FabSwingers.com forum: Overly polite..

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it just me who gets a bit freaked when people are overly polite?

Like in messages, sometimes I get "it would be an honour to meet you" or stuff along those lines.

Is it hard to find the right balance between charming and creepy?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

That's not overly polite that's code for FAF

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

But they should be honoured bun-buns, you're all special n shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate people calling me miss in a message. Just makes me shudder.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'An honour to meet you' just sounds a bit creepy, and a line that might be used just to get the foot in the door.

Once in, the politeness disappears soon after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think it only feels creepy if you're not attracted to the person! Often behaviour that creeps me from one person turns me on from another.

It's a fickle world. (Or I mean, I am)

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Personally I think it only feels creepy if you're not attracted to the person! Often behaviour that creeps me from one person turns me on from another.

It's a fickle world. (Or I mean, I am)"

Yeah, this

Someone I'm attracted to, I think "oooooo, you bloody charmer"

Someone I'm not I think "eeewwwww, you're scaring me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone messaged telling me they loved me with lots of kisses on the end. That's stepping the mark for being creepy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"But they should be honoured bun-buns, you're all special n shit"

Im just a girl n shit

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Personally I think it only feels creepy if you're not attracted to the person! Often behaviour that creeps me from one person turns me on from another.

It's a fickle world. (Or I mean, I am)"

Hhhhmmmmm....I kinda see your point but as an introduction its too much I think. Someone Ive been chatting to saying it in a cheeky way would come across much better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone messaged telling me they loved me with lots of kisses on the end. That's stepping the mark for being creepy

You win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I think it only feels creepy if you're not attracted to the person! Often behaviour that creeps me from one person turns me on from another.

It's a fickle world. (Or I mean, I am)

Hhhhmmmmm....I kinda see your point but as an introduction its too much I think. Someone Ive been chatting to saying it in a cheeky way would come across much better."

As an introduction, I agree. I wasn't clear that you meant it was an opening message!!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"That's not overly polite that's code for FAF

Just thought I'd clarify as you clearly think I was being facetious, I'm actually serious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's called trying too hard.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

anything over the top doesn't do it for me. if you call me sexy fine but privilege/ honour to meet you or sex godess or whatever- sorry can't take that serious. yes I get that there are not enough women on this side but I am "just a girl".

of course a sexy and shut one

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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

*panics thinking he might have written that*

I do wonder when sending messages, am I being creepy and it makes me not send them occasionally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time I sent a FAF message I'll make sure it's by white pigeon, and as you open it, a band of marriachi will start playing a ballad for you as I kneel on one leg with a red rose in my teeth!

I'm not sure if I spelled marriachi correct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Next time I sent a FAF message I'll make sure it's by white pigeon, and as you open it, a band of marriachi will start playing a ballad for you as I kneel on one leg with a red rose in my teeth!

I'm not sure if I spelled marriachi correct."

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

"Is it just me who gets a bit freaked when people are overly polite?

Like in messages, sometimes I get "it would be an honour to meet you" or stuff along those lines.

Is it hard to find the right balance between charming and creepy? "

I've always worked on the basis of being polite and good natured in messages and approaches to people; it has worked in my favour, with get responses.

But there's Polite, and Too Polite! What the OP has experienced is really OTT, almost seems too smarmy and in my mind, really off putting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wary of extremes either way so i am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Next time I sent a FAF message I'll make sure it's by white pigeon, and as you open it, a band of marriachi will start playing a ballad for you as I kneel on one leg with a red rose in my teeth!

I'm not sure if I spelled marriachi correct."

You could get any girl out of her knickers for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Conversely I've met lots of people who have complimented me on being so polite and respectful! The filthy fun comes later but too many guys start off with "I want to fuck you". And yes I've used that line because I genuinely mean it. Us single guys being invited to join someone for sexual pleasure is, indeed, an honour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like that type of message when I've been talking to them a while or have met them. But as an opening it's a bit overkill x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Next time I sent a FAF message I'll make sure it's by white pigeon, and as you open it, a band of marriachi will start playing a ballad for you as I kneel on one leg with a red rose in my teeth!

I'm not sure if I spelled marriachi correct.

You could get any girl out of her knickers for that

Or I could just move them to the side

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's not overly polite that's code for FAF

Just thought I'd clarify as you clearly think I was being facetious, I'm actually serious

Haha I didn't sorry. I think most unsolicited messages are FAF ones!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Next time I sent a FAF message I'll make sure it's by white pigeon, and as you open it, a band of marriachi will start playing a ballad for you as I kneel on one leg with a red rose in my teeth!

I'm not sure if I spelled marriachi correct."

To be fair id probably quite like that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it just me who gets a bit freaked when people are overly polite?

Like in messages, sometimes I get "it would be an honour to meet you" or stuff along those lines.

Is it hard to find the right balance between charming and creepy?

I've always worked on the basis of being polite and good natured in messages and approaches to people; it has worked in my favour, with get responses.

But there's Polite, and Too Polite! What the OP has experienced is really OTT, almost seems too smarmy and in my mind, really off putting!"

It is! Im not some kinda of goddess. Im a normal human being and want to meet people who treat me that way.

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By *easingTimMan
over a year ago

Loughlinstown

"Is it just me who gets a bit freaked when people are overly polite?

Like in messages, sometimes I get "it would be an honour to meet you" or stuff along those lines.

Is it hard to find the right balance between charming and creepy? "

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He may be in a work environment and officially in work mode

He just needs to mix his politeness with his real intentions i.e.

"It would be an honour madam to spank your arse the first chance I get"

Every man has a goog guy-bad boy part especially the polite ones. So, you've been warned lady...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, i prefer those along the lines of "yo! Sugartits!"

Puts me more at ease

I have a few who regularly message me who use these kind of terms and they're my favourites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, i prefer those along the lines of "yo! Sugartits!"

Puts me more at ease

I have a few who regularly message me who use these kind of terms and they're my favourites

you do know what is going to land in your inbox know dontcha haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I shoot some cock snot up ya fartpipe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Next time I sent a FAF message I'll make sure it's by white pigeon, and as you open it, a band of marriachi will start playing a ballad for you as I kneel on one leg with a red rose in my teeth!

I'm not sure if I spelled marriachi correct.

To be fair id probably quite like that

Squire! Fetch me a quil and a parchment, I shall write a love poem tonight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm alway jolly polite ,pooch keeps me in line

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't mind it so much. I guess it can be difficult to find the line between sincerity and compliments and I know some genuinely communicate like that. A bit twee but nothing that freaks me out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are not Bond Street and the milk tray man exclaims it's a honour to meet you then fair doos.. if your walking down a dark alley and a fat bus driver with prison tattoos and a rapist's ponytail says ello little lady then I'd call Esther rantzen toot sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, i prefer those along the lines of "yo! Sugartits!"

Puts me more at ease

I have a few who regularly message me who use these kind of terms and they're my favourites

you do know what is going to land in your inbox know dontcha haha "

Fingers crossed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can I shoot some cock snot up ya fartpipe?

Sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's different varieties of over polite I think....

Well mannered..knows their P's and Q's polite

Cheesy, smarmy...smack you in the face polite.

Creepy stalker polite

And Oh hell no..polite.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

People here contort themselves any which way, including linguistically, to try to get sex.

Focus on what you want and take most things with a pinch of salt

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny

"There's different varieties of over polite I think....

Well mannered..knows their P's and Q's polite

Cheesy, smarmy...smack you in the face polite.

Creepy stalker polite

And Oh hell no..polite.

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Too many dudes being overly loquacious to tap dat ass !

Be yourself and if that's a dick it shall become apparent

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Too many dudes being overly loquacious to tap dat ass !

Be yourself and if that's a dick it shall become apparent

sorry to correct you but I think you ment "...and if there's a dick it shall become apparent"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's different varieties of over polite I think....

Well mannered..knows their P's and Q's polite

Cheesy, smarmy...smack you in the face polite.

Creepy stalker polite

And Oh hell no..polite.

I think Ive seen them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I'd find that creepy as fuck. Not sure anyone has ever been honoured to meet me!

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By *owdyboy 890Man
over a year ago

Country West

It would be an honour to meet you bunny xx lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a message yesterday saying 'wow you are stunning ' but I had a blank profile pic and no public pics

I politely said , funk off !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different people speak differently.

Some people i would feel honoured to meet.

Others meh.

Also im sure that women and couples het bored of the same old messages?

Many profiles say be yourself, be original, have some banter etc.

Maybe they are trying to do exactly that.

I try to always be polite when messaging people.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"T'would be an delight to deposit my jism in your fart box m'lady"

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By *avrick15Man
over a year ago

glasgow

Too many dudes being overly loquacious to tap dat ass !

Be yourself and if that's a dick it shall become apparent

sorry to correct you but I think you ment "...and if there's a dick it shall become apparent"

Hmm works both ways

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

""T'would be an delight to deposit my jism in your fart box m'lady""

ok now if I got a message like that I would actually reply

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Too many dudes being overly loquacious to tap dat ass !

Be yourself and if that's a dick it shall become apparent

sorry to correct you but I think you ment "...and if there's a dick it shall become apparent"

Hmm works both ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't think we'd be creeped out, but it would raise eyebrows.

It would depend if it was someone putting on a persona, or if that was genuinely an aspect of their personality.

I can empathise as when I was younger due to my upbringing I spoke in an extremely formal way that baffled people.

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By *ighland gentlemanMan
over a year ago

Ardgay

She offered her honour

He honoured her offer.

All night long,

it was honour and offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we lived in Japan the Japanese could kill you with their politeness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being polite and manners cost nothing. I try and make sure my messages represent that, common courtesy.

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