FabSwingers.com forum: What do curves mean??

By *ltimateGem OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I would describe myself as Reubenesque Plus Size. Which means I have curves but with quite a big belly. I think nowadays they call it an over-hang! It concerns me as I think it looks unsightly and I'm conscious that sex partners would feel the same.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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on here curvy does mean exactly that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would describe myself as Reubenesque Plus Size. Which means I have curves but with quite a big belly. I think nowadays they call it an over-hang! It concerns me as I think it looks unsightly and I'm conscious that sex partners would feel the same."

If they think that then they shouldn't be your sex partners, all that matters is that you feel happy with yourself.

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton

Love curves!! Especially in saucy pin up attire

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over a year ago

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I'm overweight but still have an hourglass shape. Hate my stomach area.

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By *ltimateGem OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I wish that was so. Men that I tend to have sex with have never seen my belly initially. Only whilst in coitus, or just before.

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By *hoenixandflamesCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Sounds great. I am sure it looks great.

Google image search results in some good sights...

Hands up for those that agree... ?

And "don't screw em" for the ones that don't find it attractive.

Flames

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rock your curves, whether you have lots or just a few!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a big stomach and some overhang. Men don't mind it as much as you think they do. I don't describe myself as curvy, but they do. I stick with ample or large, usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish that was so. Men that I tend to have sex with have never seen my belly initially. Only whilst in coitus, or just before."
hey you will be surprised what the guys of Fab will like x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish that was so. Men that I tend to have sex with have never seen my belly initially. Only whilst in coitus, or just before."

Coitus, this word immediately reminds me of Big bang theory

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

This exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Means your not gay!

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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you've got a lot of good verifications, some repeat ones from the same people. people do seem to like you.

wouldn't worry about your belly at all. loads of us have 'imperfections' and a lot of people are realistic about that and accept them, many even love them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish that was so. Men that I tend to have sex with have never seen my belly initially. Only whilst in coitus, or just before."

Seriously, like another poster said, men don't care as much as you think they do.

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By *ltimateGem OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"you've got a lot of good verifications, some repeat ones from the same people. people do seem to like you.

wouldn't worry about your belly at all. loads of us have 'imperfections' and a lot of people are realistic about that and accept them, many even love them.

These are mostly from friends who I talk to socially. God forbid if they've all fucked me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm size 32 & it definitely hasn't stopped me from having plenty of fun and lots of offers.

My attitude if I might wish I looked different (slimmer) but I'm a work in progress and it's the only body I've got so I'm going to enjoy it.

I'm quite comfortable being naked in front of a sexual partner because I figure I'm not forcing them to see me naked but if they want to it's much more enjoyable for both (or all if more than two!

) if you can embrace your flaws and give into the fun and pleasure.

Plus I find the things I might hate about my body some people find attractive.

If you can make peace with your body... no ones body is perfect, but we only have the one so we might as well make the most of the one we have!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curvy is a shape, not a size.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"you've got a lot of good verifications, some repeat ones from the same people. people do seem to like you.

wouldn't worry about your belly at all. loads of us have 'imperfections' and a lot of people are realistic about that and accept them, many even love them.

These are mostly from friends who I talk to socially. God forbid if they've all fucked me!"

yeah i noticed some social ones don't worry.

even if they weren't it wouldn't bother me either.

but people do like you, i noticed a lot of compliments in them also on your appearance, and the word friend (which i personally liked that word the best).

i think a lot of people are not perfect, you do get the occasional guy who expects a bevvy of 'beauties' to be rushing to jump on his cock, but most people are totally realistic in that real people have real bodies.

couple of years back i put a pic up with my belly on and it was my fastest and most fabbed pic. which surprised me but i wanted to show a realistic image of my body so did that.

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By *ltimateGem OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'm size 32 & it definitely hasn't stopped me from having plenty of fun and lots of offers.

My attitude if I might wish I looked different (slimmer) but I'm a work in progress and it's the only body I've got so I'm going to enjoy it.

I'm quite comfortable being naked in front of a sexual partner because I figure I'm not forcing them to see me naked but if they want to it's much more enjoyable for both (or all if more than two!

) if you can embrace your flaws and give into the fun and pleasure.

Plus I find the things I might hate about my body some people find attractive.

If you can make peace with your body... no ones body is perfect, but we only have the one so we might as well make the most of the one we have!

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a big stomach and overhang as well. Men will either like you or not, if your stomach others men that much then they're not the ones you want to be with x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my "muffin top"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish that was so. Men that I tend to have sex with have never seen my belly initially. Only whilst in coitus, or just before.

Coitus, this word immediately reminds me of Big bang theory

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haha and me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two c sections , a hysterectomy and a love of food and gin means I have a belly. I make it clear in my profile. I've had no negative comments yet. . Its all part of you.be proud

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

OP, by the time a person is going to become a sex partner, I think they are fully aware of what your body is like - if they found it unsightly they wouldn't (hopefully) be in that position. No one appeals to everyone but you can be certain if they want you, you appeal to them.

I did send meets full lengths of me so they could be certain what they were getting - that can help alleviate some of the worry but only if that's what you are comfortable and willing to do.

I know it's easier said than done but learning to be comfortable and happy with what you have and not worry about what others think is one of the more attractive traits a person can have.

If you want to call yourself curvy, do it. It's such a subjective term and I've seen a myriad of different sized and shaped people and people use it to describe their body; if it's what works best for you, own it.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"I wish that was so. Men that I tend to have sex with have never seen my belly initially. Only whilst in coitus, or just before."

And do they run away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexy comes in all sizes. You've got it, flaunt it.

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By *ew2878Man
over a year ago

Warminster

Can lasses on here stop saying men don't think about it. Not all men think about it some men do. I for one when it comes to sex don't really care all to much but wouldn't go for a social with someone drastically over weight and wouldn't sleep with them to. This seems shallow but the amount of women on here that are obese and have high standards annoy me. Op you are not in bad shape and still have a figure but if it effects you there is a chance it effects them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure your 77 verifications strongly disagree with you x

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Can lasses on here stop saying men don't think about it. Not all men think about it some men do. I for one when it comes to sex don't really care all to much but wouldn't go for a social with someone drastically over weight and wouldn't sleep with them to. This seems shallow but the amount of women on here that are obese and have high standards annoy me. Op you are not in bad shape and still have a figure but if it effects you there is a chance it effects them."

yes sorry #notallmen...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you saying because they are fat they should have low standards? Or just accept any tom dick or harry.

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By *elloIntrigueMan
over a year ago

North West UK

Be yourself, accept yourself, love yourself and be confident. All in all it makes a fine package that works no matter who we are!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Sorry I can't help being too fabulous to want to fuck you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I can't help being too fabulous to want to fuck you

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Agree with comments above.. sexy is an attraction.. doesn't matter to most.

For me personally it's; 75% personality, 15% bum (who doesn't love a peachy bum) and 10% something unique that attracts me about them (could be nice eyes, sexy perfume, back dimples, anything... that's the fun part)

Be comfortable in yourself first and others will be comfortable in you

Ps you have a beautiful smile too

And obviously great boobs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm considered obese and I have high standards which include not meeting body beautiful people with body shaming attitudes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excuse me but might I point out the obvious here......a lot of men on Fab have "curves" and are overweight with flabby belly overhangs too. Most of the men I have fked have had some belly flab, some have been very fat. Us women can put on a Basque and stockings to cover our flabby bits, straight men can't. I am size 16 and I,'ve never had a complaint about my flab XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really interesting reading this post as there is always something we don't like about ourselves. I have met some younger guys who turned out to be regular fb and I questioned in my own mind why they wanted to see me, why they found me attractive. We're our own worst enemy so let's embrace our curves, our belly fat, our stretch marks or scars and start feeling confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really interesting reading this post as there is always something we don't like about ourselves. I have met some younger guys who turned out to be regular fb and I questioned in my own mind why they wanted to see me, why they found me attractive. We're our own worst enemy so let's embrace our curves, our belly fat, our stretch marks or scars and start feeling confident

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This "obese people shouldn't have high standards" crap.

Since when did someone's weight define what they're worth?

If you don't find fat people attractive then feel free to move along, but don't turn around and say that we are unworthy of being found attractive, of being found sexy, of being loved.

Because we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP, by the time a person is going to become a sex partner, I think they are fully aware of what your body is like - if they found it unsightly they wouldn't (hopefully) be in that position. No one appeals to everyone but you can be certain if they want you, you appeal to them.

I did send meets full lengths of me so they could be certain what they were getting - that can help alleviate some of the worry but only if that's what you are comfortable and willing to do.

I know it's easier said than done but learning to be comfortable and happy with what you have and not worry about what others think is one of the more attractive traits a person can have.

Love this this comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mummy tummy here! Having TT in less than 3 weeks.

Use to hide it, now I drop it into conversation and that way if they do "spot it" I don't feel any less of a woman. I know I shouldn't feel bad about it but I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a really shame you have said/ implied that just because someone is obese they shouldn't have high standards. As we are all human and entitled to respect.

But you are right some guys it's an issue for, but that's ok because no one is attractive to everyone.

I would question what high standards mean... I think my standards are that I need to like the person and be attracted to them... I would hope that's what everyone looks for too.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Curvy is shapely, not straight, surely?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Curves mean never having to say youre sorry ........or is that lurve damn who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence in your own skin is a dificult thing to master.

If you can 'own it' and accept yourself for who you are, you won't care what other people think and will be happier for it.

I have struggled for decades with my body shape as I believed I wasn't good enough, too tall, too skinny, not what people want. A breakdown forced me to take stock and re-evaluate.

Now I just accept I am me. Not perfect. Not expected to be.

Rock your curves! A lot of people won't care and want to see the inner you. Be confident in your beauty!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rock your curves, whether you have lots or just a few! "

Definitely! Men love all shapes and sizes. You will see this if you visit any club.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Curvy is shapely, not straight, surely? "

This

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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I hate my tummy and many other parts of my body. I constantly question how anymore could find my body desirable. As such for years I held back during sex. I wouldn't allow myself to relax. At times I still get the voice of disgust in my head about how awful I must look in certain positions. Even the self doubts that mean if someone's been with more attractive and slimmer women, I'd be put off for fear I can't match up.

However if being here has taught me anything, its that size or shape doesn't define us. And there's someone for everyone. Confidence seems to be key and if you don't have it.. fake it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate my tummy and many other parts of my body. I constantly question how anymore could find my body desirable. As such for years I held back during sex. I wouldn't allow myself to relax. At times I still get the voice of disgust in my head about how awful I must look in certain positions. Even the self doubts that mean if someone's been with more attractive and slimmer women, I'd be put off for fear I can't match up.

However if being here has taught me anything, its that size or shape doesn't define us. And there's someone for everyone. Confidence seems to be key and if you don't have it.. fake it!"

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the words of Alannis ~ "isn't it ironic"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See as a guy that's not got a gym body I kinda get where your coming from with this op,but you know what ....guys are not all shallow ,not all women are shallow ...you look pretty dam fine to me ,love yourself because nothing shines more than confidence ....who appeals to one person won't appeal to another ,we all like and find something different attractive ..thank god

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Curvy is a shape, not a size."

bang on

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Same as with motorbikes and roads.

Curves are more fun than straight up and down!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I would say have clear pics with your figure on,so potential meets can see your shape .That way they can decide if they like it etc.

I dont think it matters what people describe themselves as,as long as they have clear body pics.I think shape can be subjective.

Miss

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By *ew2878Man
over a year ago

Warminster

If someone has a physical attraction to someone overweight or obese that that's there desire. If your going to complain about this belly or weight issue witch some of you are then do something to make you more confident. As to the standards people are asking for, this high amount of "flabby men" on fab not meet your standards to? Its just double standards on both half's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men like curves-I like cake! Lol

Win win!!

But seriously confidence is sexy - not size or shape

We went to a club on Wednesday and Will chose my outfit - not one I would have chosen as I still lack confidence. His reaction before I left the house, and the comments in the club made me realise that he has damned good taste! Lol

Sara

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just someone who is happy, confident and loves their body.

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