FabSwingers.com forum: Mental health

By *atrice_Evra OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Seeing as it's mental health week lets discuss together as a FAB team what we suffer with and how we cope with it.

There's no need to be embarrassed about it, let's work together and kid arse!!

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

I'm as mental as a box of frogs the drugs help though

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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cPTSD.

nothing to cope with really, my memory is fucked so i forget about a lot of things that distress me, as well as a lot of important things.

time can just go by and i don't notice, in fact time doesn't really exist for me and that includes my past and future.

so my symptoms are more lacking than distressing. although sometimes i will get a distressing memory and have to go through trauma again, and certain triggers can give me emotional flashbacks and put me in a place where i feel traumatised also.

i do dissociate easily when something bothers me, leading back to the nothing bothers me feeling i usually have.

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By *atrice_Evra OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

I'm the same but got given these little blue pills

and it's made my life! I suffer from severe anxiety, depression and PTSD but now I feel so happy, sleep like a baby and anxiety is so chilled!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some say we're mental doing this

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By *atrice_Evra OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"Some say we're mental doing this

Haha, true there! Do you actually suffer from anything I.e, anxiety or insomnia?

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

For years " mental health problem" was something other people had.

Untill four years ago it crept up on me, was in denial for a long time.

OK now, was lucky those who knew me well knew I was,nt right and sought help.

So pleased I did ,and I was fortunate ,where so many are reluctant of to proud to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both work in mental health. It's a topic that should be discussed more so that the stigma is removed! It's such an important subject and is something that is ignored far too much!

Good on anyone with a mental health diagnosis talking openly about it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some say we're mental doing this

Haha, true there! Do you actually suffer from anything I.e, anxiety or insomnia?"

No we're both very lucky on that front , but have helped others in dark land ( think you know what I mean )

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By *atrice_Evra OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

Absolutely! I've met some good friends on here that have helped me along the way. I'm the same but got given these little blue pills

and it's made my life! I suffer from severe anxiety, depression and PTSD but now I feel so happy, sleep like a baby and anxiety is so chilled! Life is great for once!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My cat raids the freezer during the night taking scoops out of my ice cream tub

- Mrs. J -

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By *atrice_Evra OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

"My cat raids the freezer during the night taking scoops out of my ice cream tub

- Mrs. J -"

Sounds like you're on some crazy arse pills man! Are you on Diazepam by and chance?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My cat raids the freezer during the night taking scoops out of my ice cream tub

- Mrs. J -

Sounds like you're on some crazy arse pills man! Are you on Diazepam by and chance?"

Nope; aspirin sometimes, young lady

- Mrs. J -

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By *atrice_Evra OP Man
over a year ago

Carmarthenshire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My cat raids the freezer during the night taking scoops out of my ice cream tub

- Mrs. J -

Sounds like you're on some crazy arse pills man! Are you on Diazepam by and chance?

Nope; aspirin sometimes, young lady

- Mrs. J -

Sounds like you need to try some of my magic blue pills

No thanks; I think I just need to have a serious dicussion with my cat

- Mrs. J -

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By *omez42Man
over a year ago

gloucester

About 20 years ago, I had a breakdown. My wife found me in the early hours, sitting on the sofa, with a kitchen knife on my wrists.

It came back again after my father hung himself, 17 years ago.

Several bouts of 3 months at a time, but the really scary ones are the very quick bouts of a few days. While I can be totally rational, the speed they come is frightening. I've always said, I don't want to die, but it is a valid option.

Last week, I instigated the disagreement that led to the breaking of ties to my fb. We first met 36 years ago. The fact that I've hardly cried, and I'm still here, show that the time was right, and one fab friend is my rock.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I had a breakdown 4 years ago,

I had boss that was virtually impossible to work for, and I was getting finger pointed for every shitty that went wrong even though he could t manage the teams work load. This was happening over 6 month period

Anyway I had my mid year review and snapped so badly that I didn't come back for 2 months of which the first month I didn't want to get out of bed. I still went back whilst on antidepressants and ended up leaving the team 10 months later which was best move.

I still have some dark days but I am a lot more fun, happy person nowadays. I suppose football and traveling has helped

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

I once read,

" Being in a state of constant happiness and positivity"

Is true sign of being unwell.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I once read,

" Being in a state of constant happiness and positivity"

Is true sign of being unwell."

Lol, Pollyanna!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt wrong with me.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Seeing as it's mental health week lets discuss together as a FAB team what we suffer with and how we cope with it.

There's no need to be embarrassed about it, let's work together and kid arse!!

I'm sure it was in May... But, every week is a mental health week for some of us.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I was diagnosed with manic depression at 15 depression at 12. My diagnosis changeed to severe bipolar type 1. I struggle everyday of my life to lead a reasonable ok life

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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Just over a year ago I had what I can only class as a breakdown.

I had made some errors at work and my boss at the time was ignoring them instead of trying to help me fix them until I broke down one evening. I then went on performance review where it felt like he just kept piling it on and I spiralled further down. I resisted taking anti-depressant for as long as I could but in the end had to resort to them but was only on for about a week as they were seriously effecting me. Had to be signed off for a week as well, which helped emensly (even to the point when I returned to work people said I seemed so much stronger than before) but in the end it felt like I couldn't do anything right for this guy. He could ask what colour the sky was and I'd say blue, only for him to say no it's light blue with white clouds. He terminated my employment almost a year to the day.

I still suffer slightly from anxiety but I feel in a far better position mentally now that I did when all that started. I feel (thanks partly to this play) like I'm getting my confidence back and I've started going to the gym not just for the work out but also for my mental health.

I've vowed (and hope I can) never to let anyone put me in that position again.

When I look at it, yes I made errors, but so did he. I'm just the one who suffered from it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ten years ago I had some anxiety issues and went to my gp. I had just left the army , then my ex wife upped and left. So I was trying to cope with being on civvie street. Starting up a new business and bringing up two teenagers. My doctor was great. She listened and put me on sertaline and cbt. It worked thankfully. I learnt that I could cope through the cbt and that 6 months on the sertaline having some breathing space. I had no issues before or since. It was a dreadful experience. There is a way out. You just have to find the right door.

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By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

Perhaps this isn't really appropriate as a mental health issue but I have aphantasia.

What this means is that I can't see things in my head. I can't visualise what my children look like or my wife, anything really. I can't imagine the smell of fresh bread or the sound of a cow mooing.

My head is empty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps this isn't really appropriate as a mental health issue but I have aphantasia.

What this means is that I can't see things in my head. I can't visualise what my children look like or my wife, anything really. I can't imagine the smell of fresh bread or the sound of a cow mooing.

My head is empty.

But you have imagination, yes? I'm trying to get my head round this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps this isn't really appropriate as a mental health issue but I have aphantasia.

What this means is that I can't see things in my head. I can't visualise what my children look like or my wife, anything really. I can't imagine the smell of fresh bread or the sound of a cow mooing.

My head is empty.

But you have imagination, yes? I'm trying to get my head round this."

Sorry, Errol that wasn't meant to sound abrupt, if it came across as such. I read it and was like gosh

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Perhaps this isn't really appropriate as a mental health issue but I have aphantasia.

What this means is that I can't see things in my head. I can't visualise what my children look like or my wife, anything really. I can't imagine the smell of fresh bread or the sound of a cow mooing.

My head is empty.

You have the joy of immediacy, I hope, along with the concept of wife, children and how you feel about them?

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I have dyslexia and Asperger's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from severe anxiety and have done as long as I can remember.

I struggled a lot as a child and young adult but with age Ive found acceptance of myself and developed coping strategies. I sometimes mess up but I can move on from it now.

Everybody's different. It'd be so boring if we all thought the same way.

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By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

"Perhaps this isn't really appropriate as a mental health issue but I have aphantasia.

What this means is that I can't see things in my head. I can't visualise what my children look like or my wife, anything really. I can't imagine the smell of fresh bread or the sound of a cow mooing.

My head is empty.

But you have imagination, yes? I'm trying to get my head round this.

Sorry, Errol that wasn't meant to sound abrupt, if it came across as such. I read it and was like gosh

No worries! It didn't read as abrupt at all.

Yup, definitely have an imagination. I tell stories, I draw a lot, I design and build things. Drawing is the weirdest one. I know what I'm going to draw but I don't get to see it until it is drawn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps this isn't really appropriate as a mental health issue but I have aphantasia.

What this means is that I can't see things in my head. I can't visualise what my children look like or my wife, anything really. I can't imagine the smell of fresh bread or the sound of a cow mooing.

My head is empty.

But you have imagination, yes? I'm trying to get my head round this.

Sorry, Errol that wasn't meant to sound abrupt, if it came across as such. I read it and was like gosh

No worries! It didn't read as abrupt at all.

Yup, definitely have an imagination. I tell stories, I draw a lot, I design and build things. Drawing is the weirdest one. I know what I'm going to draw but I don't get to see it until it is drawn.

That's fascinating. You're wonderful, you.

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By *rrol.BMan
over a year ago

Wrexham

"Perhaps this isn't really appropriate as a mental health issue but I have aphantasia.

What this means is that I can't see things in my head. I can't visualise what my children look like or my wife, anything really. I can't imagine the smell of fresh bread or the sound of a cow mooing.

My head is empty.

You have the joy of immediacy, I hope, along with the concept of wife, children and how you feel about them?"

Honestly, I'm not entirely sure what the joy of immediacy means. Concept of wife and children and how I feel though, yup.

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Ive borderline personality disorder its hard to live with sometimes,stress really brings it out and I turn I to a real nasty person

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

I am at my happiest and so much less anxious nowdays. My teenage years were a struggle as my step father sexually abused me from 10yrs old. I married an emotionally distant person and had an unhappy marriage. I had depression and I believe PTSD following the abuse, and my mothers reluctance to take any responsibility or empathise. I have come through it all and I am happy and healthy enjoying life.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Have cyclothymia.. often revered to as bi polar 3. (A milder yet more chronic version of bi polar.. less intense hi or low, but all the fucking time, from minute to minute)

No drugs as anti depression drugs tend to make it worse and at any time it can switch to bp1 or 2 yet.

Bright side I now know why I'm the way I am and found I can control it by going to the gym and get fit at same time.

Soon as I found out, I quit the job centre obstacle course and went self employed. Can sack myself in morning and hire myself again when mood switches

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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"I once read,

" Being in a state of constant happiness and positivity"

Is true sign of being unwell."

or not living in reality i suppose, purposely trying to avoid it.

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By *rowleyMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The thing that annoyed me the most about what I went through is looking back there's always been something there, hanging over me for years and I never got help for it.

In a way, I'm glad for what happened with me because I had to confront it and I have made some positive changes to my life.

But, the thoughts I had of ending it all still haunt me. They aren't loud anymore and I do fear they will come back, however I am having a more positive outlook in my life now. Sure I have bad days, everyone does. But there is so much more to live for. I feel my confidence growing (in-part, thanks to this site) and I will always support someone that is going a difficult time

Sometimes it is good to just talk to someone, either a friend or a perfect stranger.

"There are no strangers here; Only friends you haven't yet met." - William Butler Yeats

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By *oeydudeMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Severe clinical depression.

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By *oeydudeMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Me too. I find sex helps because it makes me feel alive and accepted by able bodied people.

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By *eepster1Man
over a year ago

birmingham

I was in mental hospital for years an inspector come to see me and sed there is nuthink wrong with you why you here l will get you out l promise l walked him to the door he sed again l will get you out trust me ok l sed he walked up the path l picked a brick up and throw it at his head he was screaming wot the fuck did you do that for l sed dont forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a break down 3 years ago and now suffer with anxiety and depression, I was on tablets for 6 months but I got horrible mood swings so I took myself off them.

I haven't gotten over it but I have learnt to control it in ways. unfortunately now I feel the need to be doing something constantly to keep my mind occupied. The great outdoors is my happy place and where I feel the most at ease.

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Around 18 months ago I started to notice I was always feeling down but as I'd been ill I just put it down to constantly running back and forth to doctor and hospital appointments for 6 months

Last summer I started to feel like I had turned a corner and was really happy in life and started seeing a girl I was with really happy with, so happy I even deleted my old fab account!!

We had the heart to hearts and she told me she had severe anxiety problems, I kept quiet about myself and I openly admit I became too overbearing with her and drove her away as she said I made her anxiety so bad through constant messaging etc, I was crying out for help but couldn't say so and I'd hope that she'd notice but it had the opposite effect. I later told her I was struggling with depression and anxiety ages after we stopped contact and she acknowledges now I was unwell and why I was the way I was, but I'll never ever forgive myself for making her feel worse. Until we met anxiety wasn't something I was too aware off but I started to research it and it turns out I had been suffering anxiety for years, constant worrying about something which I didn't know what and always convincing myself I had fallen out with people and worst off all at times not being to socialise spontaneously unless I had it planned. I was eventually diagnosed in December

From September to February I was really really low with depression. I wasn't diagnosed with depression by two different doctors but believe I was despressed. It was a constant struggle to lift my head from beneath the covers most days and if I did manage it I'd head straight back to bed soon afterwards. I'd lie awake all night with my body so sore because I was that tired yet my anxiety kept my mind racing constantly 24/7 yet I had no idea why, not to mention my chest would pump randomly so hard I would catch my breath

Was referred to a cardiologist which is standard seemingly for some anxiety patients and my results came back clear. Waited weeks for my referral to a wellbeing clinic only to be told that they would not be seeing me due to funding cutbacks. It was a case of self help

I started watching YouTube videos about anxiety and stuff and it actually helped a lot with wee tips on how to deal with it. I also joined a gym which has been a great help and regularly go for short runs and can honestly that I feel so much happier just by making wee changes

I've had a few wee blips and I think I've discovered it could be down to alcohol. I've never been dependent on drink but when I go out I make sure I enjoy myself and I always do but the few days afterwards I feel quite down and very meh about everything. I've noticed this on four occasions I've been out drinking since I felt myself turning a corner on February

I then suffered quite bad guilt trips as I know others have suffered far worse than me with knowing people who have committed suicide and tried to. I kept thinking that I can't be depressed as I have a fairly comfortable life; good well paid job, good friends, getcmyv3/4 holidays, but the recent celebs all coming out prove it's not about what you have or don't have it just strikes you. I also didn't feel I could talk to anyone as I'm the one always mucking about and being daft on nights out and stuff so didn't think people would take me seriously

For a while, even after I felt I was on the Mend everyday was battle. Wondering if I was going to fall down again and most days it would never occur, occasionally I feel myself falling but I win the battle but a few times its defeated me but now I know what helps me through the day

I never got any professional help on how to deal with depression and anxiety other than a quick fob off with read these websites etc so I'm expecting to fall quite low again at some point in the future but I hope my experience last year and early this will be a good guide to follow

One thing I've learned no one is alone

And award to the longest fan forum post goes too....

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

" I sometimes mess up but I can move on from it now.

Everybody's different. It'd be so boring if we all thought the same way."

I've also noticed now that I don't get myself worked up about work etc. If I make an error then that's just hard lines, whereas in the past I'd replay the whole scenario in my head over and over again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

everyday is a new day and a new start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental health is a scary thing and I feel sorry for anyone who is suffering. Thank you for this thread allowing people to talk and feel they are not alone. I have an appointment with my doctor next week about my mental health. The hard thing is I don't know what's wrong, I don't really feel anything and my mood swings are terrible, I know I'm not well but feel this is going to be a long hard process due to my lack of being able to describe my problems. I am just thankful I am At least not suicidal, sure it would be better if I wasn't here but I wouldn't take my life away from my family and friends

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By *ubSirVient-DefinitionCouple
over a year ago

dukinfield

We're all fucking mental! It's just to what degree and genre of mental.....

Everyone has mental health issues, just some have better coping mechanisms. We all have shit days and great days it's just how you manage then. I've been both very lucky and unlucky in a sense that I'm a massively possitive person the vast majority of the time. It takes a lot to get me down (belive me I've been though some shit that's done it and come through) Or so I thought. But I've also had mates that really struggled with mental health issues and a couple have took their own lives. This made me realise that no matter what got me down there was always someone worse off than my petty shit and they need me! So I draw from experience to pull through my own issues to help my friends.

As I've said on the "What you love about fab" post. Unbeknowns to you all. You lot helped me though a very hard time of my life after the MEN bomb just by being here and cheering me up.

So never underestimate yourselves. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm as mental as a box of frogs the drugs help though

Even my box of frogs have started hearing voices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been formally diagnosed but show a lot of signs consistent with a paranoid personally disorder, also anxiety and in particular social anxiety. Throw in an addictive and somewhat compulsive personality and I suddenly start to sound a hell of a lot more dysfunctional than I actually am!

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By *km45Man
over a year ago

UTTOXETER

Currently signed of with work with depression . On my second lot of medication as the first lot made me ill. Finding life difficult at the moment, struggling with stress and anxiety .

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