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Can't cum on regular basis

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey I was wondering if anyone here has a similar experience, I can cum on my own easily, and the first few times being with someone I'm usually fine but sometimes struggle, but after a while I just stop cumming with my partners, it's not usually like after a few times either it can just be after the one time, is it just because it gets boring for me?

Any advice or suggestions would be appreciated

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Do you watch a lot of porn and/or wank a lot?

This can desensitise a man to the point where he finds it difficult to cum when with a lady because real life is nothing like the porn industry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I used to on a daily basis, but I'm toning it down a bit though, my previous partners would get frustrated eventually and I think that just made me think about it more and then I just wouldn't

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By *octorfox69Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Go see your doctor, that way you will get the help you need

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By *haneleviMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

Yeah I'm the same. I need to feel rewlly turned on to actually finish. Otherwise it's abit of a chore and just drags.

The porn comment makes sense also as I watch it most nights !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go see your doctor, that way you will get the help you need "

Or

Stop wanking

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go see your doctor, that way you will get the help you need

Or

Stop wanking"

You'd think after 6 years of struggling to cum I'd have tried this commonly suggested solution

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go see your doctor, that way you will get the help you need

Or

Stop wanking

You'd think after 6 years of struggling to cum I'd have tried this commonly suggested solution "

I just can't imagine feeling the need to visit the Dr about it! Fuck that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go see your doctor, that way you will get the help you need

Or

Stop wanking

You'd think after 6 years of struggling to cum I'd have tried this commonly suggested solution

I just can't imagine feeling the need to visit the Dr about it! Fuck that "

Yeah, especially when you get nowhere with them, I probably just get bored of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be the same when I watched porn to the point of near addiction, now I only watch it maybe once a fortnight if that, and sex feels so much better now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon you should look at porn of nature birds to lower your tolerance, so when you meet nice birds, you go next level.

If you choose porn with ridiculously nice girls and then meet average girls, it won't be as stimulating. Try it cos it's better than going cold turkey but but should help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meant mature not nature

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dude youre 22 you should be ale to cum whenever.

Cum, rinse repeat lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're watching too much porn, and as a result you've become desensitised to real sex.

Because sex rarely replicates the porn you're watching it isn't exciting enough to get you off.

You need to stop watching it and cut down on the wanking for a while and let your mind reset itself.

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"You're watching too much porn, and as a result you've become desensitised to real sex.

Because sex rarely replicates the porn you're watching it isn't exciting enough to get you off.

You need to stop watching it and cut down on the wanking for a while and let your mind reset itself. "

This

And stop thinking of previous issues where partners were frustrated. That's in your subconcious. Relax... take some space from daily satisfaction, let some tension build and then chill into some nice slow sensual sex to reconnect the joy of personal touch

Good luck bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reckon you should look at porn of nature birds to lower your tolerance, so when you meet nice birds, you go next level.

If you choose porn with ridiculously nice girls and then meet average girls, it won't be as stimulating. Try it cos it's better than going cold turkey but but should help "

Nature birds....you mean like seagulls and parrots....yeah try that..

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Some medication can affect it. Worrying about it can make it worse. Stress can too. While some say stop wanking, have you tried edging yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mind is very powerful, use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reckon you should look at porn of nature birds to lower your tolerance, so when you meet nice birds, you go next level."

So birdwatching is the answer!

I don't see how watching less attractive women would help, when OP says he can't orgasm with the same woman twice - irrespective of whether they are hot or not.

I'd say cold turkey on the porn. When you go back to getting excited by seeing the proverbial exposed ankle you'll find it a lot easier to knock one out. Cut the stimulation down in order to get more stimulated - less is more!

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