FabSwingers.com forum: marrying a stranger

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just watching the one show on bbc one and they had a section on forced marriages.. i dont agree with it but ive often thought about marrying a complete stranger

i am probably very unique in this thought but it was from watching 'the wedding planner' that i thought about it

in that film was a quite 'appreciation grew to like, like grew to respect and respect grew to love'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or you could marry a nutter..It's all a bit 'sleeping with the enemy'

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

could even be an axe murderer

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

The difference would be choosing to marry a stranger, rather than being forced to...

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

it's the difference between forced and arranged marriage i suppose.In an arranged marriage both parties believe the system works.

Travelling in India we stayed with a family where the parents had been married for 50 years,they both said love was something that grew.

i can see something in what they say,in that i have far deeper feelings for kev now than 20 years ago.However i am sure there are as many unhappy arranged marriages as love marriages produce.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have an asian friend who i was discussing arranged marriages with and it was fascinating he had only met his wife briefly a couple of times before the wedding and the first time they where alone was there wedding night. He said how they grew to love each othe out of respect. They are divorced now but it was nothing to do with an arranged marriage.

The guy across the road from me is on his third(i think) catolague marriage one was philippine one was cuban not sure about this one

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By *agicman2010Man
over a year ago

nottingham

All those who are saying that marrying a stranger is far to much risky, yes you are complely correct. BUT, I hope this lady does not contact me in the near future and we continue to stay "strangers". Having checked out her profile and seen her amazing pics, ID MARRY HER TOMMORROW. YOUR STUNNING !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In all honesty i doubt id have the bollocks to marry a stranger, but i think the journey would be certainly one to remember and the shared life experiences.

Of course in some marriages could go really tits up to to speak and could end up with someone you are completely not matched too. Some you could strike gold and end up exceptionally happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In all honesty i doubt id have the bollocks to marry a stranger, but i think the journey would be certainly one to remember and the shared life experiences.

Of course in some marriages could go really tits up to to speak and could end up with someone you are completely not matched too. Some you could strike gold and end up exceptionally happy."

i'll marry u but i need to get a new bitta pussy some days during the week lol...welcome to join of course lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"i'll marry u but i need to get a new bitta pussy some days during the week lol...welcome to join of course lol"

Paddy i dont want to marry you lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a way we all marry strangers

Cause as time goes on all people change its a leaning curve really xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i'll marry u but i need to get a new bitta pussy some days during the week lol...welcome to join of course lol

Paddy i dont want to marry you lol.. "

cool...my wife said i cant leave her anyway lol xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

coming from birmingham, your made well aware of this, they have leaflet's in places like the library, dr's, other public buildings, that read along the lines of, " are you being forced into a marrige you dont want" and stuff like that, the is an absolutley gigantic asian community in birmingham, and I have worked with, and played football with, gone to school with etc loads of asian people, and from what conversations ive had, its old school to have an arranged marrige now, most dont, and the ones that do, usually it is forced upon them from elders and the like. Now im no expert, but for the council and places, to bother to make and advice line, and create leaflets, then I would say there is more problems out of arranged marriges, then good things. Also there is a charity run by asian women taht help other asian women in this scenario, in fact i think thers more then one. We can try and be as liberal as we want, but can anybody honestly say, they would like the choice of who they spend the rest of there life with, taken out of there hands, and if you disobayed it you would be banished from your family and looked down on with shame?

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"He said how they grew to love each othe out of respect. They are divorced now but it was nothing to do with an arranged marriage."

This is what I don't understand! A few people have used the first sentence as justification, but if that were the real case, why did they get divorced as in the second sentence? I can sort of accept that you "resign" yourself to being with someone, but I also believe that if we are capable of accepting a complete stranger and "fall in love" with them, there wouldn't be so many divorces these days?

Another thing to remember as well. Those women (generalisation) who are married into an arranged marriage are accepting of the "traditional" values of their home country. As such they would also probably accept the subservient nature of the relationship.

I have three asian friends, two of whom had arranged marriages. Both of them have the little woman at home and both go out drinking and wenching! One even commented that his wife was at home to look after the house. His fun was not her concern.

(BTW, he was on this site for a while but I think his attitude cramped his style a bit!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure how it would work, not after the forum topic, women having the power...

Some say it's hard to get a willing meet, never mind marring someone you didn't know, lolol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure how it would work, not after the forum topic, women having the power...

Some say it's hard to get a willing meet, never mind marring someone you didn't know, lolol"

lmao +1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Immigration Racket

Marry an EU citizen for cash etc

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By *ap AdgeMan
over a year ago

Wirral

yes i dis see that harrowing for some women not really sure about it really

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