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By *kultra OP   Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield

We've been very active on here for a little while now and only had one meet. We have two veris due to an old personal friend we had some fun with doing one for us as well. It's really difficult for us to get out to clubs, socials etc due to having two children, one being disabled and it's difficult to find babysitters who can have both kids at once to give us time off. Anyway due to this we can only really do daytime meets while our kids are at school. I have tried to make our profile reflect who we are and included photos of both of us but we are getting very little interest. Is there something we are missing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe people think that you want to use them as part of a secret government mind control program, so they're a bit wary?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been very active on here for a little while now and only had one meet. We have two veris due to an old personal friend we had some fun with doing one for us as well. It's really difficult for us to get out to clubs, socials etc due to having two children, one being disabled and it's difficult to find babysitters who can have both kids at once to give us time off. Anyway due to this we can only really do daytime meets while our kids are at school. I have tried to make our profile reflect who we are and included photos of both of us but we are getting very little interest. Is there something we are missing? "

I'd imagine it's probably a by-product of only being available day times. Most people are available evenings or weekends due to work, so while I know it can't be helped it is limiting your options a touch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe people think that you want to use them as part of a secret government mind control program, so they're a bit wary? "

I see what you did there.

But free drugs right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been very active on here for a little while now and only had one meet. We have two veris due to an old personal friend we had some fun with doing one for us as well. It's really difficult for us to get out to clubs, socials etc due to having two children, one being disabled and it's difficult to find

babysitters who can have both kids at once to give us time off. Anyway due to this we can only really do daytime meets while our kids are at school. I have tried to make our profile reflect who we are and included photos of both of us but we are getting very little interest. Is there something we are missing? "

I'm local but I have a job so not about during the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been very active on here for a little while now and only had one meet. We have two veris due to an old personal friend we had some fun with doing one for us as well. It's really difficult for us to get out to clubs, socials etc due to having two children, one being disabled and it's difficult to find babysitters who can have both kids at once to give us time off. Anyway due to this we can only really do daytime meets while our kids are at school. I have tried to make our profile reflect who we are and included photos of both of us but we are getting very little interest. Is there something we are missing?

I'd imagine it's probably a by-product of only being available day times. Most people are available evenings or weekends due to work, so while I know it can't be helped it is limiting your options a touch."

Agree with this. It's difficult enough on here at the best of times. I'd imagine most people in the "lifestyle" are evening, and or weekend players.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've been very active on here for a little while now and only had one meet. We have two veris due to an old personal friend we had some fun with doing one for us as well. It's really difficult for us to get out to clubs, socials etc due to having two children, one being disabled and it's difficult to find babysitters who can have both kids at once to give us time off. Anyway due to this we can only really do daytime meets while our kids are at school. I have tried to make our profile reflect who we are and included photos of both of us but we are getting very little interest. Is there something we are missing? "

You've kind of answered your own question. Most people work during the day and only have nights off. So when you think about it, all your options are limited to someone who

1. Someone who works shifts. Even night shift workers are probably asleep in the day

2. Someone who doesn't have kids in the day

3. Someone who is actually genuinely single and can get out during the day

4. Even if you find someone who is all 3 of these, you still have to be their type.

Best of luck to you though, keep at it and it will all fall in place

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By *unandbuckCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Do a forum search for 'daytime' there are few threads where people are looking for daytime meets.

Some clubs do daytimes too, Quest is close by.

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By *kultra OP   Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield

I guess so. I mean hubby actually works full time but he's off work at the moment and I work on a school crossing. We have talked about having people here when kids go to bed but personally we feel uncomfortable with that idea.

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By *kultra OP   Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Do a forum search for 'daytime' there are few threads where people are looking for daytime meets.

Some clubs do daytimes too, Quest is close by."

Thank you. I will do that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess so. I mean hubby actually works full time but he's off work at the moment and I work on a school crossing. We have talked about having people here when kids go to bed but personally we feel uncomfortable with that idea."

Thats your choice, but I would advise heavily against it. Unless its a very close family friend then its your choice, but otherwise, who are you letting into your house when the kids are there? I'm just saying that because I'm a father and wouldn't have anyone round while my kids are in the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People do meet during the day, you just have to look hard to find them. My last meet was during school hours, I even dropped her off near the school

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By *kultra OP   Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"I guess so. I mean hubby actually works full time but he's off work at the moment and I work on a school crossing. We have talked about having people here when kids go to bed but personally we feel uncomfortable with that idea.

Thats your choice, but I would advise heavily against it. Unless its a very close family friend then its your choice, but otherwise, who are you letting into your house when the kids are there? I'm just saying that because I'm a father and wouldn't have anyone round while my kids are in the house"

Yes I totally agree. We discussed it because we know someone who does that and we said even if that was the only option left we couldn't do it. It's unsafe for the kids x

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP daytime meets are often difficult for most people because of their work commitments so it is going to be harder to meet.

I would also think about putting some of your photos either into friends only or private. You are looking for women and couples but have lots of close up pics of your genitals. Many couples and ladies find these a big turn off whilst the single men like them.

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry


"We've been very active on here for a little while now and only had one meet. We have two veris due to an old personal friend we had some fun with doing one for us as well. It's really difficult for us to get out to clubs, socials etc due to having two children, one being disabled and it's difficult to find babysitters who can have both kids at once to give us time off. Anyway due to this we can only really do daytime meets while our kids are at school. I have tried to make our profile reflect who we are and included photos of both of us but we are getting very little interest. Is there something we are missing? "

We are a couple who find the same difficulties with daytime meets with other couples ..fortunately for us we do manage to get to clubs .

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By *kultra OP   Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"OP daytime meets are often difficult for most people because of their work commitments so it is going to be harder to meet.

I would also think about putting some of your photos either into friends only or private. You are looking for women and couples but have lots of close up pics of your genitals. Many couples and ladies find these a big turn off whilst the single men like them."

I have changed the photos you can see. Is that better?

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By *kultra OP   Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield

Would our photos appeal more to women and couples now? X

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Would our photos appeal more to women and couples now? X"

I would say not. Try being a trifle more subtle and also have some photos of you both in. Think about perspective and the efffect a view point has on the subject.

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By *kultra OP   Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Would our photos appeal more to women and couples now? X

I would say not. Try being a trifle more subtle and also have some photos of you both in. Think about perspective and the efffect a view point has on the subject. "

I don't understand. I'm confused now as to what photos we should have showing to everyone

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Would our photos appeal more to women and couples now? X

I would say not. Try being a trifle more subtle and also have some photos of you both in. Think about perspective and the efffect a view point has on the subject.

I don't understand. I'm confused now as to what photos we should have showing to everyone "

You have wonderful eyes and a lovely smile so keep that one. You don't need loads of similar photos.

Actually, I'm not your target audience and it's your profile so it should reflect what you want. Ignore me.

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"We've been very active on here for a little while now and only had one meet. We have two veris due to an old personal friend we had some fun with doing one for us as well. It's really difficult for us to get out to clubs, socials etc due to having two children, one being disabled and it's difficult to find babysitters who can have both kids at once to give us time off. Anyway due to this we can only really do daytime meets while our kids are at school. I have tried to make our profile reflect who we are and included photos of both of us but we are getting very little interest. Is there something we are missing? "

What is it you are looking for off here a daytime meet with a couple , a woman ? If you've put your situation in your profile am sure its just a matter of time before things start to get going . Dont forget that people are at work during the day too so that cuts down your options too . It may take a bit more planning to get a daytime meet sorted

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"Would our photos appeal more to women and couples now? X

I would say not. Try being a trifle more subtle and also have some photos of you both in. Think about perspective and the efffect a view point has on the subject.

I don't understand. I'm confused now as to what photos we should have showing to everyone "

Well they show both of you which Is good to get the attention of a couple . If you want a female just for the lady wife to meet maybe put some in either friends or private pics

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By *iceguymkMan
over a year ago

aylesbury


"Would our photos appeal more to women and couples now? X

I would say not. Try being a trifle more subtle and also have some photos of you both in. Think about perspective and the efffect a view point has on the subject.

I don't understand. I'm confused now as to what photos we should have showing to everyone

Well they show both of you which Is good to get the attention of a couple . If you want a female just for the lady wife to meet maybe put some in either friends or private pics "

But yeah you got a gorgeous sexy wife , am sure it'll fall into place soon for you both

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