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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

any 1 agree we should name n shame time waisters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well no.....cos anyone could lie.what would stop me saying we arranged to meet and you didn't show? Its my word against yours.

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By *udistnorthantsMan
over a year ago

Desborough

Just block and delete and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well no.....cos anyone could lie.what would stop me saying we arranged to meet and you didn't show? Its my word against yours. "
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, far to many bitter people on here would abuse it when you just simply turn then down etc.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's incredibly annoying,but it wouldn't really work would it,people lie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the point ? People wouldn't read the list as it would be to long . People don't even read profiles let alone a name and Shame list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, because how you define a time waster may differ hugely to what one is!

I got called a time waster yesterday for politely replying no thanks to a guy I wasn't interested in. Does that make me a time waster?

It's your word against theirs and nothing to stop someone just naming someone because they wouldn't meet them, rather than for actually being a time waster.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope just grow up and realize it won't be the last time you get let down in life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well no.....cos anyone could lie.what would stop me saying we arranged to meet and you didn't show? Its my word against yours. "

Completely agree. And define time waster. I think someone not turning up for an arranged meet would count but some people accuse you of time wasting if you chat for a while then decide you don't want to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any 1 agree we should name n shame time waisters "

No I think even the concept is ill conceived

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been totally screwed over on Friday night with my FB, we traveled over an hour and a half to meet a couple only for them to be no shows I would have said yes on Friday.

Now though, I think naming and shaming isn't really very good for anyone, can you imagine the forums, it would just be awash with people complaining, oh hang on. But seriously, it would cause more damage to the site then it would solve the issue of time wasters.

And as someone said, the definition varies between users.

I've been called a time waster because I chose not to meet someone after we'd chatted for a while, I told her that it didn't feel right and she lost her shit with me. But I didn't know I didn't want to meet her until I'd learnt more about her. So in my mind it was time well spent, she didn't get what she wanted and so she saw it as time wasted.

I think just report en, block em and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Naming and shaming someone just seems extremely petty IMO

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

Id prefer name n shame for those who misrepresent

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

No ,too many spiteful people would abuse it .

Miss

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

No. Wrong for many reasons.

Name them in your report to fab admin only, along with a full report.

What is your definition of time wasters op?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Actually OP there IS a name and shame facility here - it's called reporting the profile in question to admin where you can provide details of your grievance including a no show and if deemed worthy appropriate action will be taken.

All done privately and allows both sides of a story to be heard without the pitfalls others have rightly pointed out above.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well no.....cos anyone could lie.what would stop me saying we arranged to meet and you didn't show? Its my word against yours. "
well said who are we to judge

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"No, far to many bitter people on here would abuse it when you just simply turn then down etc."

+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't work cos people could lie and also someone could not meet one person for whatever reason but be there with bells on for another person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if you can take a photograph to prove that they weren't where they said they'd be?

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk

No. Next........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally support not being able to name & shame on the forums. People can sometimes be hasty in their approach, which can only lead to petty, revengeful posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reasons Fab perplexes me number 743: People will never actually name 'positively' people in 'which forumers do you fancy' threads but are happy to 'negatively' name them in name & shame threads ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"any 1 agree we should name n shame time waisters "
no. I got called a time waster for saying I didn't want to meet someone. Just cos I was chatting to him. I told him straightaway I wasn't meeting at the time. He suddenly turned nasty and abusive. So no. Don't name & shame cos it's unfair on the innocent accused.

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