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By *y Pussy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Crickhowell

Ok guys and girls what would you call Vanilla sex...do you just lay there and take it... what do you wear...do i leave my toys behind...Not really my thing but said i might try it with a guy on here...but i would not know where to start lol

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i'd say not just lying there coz that's boring sex, but yeah no toys, nothing kinkier than a finger up the bum.

it's mostly the sex i have had from here really, vanilla. don't really get the depth or trust for anything more.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I wouldnt know what vanilla sex is. I would say boring sex is vanilla but then i dont have boring sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick some vanilla ice cream on your nipples and clit and get him to lick it off! Vanilla!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sticking to a "no kinky stuff rule" isn't that a bit like adhering to the traffic laws while playing Grand Theft Auto?

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Vanilla is different things to different people.

We talk about vanilla as meaning anything not swinging related.

A bdsm fet master, might call light bondage and spanking vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ask him what exactly he means by vanilla sex if I were you. To me vanilla is sex with a non swinging sex partner. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I think vanilla sex is just the two of us having normal sex

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Sticking to a "no kinky stuff rule" isn't that a bit like adhering to the traffic laws while playing Grand Theft Auto? "

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By *ild_oatsMan
over a year ago

the land of saints & sinners

I have found that most of my meets where we first have sex have normally stated off sort of vanilla....

Before moving on to something more kinky....

As trust needs to be developed first on both sides...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no such thing i'm sure OP you have engaged in sex before one on one with a man and enjoyed it without the need to try to turn it into a circus act.

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By *y Pussy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Crickhowell


"There is no such thing i'm sure OP you have engaged in sex before one on one with a man and enjoyed it without the need to try to turn it into a circus act. "

Yes I Have indeed...but i do have a bag of toys which i normally use...not turning it into a circus act As you put it... but pleasures me and the guys im with...this meet wants me to try without...

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield


"There is no such thing i'm sure OP you have engaged in sex before one on one with a man and enjoyed it without the need to try to turn it into a circus act.

Yes I Have indeed...but i do have a bag of toys which i normally use...not turning it into a circus act As you put it... but pleasures me and the guys im with...this meet wants me to try without..."

What do YOU want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the Fetish website I'm on vanilla simply means not kinky. Doesn't mean boring, just no kink or BDSM. Hubby and I never have what we'd call vanilla sex, even when we're just fucking he's still in charge because of our dynamic even if there's nothing overtly kinky going on. Though there usually is

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I wouldn't meet with just a vague term such as vanilla. I'd be ensuring that our interests are fully satisfying for all.

Vanilla probably is oral and a fuck but he may think it's just him getting oral.

Speak more.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Take a good book. You're going to need it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would ask him what exactly he means by vanilla sex if I were you. To me vanilla is sex with a non swinging sex partner. XXX"

This....it's the day to day sex you have with your partner.

With other people (on here) then probs a bit more variety, a bit of kink etc may come into it more often....but nothing stopping doing that with partner?

More than 1-2-1 is probably not?

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

Vanilla sex is far from boring..

Eye contact, kissing, sensual, soft, taking time to please, exploring. Its my favorite

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Ok guys and girls what would you call Vanilla sex...do you just lay there and take it... what do you wear...do i leave my toys behind...Not really my thing but said i might try it with a guy on here...but i would not know where to start lol "

why does he want you to do this, if you've made it clear you like it some other way...watch out maybe hes trying to convert you, or maybe he just wants sex and has no idea of how to turn the toys on or use a flogger

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Vanilla sex is far from boring..

Eye contact, kissing, sensual, soft, taking time to please, exploring. Its my favorite"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla sex? What's that? Does it involve Icecream? .

Just because you don't bring toys doesn't mean it will be boring.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Vanilla is different things to different people.

We talk about vanilla as meaning anything not swinging related.

A bdsm fet master, might call light bondage and spanking vanilla."

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Vanilla sex is far from boring..

Eye contact, kissing, sensual, soft, taking time to please, exploring. Its my favorite

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its my least favourite, the guys on here want sex, no commitment, in exchange i want my favourite which is kink..simple reciprocal..horses for courses. without kink in my life, vanilla isn't worth the effort, when it is in my life vanilla is the side salad, i eat it on occasions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's suggested it he probably means he wants to try 'normal' 1 on 1 sex with you first.

Might just be trying to make a connection with you before moving on to kinkier stuff! However that doesn't mean it will be boring - he might be a demon with his tongue or know every position in the book

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think you need to be a swinger or meeting people from a swinging site to have enjoyable, varied and innovative sex. Its a myth that only swingers have non-vanilla sex (how I dislike tjat term) there are millions of people being extremely kinky in private monogamy.

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By *y Pussy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Crickhowell


"Take a good book. You're going to need it! "

Ha ha

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By *y Pussy OP   Woman
over a year ago

Crickhowell


"Ok guys and girls what would you call Vanilla sex...do you just lay there and take it... what do you wear...do i leave my toys behind...Not really my thing but said i might try it with a guy on here...but i would not know where to start lol

why does he want you to do this, if you've made it clear you like it some other way...watch out maybe hes trying to convert you, or maybe he just wants sex and has no idea of how to turn the toys on or use a flogger "

Perhaps your right...I do have a range 0f toys abd restraints...

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By *r 007Man
over a year ago

harrogate


"Ok guys and girls what would you call Vanilla sex...do you just lay there and take it... what do you wear...do i leave my toys behind...Not really my thing but said i might try it with a guy on here...but i would not know where to start lol

why does he want you to do this, if you've made it clear you like it some other way...watch out maybe hes trying to convert you, or maybe he just wants sex and has no idea of how to turn the toys on or use a flogger

Perhaps your right...I do have a range 0f toys abd restraints..."

How many toys do you have

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Vanilla sex is far from boring..

Eye contact, kissing, sensual, soft, taking time to please, exploring. Its my favorite"

Exactly, I find mechanical aids pretty boring to be honest, all I need is a naked man with some passion!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I don't think you need to be a swinger or meeting people from a swinging site to have enjoyable, varied and innovative sex. Its a myth that only swingers have non-vanilla sex (how I dislike tjat term) there are millions of people being extremely kinky in private monogamy."

It make's me giggle when people think they're so hip and kinky because they're on here and somehow extremely different to people not on the site.

I think it's a little sad actually and I don't mean that in a bad way that some people can't have sex/make love without bringing some instrument into play to get turned on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The vast majority of the sex I've had in my life could be described as vanilla. The kinky stuff has been few and far between. I've rarely felt bored, them againI am still pleased just to get some

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Vanilla sex is far from boring..

Eye contact, kissing, sensual, soft, taking time to please, exploring. Its my favorite"

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Ok guys and girls what would you call Vanilla sex...do you just lay there and take it... what do you wear...do i leave my toys behind...Not really my thing but said i might try it with a guy on here...but i would not know where to start lol "

I'd say he wants sex with you but doesn't fancy you fucking him with the strap on in your photos which is why he's mentioned vanilla sex.

No idea why he can't just tell you that though

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