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By *-elle OP   Woman
over a year ago

Romford

If I could change one thing about fab it would be their message board.

It frustrates me as a woman no end when l see men rant about messages going unresponded or unopened and deleted.

Can I set the record straight to those who rant. If a pic has 1000 fabs in 12 hrs you can bet it had the same in messages.

Can that said person who has not responded really get through all those NO.

The best thing fab can do would be to have a much smaller restriction to an in box"

Currently showing the last 100 but holding capacity over 1,000.

My concept would be a max of 50 any other senders receive a

"message board full try again later" option. Thus allowing a higher % for contact between sender and recipient without anyone taking offence.

Did I say change just one thing.... Make that two....fab give uses one week to verify themselves to site otherwise remove.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World

Or set their message filters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only some men rant, and kind of ones that do, aren't the men who go on the forums.

I would say that's a small amount, so maybe allow the person to choose their inbox size...

Or maybe make people read the FAQ's, as it says a non read/reply is a no.

There's no one size fits all way to fix people being an ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As frustrating as it is for a message to not get read, it's got to be excepted alot of the time with the amount of guys on here messaging woman, id bet only a very small % manage to get though all their messages without missing any.

It's a shame really, your suggestion does seem a pretty good idea though.

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By *-elle OP   Woman
over a year ago

Romford

Surely it's better to improve than restrict x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could change one thing about fab it would be their message board.

It frustrates me as a woman no end when l see men rant about messages going unresponded or unopened and deleted.

Can I set the record straight to those who rant. If a pic has 1000 fabs in 12 hrs you can bet it had the same in messages.

Can that said person who has not responded really get through all those NO.

The best thing fab can do would be to have a much smaller restriction to an in box"

Currently showing the last 100 but holding capacity over 1,000.

My concept would be a max of 50 any other senders receive a

"message board full try again later" option. Thus allowing a higher % for contact between sender and recipient without anyone taking offence.

Did I say change just one thing.... Make that two....fab give uses one week to verify themselves to site otherwise remove. "

Could also explain my non read message the other day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never messaged you.

Would you like me to.?

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By *-elle OP   Woman
over a year ago

Romford


"Only some men rant, and kind of ones that do, aren't the men who go on the forums.

I would say that's a small amount, so maybe allow the person to choose their inbox size...

Or maybe make people read the FAQ's, as it says a non read/reply is a no.

There's no one size fits all way to fix people being an ass"
Yes I like your idea more, choose your own in box size because filters aren't always sufficient.

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By *-elle OP   Woman
over a year ago

Romford


"I've never messaged you.

Would you like me to.? "
hahaha I think you just did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely it's better to improve than restrict x"

Definitely, as people with full inboxes could actual end up missing ones interesting to them, due to the sheer volume of messages.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Only some men rant, and kind of ones that do, aren't the men who go on the forums.

I would say that's a small amount, so maybe allow the person to choose their inbox size...

Or maybe make people read the FAQ's, as it says a non read/reply is a no.

There's no one size fits all way to fix people being an ass Yes I like your idea more, choose your own in box size because filters aren't always sufficient. "

I like the idea of choosing our own box size!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could change one thing about fab it would be their message board.

It frustrates me as a woman no end when l see men rant about messages going unresponded or unopened and deleted.

Can I set the record straight to those who rant. If a pic has 1000 fabs in 12 hrs you can bet it had the same in messages.

Can that said person who has not responded really get through all those NO.

The best thing fab can do would be to have a much smaller restriction to an in box"

Currently showing the last 100 but holding capacity over 1,000.

My concept would be a max of 50 any other senders receive a

"message board full try again later" option. Thus allowing a higher % for contact between sender and recipient without anyone taking offence.

Did I say change just one thing.... Make that two....fab give uses one week to verify themselves to site otherwise remove. "

I don't agree with either of those suggestions, sorry.

Members are perfectly capable of managing their own message boxes.

And I totally disagree that a member should have to verify themselves within a week or get kicked off.

Don't forget that this is a free site unless members choose to become supporters, admin are volunteers and the workload in throwing members off after a week would be immense. Plus it would be unfair, I am meet verified but have not photo verified myself so that would be me gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently had a chat and meet with someone i messaged back ages ago, she said how come i never got in touch, when I said I had, she apologised but deletes the box on mass! So having a smaller box or message queue system might be an improvement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like facial hair but 99% of my messages are from the full bearded fashionistas.

More filters for personal tastes would be the icing on the cake for me.

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By *-elle OP   Woman
over a year ago

Romford

But the current system is very exposed to fake accounts... We've all experience those so surely better controls will help admin in the long run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But the current system is very exposed to fake accounts... We've all experience those so surely better controls will help admin in the long run. "

I know its a filter, but there are ones for verified etc. to help cut down on the crap mail you get. Ive been messaged by real people without any verifications, and fake people with them.

Like I said, no one size fits all unfortunately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely it's better to improve than restrict x"

I agree in a way. There is a problem, but people are the cause of it, and not the website. But, there could be improvements made rather than people making excuses and being content with the way things are.

Deleted/unread is a polite no?? No it's not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could change one thing about fab it would be their message board.

It frustrates me as a woman no end when l see men rant about messages going unresponded or unopened and deleted.

Can I set the record straight to those who rant. If a pic has 1000 fabs in 12 hrs you can bet it had the same in messages.

Can that said person who has not responded really get through all those NO.

The best thing fab can do would be to have a much smaller restriction to an in box"

Currently showing the last 100 but holding capacity over 1,000.

My concept would be a max of 50 any other senders receive a

"message board full try again later" option. Thus allowing a higher % for contact between sender and recipient without anyone taking offence.

Did I say change just one thing.... Make that two....fab give uses one week to verify themselves to site otherwise remove.

I don't agree with either of those suggestions, sorry.

Members are perfectly capable of managing their own message boxes.

And I totally disagree that a member should have to verify themselves within a week or get kicked off.

Don't forget that this is a free site unless members choose to become supporters, admin are volunteers and the workload in throwing members off after a week would be immense. Plus it would be unfair, I am meet verified but have not photo verified myself so that would be me gone.

"

The delete after a week function could be written into the site code .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you got 100 forum users together in a brainstorming sesión. I reckon they'd come up with a solution. But instead, we all just scream and shout our own ideas of how it should be.

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"I dont like facial hair but 99% of my messages are from the full bearded fashionistas.

More filters for personal tastes would be the icing on the cake for me.

"

Haha, I'm with you here!!!

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By *urious couple22Couple
over a year ago

Derby

I have a habit of emptying the inbox and then remembering not all the messages have been read or I've read and though I will reply to that later once it's gone no getting it back and I'm useless with names so no point in trying to find them either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont like facial hair but 99% of my messages are from the full bearded fashionistas.

More filters for personal tastes would be the icing on the cake for me.

Haha, I'm with you here!!! "

What about those that only shave when going on meet, as they have no real need to for day to day life?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I could change one thing about fab it would be their message board.

It frustrates me as a woman no end when l see men rant about messages going unresponded or unopened and deleted.

Can I set the record straight to those who rant. If a pic has 1000 fabs in 12 hrs you can bet it had the same in messages.

Can that said person who has not responded really get through all those NO.

The best thing fab can do would be to have a much smaller restriction to an in box"

Currently showing the last 100 but holding capacity over 1,000.

My concept would be a max of 50 any other senders receive a

"message board full try again later" option. Thus allowing a higher % for contact between sender and recipient without anyone taking offence.

Did I say change just one thing.... Make that two....fab give uses one week to verify themselves to site otherwise remove. "

Good ideas I think... which won't just help the un/lucky women who have to work through thousands of messages, but also the guys and girls who do put an effort into their messages but don't hear back because it's got lost under a pile somewhere.

This seems like something which could be optional? Users who have the time and don't mind manually filtering everything will still get to do so... I'm of course in this category of people with my mighty 8 unread messages

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By *mour2205Man
over a year ago

solihull

I get exited if I get one ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unread messages? . Show offs.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

if you put a limit on message characters, like POF allows, that's most of the shit messages gone already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problems-problems-problems..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you put a limit on message characters, like POF allows, that's most of the shit messages gone already."

Good one. I'd argue for a minimum number too! We've all had plenty of two syllable messages in our time!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Theses type of threads always make me think of a cake shop where the customer gets shouted at for trying to buy a cake.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"Theses type of threads always make me think of a cake shop where the customer gets shouted at for trying to buy a cake. "

I'll never shout at anyone buying me cake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or, thank your lucky stars that you don't get 100's of messages! I'll stick with my slow and steady trickle! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Theses type of threads always make me think of a cake shop where the customer gets shouted at for trying to buy a cake. "

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By *aul1973HullMan
over a year ago

East Hull

It can be frustrating for a guy who's chatting to somebody and they suddenly stop because they haven't seen your message buried amongst many others.

Maybe section them off?

Messages from...

friends

Previous contacts

Others

Also not keen on the subject box, I know it's good for women using them as filters to see if people have read their profile, but sometimes with somebody you've been chatting to regularly you can have 2 or more different conversations going with them

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