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'girls like you don't go for guys like me'...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

or 'guys like you don't go for girls like me'

Makes me think about rejection and the fear of it. Do people say these comments to brace themselves because they do not think they are good enough or because they seek reassurance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or 'guys like you don't go for girls like me'

Makes me think about rejection and the fear of it. Do people say these comments to brace themselves because they do not think they are good enough or because they seek reassurance?

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Never actually used that one, but I think everyone fears rejection, some more than others. I would say that I would never approach someone who was 'out of my league'. I would have to believe I had a chance of 'pulling her'. As someone said on an earlier thread about job rejections. Sometimes its just timing (she may of just got a b/f), or is just visiting, or whatever. The worst part is if you're built up the bottle to ask a girl, in front of her mates, been rejected, then have to walk back to the piss-taking of your own mates! The joys of dating!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

this was a vanilla experience for me..

i sent the guy a message on a dating site and we exchanged texts, phone calls various conversations on msn with webcam so he has a very good idea of who i am.. we met up a few times and had a brilliant time but then it was when he met all my friends he used the line 'girls like you dont go for guys like me'

Im far from anything out of the ordinary, kinda like the fact im simple and easily pleased. i was very much interested in him, but was when he saw the people i associate with he thought i was something im not. baffled me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or 'guys like you don't go for girls like me'

Makes me think about rejection and the fear of it. Do people say these comments to brace themselves because they do not think they are good enough or because they seek reassurance?

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Reassurance, low self esteam think its classed as.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or 'guys like you don't go for girls like me'

Makes me think about rejection and the fear of it. Do people say these comments to brace themselves because they do not think they are good enough or because they seek reassurance?

"

I often think "shes outta my league" suppose its just personal insecurity

Thing is Im often proved wrong xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Esteem*,lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had that said to me, via FAB or vanilla dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always being rejected,not to sure why.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I cant be doing with people that are needy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I often think "shes outta my league" suppose its just personal insecurity

Thing is Im often proved wrong xx "

So would people go for people who are presumed not out of their league just because they wouldn't be rejected.. i was always told to aim high?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant be doing with people that are needy "

Ugly and off putting isn't it?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often think "shes outta my league" suppose its just personal insecurity

Thing is Im often proved wrong xx

So would people go for people who are presumed not out of their league just because they wouldn't be rejected.. i was always told to aim high?"

As i said that's just a personal insecurity thing

Im one guy who's actually really happy being small in height but i ain't happy with anything else about me lol just the way it is

I never rarely approach ANY female because of it lol

and that's the truth xx

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I cant be doing with people that are needy

Ugly and off putting isn't it?!! "
Its obvious on a site like this we arent all going to be everyones type, suck it up, plenty more tail about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Always being rejected,not to sure why. "

"Rejected" reads kinda dramatic, "having nae luck" we call it in Scotland, and that happens, easy come easy go,works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think God has created a man outside my league yet! I honestly don't understand people giving others props to the detriment of themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cant be doing with people that are needy

Ugly and off putting isn't it?!! Its obvious on a site like this we arent all going to be everyones type, suck it up, plenty more tail about!"

We are not going to be for everyone anywhere: that's what some people can't grasp!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Maybe he liked you but didnt find a connection with your friends. So used that line. Its the same as "its not you its me"

Although Jay is alot older than me and average looking because he is of a different class to me some might say hes out of my league

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By *havenangel1Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

I go for what i like if it's a no from them it's because i am not there type not because they are better than me or out of my league.

I don't believe anyone is out of my league nor do i think i am better than anyone else it's all just about personal taste

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Maybe he meant it more as a compliment, which didn't get the reaction he wanted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

deffinetly a bloke lacking in confidence id say.....in les he was saying it 2 a lesbian

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"or 'guys like you don't go for girls like me'

Makes me think about rejection and the fear of it. Do people say these comments to brace themselves because they do not think they are good enough or because they seek reassurance?

"

It reminds me of primary school when the other girls wud say their picture was no good so everyone wud declare it was brilliant.

Attention seeking and passive aggressive,and not sexy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"or 'guys like you don't go for girls like me'

Makes me think about rejection and the fear of it. Do people say these comments to brace themselves because they do not think they are good enough or because they seek reassurance?

"

ooo im terrible im so insecure its unreal

tho i have never actually said anything like that to anyone i do think it

if i get a message from a really good looking guy i will and do decide for him theres no way he'd like me in the flesh and not reply

tho i would never say to anyone, your to good for me i do think it and not reply to guys i feel would not like me

so for me its not for reassurance as i dont give people chance to reassure me

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