FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

Do you go to work for as much money as you can?

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So if you could work a job on much more money (an extra £10+k), or do a job you love, what would you choose?

Current job is a dream job but mediocre pay, I could apply for something reasonably different (which I may love or hate), and get much more money.

Suggestions?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly couldn't afford to live if I did my dream job. Got offered one last year, but it meant taking a £4k pay loss, so couldn't, unfortunately.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've taken a pay cut recently, and am struggling. There's a possibility of a big pay increase but I love what I do

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've taken a pay cut recently, and am struggling. There's a possibility of a big pay increase but I love what I do "

I'm the same I love my new job

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've taken a pay cut recently, and am struggling. There's a possibility of a big pay increase but I love what I do "

It's certainly a tough one. I don't like what I do, but would do the same job, but somewhere else if offered more haha

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inaryGuyMan
over a year ago

Near the River

Difficult call. Personally I would go for the money and then try to fill your life with good things so you have something to look forward to

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if you could work a job on much more money (an extra £10+k), or do a job you love, what would you choose?

Current job is a dream job but mediocre pay, I could apply for something reasonably different (which I may love or hate), and get much more money.

Suggestions?"
in my experience money isnt everything ive earnt loads of money but had no time to enjoy it ,I prefer to have the in between where I get time and enough money but am happy with the job and people I work with

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive never had spare money - and i love my job - the pay is naff but i know im in the right place - people that know me and the kind of person i am will confirm this 100% - if i ever came into money i think i would carry on as a volunteer

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm working for the money at the moment. I'll do it for a few years, set myself up, then do something I really want to do.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I earn okay money but love my job. I've also worked in jobs earning more and hated it. Mentally spending a day doing what I love is worth more than the money that I could be earning even though it means I live on a tightish budget

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eather_Loves_SexWoman
over a year ago

Halfway Between London and Brighton

Well my dream. Job I get to do sometimes and is well paid, but it's getting a regular stream of it that's the problem! Day job is ok and get over £9/ hour so not too bad

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *assybitchWoman
over a year ago

around the world

Job I enjoy

Life's to short to go to a place you don't want to be in day in day out

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I've never liked any job I've done there all a means to a end although I've been doing this job for 20 yrs I'd leave tomorrow if offered more money

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Job I enjoy

Life's to short to go to a place you don't want to be in day in day out

"

Even it would make your life so much easier?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left a reasonably paid job with decent future prospects to go and study to do something with more value.. I lost interest in joining in with the mad race for stuff a while ago I think, id rather do something worthwhile

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your dreams....

The money will follow you if you dare to believe...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I think its awful to work everyday in a job you don't enjoy.

I personally chose a job I know doesn't bring that much money but gives me job satisfaction and is exciting.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

10,000 £834 a month. That's a mortgage for most. 25 years later when it's all paid off. Nice retirement money.

10,000 on top of 18,000 is a good increase

10,000 on top 60,000 is a tax bill.

I am paid well and love my job happy days. Still could do with 10,000k more. As you will always spend what you earn lol.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

I'd base my decision on hours worked.

Does that extra £10k come at the expense of my free time or just at the expense of fully enjoying my day?

The former can stuff it. The latter I can live with.

That extra £10k can be spent on my hobbies making the free time all the more enjoyable.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if you could work a job on much more money (an extra £10+k), or do a job you love, what would you choose?

Current job is a dream job but mediocre pay, I could apply for something reasonably different (which I may love or hate), and get much more money.

Suggestions?"

I could never sell myself out by doing a job i hate just for the money. That way lies misery and disillusionment.

I earn enough to get by, a little more would be nice but i love my job and it gives me immense satisfaction. I think that's far more important.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd base my decision on hours worked.

Does that extra £10k come at the expense of my free time or just at the expense of fully enjoying my day?

The former can stuff it. The latter I can live with.

That extra £10k can be spent on my hobbies making the free time all the more enjoyable."

Ok it's the same hours I do now, so Monday- Friday 9-5. Bank holidays and weekends off. It's closer to home so less travel time?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And the difficulty is- I may love the new job, or hate it. I don't know as I've not done this area of work before, all I know is I love what I'm doing now

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And the difficulty is- I may love the new job, or hate it. I don't know as I've not done this area of work before, all I know is I love what I'm doing now "

I see your dilemma. It's the not knowing that's the problem. If you're the type of character that loves a new challenge then taking on the new job would probably be a good thing but if you prefer to play it safe then stay where you are. Only you will know.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over the years I know people years in jobs they hate only to die not long after giving work up ... Thinking they would have a better life as saved there money.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago

Wrexham


"And the difficulty is- I may love the new job, or hate it. I don't know as I've not done this area of work before, all I know is I love what I'm doing now "

If it were me, I would go for it. More money, less commute time and a brand new field are all greatly enticing.

How hard would it be to come back to your old job?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the years I know people years in jobs they hate only to die not long after giving work up ... Thinking they would have a better life as saved there money."

I know someone just like this too, could have retired but always wanted to wait a few more years to be a little more comfortable... now has an autoimmune disorder and spends most of his days in hospital, genuinely makes me feel sad inside

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the years I know people years in jobs they hate only to die not long after giving work up ... Thinking they would have a better life as saved there money.

I know someone just like this too, could have retired but always wanted to wait a few more years to be a little more comfortable... now has an autoimmune disorder and spends most of his days in hospital, genuinely makes me feel sad inside "
yes I feel sad too and it makes me think money is not everything .... life is and to be happy .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm lucky in that i effing love my job and it pays ok too, four and a half months work does me for the year just about

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can afford to do what you love doing u spend half ur life in work couldn't imagine spending half my life doing something I hate just for some extra material possessions because that's what it would be used for if you are ok on what you already earn

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i'm lucky in that i effing love my job and it pays ok too, four and a half months work does me for the year just about "

however that's not true this year as i've had to take some of summer off and will have to make some more money somewhere else...but that's easy done

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the years I know people years in jobs they hate only to die not long after giving work up ... Thinking they would have a better life as saved there money.

I know someone just like this too, could have retired but always wanted to wait a few more years to be a little more comfortable... now has an autoimmune disorder and spends most of his days in hospital, genuinely makes me feel sad inside yes I feel sad too and it makes me think money is not everything .... life is and to be happy ."

Won't go into a full on anti capitalist rant but sadly society is programmed, on the whole, to believe that happiness comes through the newest technology, a better car, a bigger house, the eternal drive for 'better' things to fill a gap inside that simply can't be filled this way

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Over the years I know people years in jobs they hate only to die not long after giving work up ... Thinking they would have a better life as saved there money.

I know someone just like this too, could have retired but always wanted to wait a few more years to be a little more comfortable... now has an autoimmune disorder and spends most of his days in hospital, genuinely makes me feel sad inside yes I feel sad too and it makes me think money is not everything .... life is and to be happy .

Won't go into a full on anti capitalist rant but sadly society is programmed, on the whole, to believe that happiness comes through the newest technology, a better car, a bigger house, the eternal drive for 'better' things to fill a gap inside that simply can't be filled this way"

Your right. I have a lot of pressure to aim for more, earn more money, work for as much as I can. But I am truly fulfilled doing this. And even if I never earns great deal more than where I am now I am doing what I was supposed to do in life (I think...)

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

My work is voluntary.... So guess that answers that

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aptivatingWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I've loved every job I've had, sometimes I've followed the money, sometimes I've taken pay cuts (the biggest being £15k) because it's been a role I've wanted to experience. That said, you have to be able to afford to live, I've never earned stupid money, but I've never really wanted for anything either until now, but that's me starting a business and it's just going to be tough for some time, but hopefully in the long run it will be the right call for me.

Sum up the pros and cons of each and then go with your gut - good luck!

X

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Already made that choice really - I do the job I love, that affords me plenty of time at home, quality of life and the chance to decide when and who I work with.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I dream of owning a Ferrari & large house in the country one day so yeah wld go for higher paying job even if it sucked lol knowing there is light at the end of the tunnel wld help me soldier through

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands

I'm doing the job I love but not for much longer new horizons and a 20k pay rise

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm doing the job I love but not for much longer new horizons and a 20k pay rise "

How did you make that choice? If it's something you love?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And thank you for everyone's opinions, it's fascinating how everyone sees it so differently

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the years I know people years in jobs they hate only to die not long after giving work up ... Thinking they would have a better life as saved there money.

I know someone just like this too, could have retired but always wanted to wait a few more years to be a little more comfortable... now has an autoimmune disorder and spends most of his days in hospital, genuinely makes me feel sad inside yes I feel sad too and it makes me think money is not everything .... life is and to be happy .

Won't go into a full on anti capitalist rant but sadly society is programmed, on the whole, to believe that happiness comes through the newest technology, a better car, a bigger house, the eternal drive for 'better' things to fill a gap inside that simply can't be filled this way

Your right. I have a lot of pressure to aim for more, earn more money, work for as much as I can. But I am truly fulfilled doing this. And even if I never earns great deal more than where I am now I am doing what I was supposed to do in life (I think...)"

Slightly corny, but I'd rather have a full heart than a full wallet any day

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is the money just for yourself or your family? (rhetorical question)

I had a job I didn't like but got paid well over national average so I stuck with it because it meant I could provide above and beyond for the family.

Now I have a job I enjoy a lot for the same pay but I intend to retire early from it because I've made provisions for the family and I want to enjoy retirement doing what I want even financially I will be a lot worse off.

I suppose the ends justify the means, if that makes sense?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It would benefit my family x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just checked out a new job doing what I'm doing now just be somewhere else ?

Standard of life would drop and I'd have to leave family and live away during the week to do it ?

£23,000 pay rise but just not worth the hassle ?

My question is how come the same job is worth so much more when it's do south ??

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would benefit my family x"

Remember an episode of The Simpsons when Homer quit his job for his dream job in a bowling alley because he could just afford to. Marge then fell pregnant with Maggie, Homer had to grovel for his hated old job back. Bart quizzed Homer why there was no pics of Maggie in the house, Homer retorts he had lots of pics to remind him of her... then we see her pics plastered all over his work station at the nuclear plant.

Personally, I did obviously, I'd take the job if it meant you and your family were significantly better off but only as long as it didn't bring stress or pressure as well.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

It wood depend on the job

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done the job I loved and the money went with it ,now ?..now I do a job that pays half the money I have no midnight phone calls and my quality of life is better even with less money ..why ?...because I now have time to relax and enjoy my life

All that glitters isn't gold ,all dream jobs are not actually the reality of the dream

Do what makes you happy just don't lose yourself doing it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really lucky now, but it took a while, and crap money and supplementary jobs, to get here. I'm happy

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *laskan lovers 1984Couple
over a year ago

West midlands


"I'm doing the job I love but not for much longer new horizons and a 20k pay rise

How did you make that choice? If it's something you love?"

The trade I'm in is all but finished but luckily I have some transferable skills.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ice_chocolateMan
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

I just go for the money if I did have enough money who could catch me working, permanent holiday. Hell yeah!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ice_chocolateMan
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

[Removed by poster at 06/07/17 14:59:42]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I work to be able to enjoy my life when I'm not working , so money every time .

Luckily I'm self employed and love what I do too , but when I started working at 16 I'd do anything that paid well .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had an epiphany yesterday, something happened just before I went home which made me realise why I do what I do. I'm sticking with the love of the job and not the money ft now

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years ago I went into a new role within the same company. The role was something completely new to me where I had no experience and although it was a bit daunting I went in open minded. My new boss said that the job was far more intense than my previous role and that a number of people found it difficult to cope with.

Admittedly the job was hard work but the pay and bonuses were phenomenal!!! So off the back of that I loved the job. Not only that but my boss was great, my colleagues were all good people and the job had a lot of progression.

Sometimes I think that you have to take on the challenge in order to make the most of the benefits it brings.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I would dearly love to do a job I loved and got satisfaction from even for less money BUT circumstances dictate I have to follow the money, even if it means doing a job I don't like.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work for what I need. Things are going to change next year. Less work and more me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work for the minimum amount of time (days) I can.

Currently 4 nights a week, I'm hoping they bring in one of the more unusual shift patterns like 4 on 6 off though.

Wouldn't mind doping day-day-night-night rolling weekdays and weeke da if it got me 6 days off in a row after every one.

Plus side is it pays more too

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turned down a job offer with better pay. Same line as I am in now but I would be permanently in the office. I turned it down as I like being out and about...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although sometimes it doesn't seem it, I've been incredibly lucky in life

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Just checked out a new job doing what I'm doing now just be somewhere else ?

Standard of life would drop and I'd have to leave family and live away during the week to do it ?

£23,000 pay rise but just not worth the hassle ?

My question is how come the same job is worth so much more when it's do south ?? "

It will cost you every single penny of the increase to live down here.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a couple of videos that I watch on a fairly regular basis. The Steve Jobs Stanford acceptance speech and this one

https://youtu.be/u6XAPnuFjJc

This is Dan Pink talking about his research into what motivates people. Depending on the job you do, studies suggest, pay is a motivating factor only up to a certain point. Throwing more money at someone once they reach a level where the essentials are taken care of will not necessarily result in better performance.

What takes over are things like having a purpose and mastering the role.

I realised last year that I had reached the point where more money was nice but it wasn't really going to make a difference motivation wise.

A position came up at work - temporary, no budget to make it permanent so would be extra to my day job. I went for it because it added something extra - new skills and experience. Started with a team of 5 and now up to 7.

Still learning and still enjoying it. I had a pay rise this year but I couldn't tell you what it was - not because I am on some ridiculous amount of money but because I am lucky enough to be comfortable right now.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago

A world of my own

I certainly don't do my job for the money. I earn far less now than I did 10 years ago. Infact I've had a 2nd job for almost two years to just survive.

That said, I do have some flexibility and above all I genuinely believe in what I do and the charity I work for. Theres no price I can put on making a difference for people.

However my role is constantly evolving and including so much more. I know the experience I am gaining here will likely lead to far more money in a job elsewhere in the future.

For now though I struggle on.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top