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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Apart from the obvious cock pics and 'wanna fuck' messages, what are the big no no's here? And what works as an effective way to strike up natural conversation and just have a bit of craic? People are so intense and stuck up here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd always go for the never make negative sweeping generalisations about people here, OP.

Ah well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't mean to be negative at all. I just wish people were more relaxed here. Think I worded that a bit wrong :-/

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Saying something that shows you've checked their profile first is usually a good start. Either a comment on the text content, humour or even one of their pics will usually be well received (a comment on the pic style or content.... not 'wish I could motorboat those puppies' or 'when do I get my head between those legs?' lol).

Women and Couples get a lot of mail, so unless its a particular quiet time of day and they haven't got much in their inbox, a simple 'hi' or 'how are you?' probably won't engage their interest.

Its tricky getting the tone right, but once you figure it out you'll do just fine

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

For me a big no no is saying straight but veris say other wise

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

A previous regular sent me a intro message

I suggest you read my veris and profile. Go on now.

I did lol and we played for 6 months

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ha ha 'wish I could motorboat those puppies' made me laugh!! Good advice tho. I try my best to send specific messages to people. But that will help. Cheers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"For me a big no no is saying straight but veris say other wise "

Yeah that's pretty weird. Who are people kidding?!

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Ha ha 'wish I could motorboat those puppies' made me laugh!! Good advice tho. I try my best to send specific messages to people. But that will help. Cheers "

You're welcome OP

I think something to realise too is that a lot of people won't be into what you're looking for. If someone's primary focus for being on Fab is to meet people, they will probably not respond to someone who isn't. I may have got it wrong, but your profile reads like you only want text fun, nothing more?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah pretty much to be honest. I like chatting to people but meeting is a whole different story. I rarely contact anyone local to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm not pushy. If someone doesn't reply I let it go. I'm just surprised at the lack of conversational skills from most people. I'm very new to the forums so maybe this is the place to get chatting to intelligent people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just being polite and respectful and not in your face with first contact works for us.

I can't or won't reply to " wanna shag" or "you make me horny, I want to fuck your brains out", both earn the sender a stab on the block button.

I (Wilma) like my mind teased and pleased just as much as my body.

Both myself and my partner hate pushy people, and people who have obviously failed to read our Bio.

best way for you to impress us is to show

1) you've taken time to read our profile.

2) Give us a good reason to even bother to read your message.

3) avoid being vulgar or crude or rude.

4) make an effort to stand out stimulate our interest.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Yeah pretty much to be honest. I like chatting to people but meeting is a whole different story. I rarely contact anyone local to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm not pushy. If someone doesn't reply I let it go. I'm just surprised at the lack of conversational skills from most people. I'm very new to the forums so maybe this is the place to get chatting to intelligent people "

The forums do make it easier, especially threads that actually invite you to contact someone, (the 'send a message to...' type threads). At least then you know the people participating are open to being messaged on that topic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Good reply Wilma. Thanks. I think I follow most of your advice but could probably put a bit more effort in with regards to being more personal. It's difficult at times when a lot of messages don't get opened. But you're spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good reply Wilma. Thanks. I think I follow most of your advice but could probably put a bit more effort in with regards to being more personal. It's difficult at times when a lot of messages don't get opened. But you're spot on"

Just keep it simple and on point and interesting, introduce yourself as if it was a job interview, and be upbeat, you'll still get the unanswered message or unread, but look again at profile and see when or if they have been online, 45% of the profiles here are dead, unvisited from time of set up, or just plain fake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say that negativity is a big no no.

Ever seen a whinging, moany status and thought, hey, they seem like fun!

Putting others down in an attempt to make yourself look great is also frowned upon.

How many times have we seen threads started by single men, blaming their lack of success on the behaviour of others. Very unattractive and unappealing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would say that negativity is a big no no.

Ever seen a whinging, moany status and thought, hey, they seem like fun!

Putting others down in an attempt to make yourself look great is also frowned upon.

How many times have we seen threads started by single men, blaming their lack of success on the behaviour of others. Very unattractive and unappealing."

100%. Some people come across very negative and sore on here.

Didn't realise til after I posted that it seemed a bit negative at the end. This has been very interesting. Thanks for your help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say the following...

1) check your ego at the door when messaging, everyone has an agenda here, when you message someone you're trying to get on their agenda, so make your message about them, not you

2) be nice, sounds very simple, but having a couples profile as well I'm privy to the single male message, it's amazing how many guys assume that a overly direct message without simple pleasantries is the way to go, be nice and see point 1

3) tailor your message to your recipient, it shows that you've read their profile and care more about who you're messaging. A lot of guys copy and paste the same message to lots of women, it's just lazy

4) be gracious in rejection, see point 1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

unfortunately single men are ten a penny on these kind of sites, so to be noticed one has to stand head and shoulders above the others.

The OP's profile is lackluster, has generic spelling mistakes, is fairly nondescript, and if we were on the market for a single male would be over looked for 3 reason's.

1) poor attention to spelling.

2) no personal content.

3) lack of effort.

Ok your a single male, what makes you better than any other single male on the site, what attributes/qualities do you have that the others don't.

Right now your profile is at best uninteresting, and would score 2/10 for us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd say the following...

1) check your ego at the door when messaging, everyone has an agenda here, when you message someone you're trying to get on their agenda, so make your message about them, not you

2) be nice, sounds very simple, but having a couples profile as well I'm privy to the single male message, it's amazing how many guys assume that a overly direct message without simple pleasantries is the way to go, be nice and see point 1

3) tailor your message to your recipient, it shows that you've read their profile and care more about who you're messaging. A lot of guys copy and paste the same message to lots of women, it's just lazy

4) be gracious in rejection, see point 1

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Thanks for taking the time and effort to write such a detailed reply. Very good advice thanks. It's easy to get lazy on here but it'll not get me anywhere. The good thing is that I'm very polite and can take rejection. Just need to make a bit more effort I think. Cheers buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly 90% of it is how you look.

If somone finds you attractive even a simple "hey x" can be a successful first message.

If they don't no work of Shakespeare will get them to change thier mind. Most will just delete instantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be a good boy scout "be prepared"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Apart from the obvious cock pics and 'wanna fuck' messages, what are the big no no's here? And what works as an effective way to strike up natural conversation and just have a bit of craic? People are so intense and stuck up here "

But some people like cock pics and 'wanna fuck' messages. If you like those things then do them because you will attract people the same as you.

I don't like cock pics so it would be pointless for a cock pic guy to mail me as I'd bore him. He's not a bad guy, we're just not compatible.

I say be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A no no for me is men who message from miles away saying they can travel to me, when it says on my profile I don't host. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm just surprised at the lack of conversational skills from most people."

And that's unique to this site in which way?

Never mind, let me direct you to a new conversational tool known as Twitter...

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