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Swinging to please a partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone else met or spoken to couples that it seems one of them is only doing it to keep the other one happy....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep they dont do it for long x

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Played with a couple once where it quickly became apparent that was the case and it wasn't a pleasant experience at all - actually felt incredibly sorry for the lady in question, especially when it later became apparent that her other half regularly visited clubs on his own behind her back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

chatted to people in the past - but never took it any further than the talk - no point

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It seems that 6 out of ten couples we have met or spoken to do it for the other.

I can't see how it could work for long, and what enjoyment would they get out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and it was so awkward!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Played with a couple once where it quickly became apparent that was the case and it wasn't a pleasant experience at all - actually felt incredibly sorry for the lady in question, especially when it later became apparent that her other half regularly visited clubs on his own behind her

back."

Same here I stopped the play and we left. The look on the poor woman's face was heart breaking.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I was in this situation for a while, I felt like a piece of meat at times

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"chatted to people in the past - but never took it any further than the talk - no point "

This in particular couple we met very quickly.

When it came time to play and we all started I seen her face and new she was about to cry so we packed up and left.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was in this situation for a while, I felt like a piece of meat at times"

Going to sound nosey now lol how did you manage to keep the pretence up and actually play with people you didn't really want?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I was in this situation for a while, I felt like a piece of meat at times

Going to sound nosey now lol how did you manage to keep the pretence up and actually play with people you didn't really want?"
he used emotional black mail, ie if you don't please me you won't see me for a week etc

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

That's bad

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"That's bad "
I felt like an unpaid prostitute

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's Terrible chick at least you got out.

I believe it takes a strong trusting couple who are happy in their relationship for it to work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a relationship like this. He was incredible selfish and just wanted his fantasy fulfilled. Now I did want to be on here as a couple but wanted to have more of a choice of who we met. He messaged this one lady and we all got talking. I wasn't keen but he persuaded me and made me feel like a didn't have any other choice.

Anyway I'm free now to make my own decisions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good on you.

Now you can enjoy and choose who and if you meet.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I've met a lot of couples like that and it's actually very sad to watch..I think it's boaderline abuse some of the situations I've seen and it's not just the men with the women I seen a lot where it's the woman with the man you can see he doesn't want to do it. I think people have to remember that swinging shouldn't replace your sex life it should only enhance it but sadly there are a lot of people that use it to replace their sex life.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"I was in a relationship like this. He was incredible selfish and just wanted his fantasy fulfilled. Now I did want to be on here as a couple but wanted to have more of a choice of who we met. He messaged this one lady and we all got talking. I wasn't keen but he persuaded me and made me feel like a didn't have any other choice.

Anyway I'm free now to make my own decisions.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"That's Terrible chick at least you got out.

I believe it takes a strong trusting couple who are happy in their relationship for it to work."
actually he dumped me lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've met a lot of couples like that and it's actually very sad to watch..I think it's boaderline abuse some of the situations I've seen and it's not just the men with the women I seen a lot where it's the woman with the man you can see he doesn't want to do it. I think people have to remember that swinging shouldn't replace your sex life it should only enhance it but sadly there are a lot of people that use it to replace their sex life. "

Exactly, we spoke about doing this for nearly 2 years before we were brave enough to make a profile and actually meet.

Good communication always helps and having a good relationship and sex life to start with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's Terrible chick at least you got out.

I believe it takes a strong trusting couple who are happy in their relationship for it to work. actually he dumped me lol"

Probably the best thing he ever did for you.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"I've met a lot of couples like that and it's actually very sad to watch..I think it's boaderline abuse some of the situations I've seen and it's not just the men with the women I seen a lot where it's the woman with the man you can see he doesn't want to do it. I think people have to remember that swinging shouldn't replace your sex life it should only enhance it but sadly there are a lot of people that use it to replace their sex life.

Exactly, we spoke about doing this for nearly 2 years before we were brave enough to make a profile and actually meet.

Good communication always helps and having a good relationship and sex life to start with."

I think it's good that you did! I've seen people meet through the scene and a week later have a couples profile (in the past I'm guilty of this and learnt my lesson) and they have established trust or whatever and it just dies a death. I'm all for people meeting through the scene but establish your own sex life and boundaries first..sorry I'll shut up now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No need to shut up it's good to state our opinions

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"That's Terrible chick at least you got out.

I believe it takes a strong trusting couple who are happy in their relationship for it to work. actually he dumped me lol

Probably the best thing he ever did for you."
lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met 2 ladies who clearly should not have been forced by their husbands to accompany them to a club. Both ladies were distressed at the attention from other guys, and were attending in the hope of keeping the marriage alive. One of the ladies downed a bottle of red in the hot tub in her underwear whilst hubby was off joining in the action wherever it was. I have only chatted to both ladies as playing was totally out of the question. The contempt I have for the husbands is beyond measure.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Awkward!

This is the wrong scenario for that, 100% committed on both sides or not at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about guys that don't want to do anything with other women but want to watch their partner do things with other guys and have things done to her. Is that equally as bad, like if you don't mind sucking someone off in the first place is it bad that your partner gets off on watching it or watching a guy eat your pussy or would it be a slippery slope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not met anyone in that position. But have met a couple where the husband was very much the one that wanted to play with me (fem) and was pushing for the meet. That didn't happen after the social x

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Yes, she started crying and shouting - awkward and totally unfair of her so called partner. I believe they are still swinging

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

We've seen this a lot at the clubs.

You can just tell that one of the two in the couple is just there to please the other halfs desires.

It just doesn't work though because if we can see it so can others looking to play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about guys that don't want to do anything with other women but want to watch their partner do things with other guys and have things done to her. Is that equally as bad, like if you don't mind sucking someone off in the first place is it bad that your partner gets off on watching it or watching a guy eat your pussy or would it be a slippery slope. "
we have met lots of couples like that but as long as they are enjoying it.. then no its not the same x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We've come across this several times it's one reason we like a social first. We missed the signs once and it was very awkward.

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