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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Male here. Just thought I'd post as newish couple so still finding are feet somewhat but love to hear people's opinions on social meets. I'm talking about meeting for a drink and a chat here. Reason for asking as over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?. We both love the social side of swinging and just started attending more organised social events

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

There's lots of socials not far from you. Check meets section on the forum

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Female here we do look at meets and requests also social events and do attend any socials near us struggling though to find a couple willing to meet for drinks a laugh and see where it can lead from there x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Well my area is full of guys constantly looking for meets and moaning that no one is genuine or meets, when I have put up a meet for social only, I get zilch response, so unless sex is on the table they are not interested.....then they go back to moaning, its the way of fab!

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By *udistcpl1Couple
over a year ago

Wirral

We have had several social meetings - some of them recently. People usually respond if we post a meeting but there are a fair number of people messing about or suggest they will meet even though they are 200 miles away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Male here. Just thought I'd post as newish couple so still finding are feet somewhat but love to hear people's opinions on social meets. I'm talking about meeting for a drink and a chat here. Reason for asking as over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?. We both love the social side of swinging and just started attending more organised social events"

we loved chatting to you both on Friday at the Donny social, would have met you today, except L flew to Cyprus this afternoon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Male here. Just thought I'd post as newish couple so still finding are feet somewhat but love to hear people's opinions on social meets. I'm talking about meeting for a drink and a chat here. Reason for asking as over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?. We both love the social side of swinging and just started attending more organised social events

we loved chatting to you both on Friday at the Donny social, would have met you today, except L flew to Cyprus this afternoon "
Female here hope she has a great time loved chatting to you both friday xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" organised social events

we loved chatting to you both on Friday at the Donny social, would have met you today, except L flew to Cyprus this afternoon Female here hope she has a great time loved chatting to you both friday xx"

Thanks i am sure she will. Looking forward to see you at the Bradford social xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" organised social events

we loved chatting to you both on Friday at the Donny social, would have met you today, except L flew to Cyprus this afternoon Female here hope she has a great time loved chatting to you both friday xx

Thanks i am sure she will. Looking forward to see you at the Bradford social xx"
Really looking forward to it xx

Michelle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had quite a few socials knowing for well that is all it is, I like socials as you get to know the person and know if you connect or not, I never expect anything more than great conversation, and if the social is good, then there's a good chance to meet again for a little play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a social meet at our home this Friday just gone. Good friends of ours who we've played with many times. They had been out on a meet that evening and popped in to see us on way home. They knew it was a social as we had children at home this weekend. We chatted until sun up and had a great time.

We have also been to family BBQ' s and vanilla parties with good friends who we have previously played with.

All these friends we have met on fab x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male here we prefer to do a social meet before playing A) as we prefer to have FWBs B) as it helps settle any nerves and to also get a feel of the other company as to whether or not you wish to take things further. We have had two socials so far and only one in which we are meeting up again the other one messed us about afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Male here we prefer to do a social meet before playing A) as we prefer to have FWBs B) as it helps settle any nerves and to also get a feel of the other company as to whether or not you wish to take things further. We have had two socials so far and only one in which we are meeting up again the other one messed us about afterwards.

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Couldn't agree more exactly why we put meet requests up. Another baffling thing is people unwilling to send message they will view your profile sometimes wink or fab pictures but feels like lots are waiting for you to message

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Male here. Just thought I'd post as newish couple so still finding are feet somewhat but love to hear people's opinions on social meets. I'm talking about meeting for a drink and a chat here. Reason for asking as over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?. We both love the social side of swinging and just started attending more organised social events"

Well here's our opinion for what it's worth .

A social which is only going to be a social is a complete waste of time in our eyes .

We have a great circle of friends outside the swinging lifestyle , and it's them we would go out with for a social .

So if we are asked if we fancy a social on here we simply say no thanks .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Male here. Just thought I'd post as newish couple so still finding are feet somewhat but love to hear people's opinions on social meets. I'm talking about meeting for a drink and a chat here. Reason for asking as over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?. We both love the social side of swinging and just started attending more organised social events

Well here's our opinion for what it's worth .

A social which is only going to be a social is a complete waste of time in our eyes .

We have a great circle of friends outside the swinging lifestyle , and it's them we would go out with for a social .

So if we are asked if we fancy a social on here we simply say no thanks ."
The meaning for the social is to find out if there is any attraction x female replying

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Male here. Just thought I'd post as newish couple so still finding are feet somewhat but love to hear people's opinions on social meets. I'm talking about meeting for a drink and a chat here. Reason for asking as over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?. We both love the social side of swinging and just started attending more organised social events

Well here's our opinion for what it's worth .

A social which is only going to be a social is a complete waste of time in our eyes .

We have a great circle of friends outside the swinging lifestyle , and it's them we would go out with for a social .

So if we are asked if we fancy a social on here we simply say no thanks .The meaning for the social is to find out if there is any attraction x female replying "

And if there is , a whole evening is wasted chatting when there could be fun being had .

And if there isn't , again a whole evening is wasted spending it with people who aren't attracted to each other .

So either way we see it as a waste of an evening .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Male here. Just thought I'd post as newish couple so still finding are feet somewhat but love to hear people's opinions on social meets. I'm talking about meeting for a drink and a chat here. Reason for asking as over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?. We both love the social side of swinging and just started attending more organised social events

Well here's our opinion for what it's worth .

A social which is only going to be a social is a complete waste of time in our eyes .

We have a great circle of friends outside the swinging lifestyle , and it's them we would go out with for a social .

So if we are asked if we fancy a social on here we simply say no thanks .The meaning for the social is to find out if there is any attraction x female replying

And if there is , a whole evening is wasted chatting when there could be fun being had .

And if there isn't , again a whole evening is wasted spending it with people who aren't attracted to each other .

So either way we see it as a waste of an evening ."
wasted evening so what you expect play because a meet up has been arranged what if you didnt like each other would you still play or walk away and call it a wasted eveing?

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I always have a social meet. Usually make it early in the evening as it either works out or it doesn't. An hour of my time is hardly a wasted evening.

Not sure how long you expect a social meet to last. Mine have lasted from 20 mins to a new record of nearly 5 hours. Ok so we did play as well

There's no need for dinner and drinks for a social meet when a quick coffee would do. Never make whoever your meeting feel as if it was a waste of time either. If there's no connection you'll know quite quickly.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"I always have a social meet. Usually make it early in the evening as it either works out or it doesn't. An hour of my time is hardly a wasted evening.

Not sure how long you expect a social meet to last. Mine have lasted from 20 mins to a new record of nearly 5 hours. Ok so we did play as well

There's no need for dinner and drinks for a social meet when a quick coffee would do. Never make whoever your meeting feel as if it was a waste of time either. If there's no connection you'll know quite quickly.

"

Exactly this

Of course we don't play if there's no connection . We walk away and enjoy the rest of the evening elsewhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I always have a social meet. Usually make it early in the evening as it either works out or it doesn't. An hour of my time is hardly a wasted evening.

Not sure how long you expect a social meet to last. Mine have lasted from 20 mins to a new record of nearly 5 hours. Ok so we did play as well

Exactly are thinking of social meets

There's no need for dinner and drinks for a social meet when a quick coffee would do. Never make whoever your meeting feel as if it was a waste of time either. If there's no connection you'll know quite quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Male here. Just thought I'd post as newish couple so still finding are feet somewhat but love to hear people's opinions on social meets. I'm talking about meeting for a drink and a chat here. Reason for asking as over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?. We both love the social side of swinging and just started attending more organised social events

Well here's our opinion for what it's worth .

A social which is only going to be a social is a complete waste of time in our eyes .

We have a great circle of friends outside the swinging lifestyle , and it's them we would go out with for a social .

So if we are asked if we fancy a social on here we simply say no thanks ."

Totally agree, yep we love going on a social only meet, being interviewed and tapped up for info, NOT...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Totally agree, yep we love going on a social only meet, being interviewed and tapped up for info, NOT... "

Bit harsh! Different life stages, different needs. As a single it can be good sometimes to have a couple of beers with someone to reflect on the madder corners of fab without having to sanitize and censor what you say. Also, sometimes major life changes might mean we don't have access to established friendship groups for a period. Fab is one way to meet a variety of interesting people you wouldn't necessarily meet in our vanilla life silos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Totally agree, yep we love going on a social only meet, being interviewed and tapped up for info, NOT...

Bit harsh! Different life stages, different needs. As a single it can be good sometimes to have a couple of beers with someone to reflect on the madder corners of fab without having to sanitize and censor what you say. Also, sometimes major life changes might mean we don't have access to established friendship groups for a period. Fab is one way to meet a variety of interesting people you wouldn't necessarily meet in our vanilla life silos."

We do all that and play, with new people and regulars, that's part of it

But won't do a social only meets....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Totally agree, yep we love going on a social only meet, being interviewed and tapped up for info, NOT...

Bit harsh! Different life stages, different needs. As a single it can be good sometimes to have a couple of beers with someone to reflect on the madder corners of fab without having to sanitize and censor what you say. Also, sometimes major life changes might mean we don't have access to established friendship groups for a period. Fab is one way to meet a variety of interesting people you wouldn't necessarily meet in our vanilla life silos."

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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago

bristol

I always try and have a social first

It helps to see if there is a spark of attraction and can add a little spice...also where does it say a social cant turn into something else if both feel it and have the time for more

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By *randMrs Spanish BrunetteCouple
over a year ago

home sweet home

We like to have social meets. Even if it's social with planning to play straight after.

Also I love chatting and meeting people so I'm in into as many lounge socials as possible

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Well OP your welcome back to one of my socials anytime you were great fun.

I do find attending the big organised socials are far easier than arranging smaller or solo ones though. Most of my one on one socials have been with single fems

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks Saz we'll definitely be attending your next one. Do love the big organised socials great way of meeting people and potentially finding people to play with. Thanks for all comments made interesting reading. Obviously people do have different views on social meets. For us a social meet still is a must still, we both couldn't play with someone we weren't attracted to

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Thanks Saz we'll definitely be attending your next one. Do love the big organised socials great way of meeting people and potentially finding people to play with. Thanks for all comments made interesting reading. Obviously people do have different views on social meets. For us a social meet still is a must still, we both couldn't play with someone we weren't attracted to "

Nor could we play with anyone we weren't attracted to , and I would guess that's the case for everyone else who says they don't do social only meets .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Male here. Just thought I'd post as newish couple so still finding are feet somewhat but love to hear people's opinions on social meets. I'm talking about meeting for a drink and a chat here. Reason for asking as over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?. We both love the social side of swinging and just started attending more organised social events"

Those who are willing to establish attraction with a social first are worth their weight in gold! Much better rapport and play

Good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?"

It is not the lack of sex that stops people, it's that couples very rarely can do drop-of-the-hat meets, unless they specify the time that suits them - like you are doing when you post the meet. Have you, as a couple, looked at posted meets and managed to join another couple on their last-minute request? It is not so easy, esp. for parents. If you were open to single men you would be inundated with drinks-only offers. It's just that couple-couple meets take more effort to arrange.

As for the fabbing winking but not messaging, I would take that as a sign of "not too bothered, I could take it or leave it" or "not actively looking to meet right now but you guys look hot".

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"over last month put two meet requests up first one was when we were attending Quest one night and other was to see if anyone fancied drinks tonight and a chat. Aren't people willing to meet when sex wouldn't be on the table?

It is not the lack of sex that stops people, it's that couples very rarely can do drop-of-the-hat meets, unless they specify the time that suits them - like you are doing when you post the meet. Have you, as a couple, looked at posted meets and managed to join another couple on their last-minute request? It is not so easy, esp. for parents. If you were open to single men you would be inundated with drinks-only offers. It's just that couple-couple meets take more effort to arrange.

As for the fabbing winking but not messaging, I would take that as a sign of "not too bothered, I could take it or leave it" or "not actively looking to meet right now but you guys look hot"."
Female here thanks for the compliment we understand couples find it difficult we would not expect drop of hat meets would be planned in advance we both work too and we mainly put up meet requests for clubs if anyone is going xx

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Well my area is full of guys constantly looking for meets and moaning that no one is genuine or meets, when I have put up a meet for social only, I get zilch response, so unless sex is on the table they are not interested.....then they go back to moaning, its the way of fab!

"

Perhaps all these guys are married/attached, and have read your profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well my area is full of guys constantly looking for meets and moaning that no one is genuine or meets, when I have put up a meet for social only, I get zilch response, so unless sex is on the table they are not interested.....then they go back to moaning, its the way of fab!

Perhaps all these guys are married/attached, and have read your profile?"
I think her profile is spot on x female replying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always have a social meet. Usually make it early in the evening as it either works out or it doesn't. An hour of my time is hardly a wasted evening.

Not sure how long you expect a social meet to last. Mine have lasted from 20 mins to a new record of nearly 5 hours. Ok so we did play as well

There's no need for dinner and drinks for a social meet when a quick coffee would do. Never make whoever your meeting feel as if it was a waste of time either. If there's no connection you'll know quite quickly.

"

30 minutes works for me. Social meet first with no chance of play or kissing. It puts people off that I'm not compatible with. I don't want to waste their time.

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