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Recent Veris... Offputting or Not?

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination

I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this.

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny

I don't get messages but a lot of views from men when I get verified

Some women have asked me not verify and of course being a gentleman I always say you don't have to verify me if you don't want to, I am real I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So that's why you've not been pestering me for meets then OP

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this. "
never thought about it...

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I don't get messages but a lot of views from men when I get verified

Some women have asked me not verify and of course being a gentleman I always say you don't have to verify me if you don't want to, I am real I think "

But do you feel the urge to chat to and arrange a meet with someone who has recently published a veri?? This is what intrigues me....

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"So that's why you've not been pestering me for meets then OP "

How terribly remiss of me.... I'll get right on that

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this. never thought about it... "

And now???

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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you actually meet, that's what guys are looking for.

i'm the same though, put off by veris, usually who the person is rather than when they met them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, the amount of views and messages suddenly shoots up. Can't say I really bother looking at veris though x

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny


"I don't get messages but a lot of views from men when I get verified

Some women have asked me not verify and of course being a gentleman I always say you don't have to verify me if you don't want to, I am real I think

But do you feel the urge to chat to and arrange a meet with someone who has recently published a veri?? This is what intrigues me.... "

Nope but if I really liked them I will wait a few days and message. I don't want to compete with there last meet

If only arranging meets was that easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't put me off.

As long as they have regular checks and are safe then no. It's more important we are compatible etc.

I can't actually tell if I'd get more messages as all my filters are usually on unless I'm in a thread where messaging is needed.

So I don't get many messages on here anyway.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off .....

"

Yeah, I like 'em gagging for it hahaha....

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"you actually meet, that's what guys are looking for.

i'm the same though, put off by veris, usually who the person is rather than when they met them."

But surely they can tell that anyway?? Why the increased interest after a new veri is my point.

I get the 'who' thing too though, I have a few I won't cross-meet with, no matter how much I like someone... Seeing their name in a prospective meet's veri list works better than a bucket of icy water

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"you actually meet, that's what guys are looking for.

i'm the same though, put off by veris, usually who the person is rather than when they met them.

But surely they can tell that anyway?? Why the increased interest after a new veri is my point.

I get the 'who' thing too though, I have a few I won't cross-meet with, no matter how much I like someone... Seeing their name in a prospective meet's veri list works better than a bucket of icy water "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this. "

I don't really go by veris but I'm more put off by people with loads of them over a short period of time. I will put my hands up and admit those ones I tend avoid like the plague.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't care less about who met who ..

and I hide my veri's anyway so no one knows who I met, recently or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take much notice of verifications, except when they have loads from social events. I don't see the point in having 40 verifications telling us he's a nice bloke/she's a nice woman.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this. never thought about it...

And now??? "
nah, ill still not think about it

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom "

Gonna write you a long 'bowww-chicka-wow-wow' one with loads of innuendo and insinuation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this. "

I find the concept weird anyway (this isn't trip advisor) but recent or a large number I find off putting. All to their own, I just don't think I would have much in common attitude wise with that person. May be wrong.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I notice that when I display a veri that I get views from people on friends list

I guess they are checking out the review or who I have played with

For me it's actually if I put a club review, I also notice reviews go up a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I've never thought about it TBH however I do get put off by what the veri says or who the person is who's left the said veri.

Just wandering if say you met someone they left a veri the next day would you not converse or reply to any messages for how long? 2-3 days? A week? 2 weeks ? Truly curious as I've never thought about it in that way

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"you actually meet, that's what guys are looking for.

i'm the same though, put off by veris, usually who the person is rather than when they met them.

But surely they can tell that anyway?? Why the increased interest after a new veri is my point.

I get the 'who' thing too though, I have a few I won't cross-meet with, no matter how much I like someone... Seeing their name in a prospective meet's veri list works better than a bucket of icy water "

you definitely met recently.men are likely looking for that more than anything else.

plus showing veris puts you on the homepage, so many guys who might have missed that previously can now find you.

my fanny shrivels up when i see certain people yeah, haha.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom

Gonna write you a long 'bowww-chicka-wow-wow' one with loads of innuendo and insinuation "

I'd really appreciate that I knew I could count on you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends who their recent veri was from to be honest. If it was a size 6 petite blonde then i doubt i'd set their world alight so would leave it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definite spike of extra views when I display a new veri.

And comments.

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

So we need a new thread / preference (careful) for looking for "fab virgins"

It seems there's a market

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ok I've never thought about it TBH however I do get put off by what the veri says or who the person is who's left the said veri.

Just wandering if say you met someone they left a veri the next day would you not converse or reply to any messages for how long? 2-3 days? A week? 2 weeks ? Truly curious as I've never thought about it in that way "

I continue to converse with existing friends, but I generally don't reply to mail from anyone new for a while after I've met someone, even if I'm not interested in meeting them again I would give them that respect. I might be a bit old-fashioned that way I guess

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow


"

So we need a new thread / preference (careful) for looking for "fab virgins"

It seems there's a market "

But then starts the immediate thread of "should I meet when no veris (or how many is sufficient to demonstrate not a time waster)"

Such a paradox

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"I don't get messages but a lot of views from men when I get verified

Some women have asked me not verify and of course being a gentleman I always say you don't have to verify me if you don't want to, I am real I think

But do you feel the urge to chat to and arrange a meet with someone who has recently published a veri?? This is what intrigues me.... "

Not my style but I'm guessing that when you have posted a recent veri that others see such a woman as an easier target for contact and meeting, compared to the many who never reply to them. Especially if they think they're as good as, or better than, whoever you've met.

People look for short-cuts and easier options

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom

Gonna write you a long 'bowww-chicka-wow-wow' one with loads of innuendo and insinuation

I'd really appreciate that I knew I could count on you "

You know I always have your back Pinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A recent veri will put you at the top of the local updates page, hense you're getting meets.

A recent verification doesn't make you a slur, a hundred recent veris maybe, but not one.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Yep, the amount of (non-stealth) views of my profile increases after I've posted a verification, but I don't receive messages because of it (very few couples or single women EVER message me first). I do like to read veris on other people though, and cross-reference to see if they have met other people who I would not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I choose to meet someone I ask them to not verify me. Even if it's only a social. Reason being is I have enough verifications to prove I do meet when I say I do, I turn up, I make an effort and I'm very much real! Lol.

As for past sexual meets, I ask them go verify me based on their impression of me as a person. Not mention sex at all because that's private between us and to put it bluntly...no one else's business lol.

I don't like guys verifications which are very sexually detailed. What he and that woman liked, I may not. Us women may have the same buttons, but we often enjoy them pressed in different ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get messages but a lot of views from men when I get verified

Some women have asked me not verify and of course being a gentleman I always say you don't have to verify me if you don't want to, I am real I think

But do you feel the urge to chat to and arrange a meet with someone who has recently published a veri?? This is what intrigues me.... "

No. I did read a verification once that put me off. I stopped reading verifications after that.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Ok I've never thought about it TBH however I do get put off by what the veri says or who the person is who's left the said veri.

Just wandering if say you met someone they left a veri the next day would you not converse or reply to any messages for how long? 2-3 days? A week? 2 weeks ? Truly curious as I've never thought about it in that way

I continue to converse with existing friends, but I generally don't reply to mail from anyone new for a while after I've met someone, even if I'm not interested in meeting them again I would give them that respect. I might be a bit old-fashioned that way I guess "
i'm guessing the club scene is not for you then? one could get multiple veris in an evening..social or otherwise..or some dont veri each other..then how would you know?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I had a new one yesterday

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I had a new one yesterday "

You have the best veris on Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's quite 'normal' on here for other people to be interested on where in the country your last meet was ....certainly I know it's happened to me...the day or even the day after getting winks or mail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only thing that puts me off is if someone has multiple verifications by the same person and only has those shown. It says more than FWB to me, and I wouldn't want to get involved for fear of there being drama...

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

...


"The only thing that puts me off is if someone has multiple verifications by the same person and only has those shown. It says more than FWB to me, and I wouldn't want to get involved for fear of there being drama... "

Dammit does that mean you won't meet me now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never really paid attention to the attention that new verifications get on here - though, the last person who verified me is from the West Midlands, and for a few days afterwards, I was getting a lot of fabs from people in that area of the country.

I disagree about recent verifications being off putting - I've recently met and been verified by two profiles in the same weekend... that doesn't indicate we had an orgy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only thing that puts me off is if someone has multiple verifications by the same person and only has those shown. It says more than FWB to me, and I wouldn't want to get involved for fear of there being drama...

Dammit does that mean you won't meet me now?"

We all know you're the biggest drama queen!

You have a mixture of veris anyway. I saw one guy with about 20 from the same woman. Naaaaaah maaaaate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had a new one yesterday

You have the best veris on Fab "

Well. There's something he has to live up to now.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"The only thing that puts me off is if someone has multiple verifications by the same person and only has those shown. It says more than FWB to me, and I wouldn't want to get involved for fear of there being drama...

Dammit does that mean you won't meet me now?

We all know you're the biggest drama queen!

You have a mixture of veris anyway. I saw one guy with about 20 from the same woman. Naaaaaah maaaaate. "

Nah you know that shit ain't true #nonodrama

I do have a mixture, I need to add to my collection though.

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We joined fab to help us have swinging fun with other people.

We aren't prolific meeters, but have had occasions when we've met midweek and weekend and horror of horrors played with more than one couple in a night at clubs.... We've also had gaps were we've not done any meets for a few weeks.

If someone is put off by us having sex with someone else, then them several days later, we are on a different page and perhaps not going to click anyway.

Nothing wrong with that choice.or feeling, everybody is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, the amount of (non-stealth) views of my profile increases after I've posted a verification, but I don't receive messages because of it (very few couples or single women EVER message me first). I do like to read veris on other people though, and cross-reference to see if they have met other people who I would not "

I get you dude. Geography bites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this. "

A serial meeter?

On a swinging site ?

Unbelievable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this. "

Couldn't agree more. Happy medium here somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this.

A serial meeter?

On a swinging site ?

Unbelievable"

Yes I thought the same... I really don't get this logic. So I can meet every month last year and I'm fine, last week and nah he's a serial meeter. This is a swingers site for people to meet and have all types of shananegans! What's the time frame got to do with it... Each to their own I guess..

But yep, as someone has already said you get more views simply because you appear in the local updates section as well as friends and hotlists too.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"

So we need a new thread / preference (careful) for looking for "fab virgins"

It seems there's a market

But then starts the immediate thread of "should I meet when no veris (or how many is sufficient to demonstrate not a time waster)"

Such a paradox "

Damned if you do, damned if you don't lol

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"We joined fab to help us have swinging fun with other people.

We aren't prolific meeters, but have had occasions when we've met midweek and weekend and horror of horrors played with more than one couple in a night at clubs.... We've also had gaps were we've not done any meets for a few weeks.

If someone is put off by us having sex with someone else, then them several days later, we are on a different page and perhaps not going to click anyway.

Nothing wrong with that choice.or feeling, everybody is different."

This

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom "

In contrast - I love my veris and I find the system invaluable!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Makes no odds to me when they last met.

Mine paint me out to be the virgin mary who hasnt met for a year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom "

But have you met anyone though? You could still be fake/male ? No profile pic.

Verifications help in some ways and hinder in others.

There's no right or wrong, just our own opinions.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ok I've never thought about it TBH however I do get put off by what the veri says or who the person is who's left the said veri.

Just wandering if say you met someone they left a veri the next day would you not converse or reply to any messages for how long? 2-3 days? A week? 2 weeks ? Truly curious as I've never thought about it in that way

I continue to converse with existing friends, but I generally don't reply to mail from anyone new for a while after I've met someone, even if I'm not interested in meeting them again I would give them that respect. I might be a bit old-fashioned that way I guess i'm guessing the club scene is not for you then? one could get multiple veris in an evening..social or otherwise..or some dont veri each other..then how would you know?

"

Actually I have multiple club, social and party veris (none of which are play veris), at least 50% of my veris are from people I've chatted to at organised social events, and the veris usually pop up within minutes/hours of each other. They're usually pretty straightforward with no bullshit. If someone writes me a veri insinuating anything more than that I simply don't publish it. Its a pet peeve when someone hints at knowing me more intimately than they actually do. Again, I wouldn't be rushing to get drawn into new conversations after an event either... I'm usually too tired from all the travel!!!

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"Ok I've never thought about it TBH however I do get put off by what the veri says or who the person is who's left the said veri.

Just wandering if say you met someone they left a veri the next day would you not converse or reply to any messages for how long? 2-3 days? A week? 2 weeks ? Truly curious as I've never thought about it in that way

I continue to converse with existing friends, but I generally don't reply to mail from anyone new for a while after I've met someone, even if I'm not interested in meeting them again I would give them that respect. I might be a bit old-fashioned that way I guess i'm guessing the club scene is not for you then? one could get multiple veris in an evening..social or otherwise..or some dont veri each other..then how would you know?

Actually I have multiple club, social and party veris (none of which are play veris), at least 50% of my veris are from people I've chatted to at organised social events, and the veris usually pop up within minutes/hours of each other. They're usually pretty straightforward with no bullshit. If someone writes me a veri insinuating anything more than that I simply don't publish it. Its a pet peeve when someone hints at knowing me more intimately than they actually do. Again, I wouldn't be rushing to get drawn into new conversations after an event either... I'm usually too tired from all the travel!!! "
see, i told you i dont read them ... xx i just do my own thing, own little world and all that. i got told on numerous occasions that my veris are 'intimidating' i decided after the last time id publish more...lolol. no, i wouldn't like it if it was insinuated id got more familiar with someone than i had, or graphic details, those would stay hidden and i wouldnt meet them again..i like a bit of discretion. its a matter of respect, but that's my opinion, others will disagree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed whenever I receive a new veri (of any type... ), or indeed verify someone else, that I'm inundated with mail and meet requests for days afterwards, whereas if someone contacts me and I see that they have a fresh verification (same day or a day or two previous) it immediately puts me off (I think 'serial meeter').

Just interested to hear other people's views (both sexes) on this. "

veris can be a useful part of the toolbox when making a judgement on whether you want to meet someone but as an indicator of how often someone meets theyre useless...they could have met 4 different people in one day but only one has verified...we look like we go for months without playing but just don't do the repeat veri thing with our regular friends...and those people we meet and play with at clubs or parties who aren't on fab...use all kinds of measures to make your judgements but veris aren't a very reliable one...

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Makes no odds to me when they last met.

Mine paint me out to be the virgin mary who hasnt met for a year "

And not everyone in Fab only uses Fab for meets........

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Yep, the amount of (non-stealth) views of my profile increases after I've posted a verification, but I don't receive messages because of it (very few couples or single women EVER message me first). I do like to read veris on other people though, and cross-reference to see if they have met other people who I would not

I get you dude. Geography bites "

Cheers bro

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind if they have a recent one. Wouldn't put me off. But each to their own.

~Mia

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom

But have you met anyone though? You could still be fake/male ? No profile pic.

Verifications help in some ways and hinder in others.

There's no right or wrong, just our own opinions. "

Yes that's true and there are also lots of fantasists so I'm led to believe. But again it's all about opinion and no amount of veris and pics actually mean someone is who they portray themselves to be

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom

But have you met anyone though? You could still be fake/male ? No profile pic.

Verifications help in some ways and hinder in others.

There's no right or wrong, just our own opinions.

Yes that's true and there are also lots of fantasists so I'm led to believe. But again it's all about opinion and no amount of veris and pics actually mean someone is who they portray themselves to be "

I'm definitely a petulant hobbit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the person messaging had just had say a 'gangbang' or numerous veris that week, then will be honest wld be bit 'put off' Wld feel like just another sausage to round off their tally lol

Saying that if it was a veri from a their reg then maybe not so off putting. Shows they must be freaking awesome for verifier to request meeting again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom

But have you met anyone though? You could still be fake/male ? No profile pic.

Verifications help in some ways and hinder in others.

There's no right or wrong, just our own opinions.

Yes that's true and there are also lots of fantasists so I'm led to believe. But again it's all about opinion and no amount of veris and pics actually mean someone is who they portray themselves to be

I'm definitely a petulant hobbit. "

True sto...

I'll stop there

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"I just hate the whole veri system, I find it on the whole a negative thing. I hate writing and receiving them and as for displaying them not a chance of that happening. I find reading others veris ranges from nauseating to eye rolling at best. I've written them in the past for the person I've met not for general viewing because to anyone else they would be viewed in the same light as I view the ones I've read. I will be attending the lounge social next week and have had several conversations regarding veris following the event. Veris from socials are the ones I enjoy reading and I will therefore be sending a few afterwards. The system needs an overhaul, the categories of verification aren't diverse enough and maybe tick boxes are sufficient for verification purposes. Not marks out of ten either as it's clear we all want and enjoy different things. I have on occasion thought I'd accidentally ended up on the stories and fantasies section of the forum rather than a veri on a profile. In answer to your question, I just find veris put me off regardless of when a meet was, where or with whom

But have you met anyone though? You could still be fake/male ? No profile pic.

Verifications help in some ways and hinder in others.

There's no right or wrong, just our own opinions.

Yes that's true and there are also lots of fantasists so I'm led to believe. But again it's all about opinion and no amount of veris and pics actually mean someone is who they portray themselves to be

I'm definitely a petulant hobbit.

True sto...

I'll stop there "

Fack off

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Meeting is what the site is about, surely? At least they are verified

It honestly doesn't bother us when their last displayed veri is from

Is it any better if they waited a month or however long before messaging you? It would be the same veri.

Might as well get the ball rolling as arranging calendars could mean it's a while before you can meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never noticed an increase in messaging after a new veri. I might get a few new fabs or views but that just reveals who's hot list I'm on muhaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive noticed the same. I think it makes them realise you are real and do meet.

Like you though I do wonder why people who just got a new veri are messaging me, Im looking for someone who wants regular fun so for them to instantly be looking for their next meet is a turn off.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The verification may have been written days or weeks after the meet. People might choose to hold them back and then publish later or never publish them at all.

I'd never tell anyone what to write but I have the ability to choose not to publish. I have experienced someone telling another exactly what to write and I find it a bit controlling.

I like the verifications I get from socials and like to read other social verifications. Lots of people saying someone is nice, in different ways, makes me feel comfortable about that person.

If I meet lots of people for sex all close together, choose to display the verifications they leave and others decide not to meet me, that's their business.

As others have said, I may choose not to meet someone based on verifications and that's my prerogative. I prefer that they are there than not.

Along with other types of shaming I find verification shaming a little distasteful.

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By *ryst In Isolde OP   Woman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ive noticed the same. I think it makes them realise you are real and do meet.

Like you though I do wonder why people who just got a new veri are messaging me, Im looking for someone who wants regular fun so for them to instantly be looking for their next meet is a turn off. "

Exactly this

I've had 3 guys mail me today who were verified by play meet within the past 24 hours. It just made me wonder if I was unique in finding that offputting. Its been interesting hearing other viewpoints though.

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