones hand away and say nothing or just shake your head or nicely say no thanks.

3. pull your clothes around you and tut.

4. simply change places by another friend and try to shake it off.

5. smile at the unwanted person and go Ah ah ahhhhhhhhhh noooooooo etc.

6. tut huffily , shake your hair.

7. just refuse to look at the person and do the ostrich thing - almost pretending they're not there.

8. go to the toilet and hope they'll be gone when you get back.

It's so easy to mis read all of the above as 'play'

How do you make NO clear ?

yeah i do all of those and just as they lose interest give in and say oooh you are awful ,but if you insist "

See. You just cannot hide an easy piece of meat. Sigh .....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Directly in the eyes and NO.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Directly in the eyes and NO.

"

albeit, if hung.... then a maybe

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Directly in the eyes and NO.

albeit, if hung.... then a maybe "

and if uber hung... I can't speak as my mouth is full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any of the first five really, and Kate would let them know how she feels herslf.

They only get one warning though

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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands


"There isn't a uniform no for me. When i say no to a door to door saleman it is different to what i will say to a guy propositioning me in a pub or a club and even then it will always be different. The one think i am consistent with is eye contact though when saying it.

Couldn't agree more. Eyeball every time. "
Yeah? oo it'd be fun getting the 'big NO!' from you then GK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There isn't a uniform no for me. When i say no to a door to door saleman it is different to what i will say to a guy propositioning me in a pub or a club and even then it will always be different. The one think i am consistent with is eye contact though when saying it.

Couldn't agree more. Eyeball every time. "

I think if you do then you get acknowledgement they have heard and 995 of the time its enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say No clearly and then if they persist they get a very curt FUCK OFF.

Don't see the point in beating around the bush.

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"There isn't a uniform no for me. When i say no to a door to door saleman it is different to what i will say to a guy propositioning me in a pub or a club and even then it will always be different. The one think i am consistent with is eye contact though when saying it.

Couldn't agree more. Eyeball every time. Yeah? oo it'd be fun getting the 'big NO!' from you then GK"

LOL you nutter. For you it'd be eyes down as your balls were in stranglehold.

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I say No clearly and then if they persist they get a very curt FUCK OFF.

Don't see the point in beating around the bush."

No. Some like getting the old bush beaten Wishy .... you tease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I say No clearly and then if they persist they get a very curt FUCK OFF.

Don't see the point in beating around the bush."

Would say thats the best way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With others I will look at them and just say That is not permitted.. or just say No with a way that it can not be ignored.

However, if its because of prehaps mis read signals from me, then I will be a little delicate of there feelings.

If it were to my Master/husband then Its not something I would say.. as I can not say no.

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was embarassed on a visit to a 'gentlemans health spa' with a friend.

he gets lots of unwanted attention (bastard, haha)

this guy kept touching him but rather than being too obvious, he was doing it a bit slyly.

after about 5 erroneous touches, he was told 'touch me again and you'll be gettin a smack'

funnily enough it didn't happen after that !

but then again, as NO's go, that is pretty difficult to misinterpret !

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

On one occasion, after clearly saying ‘no’ and the guy saying “lots of women say that when they really mean yes”, I told the guy if he didn’t remove his finger from my leg I would snap his finger off… a few seconds later his screams of pain confirmed he had finally got the message.

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By *lare GTV/TS
over a year ago

South of Sleaford

I agree too with the direct look and a polite and clear 'no thank you'. The second response is then 'thanks for the interest but no'. On the very rare occasion that someone still persists I just look at them, perhaps with a slight shake of the head, and say nothing. If I don't respond then they have nothing to try to turn back on me.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

If I get unwanted advances from the chicks a simple ruffle of their hair with my hand and a 'I don't do dudes, dude' is enough I find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont chat and flirt and just dont say alot ..... it works .

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

A firm no has always worked for me, not that i say it that often

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Dont chat and flirt and just dont say alot ..... it works ."

Jo your prob the only woman I know who can do that while each nipple is being sucked and his hands are treating your ass like five pounds of pillsbury dough!

And she wouldn't spill a drop as she sipped her drink!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont chat and flirt and just dont say alot ..... it works .

Jo your prob the only woman I know who can do that while each nipple is being sucked and his hands are treating your ass like five pounds of pillsbury dough!

And she wouldn't spill a drop as she sipped her drink!"
well i may get hold of the drink and put it over his head , lol x

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By *ranny-Crumpet OP   Woman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forthrightly mostly...accompanied by a wistful smile..whilst maintaining eye contact, until the intent is clearly understood...I`m good at saying no..its unequivical..a Roger Moore eyebrow seals the deal..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a door to door salesman or a cold caller I stop them mid flow and tell them no thanks, I have already got whatever you are selling.

If it's a persistent pest in a pub or some club I've been known to gaze directly into their eyes while squeezing and twisting their balls and saying No, you understand me now? (twisting harder)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I say no, I have never had a problem with them understanding it, most men are scared of me anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally hold my hand up, palm facing outwards, and shake my head and mouth the word no at the same time.

I have yet to come across anyone who does not know what that means.

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