FabSwingers.com forum: When NO meens NO!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok as you guys have been so fantastic on the last one really need your help on this one xxx

We went to a club a few Fridays ago which was also singles night.

Now we had a few gents come up to us asking if they could join us which wernt our cup of tea as to say. We gently and politly said no.

All this was fine no probs.

Then we relise this blokes been following us, as we perv though one of the rooms he stands by the side of me and starts rubbing my leg, To which i turn and say sorry not intrested.

This goes on, we sit- hes near us. Next thing hes running his hand up my leg again.... yet again i turn to this man and say we arnt intrested.

I then walk to the loo as i come back out this blokes squareing up to my hubbie and demanding to know are we a 100% sure its no?

Now im very sure its down to me as the women to say if i want sex with someone or not.....

So when does no meen no and its heard?

Has anyone else been in this predicament?

Or is there any other way of saying no?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a punch on the nose - if all other avenues have been exhausted, that usually works

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It sounds very much like this guy couldn't accept any interpretation of the word so it doesn't matter how many times you said or in what context. If it happens again tell the person doing it that you are now feeling threatened by him and if he continues you will complain to the club owner and have him ejected. Or punch his lights out in a quiet corner of the club.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

lodge a complaint with the club staff if it happens again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds creepy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It sounds very much like this guy couldn't accept any interpretation of the word so it doesn't matter how many times you said or in what context. If it happens again tell the person doing it that you are now feeling threatened by him and if he continues you will complain to the club owner and have him ejected. Or punch his lights out in a quiet corner of the club.

i agree with most of above,except the violence,that will only get all of you barred

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that sucks hun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't understand why anyone would do that. I wouldn't dare touch, without being invited!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Report to the club owners, they may have had complaints before and this episode may result in a ban.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that, and one singular no, not interested to a normal person is readily accepted and the very fact he was in a club he should of gone walkies elsewhere.

Had similar in a club with friend of mine, her first try of a club too,shadowed everywhere we went.By same person.

Your experience sounds worse, that persistance/insistance must of spoilt it for you both i'd imagine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We ended up going home early which was a shame it kind of made the night go flat.

I did grab a bouncer who told the bloke to back off.

Just wanted to know how anyone else would of handled it? xx

We are going to go back but in the back of your mind your worried its going to happen again.

The others were lovely just this one bloke

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Report instantly to the staff...its enough for a removal and f their have been other complaints a ban.

His behavior was unacceptable, thankfully i have only come across someone like this once...it's rare.

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

Unfortunately this is on of the main reasons that puts some couples off from going to clubs.Yes there are couples only nights but sometimes those times are not convenient.

The vast majority of single guys at clubs abide by the rules because they know that a ban would be likely.

We sometimes have fun with single guys at clubs and thankfully they have always been respectful and do not question/pester/persist when we say "No thankyou"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Report to the club owners, they may have had complaints before and this episode may result in a ban.

I would hope this one occurrence alone would result in a ban.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Siren and I were shagging in Club F once and another guy climbed on the bed and went to stick his todger in her face. He was a scrawny ugly little man and I told him to fook off (in mid shag lol), he stormed off swearing something along the lines of "call yourselves fucking swingers!" blah blah blah... if I hadn't locked on at that point I might have gone after him and had a few words. There are some things you just cannot stop once they're set in motion lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've only had this happen once.

I had told him 'no' on maybe 4/5 occasions that night but he did something that made me flip my biscuit.

I was in a room (with someone else) and the door was locked.

He actually reached over the top of the door, unlocked the catch and came in.

I ended up start bollock naked (with a hard on) with my hands round his neck and the bloke I was in the room with having to 'calm' the situation.

Not nice !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are persistent, i have had this problem with couples in the past at clubs. I usually find single men understand no when i look at them and give an explanation with it. I have had problems with the odd couple who seemed to thing they had a god given right because they were a couple. The only thing you can do then is tell the owners if in a club or the organisers if you are at a party and if it doesn't get resolved then leave.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Hmmm at least in a mail we can say no and ignore any more mails that might turn up

At least the bouncer had a word though.

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By *ingmasterMan
over a year ago

nottingham

"Some people are persistent, i have had this problem with couples in the past at clubs. I usually find single men understand no when i look at them and give an explanation with it. I have had problems with the odd couple who seemed to thing they had a god given right because they were a couple. The only thing you can do then is tell the owners if in a club or the

organisers if you are at a party and if it doesn't get resolved then leave. "

very well said . in my experience couple are the worst offenders in this regard .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the past miss has become violent to guys who choose not to listen to her.

If you value your balls guys dont mess with ladies who have no interest in you! Women are not afraid to get physical, when no means no.

This is just the very reason we never go to single guy friendly nights - the minority ruin things for the majority in all counts.

Yes happens from couples too - but usually the wifes are non too impressed either when they are made to look fools because of the actions of their partner.

Be loud, be proud let everyone know what these people are like in there..

Just because you may like a bit of additional fun with others doesn't mean you play with anything that happens to be in the club that night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so people dont ask to touch your leg in the first place .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would never put my hands on a women without asking first .....its a no brain er for me

jay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hmmm at least in a mail we can say no and ignore any more mails that might turn up

I was thinking the same thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's way out of order and although hindsight is a wonderful thing, you should have reported the guy as soon as he ignored your first warning.

We haven't experienced this ourselves, mainly due to the way I look, ugly fuck, and all that, lol, but friends of ours have.

I hope this experience doesn't put you off going to clubs, and that you'll see the warning signs if it looks like it's going to happen again.

Warn them once, then if they persist, tell the bouncer or a member of staff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do not let this one bad thing spoil it for you. Or put you going off. No means No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just want to add that it's a bit harder to stop the "crafty feels" and "gropes" that you'll get walking through a crowded club.

Even I get my arse felt, so you gotta feel for the poor desperate souls that sometimes frequent clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just want to add that it's a bit harder to stop the "crafty feels" and "gropes" that you'll get walking through a crowded club.

Even I get my arse felt, so you gotta feel for the poor desperate souls that sometimes frequent clubs

you can get that even in vanilla bars.

stamps on the foot works well in heels im told..lol

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

Some guys just seem to see the red mist when their balls are full and resort to behaving like early neanderthal man.

The only sacrid rule i have seen in swinging is "No means No" even if your about to pop your cork, long may it remain that way.

Dont put up with anything else !

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