FabSwingers.com forum: Single male fabsters on dating sites

By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

Both myself and a female friend have been enjoying this lifestyle for many years but being totally honest with each other we both agreed the ultimate goal would be a meaningful long term relationship with one person If they are open to dabbling with this lifestyle even better!

I'm making it perfectly clear I am not on Fab looking for a relationship We both have used dating apps when looking for relationships

The frustrating thing is dating sites seem to be full of men off Fab looking for casual sex yet their profiles say otherwise! When I asked a few single guys on Fab why they did this they said they got more "action" off dating apps

Great for them but utterly frustrating when you meet a guy, like my friend did, thinking it was going well

So my question is...

Are there any single men on Fab who are also on dating apps that are genuinely looking for relationships?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Both myself and a female friend have been enjoying this lifestyle for many years but being totally honest with each other we both agreed the ultimate goal would be a meaningful long term relationship with one person If they are open to dabbling with this lifestyle even better!

I'm making it perfectly clear I am not on Fab looking for a relationship We both have used dating apps when looking for relationships

Great for them but utterly frustrating when you meet a guy, like my friend did, thinking it was going well

So my question is...

Are there any single men on Fab who are also on dating apps that are genuinely looking for relationships?"

I'm glad it's not just me having this problem!! Drives me bloody bonkers!

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I'm making it perfectly clear I am not on Fab looking for a relationship We both have used dating apps when looking for relationships

Great for them but utterly frustrating when you meet a guy, like my friend did, thinking it was going well

So my question is...

Are there any single men on Fab who are also on dating apps that are genuinely looking for relationships?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be on OKCupid looking to genuinely date a long while ago.

Got burnt very badly from the relationship that I had with someone I know on there. So I've sworn off online dating altogether now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im going to be sitting awaiting responses to this patiently as i have the same issue

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

They all just want a shag, many have sod all to offer as a partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am on another site, but I dont look for a relationship as the gym comes first. I like the casual single lifestyle with no strings attached

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I am on another site, but I dont look for a relationship as the gym comes first. I like the casual single lifestyle with no strings attached

But if you're honest about it that's fine It's all the liars on dating sites that say they want a relationship that are just fabsters expanding their odds that do our heads in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I don't get is why you think you have to go to a dating site for this?

I know people join fab for sex but there will be some.....don't ask me how many lol.. .who are also looking for a relationship on here.

As you've found....don't judge a book by its cover

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"im going to be sitting awaiting responses to this patiently as i have the same issue

I gave up on Tinder after 2 weeks because I came across 6 guys I'd exchanged face pics with on here over the years

What's the alternative to dating sites though? Meeting random strangers in bars is even worse

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"What I don't get is why you think you have to go to a dating site for this?

I know people join fab for sex but there will be some.....don't ask me how many lol.. .who are also looking for a relationship on here.

As you've found....don't judge a book by its cover

Fab is not a dating site Yes there have been happy endings for some who weren't looking but just clicked on here but it's not really the place to find a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its not just single men on both sites.many of the single females are also on dating sites looking for a relationship so keep it real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am on another site, but I dont look for a relationship as the gym comes first. I like the casual single lifestyle with no strings attached

But if you're honest about it that's fine It's all the liars on dating sites that say they want a relationship that are just fabsters expanding their odds that do our heads in"
That is right as being honest about is the best way to go about it.

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

I dont use dating sites at all for that very reason.. I would rather the so called honesty from here. You both know what you are getting.. although it is not what I am after right now... in time I will want another relationship, ideally a swinging one. I love the excitement of couple meets with your partner... but how do you tell someone from the vanilla world that!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

So my intention to join one of those sites not for a relationship but for some adult companionship in my dotage is doomed to fail? Bugger!

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"its not just single men on both sites.many of the single females are also on dating sites looking for a relationship so keep it real "

Yes the operative words being looking for a relationship I've got no issue with people on both dating sites if they really are Just seems the majority aren't despite what their dating profile says

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The free dating websites are full of all the same people!

A mate of mine made finding a partner her full time job lol and met her BF of 5yrs off of the Fishy site.

So it is possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am on another site, but I dont look for a relationship as the gym comes first. I like the casual single lifestyle with no strings attached

But if you're honest about it that's fine It's all the liars on dating sites that say they want a relationship that are just fabsters expanding their odds that do our heads inThat is right as being honest about is the best way to go about it."
I am not on the usual sites most are on like pof. I use a casual dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only on fab it deals with my needs when and if I want a relationship I'll leave and go on a dating site.

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I dont use dating sites at all for that very reason.. I would rather the so called honesty from here. You both know what you are getting.. although it is not what I am after right now... in time I will want another relationship, ideally a swinging one. I love the excitement of couple meets with your partner... but how do you tell someone from the vanilla world that!!

Maybe there needs to be a site created for swingers looking for swinging relationships? It's kind of a catch 22 Telling a vsnilla person about swinging would be difficult but equally fab is not a dating site either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm making it perfectly clear I am not on Fab looking for a relationship We both have used dating apps when looking for relationships

Great for them but utterly frustrating when you meet a guy, like my friend did, thinking it was going well

So my question is...

Are there any single men on Fab who are also on dating apps that are genuinely looking for relationships?"

I would love a fab and real relationship, very hard to find

i am on dating sites but honest with the women

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"its not just single men on both sites.many of the single females are also on dating sites looking for a relationship so keep it real "

Yes but they are SUPPOSED to be looking on there! Yes I've seen fab men on there but some of them want a relationship too!

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

There are poly dating sites which I've started investigating don't know how successful that would be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably. And I can understand why. If your in more sites, that means more shots at more women. I'm not wrong, that's a fact.

I'm not in any relationship/dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally disenchanted with dating sites.

It's all about casual sex. What happened to romance? To being wooed?

It's a bit soul destroying to be honest.

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By *airymagicWoman
over a year ago

goblin city

Yes there are ive met 2

I recently lost my regular to a gf

And

I met a guy who wanted a real boyf/girlf set up away from fab barr the occasional treat. I hesitated for a couple of months and lost him to a vanilla relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not on other sites so have no experience of them. But people find their dreams in all sorts of unexpected places even fab....

And if it happened then it's the right place to be at the right time..

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"There are poly dating sites which I've started investigating don't know how successful that would be. "

Interesting... how have you found it so far?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on that loads of fishy site too

I am looking for a relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me, but I have a very relaxed way of looking for relationship, basically I'm a lazy git and wait for the love of my life to fall on my thigs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally disenchanted with dating sites.

It's all about casual sex. What happened to romance? To being wooed?

It's a bit soul destroying to be honest. "

With you there! I'm on the free sites and have paid for another site, all the same! I'm half tempted to walk around town with a sandwich board, advertising myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on other sites and actually looking for a relationship. I enjoy what fab brings and if I could find somebody who would also enjoy it then brilliant. For me it's been a case of looking for a relationship on different sites, I haven't looked on here as it's not what most people are after so I look for that else where

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am on a couple of dating sites because I am looking for a relationship. I am on here to satisfy certain needs until that is fulfilled by a partner.

However .....

I believe in being totally honest with the women who I choose to go on a date with, so when the subject of fab/swinging comes up through the topic of sex, 99% of the time the women look at me like some kind of monster

It never goes past a first date, there's multiple reasons they give me, I can't be trusted, they don't think they could satisfy me sexually, they couldn't get understand why I would do it in the first place etc etc the excuses are endless.

On the odd occasion, someone wanted a second date? They wanted to go to a club

I can't lie to them about here or past history because I have made life long friends here and would still attend socials, parties etc.

So on the one hand whilst I have enjoyed my experiences through swinging, on the other hand now it's the one thing stopping me meeting someone and being happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally disenchanted with dating sites.

It's all about casual sex. What happened to romance? To being wooed?

It's a bit soul destroying to be honest.

With you there! I'm on the free sites and have paid for another site, all the same! I'm half tempted to walk around town with a sandwich board, advertising myself! "

- i'd join you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally disenchanted with dating sites.

It's all about casual sex. What happened to romance? To being wooed?

It's a bit soul destroying to be honest.

With you there! I'm on the free sites and have paid for another site, all the same! I'm half tempted to walk around town with a sandwich board, advertising myself!

- i'd join you!"

Lol, well at least i wouldn't feel like Billy no mates, let's do it!!

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I am on a couple of dating sites because I am looking for a relationship. I am on here to satisfy certain needs until that is fulfilled by a partner.

However .....

On the odd occasion, someone wanted a second date? They wanted to go to a club

I can't lie to them about here or past history because I have made life long friends here and would still attend socials, parties etc.

So on the one hand whilst I have enjoyed my experiences through swinging, on the other hand now it's the one thing stopping me meeting someone and being happy.

I believe in honesty too but as I've discovered as soon as you mention swinging the guys just want a 2nd date at a club if they're swingers too

If you're genuinely looking for a relationship surely build that relationship first then go swinging together?

Sounds like this dilemma isn't just an issue for female swingers

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I'm on fans for fun until something serious comes along. I'm no dating sites for just that. Do women believe me when I tell them that?

Fuck no.

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I'm on fans for fun until something serious comes along. I'm no dating sites for just that. Do women believe me when I tell them that?

Fuck no.

That's precisely why I'm on here Living like a nunn in the meantime doesn't work for me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive got an 8 month old grandson thanks to the fishy site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am on a couple of dating sites because I am looking for a relationship. I am on here to satisfy certain needs until that is fulfilled by a partner.

However .....

On the odd occasion, someone wanted a second date? They wanted to go to a club

I can't lie to them about here or past history because I have made life long friends here and would still attend socials, parties etc.

So on the one hand whilst I have enjoyed my experiences through swinging, on the other hand now it's the one thing stopping me meeting someone and being happy.

I believe in honesty too but as I've discovered as soon as you mention swinging the guys just want a 2nd date at a club if they're swingers too

If you're genuinely looking for a relationship surely build that relationship first then go swinging together?

Sounds like this dilemma isn't just an issue for female swingers"

Exactly, if you meet a swinger and you're one yourself then you get to know each other first, build on that and then after a while have a conversation about going back to the lifestyle. I'd say those guys who want to go to a club as a second date just want sex asap.

I am at a loss as to how it works itself out but I'm sure it will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we each joined one of these sites looking for lasting sexual friendships would you consider that legit or is it only wedding bells people are looking for from these dating relationships? Just interested

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I am on a couple of dating sites because I am looking for a relationship. I am on here to satisfy certain needs until that is fulfilled by a partner.

However .....

On the odd occasion, someone wanted a second date? They wanted to go to a club

I can't lie to them about here or past history because I have made life long friends here and would still attend socials, parties etc.

So on the one hand whilst I have enjoyed my experiences through swinging, on the other hand now it's the one thing stopping me meeting someone and being happy.

I believe in honesty too but as I've discovered as soon as you mention swinging the guys just want a 2nd date at a club if they're swingers too

If you're genuinely looking for a relationship surely build that relationship first then go swinging together?

Sounds like this dilemma isn't just an issue for female swingers

I am at a loss as to how it works itself out but I'm sure it will

I live in hope but it's got to the point I'm on the dating sites less and less often each time before I just give up again and stick to my uncomplicated fab lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So my intention to join one of those sites not for a relationship but for some adult companionship in my dotage is doomed to fail? Bugger!

You and me both it would seem

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

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"If we each joined one of these sites looking for lasting sexual friendships would you consider that legit or is it only wedding bells people are looking for from these dating relationships? Just interested

Not necessarily wedding bells but a proper relationship - fabs is the place to find fwb.

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

I think there is a market for a swinging dating site. I for one would sign up. Although I guess you would still get others joining in the hope to get more sex lol

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I am on another site, but I dont look for a relationship as the gym comes first. I like the casual single lifestyle with no strings attached

eBay don't count, mate

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Literally just started looking this week. I first came on fab to explore bi side (which I still want to do but I'm now certain I'm bi). But having been here (on and off) for 4 years now I want to have a relationship plus keep fabbing. I'm not jealous type never have been. But it would be nice to have at least one person to be affectionate with and to share things like going out for meals to theatre etc

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

Definetly agree with the last part. At some point I would like a relationship with someone who likes to play but for the moment I enjoy fab and would like to play with some elses Mrs

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

Thank gid I am not looking for a partner. Me and Mr are good friends who play

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"I am on a couple of dating sites because I am looking for a relationship. I am on here to satisfy certain needs until that is fulfilled by a partner.

However .....

On the odd occasion, someone wanted a second date? They wanted to go to a club

I can't lie to them about here or past history because I have made life long friends here and would still attend socials, parties etc.

So on the one hand whilst I have enjoyed my experiences through swinging, on the other hand now it's the one thing stopping me meeting someone and being happy.

I believe in honesty too but as I've discovered as soon as you mention swinging the guys just want a 2nd date at a club if they're swingers too

If you're genuinely looking for a relationship surely build that relationship first then go swinging together?

Sounds like this dilemma isn't just an issue for female swingers"

I do agree - even if you are both swingers you have to build your relationship first before jointly heading back to swinging (thats if you both actually want a real relationship and not a fab swingimg one of course)

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

im not on dating site because i dont do vanilla and asking for a dominant on there would be like asking for all the wannabes in the uk to line up for sex with random fetishes/ fantasys... making me feel depressed..no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily wedding bells but a proper relationship - fabs is the place to find fwb."

We couldn't tempt you into a hippy poly free love commune with us then?

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Think swingles would be an excellent idea

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Hello there Suzy

Maybe you have stumbled on a great business plan??

Been finding too many Mr Grey wannabes lately?

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Think swingles would be an excellent idea

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it was popular, packed actually. i will make inquiries as to why the venue didnt carry them on x

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Think swingles would be an excellent idea

Agreed

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

Not necessarily wedding bells but a proper relationship - fabs is the place to find fwb."

Yes definitely not looking for wedding bells just a proper relationship

Fabs is great for finding an fwb, which I happily have, but long term I know I'll need to go back on the dating apps in search of a proper relationship

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Think swingles would be an excellent idea

it was popular, packed actually. i will make inquiries as to why the venue didnt carry them on x"

Which venues have done them in the past? I'm sure I saw a club event for speed dating which is first time I've seen that ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had spells on dating sites looking for a relationship.. I've never used tinder for sex tbh - I'm not down with preying on the vulnerable.

I've had quite an internal debate recently about whether I'm actually capable, or want a vanilla 'committed relationship' or whether something with more freedom is right.

So for now, I've quit lol.. no point in looking when I don't know what I want

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Hello there Suzy

Maybe you have stumbled on a great business plan??

Been finding too many Mr Grey wannabes lately?

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hiya, no ive had a couple of serious messages,mostly the same type of "i want to make you scream while i impale you with my cock" ones...i did ask whether i got a flogging first, but the question usually gets ignored as they tell me they are 'enjoying themselves' so glad they are so easily pleased

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Think swingles would be an excellent idea

it was popular, packed actually. i will make inquiries as to why the venue didnt carry them on x

Which venues have done them in the past? I'm sure I saw a club event for speed dating which is first time I've seen that ever"
jaydees hosted two and i do believe townhouse hosted one...

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

Seems there's a speed dating event at No3 on friday 30th June Might have to take a look

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Not necessarily wedding bells but a proper relationship - fabs is the place to find fwb.

We couldn't tempt you into a hippy poly free love commune with us then?

Ooh I'd love a hippie commune but it would have to be a monogamous one lol!

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Hello there Suzy

Maybe you have stumbled on a great business plan??

Been finding too many Mr Grey wannabes lately?

hiya, no ive had a couple of serious messages,mostly the same type of "i want to make you scream while i impale you with my cock" ones...i did ask whether i got a flogging first, but the question usually gets ignored as they tell me they are 'enjoying themselves' so glad they are so easily pleased

Hahaha aren't all us gents meant to be easy pleased??

You are very specific on your profile so hopefully it helps you find what you are looking for (im the meantime though don't know of you noticed me and my friend peek at you from our couples profile

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"Seems there's a speed dating event at No3 on friday 30th June Might have to take a look

May I ask where no3 is?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure I trust dating sites. Joined fab as was single and looking for casual sex and wanted to expand horizons. Fell for someone from here and even moved in with her. Sadly things didn't work out.

But if I advertised myself on the run of the mill dating sites like I used to on here I would get banned I reckon.

Really hard to find the right balance. Even if you do know what you do or don't want. Men get viewed as perverts if they showed themselves forvwhat they're really looking for. Therefore would rather stay on a site like this.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Hello there Suzy

Maybe you have stumbled on a great business plan??

Been finding too many Mr Grey wannabes lately?

Hahaha aren't all us gents meant to be easy pleased??

You are very specific on your profile so hopefully it helps you find what you are looking for (im the meantime though don't know of you noticed me and my friend peek at you from our couples profile

)"
no, men should be themselves, but most dont know what that is

..i know what i want, so i ask for it.

ill find it, because i dont get distracted by alternative offers that dont suit me.

no, i never check whos looked at me..sorry x

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"Seems there's a speed dating event at No3 on friday 30th June Might have to take a look

May I ask where no3 is?"

Chorley near Manchester I think The club is on the club reviews on fab too Not been there before so not sure what it's like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not necessarily wedding bells but a proper relationship - fabs is the place to find fwb.

We couldn't tempt you into a hippy poly free love commune with us then?

Ooh I'd love a hippie commune but it would have to be a monogamous one lol!

Hey city suit don't bum our nonconformity with your stiff rules. There'll be no doors in our commune and just one single huge bed in the middle. Get with it flower child. Monogamy is not jivey

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"Not sure I trust dating sites. Joined fab as was single and looking for casual sex and wanted to expand horizons. Fell for someone from here and even moved in with her. Sadly things didn't work out.

But if I advertised myself on the run of the mill dating sites like I used to on here I would get banned I reckon.

I'd welcome a totally open unfiltered profile on a dating site The usual dross just bores me

Say what you want not what you think people want to hear If dating site profiles were as straight talking as fab profiles it would be so much easier

I actually found my FWB on here cause his profile stood out as take no crap, specifics about what he wanted, straight talk no bullshit, no compromise

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'd be up for hippy commune somewhere nice and warm.

Definitely not wedding bells don't even wanna live with someone else again.

But good sex, have fun socially, look out for each other - yea up for that

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Not necessarily wedding bells but a proper relationship - fabs is the place to find fwb.

We couldn't tempt you into a hippy poly free love commune with us then?

Ooh I'd love a hippie commune but it would have to be a monogamous one lol!

Hey city suit don't bum our nonconformity with your stiff rules. There'll be no doors in our commune and just one single huge bed in the middle. Get with it flower child. Monogamy is not jivey

Yea peace out dude ?

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I'd be up for hippy commune somewhere nice and warm.

Definitely not wedding bells don't even wanna live with someone else again.

But good sex, have fun socially, look out for each other - yea up for that "

Yep sounds perfect! I'm quite happy having my own place

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"So my question is...

Are there any single men on Fab who are also on dating apps that are genuinely looking for relationships?"

I have just joined Fish. I haven't dated in many years but I think it is time I considered having a proper relationship. It is early days so far, I haven't met anyone yet, so meeting someone from there for casual sex is not an issue.

As for here, apart from a recent social meet with a fab member, I haven't met anyone from Fab in several years. No sex via here in ages, no sex with anyone at all in 2 years. So I don't feel I have any conflict. Whether Fab or Fish, I am willing to see where relationships or sex, casual or otherwise, might emerge from.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Hello there Suzy

Maybe you have stumbled on a great business plan??

Been finding too many Mr Grey wannabes lately?

Hahaha aren't all us gents meant to be easy pleased??

You are very specific on your profile so hopefully it helps you find what you are looking for (im the meantime though don't know of you noticed me and my friend peek at you from our couples profile

)no, men should be themselves, but most dont know what that is

..i know what i want, so i ask for it.

ill find it, because i dont get distracted by alternative offers that dont suit me.

no, i never check whos looked at me..sorry x"

A lady that knows what she wants AND asks for it?? I don't believe it!!!!

Oh well had to fab a pic this time as we can't wink or message you

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"Seems there's a speed dating event at No3 on friday 30th June Might have to take a look

May I ask where no3 is?

Chorley near Manchester I think The club is on the club reviews on fab too Not been there before so not sure what it's like"

Thabk you.

Just a tad to far unfortunately as anyone I would meet would live miles away

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"I'd be up for hippy commune somewhere nice and warm.

Definitely not wedding bells don't even wanna live with someone else again.

But good sex, have fun socially, look out for each other - yea up for that "

Sounds ideal

(And hello from a Son of the Rock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aye I'm on the fishing one and genuinely looking for a relationship.

Though the lasses that show an interest in me are the ones that I'm not interested in,and the messages I send to those I do like the look of mostly get no replies,or if I do get a reply the convo usually fizzles out.

The few dates I've been on haven't amounted to anything either.

I've pretty much given up now n just use fab for sex.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'd be up for hippy commune somewhere nice and warm.

Definitely not wedding bells don't even wanna live with someone else again.

But good sex, have fun socially, look out for each other - yea up for that

Sounds ideal

(And hello from a Son of the Rock

Thanks but 400 miles is a BIT far lol I've done the LDR before and it's a pain

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Not necessarily wedding bells but a proper relationship - fabs is the place to find fwb.

We couldn't tempt you into a hippy poly free love commune with us then?

Ooh I'd love a hippie commune but it would have to be a monogamous one lol!

Hey city suit don't bum our nonconformity with your stiff rules. There'll be no doors in our commune and just one single huge bed in the middle. Get with it flower child. Monogamy is not jivey

Meh, in my hippie gang in the 70's pretty much everyone was in stable, longterm, faithful relationships. They were fabulous, gentle people and I miss them dearly.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"I'd be up for hippy commune somewhere nice and warm.

Definitely not wedding bells don't even wanna live with someone else again.

But good sex, have fun socially, look out for each other - yea up for that

Sounds ideal

(And hello from a Son of the Rock

)

Thanks but 400 miles is a BIT far lol I've done the LDR before and it's a pain "

Haha yes it is unfortunately.

I'm origionally from just over the water so thought I'd say hi (plus liked your pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im with the OP ... couldnt care less who is on both, wether they use them for the same purpose or different, wether they look for casual or relationships

I just wish people wouldn't be dicks and lie

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Aye I'm on the fishing one and genuinely looking for a relationship.

The few dates I've been on haven't amounted to anything either.

I've pretty much given up now n just use fab for sex."

Yes, same here, though sadly they either want sex or are pretty boring to talk to! Still, I put a new pic up on monday and have half a dozen new conversations, so I am doing my best to show some enthusiasm lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread. I'm a single guy and I'm here for a relationship. I think this is a much better place to find one. As there's no bull... it's all truth here. People open up more and well that opens many more doors... just my opinion

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By *utie91Woman
over a year ago

Hitchin

I'm making it perfectly clear I am not on Fab looking for a relationship We both have used dating apps when looking for relationships

Great for them but utterly frustrating when you meet a guy, like my friend did, thinking it was going well

So my question is...

Are there any single men on Fab who are also on dating apps that are genuinely looking for relationships?

I'm glad it's not just me having this problem!! Drives me bloody bonkers!"

Me too, it's why I've given up on dating sites... however, I did meet a lovely... really fit police office while I was at work who gave me his number after lots of mutual flirting which distracted both of us from our actual work, and we are meeting up the weekend

Honestly boss I wasn't taking too long to finish my paperwork

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Interesting thread. I'm a single guy and I'm here for a relationship. I think this is a much better place to find one. As there's no bull... it's all truth here..."

Lol ya think? There's shed loads of bull believe me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"im going to be sitting awaiting responses to this patiently as i have the same issue

I gave up on Tinder after 2 weeks because I came across 6 guys I'd exchanged face pics with on here over the years

What's the alternative to dating sites though? Meeting random strangers in bars is even worse"

Met my lovely man in a bar 14 months ago, have been a one cock woman since then......don't Diss the bar meets lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aye I'm on the fishing one and genuinely looking for a relationship.

The few dates I've been on haven't amounted to anything either.

I've pretty much given up now n just use fab for sex.

Good stuff

I'd no doubt have more luck if I was more proactive,I just can't be arsed these days......fab's made me lazy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone wants and likes sex hence why we are all on fab!

Fishy site is basically fab but with profile photos of your face!

The amount of guys that have messaged me on said fishy site and commented about me being on fab!

I'd like a relationship, but the sex has to be good before I'd even think about it

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By *ptonguy2015Man
over a year ago

market Harborough

Hello all you crazy fabsters. I am that exception. I have been single for 2 years now, was actively seeking a new relationship on different apps but have recently deleted them all and am currently relying on bumping into somebody. I use this site for some me time have never meet anyone from here. Have been to a club VA, with somebody I was seeing a while ago, If I could find somebody that tick a few of the kink boxes that would make for a extra special relationship. Interested ladies? X

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

I think a lot of guys on fab will love relationships , the problem has always been will the ladies respect the terms of a relationship as controlled by the swinging rules? This means , will you have a face on if your guy is playing at a party with other lovers?

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

I'm making it perfectly clear I am not on Fab looking for a relationship We both have used dating apps when looking for relationships

Great for them but utterly frustrating when you meet a guy, like my friend did, thinking it was going well

So my question is...

Are there any single men on Fab who are also on dating apps that are genuinely looking for relationships?

I'm glad it's not just me having this problem!! Drives me bloody bonkers!

Honestly boss I wasn't taking too long to finish my paperwork

Guid luck and hope it goes well

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"im going to be sitting awaiting responses to this patiently as i have the same issue

I gave up on Tinder after 2 weeks because I came across 6 guys I'd exchanged face pics with on here over the years

What's the alternative to dating sites though? Meeting random strangers in bars is even worse

Met my lovely man in a bar 14 months ago, have been a one cock woman since then......don't Diss the bar meets lol. "

Bar meets can happen but if you want to still have swinging fun it can be difficult for a bar meet to progress to more than a one off ie a slap in the face or looked at like you are the spawn of satan (or as someome else said 2nd date at a swingers club!)

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"Everyone wants and likes sex hence why we are all on fab!

Fishy site is basically fab but with profile photos of your face!

The amount of guys that have messaged me on said fishy site and commented about me being on fab!

I'd like a relationship, but the sex has to be good before I'd even think about it "

Well that is true but for a relationship you need the other bits as well as sex - for a fab fb relationship well then all you need is amazing sex

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"I think a lot of guys on fab will love relationships , the problem has always been will the ladies respect the terms of a relationship as controlled by the swinging rules? This means , will you have a face on if your guy is playing at a party with other lovers?"

I have seen this happen a couple of times at swingers clubs but both times it was the guy that was having a strop as his Lady was having fun and he wasn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am on a couple of dating sites because I am looking for a relationship. I am on here to satisfy certain needs until that is fulfilled by a partner.

However .....

On the odd occasion, someone wanted a second date? They wanted to go to a club

I can't lie to them about here or past history because I have made life long friends here and would still attend socials, parties etc.

So on the one hand whilst I have enjoyed my experiences through swinging, on the other hand now it's the one thing stopping me meeting someone and being happy.

Exactly this for me too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am on a couple of dating sites because I am looking for a relationship. I am on here to satisfy certain needs until that is fulfilled by a partner.

However .....

On the odd occasion, someone wanted a second date? They wanted to go to a club

I can't lie to them about here or past history because I have made life long friends here and would still attend socials, parties etc.

So on the one hand whilst I have enjoyed my experiences through swinging, on the other hand now it's the one thing stopping me meeting someone and being happy.

Exactly this for me too! "

Sucks to be us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also looking for a relationship , but not actively looking as such, if it happens great. I'd much rather meet someone from here with the same kinks as me as opposed to a vanilla site.

I hardly ever log into tinder it kinda bores me.

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By *ustfortonightMan
over a year ago

Kent

I'm confused, you say you're on dating sites because you're looking for a relationship, why could that not be true for the guys you've seen on them?

I use dating sites because I'm looking for a relationship, or at least open to finding one. But I keep the two very separate.

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I'm confused, you say you're on dating sites because you're looking for a relationship, why could that not be true for the guys you've seen on them?

I use dating sites because I'm looking for a relationship, or at least open to finding one. But I keep the two very separate. "

The guys I have met on dating sites whom it's come up are also swingers... soon as ir's mentuoned all they're interested in is going clubs together which suggests they're not looking for a proper relationship if 2 dates on they're saying that Build the relationship first surely? Then go swinging as a proper couple

Like you I want to keep the two seperate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm seeking dates and a relationship mail me for pics and chat

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I'm not on other site,s but I am looking for a nice ladey to date long tarm

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By *ustfortonightMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I'm confused, you say you're on dating sites because you're looking for a relationship, why could that not be true for the guys you've seen on them?

I use dating sites because I'm looking for a relationship, or at least open to finding one. But I keep the two very separate.

Like you I want to keep the two seperate"

Oh right I see what you mean. Perhaps there are some, maybe even ones you've talked to where it doesn't come up because they also keep it separate.

I've not mentioned fab to one date only, once it was clear we weren't heading that way and she's expressed and interest in it herself.

Personally I don't like the idea of pretending to want something else to get sex. Seems very unfair to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't been on other dating sites, but I am open to and have in the past found a relationship and dating though swinging. Personally, I would think dating sites are more for casual hookups nowadays with one off meets and that's not something that would interest me. I would like to find friendship and fun and if from there it grows into dating and a relationship then that's how things happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect the simple reality is that far more women are either open to a short sex-based relationship or an affair, both of which they can find on a dating site, than are interested in swinging. Fab has a great subsection of these women on it. But for some guys I'm sure it feels like barking up the wrong tree here.

If the bulk of women are simply somewhere else men will go to them. That doesn't mean they'll suddenly buy into the female mindset of what she wants and how she wants to get it. Both parties may be open to a relationship of sorts forming, whether a friendship or more, but men will often want the sexy fun to come first and the relationship after, not vice versa. This is just one of the key push and pull battlegrounds between the sexes. Women love guys who stand up for themselves and do things their own way, and find wet men who buckle to their every whim boring. But they also can't stand the fact these guys won't do things just the way they want it. It's one of those great oxymorons that makes things frictious but also rewarding between the genders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would be willing to try a relationship with someone off here it could be fun

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"I haven't been on other dating sites, but I am open to and have in the past found a relationship and dating though swinging. Personally, I would think dating sites are more for casual hookups nowadays with one off meets and that's not something that would interest me. I would like to find friendship and fun and if from there it grows into dating and a relationship then that's how things happen."

Tbink you stand a better chance of that happening on this site than a dating site anyway tbh People seem to be more open in what they want on here but it still seems rare

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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can't stand the guys on dating apps who aren't looking for dates and expect to come round for a fuck coz they've seen me on here. my profile on dating apps is clear on what i was looking for.

anyone i have met through those apps i have dated them and not hooked up for sex with.

doubt any are looking for a relationship and i feel the whole fucking internet is like this now coz most of them are already in one but are monogamous cheats. or think they're super stud and want a harem of sluts at their bidding.

will read the topic though and express more disgust if i quote any comments.

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

Yep tell me about it! Why I've given up on dating sites but can hardly go looking for a meaningful relationship on fab either so therein lies the conundrum!

I guess it's time to meet single friends of friends maybe but then if it works out how to broach the idea of swinging with them cause I doubt I'd want to give this life up completely either

Why is life so so complicated LOL

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i honestly think it's hope. that the internet gives guys a lot of false hope that they'll become the super studs they wannabe or that cheating is easy now coz of the internet.and if one of us is suckered in by their bullshit and falls for it then their hope goes up dramatically, lol.

meh, i honestly don't even wanna meet a guy who uses the internet to find women, that's how much it sucks, imo. if he can't find one irl then he ain't worth shit. again -imo.

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown

Definitely not looking for a husband..

I have been trying a couple of other sites because I do miss having someone.

Also, be nice to meet someone who likes the same random crap that I do

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Totally disenchanted with dating sites.

It's all about casual sex. What happened to romance? To being wooed?

It's a bit soul destroying to be honest. "

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

Definitely not looking for a husband..

I have been trying a couple of other sites because I do miss having someone.

Also, be nice to meet someone who likes the same random crap that I do

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"i honestly think it's hope. that the internet gives guys a lot of false hope that they'll become the super studs they wannabe or that cheating is easy now coz of the internet.and if one of us is suckered in by their bullshit and falls for it then their hope goes up dramatically, lol.

meh, i honestly don't even wanna meet a guy who uses the internet to find women, that's how much it sucks, imo. if he can't find one irl then he ain't worth shit. again -imo."

All fair points but then I'm a woman struggling to find a decent guy irl too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading this thread with interest as have been mulling over these issues. Thinking old skool real life meets through similar interests might be the way to go. Fishy site just seems like Fab Lite.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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meh, i honestly don't even wanna meet a guy who uses the internet to find women, that's how much it sucks, imo. if he can't find one irl then he ain't worth shit. again -imo.

All fair points but then I'm a woman struggling to find a decent guy irl too... "

all the men are on the internet being indecent, not your fault.

honestly though, society is geared up to a point where women can either be independent or rely on a man. no way has sugar mommies or anything where a guy is dependent on a woman (except for mothering purposes) evolved yet.

it should be easy for a guy to find a woman offline. because offline he has more to offer one. but for women, the internet is awesome coz we can chat, we love chatting, and can open up in safe spaces. just most men don't give a shit about that, my opinion. look how many guys have entered into conversation in this topic itself, and this topic should be the perfect environment for a guy to open up and type loads of shit but they haven't.

and another problem. mostly 3 types of guy exist online, and they're the shallow ones, the shady ones, and the desperate. that's all i'm finding anyway.

gonna enjoy a nice break over summer just going out into the world and meeting people for no reason at all, just to become a person again. the internet lost it's appeal a while ago once i realised what was on it.

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

meh, i honestly don't even wanna meet a guy who uses the internet to find women, that's how much it sucks, imo. if he can't find one irl then he ain't worth shit. again -imo.

All fair points but then I'm a woman struggling to find a decent guy irl too...

all the men are on the internet being indecent, not your fault.

and another problem. mostly 3 types of guy exist online, and they're the shallow ones, the shady ones, and the desperate. that's all i'm finding anyway.

Well I'm going to hit up my friends for eligible single males Try it the old fashioned way! Trying to find anyone for a meaningful relationship on dating sites is an utter waste of time

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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meh, i honestly don't even wanna meet a guy who uses the internet to find women, that's how much it sucks, imo. if he can't find one irl then he ain't worth shit. again -imo.

All fair points but then I'm a woman struggling to find a decent guy irl too...

all the men are on the internet being indecent, not your fault.

and another problem. mostly 3 types of guy exist online, and they're the shallow ones, the shady ones, and the desperate. that's all i'm finding anyway.

Well I'm going to hit up my friends for eligible single males Try it the old fashioned way! Trying to find anyone for a meaningful relationship on dating sites is an utter waste of time"

hope it goes well, or you at least have fun looking.

if something doesn't work i don't see the point in sticking with that, might as try loads of different things instead.

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

meh, i honestly don't even wanna meet a guy who uses the internet to find women, that's how much it sucks, imo. if he can't find one irl then he ain't worth shit. again -imo.

All fair points but then I'm a woman struggling to find a decent guy irl too...

all the men are on the internet being indecent, not your fault.

and another problem. mostly 3 types of guy exist online, and they're the shallow ones, the shady ones, and the desperate. that's all i'm finding anyway.

Well I'm going to hit up my friends for eligible single males Try it the old fashioned way! Trying to find anyone for a meaningful relationship on dating sites is an utter waste of time

hope it goes well, or you at least have fun looking.

if something doesn't work i don't see the point in sticking with that, might as try loads of different things instead."

Agreed and thanks Hope all goes well for you too

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By *eek12Man
over a year ago

lakenheath

meh, i honestly don't even wanna meet a guy who uses the internet to find women, that's how much it sucks, imo. if he can't find one irl then he ain't worth shit. again -imo.

All fair points but then I'm a woman struggling to find a decent guy irl too... "

There are a good deal of us here, but we know you ladies get bombarded with such trash it makes, at least me, just not want to bother you.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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meh, i honestly don't even wanna meet a guy who uses the internet to find women, that's how much it sucks, imo. if he can't find one irl then he ain't worth shit. again -imo.

All fair points but then I'm a woman struggling to find a decent guy irl too...

all the men are on the internet being indecent, not your fault.

and another problem. mostly 3 types of guy exist online, and they're the shallow ones, the shady ones, and the desperate. that's all i'm finding anyway.

Well I'm going to hit up my friends for eligible single males Try it the old fashioned way! Trying to find anyone for a meaningful relationship on dating sites is an utter waste of time

hope it goes well, or you at least have fun looking.

if something doesn't work i don't see the point in sticking with that, might as try loads of different things instead.

Agreed and thanks Hope all goes well for you too

thanks. i stopped looking when i got my 10 inch ripple vibrator, i'm good already.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if I'm the 'typical' man that you ladies are talking about?

I am also on a dating site although not really active.

As my profile says, I'm single and quite happy that way but I do miss the touch and feel of a woman, that's what brought me here! Lonliness I guess!

I have friends, work colleagues and 2 teenage sons so I'm not short of company but there is no substitute for an intimate, sexual, sensual, romantic and loving relationship!

i haven't had any luck finding that special person on the dating site, after a while you do tend to lose faith.

So why am I on here?? I am a man, I like sex, I enjoy sex and dare I say it, I have a lot to offer a woman, sexually! If I go on a dating site looking for sex then I'm a bastard, typical, after 1 thing man and I'm not one for messing anyone around especially when it comes to feelings or matters of the heart!

This does not mean that people on here don't have feelings, but at least on here we all kinda know what we are getting into and there is no hidden agenda (not by me anyway)

So, to summarise, I'm on here and on dating site, not to increase my chances of scoring but looking for different things. I am a man and enjoy sex (not that I'm getting any) I don't want to get into a relationship with someone just to get my end away!

You asked for honesty! You got it

I would welcome your thoughts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure if I'm the 'typical' man that you ladies are talking about?

I am also on a dating site although not really active.

As my profile says, I'm single and quite happy that way but I do miss the touch and feel of a woman, that's what brought me here! Lonliness I guess!

I have friends, work colleagues and 2 teenage sons so I'm not short of company but there is no substitute for an intimate, sexual, sensual, romantic and loving relationship!

i haven't had any luck finding that special person on the dating site, after a while you do tend to lose faith.

This does not mean that people on here don't have feelings, but at least on here we all kinda know what we are getting into and there is no hidden agenda (not by me anyway)

You asked for honesty! You got it

I would welcome your thoughts x"

Well said, from a female in similar circumstamces.I just joined a dating site but from past experience know most guys there want sex not a relationship. At least with fab the boundaries are clearer.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Not sure if I'm the 'typical' man that you ladies are talking about?

I am also on a dating site although not really active.

As my profile says, I'm single and quite happy that way but I do miss the touch and feel of a woman, that's what brought me here! Lonliness I guess!

I have friends, work colleagues and 2 teenage sons so I'm not short of company but there is no substitute for an intimate, sexual, sensual, romantic and loving relationship!

i haven't had any luck finding that special person on the dating site, after a while you do tend to lose faith.

This does not mean that people on here don't have feelings, but at least on here we all kinda know what we are getting into and there is no hidden agenda (not by me anyway)

You asked for honesty! You got it

I would welcome your thoughts x"

your more the antithesis of what i was saying earlier, that guys don't open up and here is the perfect environment for that.

but i also think if you were using dating sites to get sex then you're what the OP means. we find a lot of guys just like this unfortunately. suppose itis just disappointing being lied to and conned and just for a fuck...you don't seem like that guy though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not sure if I'm the 'typical' man that you ladies are talking about?

I am also on a dating site although not really active.

As my profile says, I'm single and quite happy that way but I do miss the touch and feel of a woman, that's what brought me here! Lonliness I guess!

I have friends, work colleagues and 2 teenage sons so I'm not short of company but there is no substitute for an intimate, sexual, sensual, romantic and loving relationship!

i haven't had any luck finding that special person on the dating site, after a while you do tend to lose faith.

This does not mean that people on here don't have feelings, but at least on here we all kinda know what we are getting into and there is no hidden agenda (not by me anyway)

You asked for honesty! You got it

I would welcome your thoughts x

your more the antithesis of what i was saying earlier, that guys don't open up and here is the perfect environment for that.

Exactly, I'm the opposite, does that make me a woman??

I'm a strong believer in honesty. I was a lying, cheating twat in my younger days, young, dumb and full of cum! I learned the hard way that lying and cheating was a mugs game and causes too much hurt!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i found a sexy FWB on here we have fun and the intimacy we are now talking about days out weekends away im having so much fun now than when i was looking for relationship on dating sites you could just tell they were only interested in sex when they stoped messaging after realising they wernt going to get it sooner men realise sex sites dating sites and swingers sites are 3 totally different things xx

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"Not sure if I'm the 'typical' man that you ladies are talking about?

I am also on a dating site although not really active.

As my profile says, I'm single and quite happy that way but I do miss the touch and feel of a woman, that's what brought me here! Lonliness I guess!

I have friends, work colleagues and 2 teenage sons so I'm not short of company but there is no substitute for an intimate, sexual, sensual, romantic and loving relationship!

i haven't had any luck finding that special person on the dating site, after a while you do tend to lose faith.

This does not mean that people on here don't have feelings, but at least on here we all kinda know what we are getting into and there is no hidden agenda (not by me anyway)

You asked for honesty! You got it

I would welcome your thoughts x

your more the antithesis of what i was saying earlier, that guys don't open up and here is the perfect environment for that.

Exactly, I'm the opposite, does that make me a woman??

not a woman, no.

i meant the opposite of what i said about men not going into detail about anything. as you can see they've been leaving shallow comments that don't show much thought or personal opinion. whereas women here are tending to want something more meaningful (as this topic started off as) and here would be a good place where men could give us that and give us some faith that some men are looking for more than a fuck. except most have not, despite implying that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was in a long term relationship so now is my fun time.Love is a amazing thing and is rarely found but for me personally I wouldn't use a dating site whole I'm single as I belive that there are some on there with the wrong intentions.

I'm love sex as we all do so if I can enjoy that and share smiles with others then why not while I'm single.

If the right woman came along be it on here or in my private life the that would be a bonus too but some will lie decive and go to all lengths to get a shag and that includes women.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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#notallmen one has left interesing comments also that i can relate to.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

The dating site is definitely not for me and infact I could never go back to vanilla, it's too childish to me, I feel I wasted my time in vanilla, I don't like the stress of the vanilla relationship, the swinging relationship is much better,the change in the ladies is magical, no stress at all, you can go on a holiday with all swinging lovers together in the same car and they all know each other and there is no problem, you don't have to hide anything or act immature or lie, that is amazing

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By *erfumedpornovampireWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

Not necessarily wedding bells but a proper relationship - fabs is the place to find fwb.

We couldn't tempt you into a hippy poly free love commune with us then?

That's the dream

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By *ilthyDebauchery OP Woman
over a year ago

Oswestry

"Not sure if I'm the 'typical' man that you ladies are talking about?

I am also on a dating site although not really active.

As my profile says, I'm single and quite happy that way but I do miss the touch and feel of a woman, that's what brought me here! Lonliness I guess!

I have friends, work colleagues and 2 teenage sons so I'm not short of company but there is no substitute for an intimate, sexual, sensual, romantic and loving relationship!

i haven't had any luck finding that special person on the dating site, after a while you do tend to lose faith.

This does not mean that people on here don't have feelings, but at least on here we all kinda know what we are getting into and there is no hidden agenda (not by me anyway)

You asked for honesty! You got it

I would welcome your thoughts x

your more the antithesis of what i was saying earlier, that guys don't open up and here is the perfect environment for that.

Exactly, I'm the opposite, does that make me a woman??

not a woman, no.

Yep you're one of the rare ones it seems who is actually on dating sites for genuine meaningful relationship

I'm like you lots of friends, great social life, and on here as I enjoy sex but the ultimate is a sensual, intimate, meaningful relationship which is why I tried dating sites but given up on dating sites now

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By *rLucky777Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm on dating sites and looking for a genuine relationship. If I get a serious girlfriend I will delete fab and never mention it! I'm on fab because I like sex.

I wouldn't want to date a lady that was on fab to be honest. It would seriously put me off her. Double standards I know but it's true.

I get way more action on dating sites compared to fab but it's costing me a fortune on dinner and drinks. Wouldn't say no to a smoking hot Fwb or fb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm making it perfectly clear I am not on Fab looking for a relationship We both have used dating apps when looking for relationships

Great for them but utterly frustrating when you meet a guy, like my friend did, thinking it was going well

So my question is...

Are there any single men on Fab who are also on dating apps that are genuinely looking for relationships?"

yes Darling there are and im one of them i would love to enjoy just the company of a woman for a social and nothing sexualy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's curious that the women on here are quite happy to have sexual relations with guys on Fab and hope the magic sparkle dust follows whilst they're not prepared to have sex with guys on a dating site and be similarly open to the relationship possibly following after it. Why?

I'd hazard a guess that if they stopped doing nsa on Fab and started doing it on dating sites they'd massively improve their chances of finding a guy.

BTW I've been the one posting on this thread (Mr) so there's another guy who's been writing in.

We're not studs interested in accruing a harem as was suggested earlier. We just like the idea of completely ignoring monogamy and forming an open minded community of friends and lovers who come and go. It's less a pyramid than a network of equals. We thought Fab might help us find that but have found most couples very defensive and most single women cynical about couples. It's a shame as an extended community of friends and lovers could be truly rewarding for both single people and couples.

Perhaps we'll find greater friendship and intimacy on adult dating or poly dating sites? It's certainly something we've been entertaining.

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By *antsguy007Man
over a year ago

Whiteley

"Yep tell me about it! Why I've given up on dating sites but can hardly go looking for a meaningful relationship on fab either so therein lies the conundrum!

I guess it's time to meet single friends of friends maybe but then if it works out how to broach the idea of swinging with them cause I doubt I'd want to give this life up completely either

Why is life so so complicated LOL"

My thoughts exactly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm recently out a relationship, on to explore casually here.

I'm on tinder too but haven't met anyone. Not looking for a relationship atm, maybe in future, still a little tender haha.

The way I see it, find them where you can. Besides the differences between types of images posted on here and tinder, as there are people on tinder for casual sex, so there is most definetly people on here looking for relationships with added link.

Personally, if I was looking for a relationship here. I'd start off with a fb. I would personally have no problems, moving into a relationship from that after some time.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"It's curious that the women on here are quite happy to have sexual relations with guys on Fab and hope the magic sparkle dust follows whilst they're not prepared to have sex with guys on a dating site and be similarly open to the relationship possibly following after it. Why?

I'd hazard a guess that if they stopped doing nsa on Fab and started doing it on dating sites they'd massively improve their chances of finding a guy.

BTW I've been the one posting on this thread (Mr) so there's another guy who's been writing in.

Perhaps we'll find greater friendship and intimacy on adult dating or poly dating sites? It's certainly something we've been entertaining. "

on here there is no expectation of anything for me. hence i will fuck guys and, despite several of them saying they'd like a relationship with me, that wasn't what i was looking for when i met them. i can differentiate between casual sex and something more.

and i can use separate sites for these things and i can act differently around different people, so am happy to withhold sex from men who i am persuing for something more meaningful, and fuck people i couldn't give 2 shits about persuing for anything else. coz i know where i want to invest myself and where i do not. sex takes virtually no investment whatsoever, as a female it's easy to get.

difference is that on dating sites i am expecting to be dated and on fuck sites i am expecting to be fucked, simple as that really.

now if men wanna play games and pretend they want something more meaningful than sex so they can get sex then here is the problem.

i have had to take sex out of the equation to make any friends, and that's the truth. and this is because of the high amount of predatory people who are happy to lie to get what they want, and when you don't know a person that well it's easy for them to lie to you. not exactly rocket science to work out, but for a sex addict quite hard to implicate.

i'd love to have had some friends i've fucked but it never happens that way. too busy investing themselves in their next fucks to be a true friend. i don't want to be kept a minimal rein on just to be around for when that person is bored or wants a fuck off me, friendship is so much more than that and any relationship is.

i can get why a lot of people are cynical also, that is me based on previous experiences. and yes many guys do want a harem of women to fuck, they invest as little as possible as wide as possible to try to attain that, #notallmen but a good majority of them and half the time they fail to obtain anything much but it suits them to then go for the easiest option. i do not make myself the easy option now for anyone, i know where i failed at making friendship and that was by being an easy option for flakey as fuck people (which in my experience is all men, desperate men, lying men, just men, all i meet and fuck is men so that's why).

fuck buddies first, NSA friends first, none of this will work in an environment where the people doing the looking are always looking for more and do not invest in maintaining and building on what they already have.

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By *evnorMan
over a year ago

normanton

I'm after a shag TBH. But if anything else comes along with it I'm open to seeing someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on dating sites and looking for a genuine relationship. If I get a serious girlfriend I will delete fab and never mention it! I'm on fab because I like sex.

I wouldn't want to date a lady that was on fab to be honest. It would seriously put me off her. Double standards I know but it's true.

I get way more action on dating sites compared to fab but it's costing me a fortune on dinner and drinks. Wouldn't say no to a smoking hot Fwb or fb. "

There is nothing about this response that doesnt depress me

- meet a girlfriend and lie (at least by omission) about your past

- guys can fuck about on fab and more than happy to fuck the girls on fab knowing fine well they will want to date properly again at some point while also thinking women in same position are no longer worthy of relationships after fab

- girls using guys for free dinner & drinks in exchange for sex

- guys wanting to swap out dates for a fwb just so they can stop botheribg their arse making any effort

And people wonder why i have been single ao long when this is how the dating pool generally thinks / acts

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'm on dating sites and looking for a genuine relationship. If I get a serious girlfriend I will delete fab and never mention it! I'm on fab because I like sex.

I wouldn't want to date a lady that was on fab to be honest. It would seriously put me off her. Double standards I know but it's true.

I get way more action on dating sites compared to fab but it's costing me a fortune on dinner and drinks. Wouldn't say no to a smoking hot Fwb or fb.

There is nothing about this response that doesnt depress me

- meet a girlfriend and lie (at least by omission) about your past

- girls using guys for free dinner & drinks in exchange for sex

- guys wanting to swap out dates for a fwb just so they can stop botheribg their arse making any effort

And people wonder why i have been single ao long when this is how the dating pool generally thinks / acts "

To be fair; I used to mention Fabs when I was a bit more naeive. I know now that most people in the "normal" worldd find swingers disgusting. I don't mention it anymore as a)I'mnot a swinger and b) It's nobodys business.

I agree with you about the other stuff though.

I would date someone who'd been on Fabs, that doesn't bother me. I wouldn't date someone into BDSM, but Fabs has plenty who aren't.

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By *ames1763Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen

Interesting points of view, well I can understand it might difficult for people to accept people just the way they are, some ladies I see from the posts really want serious relationships and that is fine , yeah it's not good to be lonely , it is very possible to find a decent guy here as long as you don't intend to place the vanilla rules on the relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm on dating sites and looking for a genuine relationship. If I get a serious girlfriend I will delete fab and never mention it! I'm on fab because I like sex.

I wouldn't want to date a lady that was on fab to be honest. It would seriously put me off her. Double standards I know but it's true.

I get way more action on dating sites compared to fab but it's costing me a fortune on dinner and drinks. Wouldn't say no to a smoking hot Fwb or fb.

There is nothing about this response that doesnt depress me

- meet a girlfriend and lie (at least by omission) about your past

- girls using guys for free dinner & drinks in exchange for sex

- guys wanting to swap out dates for a fwb just so they can stop botheribg their arse making any effort

And people wonder why i have been single ao long when this is how the dating pool generally thinks / acts

I agree with you about the other stuff though.

I would date someone who'd been on Fabs, that doesn't bother me. I wouldn't date someone into BDSM, but Fabs has plenty who aren't. "

Just out of interest why wouldn't you date someone into bdsm?

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

"I have had spells on dating sites looking for a relationship.. I've never used tinder for sex tbh - I'm not down with preying on the vulnerable.

I've had quite an internal debate recently about whether I'm actually capable, or want a vanilla 'committed relationship' or whether something with more freedom is right.

So for now, I've quit lol.. no point in looking when I don't know what I want"

I believe you can be commited without being vanilla, we both are free but, I certainly care about Mr and respect him. Vanilla is not for me

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'm on dating sites and looking for a genuine relationship. If I get a serious girlfriend I will delete fab and never mention it! I'm on fab because I like sex.

I wouldn't want to date a lady that was on fab to be honest. It would seriously put me off her. Double standards I know but it's true.

I get way more action on dating sites compared to fab but it's costing me a fortune on dinner and drinks. Wouldn't say no to a smoking hot Fwb or fb.

There is nothing about this response that doesnt depress me

- meet a girlfriend and lie (at least by omission) about your past

- girls using guys for free dinner & drinks in exchange for sex

- guys wanting to swap out dates for a fwb just so they can stop botheribg their arse making any effort

And people wonder why i have been single ao long when this is how the dating pool generally thinks / acts

I agree with you about the other stuff though.

I would date someone who'd been on Fabs, that doesn't bother me. I wouldn't date someone into BDSM, but Fabs has plenty who aren't.

Just out of interest why wouldn't you date someone into bdsm? "

Because I find it excruciatingly dull.

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By *ammy-leeWoman
over a year ago

Swansea

"im going to be sitting awaiting responses to this patiently as i have the same issue

I gave up on Tinder after 2 weeks because I came across 6 guys I'd exchanged face pics with on here over the years

What's the alternative to dating sites

though? Meeting random strangers in bars is even worse"

Snap! I am starting to give up on finding a normal relationship with a genuine guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you join a free dating/sex contacts site. What do you expect to find?

That's the first thing I ask myself if I was going to join one.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Go on "first date" on tv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you join a free dating/sex contacts site. What do you expect to find?

That's the first thing I ask myself if I was going to join one. "

Having been on match.com i can tell you that despite what you might think ... paying for use of a dating site doesnt change the type of user at all ... some of them even feel more entitled because they paid for the service

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you join a free dating/sex contacts site. What do you expect to find?

That's the first thing I ask myself if I was going to join one.

......

Can confirm. I got myself one of those old fangled stalkers from the harmony site a few years ago.

One odd thing I've noticed on all the dating sites I've used is that nearly all my matches are teachers.

There's a lot of insightful information here, its been a good read

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By *ranimallxl5Man
over a year ago

Winchester

I once had a Fab lady who could no longer meet me as she was falling for me and didn't want to get a bf from Fab... Im on dating sites and i have had more sex using those than here as I have a chance to use my personality rather than a ripped body x

I would love a gf

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"If you join a free dating/sex contacts site. What do you expect to find?

That's the first thing I ask myself if I was going to join one.

i can't even access match, not sure if i'm banned or something but it won't let me login or anything and hasn't since the first time i signed up, i only joined to get rewards for a game anyway off tapjoy so wasn't arsed. anyway...

i've found the opposite on other pay sites though. most guys don't wanna pay for these sites so they want to meet someone and leave the site altogether. more likely to be wanting something longer term and invest themselves into someone. still find the ones who are happy to stay on forever and look for fucks, shame they remove the features now on most sites saying how long someone has been on a site for, suppose it stops the long term people deleting and making new accounts though.

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By *H Hello There!Couple
over a year ago

hotel in boro

See I met h on plenty of fish with a swingers profile we have a full relationship and dabble on fab it worked for.me

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

"anyone ever hosted a swing date social?

there were swingles ones that were successful

just a thought?

Hello there Suzy

Maybe you have stumbled on a great business plan??

Been finding too many Mr Grey wannabes lately?

Hahaha aren't all us gents meant to be easy pleased??

You are very specific on your profile so hopefully it helps you find what you are looking for (im the meantime though don't know of you noticed me and my friend peek at you from our couples profile

)no, men should be themselves, but most dont know what that is

..i know what i want, so i ask for it.

ill find it, because i dont get distracted by alternative offers that dont suit me.

no, i never check whos looked at me..sorry x

A lady that knows what she wants AND asks for it?? I don't believe it!!!!

Oh well had to fab a pic this time as we can't wink or message you

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whos we?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you join a free dating/sex contacts site. What do you expect to find?

That's the first thing I ask myself if I was going to join one.

Ah. Good point, (which is quite amazing if it's true ) it's not something I'd thought of to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on POF as I love a long time relationship and there's lots of women on POF and on here, if I messaged anyone on POF but never told them I was on here. The only was when I loved in here I found I was blocked by some I had looked at POF am not on POF there's more time wasters on there than on herelol

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I suspect the simple reality is that far more women are either open to a short sex-based relationship or an affair, both of which they can find on a dating site, than are interested in swinging. Fab has a great subsection of these women on it. But for some guys I'm sure it feels like barking up the wrong tree here.

I don't see it as a question of that at root...from my perspective it's not about 'doing things my way' it's about me looking for some sign that:

a/ said fella is actually open to the idea of a proper relationship to start with

b/ said fella actually has the kind of personal interest in ME - my persona, my personality, my character - of the kind that COULD form the basis of a relationship

The difference is I don't want to shag loads of people who don't fulfill the criteria required to go further, whilst I am quite prepared to check out the few that do!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'"

It's dreadful lol! And the new over 50's one they have started is dreadful too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'

It's dreadful lol! And the new over 50's one they have started is dreadful too!

Just wait a couple of years and you can go in the 60+ one.....runs and hides!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Mostly because they do not want to be deceived - and there are a high percentage of men on dating sites deceiving women into sex by pretending they want a relationship with them, when they have no interest in a relationship with anyone.

Taking a chance is not the same as being conned.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'

It's dreadful lol! And the new over 50's one they have started is dreadful too!

Just wait a couple of years and you can go in the 60+ one.....runs and hides!!"

I'm sharpening the razor blades as I speak!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'

It's dreadful lol! And the new over 50's one they have started is dreadful too!

Just wait a couple of years and you can go in the 60+ one.....runs and hides!!

I'm sharpening the razor blades as I speak!

\0/ i surrender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But if you're honest about it that's fine It's all the liars on dating sites that say they want a relationship that are just fabsters expanding their odds that do our heads in"

That's exactly the reason I'm here, not on dating sites. Im not looking nor do I want a relationship.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'

It's dreadful lol! And the new over 50's one they have started is dreadful too!

only 6 more years and i can sign up.

hope i'm dead by then or something.

seriously though, click on anything on this site and the price lists appear. it doesn't even seem like it's worth paying for.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Well I'm going to hit up my friends for eligible single males Try it the old fashioned way! Trying to find anyone for a meaningful relationship on dating sites is an utter waste of time"

You know thinking about it, I think 3sum is right - I think it's the whole bloody internet-pairing system that's fucked! I used to say 'Oh but it's just a numbers game, and I can (cyber) meet so many more people this way....' but what is the point of talking to thousands of internet addicts and flakes when looking for something they are incapable of giving? How many men on dating sites are actually addicted to the chase, the next thrill, the next prey?

Maybe 'out there' in the real world really is the best place to find something more real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have seen this happen a couple of times at swingers clubs but both times it was the guy that was having a strop as his Lady was having fun and he wasn't

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'

It's dreadful lol! And the new over 50's one they have started is dreadful too!

only 6 more years and i can sign up.

hope i'm dead by then or something.

seriously though, click on anything on this site and the price lists appear. it doesn't even seem like it's worth paying for.

Bear in mind if you sign up for anything online you can have a refund within 14 days. It took me 24hrs to work out the new over 50's one was just as full of fakes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. The reason I'm here looking is because I know I'm a dirty little fucker, and love sex but I have found it hard to bring the subject up on other sites in the past.

People seam to think your just a pervert. I probably am but I also have more to offer than just being a dirty pervert

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'

It's dreadful lol! And the new over 50's one they have started is dreadful too!

only 6 more years and i can sign up.

hope i'm dead by then or something.

seriously though, click on anything on this site and the price lists appear. it doesn't even seem like it's worth paying for.

Bear in mind if you sign up for anything online you can have a refund within 14 days. It took me 24hrs to work out the new over 50's one was just as full of fakes!!"

maybe if someone actually sends me a message on there i might sign up.but i browsed the men near me and there's no-one i fancy anyway so i probably won't bother.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'

It's dreadful lol! And the new over 50's one they have started is dreadful too!

only 6 more years and i can sign up.

hope i'm dead by then or something.

seriously though, click on anything on this site and the price lists appear. it doesn't even seem like it's worth paying for.

Bear in mind if you sign up for anything online you can have a refund within 14 days. It took me 24hrs to work out the new over 50's one was just as full of fakes!!

maybe if someone actually sends me a message on there i might sign up.but i browsed the men near me and there's no-one i fancy anyway so i probably won't bother."

There were some nice looking over-fifties, but after a few obviously set up replies I just threw the baby out with the bathwater!!

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By *inchyorksMan
over a year ago

huddersfield

I use other dating apps for dating, in an ideal world I would find and have a relationship with someone who we be open to swinging, but only if it going to work for us both.

I find myself thinking, could give this life up for the right person though, it is not as straight forward as I would like it to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interesting points of view, well I can understand it might difficult for people to accept people just the way they are, some ladies I see from the posts really want serious relationships and that is fine , yeah it's not good to be lonely , it is very possible to find a decent guy here as long as you don't intend to place the vanilla rules on the relationship."

Swinging rules, vanilla rules? You're a bit obsessive about rules mate.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"just signed up to match, not upgraded yet as i wanna see what it's like and i've not seen anyone i find attractive yet.

and lol, my messages are just as bad as anywhere else online, who would pay to send out shit like 'nice pics' 'hi' 'how are you x'

It's dreadful lol! And the new over 50's one they have started is dreadful too!

only 6 more years and i can sign up.

hope i'm dead by then or something.

seriously though, click on anything on this site and the price lists appear. it doesn't even seem like it's worth paying for.

Bear in mind if you sign up for anything online you can have a refund within 14 days. It took me 24hrs to work out the new over 50's one was just as full of fakes!!

maybe if someone actually sends me a message on there i might sign up.but i browsed the men near me and there's no-one i fancy anyway so i probably won't bother.

There were some nice looking over-fifties, but after a few obviously set up replies I just threw the baby out with the bathwater!!

don't blame you. well i've got a lot on this week but hopefully next week i can get out more and take my mind of the internet and everything else.

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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and now it looks like i have got a decent message but i can't read it to know for sure.

these sites know what they're doing.

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