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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi loving the site in some aspects but have found the increase in nastiness when saying politely thanks but no thanks I've started to block would people agree this is the best way to deal with it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi loving the site in some aspects but have found the increase in nastiness when saying politely thanks but no thanks I've started to block would people agree this is the best way to deal with it ?"

Did you profile used to be a couples one before aim changed it to single male to reflect reality?

As I can see that having caused a lot of negative messages as people will have seen it as timewasting.

If not I'm mildly curious as a straight? 5'7", "curvy", single male just how many people you're turning down for the amount of rejected women to have become such a problem?

Either way the answer is the same just block or say "not my type sorry" and rhen delete any replies unread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input."

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within "

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

I did mean to quote the OP, first message,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi loving the site in some aspects but have found the increase in nastiness when saying politely thanks but no thanks I've started to block would people agree this is the best way to deal with it ?"

Yes, that's the best way to deal with nastiness. Ignore them, and they'll go away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMO his profile needs a long hard look, it's very confusing, but to the OP block the nasties and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers I will look at sorting the profile I appreciate you guys answering thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheers I will look at sorting the profile I appreciate you guys answering thanks "

No problem. Good luck x

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

"Hi loving the site in some aspects but have found the increase in nastiness when saying politely thanks but no thanks I've started to block would people agree this is the best way to deal with it ?"

Unfortunately there are a lot of dickheads on here with no common decency it's best just to block and ignore them as a man on here I get a lot of 'thanks but no thanks' responses or more commonly my message just gets deleted normally if I do get the 'thanks but no thank' I'll message back saying ' no problem thanks for the reply' but I know I'm in the minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at "

I didn't do the same I asked 2 questions and answered the one he asked. That blocking or deleting follow up replies witho it reading is usually the beat course of action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi loving the site in some aspects but have found the increase in nastiness when saying politely thanks but no thanks I've started to block would people agree this is the best way to deal with it ?

What does your "thanks for the reply" to them turning you down active though?

All it is is a meaningless message that has to be deleted as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at "

No, the other poster didn't make the same mistake. That's why I didn't comment to him.

Oh dear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

I didn't do the same I asked 2 questions and answered the one he asked. That blocking or deleting follow up replies witho it reading is usually the beat course of action."

Yeah, I read your post and understood it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

I didn't do the same I asked 2 questions and answered the one he asked. That blocking or deleting follow up replies witho it reading is usually the beat course of action."

In your first sentence you refered to his profile asking was it once a couples. I was mearly stating the same, that it could be confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

I didn't do the same I asked 2 questions and answered the one he asked. That blocking or deleting follow up replies witho it reading is usually the beat course of action.

Yeah, I read your post and understood it.

Two separate threads now and you both seem to be intent on picking my posts apart,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

I didn't do the same I asked 2 questions and answered the one he asked. That blocking or deleting follow up replies witho it reading is usually the beat course of action.

Yeah, I read your post and understood it.

Two separate threads now and you both seem to be intent on picking my posts apart, "

Not *yours* specifically -- any posts that I felt were unclear or I felt I wanted to challenge. Similarly I may reply to posts I like or want to endorse -- it's a forum, no? There just happens to be not many people up at 3am and you've typed on one thread something I was keen to interact with, and on this thread something that made no sense to me. Are you feeling defensive? My intent isn't to upset, I'm just using the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

No, the other poster didn't make the same mistake. That's why I didn't comment to him.

Oh dear."

I'm sorry but if you read back it clearly does!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

I didn't do the same I asked 2 questions and answered the one he asked. That blocking or deleting follow up replies witho it reading is usually the beat course of action.

Yeah, I read your post and understood it.

Two separate threads now and you both seem to be intent on picking my posts apart,

Same here my lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

No, the other poster didn't make the same mistake. That's why I didn't comment to him.

Oh dear.

I'm sorry but if you read back it clearly does! "

Yeah, sure it does. With massive omissions from your post to leap to understanding what you were thinking. He clarified in his post the premise of the nastiness being when he turns someone down. You didn't. I don't really believe you understood it. But I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that within that gap all the understanding happened.

All good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it easier to just delete, rather than risk the abuse after I've replied with a polite 'no thx'

We see threads like this all the time, usually started by women and couples so I'm very surprised OP is male .......... your profile is very confusing, I'd delete any message you sent to me purely because it looks like now your a single male but you once was on here as a couple! Just my opinion but probably best to start a fresh profile as a single male if that's what you are now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

I didn't do the same I asked 2 questions and answered the one he asked. That blocking or deleting follow up replies witho it reading is usually the beat course of action.

Yeah, I read your post and understood it.

Two separate threads now and you both seem to be intent on picking my posts apart,

Same here my lovely "

Excellent. Phew. You seemed awful defensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd"

It's ok ive explained this to the op and I think my posts say this. You see it I do even the OP does. But It seems there is nit picking going on, carried from another thread. Which I'm sure is against forum rules,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

I didn't do the same I asked 2 questions and answered the one he asked. That blocking or deleting follow up replies witho it reading is usually the beat course of action.

Yeah, I read your post and understood it.

Two separate threads now and you both seem to be intent on picking my posts apart,

Same here my lovely

Excellent. Phew. You seemed awful defensive."

Me? Never , I've no reason to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd"

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd"

My query is if someone has approached (thus seen profile and approached) and he has turned them down and then they have got nasty about being turned down -- why would that be about, or entirely about, his profile?

If he was being turned down nastily after he approached someone else it would likely have huge bearing. But that wasn't what he said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

No, the other poster didn't make the same mistake. That's why I didn't comment to him.

Oh dear.

I'm sorry but if you read back it clearly does!

All good.

Please don't patronise me, I've done nothing wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

Crimony, you have a complex about me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

No, the other poster didn't make the same mistake. That's why I didn't comment to him.

Oh dear.

I'm sorry but if you read back it clearly does!

All good.

Please don't patronise me, I've done nothing wrong. "

You're making assumptions about me and being as patronising as I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

If he was being turned down nastily after he approached someone else it would likely have huge bearing. But that wasn't what he said. "
I offered the OP advice in a previous post which was to block the nasties, I'm purely commenting on his profile now not nit picking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I'm a little disappointed only 2 out of 3 means from my post got picked up

And people say I'm not subtle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No was part of a fb cpl we even had a veri recently but you do make a point perhaps that's how people interpret it cheers for the input.

I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within

That makes no sense. He's asking why people get aggy after he turns them down. Why would his profile have anything to do with that?

Yet another user done the same and you choose to pull me, I was mearly stating that maybe his profile needs looking at

No, the other poster didn't make the same mistake. That's why I didn't comment to him.

Oh dear.

I'm sorry but if you read back it clearly does!

All good.

Please don't patronise me, I've done nothing wrong.

You're making assumptions about me and being as patronising as I.

Ok,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

Crimony, you have a complex about me!

Ok, please read back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong? "

I asked the op if his profile had been changed to a couples one.

That post you've just quoted I am talking to a different poster (not the op) and just clarifying to him some of the technical quirks of the site when it comes to changing profiles from single to couple etc.

It's so much easier to simply make new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong? "

No, the thread topic has extrapolated beyond the first two replies. I stated I didn't understand your reasoning -- that it made no sense. It doesn't (to me) in the same way I explained to another poster. I'm allowed that opinion, your original irk was that you felt I should have said that to the first reply -- but he wrote more context and I understood his point.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong?

I asked the op if his profile had been changed to a couples one.

It's so much easier to simply make new"

Exactly what I was saying on my very first post! But not in so many words. Yet I got told what did that have to do with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

If he was being turned down nastily after he approached someone else it would likely have huge bearing. But that wasn't what he said. I offered the OP advice in a previous post which was to block the nasties, I'm purely commenting on his profile now not nit picking

Oh I didn't think you were nit picking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong?

I'm getting you and thx picking on my posts , I was only saying exactly what thx said. His profile is confusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong?

I asked the op if his profile had been changed to a couples one.

It's so much easier to simply make new

Exactly what I was saying on my very first post! But not in so many words. Yet I got told what did that have to do with it"

You were asked. I was seeking clarification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong?

I asked the op if his profile had been changed to a couples one.

It's so much easier to simply make new

Exactly what I was saying on my very first post! But not in so many words. Yet I got told what did that have to do with it"

"I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within"

That was your post.

Where exactly in that post do you answer the OP's question?

"How to deal with nasty messages after turning somone down?"

If my random discussion of site mechanics is "exactly what you said" but in more words then it still has nothing to do with the OP's question.

Which is why I answered his question specifically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's leave it right there ladies and agree to disagree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong?

I'm getting you and thx picking on my posts , I was only saying exactly what thx said. His profile is confusing "

Firstly I have no idea who you are only reason I'm in here is because you mentioned my post erroneously.

Because I actually answered his question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's leave it right there ladies and agree to disagree

And the award for most apropriate username goes to.....!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong?

I'm getting you and thx picking on my posts , I was only saying exactly what thx said. His profile is confusing "

Thank you for clarifying your original post that I didn't get.

Again, I'm not picking on (and I'm sorry if you feel that's the case) I'm trying to discuss.

Do you understand the point I was making that the confusing profile can't be the sole reason for rude replies in the context laid out by OP? Unless the approacher did so without viewing the profile, which can happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let's leave it right there ladies and agree to disagree

And the award for most apropriate username goes to.....!"

totally!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong?

I asked the op if his profile had been changed to a couples one.

It's so much easier to simply make new

Exactly what I was saying on my very first post! But not in so many words. Yet I got told what did that have to do with it

"I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within"

That was your post.

Where exactly in that post do you answer the OP's question?

"How to deal with nasty messages after turning somone down?"

If my random discussion of site mechanics is "exactly what you said" but in more words then it still has nothing to do with the OP's question.

Which is why I answered his question specifically."

Ok it was relating to his question as why he gets turned down , I was basically saying I can't give profile advice but maybe because his profile is a little confusing maybe that's why. Sorry but whys that so hard to understand? You even said yourself in your post before mine

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over a year ago

"The guys profile IS confusing, it suggests it was written by a fem then altered by a male, very odd

It was a couples profile, they broke up so it was changed back to a single males but the op has yet to change the contents.

It can cause a lot of problems as it often messes up the physical stats/merges them.

(I'm sure the op doesn't normally describe himself as curvy lol)

Yet when you say this it's ok!! But I say it's confusing and I'm wrong?

I asked the op if his profile had been changed to a couples one.

It's so much easier to simply make new

Exactly what I was saying on my very first post! But not in so many words. Yet I got told what did that have to do with it

"I can't give you any advice on your profile as you've not asked. But the answer lies within"

That was your post.

Where exactly in that post do you answer the OP's question?

"How to deal with nasty messages after turning somone down?"

If my random discussion of site mechanics is "exactly what you said" but in more words then it still has nothing to do with the OP's question.

Which is why I answered his question specifically.

But the OP is saying he is turning people down which is upsetting them, *not* that he is getting turned down!