FabSwingers.com forum: How do you leave work at work?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I used to have no problem, but after starting a new job with more responsibilities. I'm finding it hard to leave work at work and am still thinking about it now.

How do you distance yourself from work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i used to come home drained, constantly worried about clients...but now im too exhausted to give a shit anymore,do it on autopilot..

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I struggle to do this. Often find myself going in on Saturdays and checking emails in the evenings. I try and get things boxed off at work now for the day even if it means me staying later so I can go home and relax!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Wipe your feet before you enter your home.

Sounds really daft I know. I work in a really absorbing job. It's really difficult not to take peoples lives home with me. So I allow myself time to mull over the day on the journey home. Then as I get to the door, I wipe my feet which is the signal to my brain to turn off.

Takes some practice, but it really does work.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It will just need a little time I'm afraid until you relax into knowing what you are doing, so try not to stress too much in the interim, it's just natural I'm afraid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle with this massively. I try my hardest to use my journey home and to work as my grey areas where I ponder it a little but it does creep in when I'm off.

Could you try that? Leave it in the car/ train etc? I always find my brain feels more organised when I've made a list too- so your not overthinking as it's written down, maybe making a list before leaving for the day?

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By *ohnaronMan
over a year ago

london

I was a dresser at the playboy club. I had my hands full all the time. So to leave work behind I got a flat chested gf from Socialists Are Us.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

When I used to find it difficult to leave work at work and it was keeping me awake at night I would call my work phone number and leave the thought on the voicemail there. I could then fall asleep.

Sometimes you can't leave it but work on separating it most of the time.

Now that I am self-employed I have found it easier to shut the door, literally and figuratively, on the work.

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

I have my work keys on a seperate key ring, and a seperate bag I only use for work, no personal stuff in it at all. So when the bag gets put down in the hallway, thats it forgotten about till the morning. I do not log on to work emails from home, either, that just took will power but now work stays at work

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers guys, I might take up meditation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get paid to work out of hours. So my work blackberry etc gets put away in my work locker.

Easy.

Get into.a routine.

Work clothes off when u get home.

Work pays for things.

That's all it is to me... £££

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to bring work home but life isn't all about work. It's important to switch off from it when you're not there. I think you're more productive when you're in work then too. Exercise helps me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I've joined the gym too!! I got at least 3 mornings before work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work is exactly that, just work.

I go to work to live, to be able to do the things I enjoy.

I don't live to go to work.

I used to be bad for worrying at home but soon realised it doesn't gain you anything.

I've seen what not being able to get away from work does to people, I hope anyone who hasn't got the balance right finds a way to get it sorted quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horrendous work life balance at present but I have solid coping mechanisms.

Definitely welcome some tips though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Make notes before you leave so you don't need to remember anything. If something does pop in to your head e-mail it to yourself

Are you anxious about the job, do you feel that you're struggling with the responsibility?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I actually found when I have access to work emails in phone, I actually felt better

I have a bit of a fear of the unknown, and by the time I have read emails on way in to work processed priorities I can start work when I get to desk

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By *rincessvenusCouple
over a year ago

Hull

try being self employed and working from home its 24 7 you dont stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Used to be easy when I worked shifts because any problems left would be rectified before my following shift. Now on days and any problems are mine to rectify so constantly think about them, even gone in to work on a weekend, unpaid, to sort them out....the joys of promotion!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I don't have a uniform but I do have certain things I have to wear at work so as soon as I take them off work me is done.

It also helps that in not allowed to log on to our systems from anywhere else so can't just quickly check emails etc.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

I don't even think about work at work...

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

I now lock my work mobile in the car at night. That way I don't spend the evening writing sodding emails.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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I find it impossible. I find myself answering emails even on the way home on the train, in the middle of the night or anytime.

When you are self-employed, and it's just you, when you want to give the best customer service you can it is very hard to leave anything unanswered.

At least for me it is.

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By *tep121Man
over a year ago

manchester

Easy for me.. I just switch off..

However, downside is, I hate having days off now because of doing that. I come to work for peace and quiet and to relax... is that normal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately I hand my job over to others who take over the work when I leave. No fuss, no worry and not thinking of work when i leave the office.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My work comes with me all the time, I'm never not connected but strangely given all of that I find it easy to shut off and ignore it at any time

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

Years of practice has brought about the ability to switch off.

Occasionally an issue may raise its head after work hours but it is sent on its way.

I gradually came to this conclusion after each time I went on holiday, work did not collapse without my presence. I find this amazing as I appear to be indispensable when I am there!

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By *rp861Man
over a year ago

Congresbury

"I dont get paid to work out of hours. So my work blackberry etc gets put away in my work locker.

Easy.

Get into.a routine.

Work clothes off when u get home.

Work pays for things.

That's all it is to me... £££"

This is my view also. Even commjting i dont get paid for so i enjoy it as my own time! Phone goes off, and try to have something to look forward to when work is done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friday at 5 a little mariachi band would start playing in my head. I'd look over at my boss and say "i'm off now, see you Monday" and then can can out the office.

Easy.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

When we put our suitcases down at the airport check in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to have no problem, but after starting a new job with more responsibilities. I'm finding it hard to leave work at work and am still thinking about it now.

How do you distance yourself from work?"

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Try making/keeping a to-do list, and leave it at work. Writing a list takes part of the stress away from constantly thinking about what you need to do. Just be sure to keep the list updated and that you check off what's written on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very difficult especially if you run your own business , pretty much the same if you have a demanding position or any job , we call it "having a conscious "

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"I find it impossible. I find myself answering emails even on the way home on the train, in the middle of the night or anytime.

When you are self-employed, and it's just you, when you want to give the best customer service you can it is very hard to leave anything unanswered.

At least for me it is."

Well said you, we are 100% with you there

When you set up on your own, there's no safety net and we know where the buck stops.

We wish you every success

M and M xx

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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"I find it impossible. I find myself answering emails even on the way home on the train, in the middle of the night or anytime.

When you are self-employed, and it's just you, when you want to give the best customer service you can it is very hard to leave anything unanswered.

At least for me it is.

Well said you, we are 100% with you there

When you set up on your own, there's no safety net and we know where the buck stops.

We wish you every success

M and M xx"

Thank you

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By *lue9753Man
over a year ago

Oldham

Good idea think I might try that in Monday

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By *3xyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

swingers town

I had a friend who finish work but stayed back for 30 mins help him wine down before he left the office, put his headphones on and listen to music. Try it works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a friend who finish work but stayed back for 30 mins help him wine down before he left the office, put his headphones on and listen to music. Try it works. "
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I've got a mate who immediately got changed when he got home. Straight away. He always imagined stripping his work away and gave home more time for his home life. Even if going out after work, he'd go and get changed first.

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By *ackhammer87Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"I struggle with this massively. I try my hardest to use my journey home and to work as my grey areas where I ponder it a little but it does creep in when I'm off.

Totally agree I'm a logistics manager I'm forever checking emails on my work phone or laptop I do try tho to structure my Fridays as I tie up day xx

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By *r and Mrs BiteMeCouple
over a year ago

Belbroughton, Stourbridge

"Wipe your feet before you enter your home.

Takes some practice, but it really does work. "

I am going to try this - the physical work is easy to not do - but (I am guessing similar to yourself) my work stays in my mind and I carry some od those lives with me every day and that is the bit I struggle to leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps making some sort of barrier between work and home, for instance going for a coffee or the gym after work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to work in a stressful retail marketing environment. I would come home after a long day. Eat my tea, veg in the sofa go to bed and then toss and turn worrying about my deadlines and projects. It killed a part of me. I was moody, distant, angry and missed seeing my first born grow up ... my only panacea was football/sport but the relief short lived. I tried alcohol, same and fortunately didn't get hooked in.

I turned down several promotions because I only saw more pressure with the extra responsibility ... another part of me was being killed off.

Long story short ... I was made redundant. Still more pressure but I was lucky with some freelance work which gave me the grounding to start my own business doing something I love and enjoy and guess what .. I still worry and toss and turn. Difference is though I don't have the added stress of someone looking over my shoulder.

In short, I don't have an answer. I think the more responsible you are the more you worry and ruminate on things. I used to envy the slap dash approach artists they didn't seem to worry about anything.

But then, I think stress, the ability to use it for achieveing what it is that is required is what makes some individuals stand out above the rest. Just my humble Saturday morning take on it ... *sigh*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a lucky position where I decided I didn't need the crap anymore so handed in my notice. I now travel around doing landscape photography

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was a community mental health support worker i could never switch as so many people i saw were so alone - now im in a specialist care centre where there are 24 hour carers and nurses - i clock off and more or less switch off - not always as sometimes its grim and it wouldnt be natural not to be concerned

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