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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have found that men get interogated by their wives or partner's if they want to go out for example 'the pub' or meaby to a mates house to watch footie. My question is. Does the same interogation happen when its the wife or partner who wants to go out or are men more trusting or meaby they darent say anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ha think its on an equal par unless something has already happened to create that mistrust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've never interrogated each other when one of us has wanted to go out, when I've witnessed or heard about couples doing this one or both are either insecure or drama queens.

Ginger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are these men really going to the pub or to a mates house to watch football or are they planning on meeting you OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wasn't alowed out. If I asked I always got told there was no money. If I did go out I was phoned every few hours.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My other half is free to have nights out when she wants and I'll drop her off and pick her up on those occasions she wants me too as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was only allowed out to my volunteer meetings and was taken to and from them yet I couldn't question what he was doing. One of the good reasons he's my ex x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's a really odd scenario. The only thing I ever ask of Mrs N is where she's likely to be, in case of an emergency, nothing more. It's even easier for her as I don't have many real mates so they're usually found at our gaff anyway.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Trust needs to be earned comes to mind. If people act in a way that their trust is questioned then they should expect suspicion from their partners. Easy enough to understand.

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By * e coupleCouple
over a year ago

northeast

Guys do get 20 questions . When they going out . But think most guys are glad of the peace when wives go out . So don't question it so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trust does have to be earned but for the more openly active swingers amongst us can it

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

When ever I had a partner I encouraged them to have girls nights out and didn't dream of contacting them to check up other than asking to let me know when they were on the way home so I could wait up to know they were back safe.

A mates partner now is horrific and has gone to 3 or 4 pubs to check that he is out with the boys !

I've had a man to man chat with him but it's his life not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are these men really going to the pub or to a mates house to watch football or are they planning on meeting you OP?"

This!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Never ever interrogated a partner. Other half often says "can I go and play with my friends?" to which I roll my eyes and say "you don't need my permission!"

We met on here, I know he meets his mates in the park hoping to meet a dogging couple...I could care less, yet he gets upset if I'm meeting my kids, grandkids, friends without telling him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done anti- interigation training & under no circumstances or level of torture give more than name rank & number

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never ever interrogated a partner. Other half often says "can I go and play with my friends?" to which I roll my eyes and say "you don't need my permission!"

We met on here, I know he meets his mates in the park hoping to meet a dogging couple...I could care less, yet he gets upset if I'm meeting my kids, grandkids, friends without telling him! "

Why wouldn't you tell him?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't just up and go without a word. I might say "I'm meeting x next Friday for lunch"

Mr N might reply " oh, where are you going?"

And a discussion will follow about time, place etc. But that's because we're interested in each others lives not because either of us feel the need to interrogate the other.

I have known people who through either lack of self esteem, severe trust issues, control issues or due to bad experiences do interrogate their partner but I couldn't deal with that.

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By *wo-GoodCouple
over a year ago

South London

My wife happily lets me out with no questions asked at all.

Of course the explosive tracking device stapled to my cock tends to keep me in line

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was with my ex, I made them complete a checklist of who they were seeing and exactly where they were going if they went out without me.

And they had to swear an affidavit to prove that what they said was the truth.

I thought everyone did that

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside


"I have found that men get interogated by their wives or partner's if they want to go out for example 'the pub' or meaby to a mates house to watch footie. My question is. Does the same interogation happen when its the wife or partner who wants to go out or are men more trusting or meaby they darent say anything."

their relationship, their deal..doesnt happen to me, cos i dont allow it to, simple

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

I never asked my ex what his plans were, cos he would most probably have lied anyway. Half the time I'd tell him my plans, then he'd forget. The other half I wouldn't tell him and get the 3rd degree until I did tell him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't just up and go without a word. I might say "I'm meeting x next Friday for lunch"

Mr N might reply " oh, where are you going?"

And a discussion will follow about time, place etc. But that's because we're interested in each others lives not because either of us feel the need to interrogate the other.

I have known people who through either lack of self esteem, severe trust issues, control issues or due to bad experiences do interrogate their partner but I couldn't deal with that."

It seems like relationships are supposed to be wars. Never talk to each other. Don't take an interest be told off for not caring. Do take an interest and be told off for prying.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We don't just up and go without a word. I might say "I'm meeting x next Friday for lunch"

Mr N might reply " oh, where are you going?"

And a discussion will follow about time, place etc. But that's because we're interested in each others lives not because either of us feel the need to interrogate the other.

I have known people who through either lack of self esteem, severe trust issues, control issues or due to bad experiences do interrogate their partner but I couldn't deal with that.

It seems like relationships are supposed to be wars. Never talk to each other. Don't take an interest be told off for not caring. Do take an interest and be told off for prying.

"

I genuinely believe that some people view relationships as a war between partners. When you hear the way some people talk about their partner and the games they play I wonder why on earth they even want to be in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't just up and go without a word. I might say "I'm meeting x next Friday for lunch"

Mr N might reply " oh, where are you going?"

And a discussion will follow about time, place etc. But that's because we're interested in each others lives not because either of us feel the need to interrogate the other.

I have known people who through either lack of self esteem, severe trust issues, control issues or due to bad experiences do interrogate their partner but I couldn't deal with that.

It seems like relationships are supposed to be wars. Never talk to each other. Don't take an interest be told off for not caring. Do take an interest and be told off for prying.

I genuinely believe that some people view relationships as a war between partners. When you hear the way some people talk about their partner and the games they play I wonder why on earth they even want to be in a relationship."

Most people I know seem to live like this. I don't understand it at all.

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