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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is hard for me to open up to anyone normally but I need to say this in a hope it helps me and others going through a similar situation.

Yesterday I got up and made my sarnies for work and as I was getting ready I just didn't feel right, I haven't been eating or sleeping properly for a couple of weeks.

Anyway I got into the car set off the feeling was getting stronger I became all panicky and scared and for no apparent reason when I got to the roundabout about 3 miles from work and just turned around and came home, I was shaking and feeling very emotional and still am.

I've been to the doctors and after some deep conversation and honesty it appears I had an anxiety attack brought on by hidden stress's I didn't realise I had.

I was brought up in a generation where men don't show weakness.

I don't like these feelings!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done. Recognising the feelings is the first step to dealing with them.

You'll get through it.

Hugs xxx

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

Im really pleased you went to the drs, its so common and I promise you arent alone. In either this or being a grown ass man with stress!

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

. Hopefully you feel better soon. I'd send you some good vibes, I'm recharging my own right now, I've had a bad few days myself pal. We can be strong men. But we're also human.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive been through this - got partway through a tesco shop and literally left the trolley and came home- i was already seeing the dr so realised it was part of what was going on but yes scary - panic attacks are frightening - i had to get sensible head on (i have one of these sometimes) - made myself go back - first time i got to the main doors but couldnt go in so went back to the car and told myself off - i wont go into issues that made me feel this way but i wasnt going to let that other person have that control over me again - so i went in and got the bare essentials - and came out - it took an age as i was constantly telling myself stuff - i wont lie i still have these sometimes but give myself a virtual slap and yes get a grip of myself (not saying its - easy but its how i cope with it)

sorry youre feeling this way and glad you went to see the drs - xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is hard for me to open up to anyone normally but I need to say this in a hope it helps me and others going through a similar situation.

Yesterday I got up and made my sarnies for work and as I was getting ready I just didn't feel right, I haven't been eating or sleeping properly for a couple of weeks.

I've been to the doctors and after some deep conversation and honesty it appears I had an anxiety attack brought on by hidden stress's I didn't realise I had.

I was brought up in a generation where men don't show weakness.

I don't like these feelings!

It’s horrible isn’t it? But at least you now know what it is and will be able to recognise them in future and hopefully head them off...

Hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully, these words will help. We will all go through situations like this at some stage in our lives. Personally, I don't see it as a sign of weakness, it's a sign that we have tried to stay too strong, for too long.

I'm glad you sought help through the Dr.

I had my own personal experience a few years ago. I felt as if I failed somebody whom I should have been there for. I felt like I could've done more for him. Alas it took a while, and some help, to realise that all I could do was be there for him, and support him as best as I could.

Hopefully, the feeling will lift soon and your stresses can be dealt with easily.

Just remember, you don't have to do it alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done for acting on it. As a much as there is a stigma or so people think it's so much more common and half the problem is people don't talk.

Hugs to you huni xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear OP. There is no shame to opening up about these things.. It makes you human. I hope you get some help and manage to feel better soon. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A huge well done for going to the Doctors.

You are not alone in this. 1 in 4 people at any one time will be suffering from something mental health related.

There is a lot of help out there. Keep talking.

This isn't a weakness, you are human and you will get better x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bigs hugs lovely x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good to hear you sought help from the doctor and that you are facing this head on. Anxiety issues are much more common than people think

Kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs pp! And good for going to the drs. ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is hard for me to open up to anyone normally but I need to say this in a hope it helps me and others going through a similar situation.

Yesterday I got up and made my sarnies for work and as I was getting ready I just didn't feel right, I haven't been eating or sleeping properly for a couple of weeks.

I've been to the doctors and after some deep conversation and honesty it appears I had an anxiety attack brought on by hidden stress's I didn't realise I had.

I was brought up in a generation where men don't show weakness.

I don't like these feelings!

Oh pp first I'd like to give you a massive hug and say well done on getting yourself to the doctors. It's hard to accept you have a problem no matter if you're a man or woman. But going and getting some help is to be applauded. Any of us can have those feelings at any time so it's not a weakness, it's a sign you've been strong for long enough.

You've started on the road to recovery now and there will be blips along the way you will feel better soon. We're always here to listen to a rant and offer a friendly ear for any problems you wish to share. But talking is good therapy. Hope you feel that opening up is helping. We all understand and many of us will have experienced exactly the same thing xx

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Big huggles mg lovely PP xx

Get the brushes out this weekend and try and canvas your frustrations and relax. You know where friends always are if you want to talk something through xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for once I've read every post and your words have touched me, I know what I need to do and once I stop feeling emotional then I'll get off my arse and do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for once I've read every post and your words have touched me, I know what I need to do and once I stop feeling emotional then I'll get off my arse and do it."

lots of stopping yourself in your tracks - taking a deep breath and then saying right and go forth - x

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Big hugs and kisses sweetie, you've taken a massive step well done, it takes great courage to ask for help xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey PP. A man hug from me. Those pesky stereotypical messages about keeping emotions and feelings to yourself, suppressed and out of the way can be so damaging.

There is strength in being willing to open up about our feelings and being willing to be vulnerable. We can't heal our wounds without them getting some air.

Remember emotion is the energy behind movement e-motion - if we bottle them up they can paralyse us. It's good to share your emotions

Hope you're feeling better soon x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for once I've read every post and your words have touched me, I know what I need to do and once I stop feeling emotional then I'll get off my arse and do it.

lots of stopping yourself in your tracks - taking a deep breath and then saying right and go forth - x"

You've known me longer than most and I know you would kick my arse if you physically could x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for once I've read every post and your words have touched me, I know what I need to do and once I stop feeling emotional then I'll get off my arse and do it.

lots of stopping yourself in your tracks - taking a deep breath and then saying right and go forth - x

You've known me longer than most and I know you would kick my arse if you physically could x"

probably x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good work dude - opening up is a huge step.

The sooner we get rid of the term 'man up' the better. The implication that as a man you cant have feelings, fears or be in pain is just ridiculous.

A man between 20-49 is more likely to die from suicide than cancer, heart disease or road accidents. It's the biggest killer of men in this age group. In my mind it's symptomatic of the things you've mentioned and only a small number who kill themselves have any record of problems before they take their life.

We should be able to speak out, to talk to people, to cry and ask for help but the outdated notion that men have to be strong at all times is a massive obstacle to this.

I know I'm not great at this but I'm getting better at it. I've never had to visit a doctor but it has crossed my mind in the past.

I hope the help you get gives you the peace you need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good work dude - opening up is a huge step.

The sooner we get rid of the term 'man up' the better. The implication that as a man you cant have feelings, fears or be in pain is just ridiculous.

We should be able to speak out, to talk to people, to cry and ask for help but the outdated notion that men have to be strong at all times is a massive obstacle to this.

I know I'm not great at this but I'm getting better at it. I've never had to visit a doctor but it has crossed my mind in the past.

I hope the help you get gives you the peace you need."

Very well put

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm giving you a virtual high 5 here PP.

My name is Miss PP and I am currently off work due to stress and anxiety.

I have recently had my fair share of these arseholes that are panic attacks. Honestly going to the docs is without doubt a huge hurdle you've leapt over (coz that's the part where you have to admit to someone else you're not "fine")

There's nothing at all to be ashamed of, and I mean nothing.

I've come such a long way in the space of weeks and I'm sure you will too, because you're not too pig headed to admit your brain is being a little bugger.

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

Well done for spotting the signs and going to the docs!

Well done for opening up on here too, I've noticed a few posts pop up on here about mental health problems such as depression and anxiety and there has been some good advice given, tbh I almost put a post of my own up yesterday as I wasn't having a good day at all.

Stay safe!

You're stronger than you think!

Keep up with the docs appointments and be honest with them.

Take all the help you can get.

Don't try to deal with it by yourself by bottling it up.

Have a look on the book of faces for 'andys man club' there can be some good advice and support on there and may be a group near you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pat on the back little fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done going to the docs.

I drive for a living and I realised the same thing.

White knuckles gripping the wheel and sweating...

Had the shakes a little and that was down to stress..

Since then I've had a bloody heart attack and was seriously unwell..

Don't be ashamed to talk to anyone is my advice..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've had a good few days but not so today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a good few days but not so today."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a good few days but not so today."

Fab family's got your back PP

Fuzz

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had a good few days but not so today.

Fab family's got your back PP

Fuzz"

It's just when you think you are getting somewhere then bang, you find out ya not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a good few days but not so today."

Oh be kind to yourself today then. We're all here for you. And it's expected to have low days. Chocolate is what the doctor orders, or even cake. Take care x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a good few days but not so today.

Fab family's got your back PP

Fuzz

It's just when you think you are getting somewhere then bang, you find out ya not."

I don't know what to say to help you PP, apart from a pat on the back and hope you feel yourself soon.

*not meant to be rude, but you just can't help it around here can you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always here for you buddy

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Hey you know I'm waiting for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is hard for me to open up to anyone normally but I need to say this in a hope it helps me and others going through a similar situation.

Yesterday I got up and made my sarnies for work and as I was getting ready I just didn't feel right, I haven't been eating or sleeping properly for a couple of weeks.

I've been to the doctors and after some deep conversation and honesty it appears I had an anxiety attack brought on by hidden stress's I didn't realise I had.

I was brought up in a generation where men don't show weakness.

I don't like these feelings!

Hey sorry to hear your suffering from anxiety. And hey it takes strength to show feelings not shut them down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kudos for not ignoring it.

I did for years thinking I should man up... it doesn't work.

I recently did the same as you and have sought counselling after seeing the Dr. Do what works for you, but try and deal with the underlying issues as well as treating the symptoms.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you feel better xx

This is horrible feeling and it's a scary one xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had a good few days but not so today."

Massive respect to you for having the strength to go to the docs straight away PP.

One day at a time Dude. You can do it

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I've had a good few days but not so today."

Tomorrow is another day and the good ones are outweighing the bad, that is a start.

Huge respect to you for talking about it, many just hide behind a smile myself included.

Love

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Following the breakdown of my marraige, a stressful job and an abusive childhood I started to have anxiety. This included panic attacks and social anxiety.

I now have panic attacks rarely and am the happiest I have ever been. I have reduced the stress in my life and taken a less demandung job.

Well done for reaching out, you will recover. Hugs

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Only seeing this thread now... Big squishy hugs on the way to you PP... and you know I'm always free to talk (sometimes I might even let you get a word in

Its ok to say 'I'm not ok'. Psychological bruises and pain are just as valid as physical ones. Just because the wound can't be seen, doesn't mean it isn't deep, or doesn't require the same TLC xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey PP, just seen this thread and was sorry to hear you are suffering. It's always good to talk about it and and I'm glad you did seek professional help.

Big Hug to you and a kiss x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had a good few days but not so today.

Fab family's got your back PP

Fuzz

It's just when you think you are getting somewhere then bang, you find out ya not.

I don't know what to say to help you PP, apart from a pat on the back and hope you feel yourself soon.

*not meant to be rude, but you just can't help it around here can you?"
Cheers buzz that's just right tickled me (like you said you can't help it here can you)

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