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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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So let me understand this, it is ok for guys on here to wank over you but not in RL?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kidding!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha give them a show...... what's your post code ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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So let me understand this, it is ok for guys on here to wank over you but not in RL?"

Excellent!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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So let me understand this, it is ok for guys on here to wank over you but not in RL?"

It's not quite the same is it,Op stick your two fingers up at him if you don't like it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed.

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Just hold a sign up saying

I can see you.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!"

I wonna move next door

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

What advice you want...? Are they breaking any laws?. what do you do... what do u say..?

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed. "

I'm in MY garden and I'm NOT inviting him to look at me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry OP - they're more likely to be watching for rabbits - hundreds of the buggers decimating plants Iin Gardens all over the country.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed.

I'm in MY garden and I'm NOT inviting him to look at me...."

I know that.

He's in HIS bedroom and he's NOT inviting you to display yourself.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

It's a moot situation.

Neither of you are doing wrong.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If you were at a beach or swimming pool there would be people looking too, just not as blatantly. As said above, just stick Vs up at him and ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed.

I'm in MY garden and I'm NOT inviting him to look at me...."

Invading your privacy ...not a nice feeling .

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed.

I'm in MY garden and I'm NOT inviting him to look at me....

I know that.

He's in HIS bedroom and he's NOT inviting you to display yourself."

End of discussion.....you're being really quite silly now.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!

I wonna move next door "

That would be handy actually there's alway's a spot I can't reach on my back when I apply lotion,plus I fucking hate my neighbours with a passion!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Being perfectly serious now. My neighbours love eating and sunbathing in their garden.

When I look out of my bedroom window I can see them.

If they stuck two fingers up at me they'd pay for it in one way or another.

Generally as we are all nice people we smile and wave and get on with our days.

They don't call me a pervert.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed.

I'm in MY garden and I'm NOT inviting him to look at me....

I know that.

He's in HIS bedroom and he's NOT inviting you to display yourself.

End of discussion.....you're being really quite silly now. "

No Im not. It's called fairness and logic.

But if you don't want discussion im easy with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's look at it from a slightly different perspective.

If you were having sex in your garden and others could see you, you could be prosecuted under the same laws that those caught dogging fall foul of.

You would not be inviting them to watch you (and quite possibly, you might not WANT them to either) but the fact that you can be seen would be considered YOUR responsibility and not theirs.

Let's face it OP, if you're smoking hot and you get your kit off, people aren't going to be able to take their eyes off you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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Would you be bothered if you were lying on a beach in the same bikini and a good looking guy looked at you a couple of times?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being perfectly serious now. My neighbours love eating and sunbathing in their garden.

When I look out of my bedroom window I can see them.

If they stuck two fingers up at me they'd pay for it in one way or another.

Generally as we are all nice people we smile and wave and get on with our days.

They don't call me a pervert. "

But of course, in that case, it wouldn't be yet another melodramatic moment in the OP's plighted existence of perverts and rude men messaging her.

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Being perfectly serious now. My neighbours love eating and sunbathing in their garden.

When I look out of my bedroom window I can see them.

If they stuck two fingers up at me they'd pay for it in one way or another.

Generally as we are all nice people we smile and wave and get on with our days.

They don't call me a pervert. "

Thank you for your 'serious' reply and I get you but you don't know my neighbours! They have a son of 12 years old, when he was 9 his mum told me when she was at another neighbours BBQ the lad was allowed to watch porn and babe station and encouraged to by his father and uncle, she was proud of this. They are very open about a lot of things with the kids! You will say to me report them to Social Services but I don't want grief and repercussions at home so I keep myself to myself here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stay indoors then ffs and stop bleating ??

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By *exmad500Man
over a year ago

darlington

Well you must love the attention if you are out there in a skimpy outfit there's nothing wrong with people looking at your bits that's what there there for you should take it as a complement that your still sexy for men to look at you if you was my neighbour you probs catch me snatching knickers off your line to sniff them

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Stay indoors then ffs and stop bleating ??"

Which charm school did you attend?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Two solutions really, either put up with it or move somewhere where he can't see you. To the best of my knowledge there isn't any law against looking out your window at somebody

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!

I wonna move next door

That would be handy actually there's alway's a spot I can't reach on my back when I apply lotion,plus I fucking hate my neighbours with a passion!"

Oh Lordy lordy and I thought dreams never come true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know my neighbours can see me in my garden if they were looking out of their windows. If I felt uncomfortable with them looking at me in a bikini I wouldn't go outside in one.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"I know my neighbours can see me in my garden if they were looking out of their windows. If I felt uncomfortable with them looking at me in a bikini I wouldn't go outside in one. "

Those slippers ....... they'd have everyone peekin' ......

Stop changing names.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know my neighbours can see me in my garden if they were looking out of their windows. If I felt uncomfortable with them looking at me in a bikini I wouldn't go outside in one.

Those slippers ....... they'd have everyone peekin' ......

Stop changing names. "

I'm indecisive.

I wear my other slippers in the garden anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!"
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I tried buying an allotment plot at the back... There like gold dust the men are so keen on home grown veg's

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!.

I tried buying an allotment plot at the back... There like gold dust the men are so keen on home grown veg's "

It's been a bloody nice change to not have anyone on them today,I've been flashing my white backside for hour's. It's covered now though the sun is moving round so I daren't chance going further away from the house to catch it.

I'm going to bleach all their veg tonight when it's dark and kill them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did I just get inside a time machine and go back to the 1970s? Next thing you know Saville and co will be pinching this woman's bottom and sneering "you love it!" Some of the replies are frightening, and these people probably chastise women who get sexually assaulted because "they wear skimpy clothes" Talk about victim/women shaming!

The OP clearly feels uncomfortable, and I know myself what a great thing women's (or indeed mens) intuition is, If these were just people quickly glancing out their window, opening or shutting the window etc..she would not feel this way. I sometimes look out my window at my garden, but would not feel the need to glance into my neighbours garden unless I heard a noise, even then it would just be a quick glance.

The lady should be allowed to wear whatever kind of bikini she wants, anyone over the age of 5 should be taught manners, taught not to stare etc..if a man can't control his looking at a woman in skimpy clothes he needs to get some help! I feel sorry for the OP as you lot have pretty much crucified her, she came on here for helpful advice not to be labelled as an attention seeker or worse! Go back to the 70s!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!.

I tried buying an allotment plot at the back... There like gold dust the men are so keen on home grown veg's

It's been a bloody nice change to not have anyone on them today,I've been flashing my white backside for hour's. It's covered now though the sun is moving round so I daren't chance going further away from the house to catch it.

I'm going to bleach all their veg tonight when it's dark and kill them "

Even the turnips ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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"

Next time they look.... wave and smile

If that doesn't work, next time arch your back, pull your bottoms to one side and send a stream of piss their way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put some clothes on if you're bothered?

They aren't invading your privacy if there's a clear view of your garden from their window.

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks for all your comments, however I feel, as usual the trolls have been out in full, such sad people. Oh and by the way the members who have sent me hate mail have been reported to admin, again so so sad they have to send me hate mail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just been out on my sunbed.. I went topless but I'm not overlooked thank god

However the wall behind my fence backs on to a car park and I just think it's funny that I'm sat there with my tits out whilst people are going about their business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple make a big fuss of inviting them round to watch as they are so keen to see you

Watch them shrink and protest etc !!!!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"I've just been out on my sunbed.. I went topless but I'm not overlooked thank god

However the wall behind my fence backs on to a car park and I just think it's funny that I'm sat there with my tits out whilst people are going about their business "

I do have a cherry picker you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been out on my sunbed.. I went topless but I'm not overlooked thank god

However the wall behind my fence backs on to a car park and I just think it's funny that I'm sat there with my tits out whilst people are going about their business

I do have a cherry picker you know."

Trust you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coming onto a swingers site to complain about neighbours catching an eyeful of you in a bikini

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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Put up a bigger fence, enjoy the attention, or give them a show. I dont think there is anything you can do about it.

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Coming onto a swingers site to complain about neighbours catching an eyeful of you in a bikini "

That is not what my thread is about, it's about unwanted attention. Anyway I've been told this is not actually a Swingers site by numerous couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you facing your neighbours windows?

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do t worry about it or hide or.

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

I used to be fine to do what I wanted in my garden until they decided they were going to extend the estate, so now the new houses have taken whatever privacy I had. I found that a beach windbreak was enough to stop prying eyes. Just get a suitable height one, and park the sunbed/lounger as close to it as you can. I just keep t-shirt/shorts close by if I need to wander around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your in your garden there in there house no issue xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op simple solution when u fancy sunbathing topless can you put up a screen that will obscure your neighbours view allowing u some privacy one that will double up as an interesting feature like a sail

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Difficult one OP, I like to sunbathe in my garden too and am now overlooked by new houses at the bottom, but not much I can do about it. I certainly wouldn't look into other people's gardens, I try and afford them some privacy.

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By *rinkydonkyMan
over a year ago

Hinckley


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!"
..... I'm off to scour the country anyone have a helicopter I can borrow please ?

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!..... I'm off to scour the country anyone have a helicopter I can borrow please ?"

LOL

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By *rinkydonkyMan
over a year ago

Hinckley


"Don't worry OP - they're more likely to be watching for rabbits - hundreds of the buggers decimating plants Iin Gardens all over the country. "
..... sorry but I don't think that is a rifle in his hand but it probably is loaded lmho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op simple solution when u fancy sunbathing topless can you put up a screen that will obscure your neighbours view allowing u some privacy one that will double up as an interesting feature like a sail"
go on eBay op I think you'll find a few privacy screens for garden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming onto a swingers site to complain about neighbours catching an eyeful of you in a bikini

That is not what my thread is about, it's about unwanted attention. Anyway I've been told this is not actually a Swingers site by numerous couples."

People will take the thread the way they want and answer how they want.

Im a swinger, im on this site.

If you dont want your neighbours attention then put some more clothes on. Problem solved.

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By *rinkydonkyMan
over a year ago

Hinckley


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on......... I do have the perfect solution to this scenario..... come and sunbath naked in my garden x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Actually the screens could work for me, might have a look at those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not about that though is it? It would be like saying if you go to a swinging party or go dogging it's fine if anyone just comes up to you and starts perving on you. There is a difference between wanted and unwanted attention, the lady does not live her life 24 hours a day "swinging" she wants to lie in her garden without being leered at -simples!

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Coming onto a swingers site to complain about neighbours catching an eyeful of you in a bikini

That is not what my thread is about, it's about unwanted attention. Anyway I've been told this is not actually a Swingers site by numerous couples.

People will take the thread the way they want and answer how they want.

Im a swinger, im on this site.

If you dont want your neighbours attention then put some more clothes on. Problem solved. "

Why should I put some clothes on? I already have some clothes on!!! I'm not being dictated to because some people can't respect privacy! I have a 6' fence up which screams 'I want privacy'.

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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Out of your own bedroom window. You can look anywhere you want. But i also agree. In your own garden you shud be able to sunbath. Dressed or not dressed. Its your garden. But if ppl can see you got to accept that. I know if my next door was out in bikini. Ide be at bedroom window wanking. If i knew she was looking at me. Ide invite her round. Lol. Chill n have fun. Ffs. ??????????

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

I do wonder op if you are actually enjoying the attention?

It really is very easy problem to solve.

Put up a parasol hiding from his view.

Or a windbreak.

Move to a different part of the garden.

Go lay in front garden.

Go inside.

Go to a local park where there are bound to be loads of people sunbathing equally dressed.

It all smacks of attention seeking tbh op.

Would you have the same reaction if you happened to fancy him?

What if he was super hot and decided to lay in his garden and you could see him from your house wouldn't you have a look?

As for the lad,

Hr is a walking powder keg of hormones at that age, can't really be to hard on him

So to speak.

I honestly don't know why you even needed to ask?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If you feel uncomfortable with them looking can you screen their view at all? If not can you go round and tell them that being ogled makes you feel uncomfortable and please could they stop? Failing that I think voyeurism is an offence so you could report them.

I think though that it might be difficult whatever you choose to do.

One of our neighbours climbed on his garage roof to "sweep leaves" so he could see me sunbathing naked . Silly sod.

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire


"If you feel uncomfortable with them looking can you screen their view at all? If not can you go round and tell them that being ogled makes you feel uncomfortable and please could they stop? Failing that I think voyeurism is an offence so you could report them.

I think though that it might be difficult whatever you choose to do.

One of our neighbours climbed on his garage roof to "sweep leaves" so he could see me sunbathing naked . Silly sod."
he can look at whatever he wants through his own bedroom window. No body can do a thing about it.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"If you feel uncomfortable with them looking can you screen their view at all? If not can you go round and tell them that being ogled makes you feel uncomfortable and please could they stop? Failing that I think voyeurism is an offence so you could report them.

I think though that it might be difficult whatever you choose to do.

One of our neighbours climbed on his garage roof to "sweep leaves" so he could see me sunbathing naked . Silly sod. he can look at whatever he wants through his own bedroom window. No body can do a thing about it. "

He most certainly can, it's just a shame that neighbours can't have a bit of respect for each other though.

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I do wonder op if you are actually enjoying the attention?

It really is very easy problem to solve.

Put up a parasol hiding from his view.

Or a windbreak.

Move to a different part of the garden.

Go lay in front garden.

Go inside.

Go to a local park where there are bound to be loads of people sunbathing equally dressed.

It all smacks of attention seeking tbh op.

Would you have the same reaction if you happened to fancy him?

What if he was super hot and decided to lay in his garden and you could see him from your house wouldn't you have a look?

As for the lad,

Hr is a walking powder keg of hormones at that age, can't really be to hard on him

So to speak.

I honestly don't know why you even needed to ask? "

Thank you for taking the time to write such words.

Parasol - maybe but he could see over the top.

Windbreak - as above

Move to different part - my garden is long and he can see the whole of it.

I haven't a front garden.

I don't want to go inside as the sun is outside

Park - it's a 30 minute drive and I don't want to go to the park.

Neighbour is not super hot and I would respect his privacy.

Oh and I don't attention seek, you read into this what you wanted to read.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"If you feel uncomfortable with them looking can you screen their view at all? If not can you go round and tell them that being ogled makes you feel uncomfortable and please could they stop? Failing that I think voyeurism is an offence so you could report them.

I think though that it might be difficult whatever you choose to do.

One of our neighbours climbed on his garage roof to "sweep leaves" so he could see me sunbathing naked . Silly sod."

By this definition

The practice of gaining sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity.

he is not guilty of anything

And whose to say he's enjoying it , sexually or otherwise.

I do have a cherry picker you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming onto a swingers site to complain about neighbours catching an eyeful of you in a bikini

That is not what my thread is about, it's about unwanted attention. Anyway I've been told this is not actually a Swingers site by numerous couples.

People will take the thread the way they want and answer how they want.

Im a swinger, im on this site.

If you dont want your neighbours attention then put some more clothes on. Problem solved. "

Oh no, you have a different opinion, that makes you a Troll

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Actually the screens could work for me, might have a look at those. "

Yeah me too,come's to something when I can't sunbathe starkers without people leering at me,fuck all to see anyway

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

OP there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

There is no law preventing people looking into your garden, outside spaces are public spaces. There's no expectation of privacy outdoors. That's why people put up fences, screens, arbours etal. or plant hedges and trees to obscure the view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its only the same as if you were on a beach or at a pool with said skimpy swimware on

He can look outnof his window at anything he wants if he over looks that part of the garden then move to another part.

Of he had to use a mirror or something else to get a look at you then thats peeping but of you are in pain sight fair game.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Actually the screens could work for me, might have a look at those.

Yeah me too,come's to something when I can't sunbathe starkers without people leering at me,fuck all to see anyway "

Haha! Not sure why people would want to leer at me, you think they would find something else to do, like sunbathe themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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"

Most proberly not even looking at you, i'm always looking out of my bedroom window.

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By *astie10Man
over a year ago

Guildford

just an throught invite a guy round to lay naked for then to watch a couple of time of this they will think twice before looking

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If you feel uncomfortable with them looking can you screen their view at all? If not can you go round and tell them that being ogled makes you feel uncomfortable and please could they stop? Failing that I think voyeurism is an offence so you could report them.

I think though that it might be difficult whatever you choose to do.

One of our neighbours climbed on his garage roof to "sweep leaves" so he could see me sunbathing naked . Silly sod.

By this definition

The practice of gaining sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity.

he is not guilty of anything

And whose to say he's enjoying it , sexually or otherwise.

I do have a cherry picker you know."

Ah well

You may wish (or not) to drive your cherry picker to the south coast where I lay resplendent in a black and white bikini. That'll put paid to your cherry picking exploits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

?

Most proberly not even looking at you, i'm always looking out of my bedroom window."

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

?

Most proberly not even looking at you, i'm always looking out of my bedroom window."

Me too. The view is so much more green and pleasant than the front.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"If you feel uncomfortable with them looking can you screen their view at all? If not can you go round and tell them that being ogled makes you feel uncomfortable and please could they stop? Failing that I think voyeurism is an offence so you could report them.

I think though that it might be difficult whatever you choose to do.

One of our neighbours climbed on his garage roof to "sweep leaves" so he could see me sunbathing naked . Silly sod.

By this definition

The practice of gaining sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity.

he is not guilty of anything

And whose to say he's enjoying it , sexually or otherwise.

I do have a cherry picker you know.

Ah well

You may wish (or not) to drive your cherry picker to the south coast where I lay resplendent in a black and white bikini. That'll put paid to your cherry picking exploits "

That's a lot of petrol for a peek at what is essentially undies...

I'm not ruling it out tho

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If you feel uncomfortable with them looking can you screen their view at all? If not can you go round and tell them that being ogled makes you feel uncomfortable and please could they stop? Failing that I think voyeurism is an offence so you could report them.

I think though that it might be difficult whatever you choose to do.

One of our neighbours climbed on his garage roof to "sweep leaves" so he could see me sunbathing naked . Silly sod.

By this definition

The practice of gaining sexual pleasure from watching others when they are naked or engaged in sexual activity.

he is not guilty of anything

And whose to say he's enjoying it , sexually or otherwise.

I do have a cherry picker you know.

Ah well

You may wish (or not) to drive your cherry picker to the south coast where I lay resplendent in a black and white bikini. That'll put paid to your cherry picking exploits

That's a lot of petrol for a peek at what is essentially undies...

I'm not ruling it out tho"

True. Well if time hangs heavy one afternoon and there's no afternoon play on radio 4 give it some thought.

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By *wcwCouple
over a year ago

cheshire


"Actually the screens could work for me, might have a look at those.

Yeah me too,come's to something when I can't sunbathe starkers without people leering at me,fuck all to see anyway

Haha! Not sure why people would want to leer at me, you think they would find something else to do, like sunbathe themselves! "
i can see why they would want to look at you ,,, You are very good looking. ??

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

Radio 4 mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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Get a sunshade

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Actually the screens could work for me, might have a look at those.

Yeah me too,come's to something when I can't sunbathe starkers without people leering at me,fuck all to see anyway

Haha! Not sure why people would want to leer at me, you think they would find something else to do, like sunbathe themselves! i can see why they would want to look at you ,,, You are very good looking. ??"

Oh, thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Actually the screens could work for me, might have a look at those.

Yeah me too,come's to something when I can't sunbathe starkers without people leering at me,fuck all to see anyway

Haha! Not sure why people would want to leer at me, you think they would find something else to do, like sunbathe themselves! "

Exactly,it has to be better than staring out the window

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"Actually the screens could work for me, might have a look at those.

Yeah me too,come's to something when I can't sunbathe starkers without people leering at me,fuck all to see anyway

Haha! Not sure why people would want to leer at me, you think they would find something else to do, like sunbathe themselves!

Exactly,it has to be better than staring out the window "

I would have thought so!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all your comments, however I feel, as usual the trolls have been out in full, such sad people. Oh and by the way the members who have sent me hate mail have been reported to admin, again so so sad they have to send me hate mail "

Have posts been deleted? Or are posts you don't like considered "trolling" now?

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By *inakiss64Woman
over a year ago

Near St Albans


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

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bring it on and perv I say

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Thanks for all your comments, however I feel, as usual the trolls have been out in full, such sad people. Oh and by the way the members who have sent me hate mail have been reported to admin, again so so sad they have to send me hate mail

Have posts been deleted? Or are posts you don't like considered "trolling" now?"

No I'm not saying that but far too much negativity, the usual Fab trolls reacting as they do, plus no need for people to send me hate mail because the trolls think it's ok for me not to have privacy.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed.

I'm in MY garden and I'm NOT inviting him to look at me...."

You are! Get dressed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not about that though is it? It would be like saying if you go to a swinging party or go dogging it's fine if anyone just comes up to you and starts perving on you. There is a difference between wanted and unwanted attention, the lady does not live her life 24 hours a day "swinging" she wants to lie in her garden without being leered at -simples! "

Most people will know that if they sunbathe where someone can see them, they don't have privacy. It reminds me of children complaining when their brother or sister looks at them.

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed.

I'm in MY garden and I'm NOT inviting him to look at me....

You are! Get dressed! "

I don't take instructions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've just been out on my sunbed.. I went topless but I'm not overlooked thank god

However the wall behind my fence backs on to a car park and I just think it's funny that I'm sat there with my tits out whilst people are going about their business "
Trollope I had an old couple looking up at my window yesterday cos I was naked. I flipped em da bird.

Don't worry about it op it's your garden not there's but if it does worry you go inside.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all your comments, however I feel, as usual the trolls have been out in full, such sad people. Oh and by the way the members who have sent me hate mail have been reported to admin, again so so sad they have to send me hate mail

Have posts been deleted? Or are posts you don't like considered "trolling" now?

No I'm not saying that but far too much negativity, the usual Fab trolls reacting as they do, plus no need for people to send me hate mail because the trolls think it's ok for me not to have privacy. "

I think you're being very naive to think you can lay in your overlooked garden, in a bikini, and think that people won't look. And calling people perverts for doing so I find strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all your comments, however I feel, as usual the trolls have been out in full, such sad people. Oh and by the way the members who have sent me hate mail have been reported to admin, again so so sad they have to send me hate mail

Have posts been deleted? Or are posts you don't like considered "trolling" now?

No I'm not saying that but far too much negativity, the usual Fab trolls reacting as they do, plus no need for people to send me hate mail because the trolls think it's ok for me not to have privacy. "

Of course you are entitled to privacy. But your neighbour is doing nothing more than look out their window!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they were putting a ladder against the fence and looking over, then I'd get your complaint but they are looking out of their window, so are doing nothing wrong. If either them are watching and obviously having some personal entertainment at looking at you, then again, they would be grounds for being annoyed and making a call to the police. But you can't stop people looking out of their window. Yes most, would have some respect and not give you a second glance but as we all know, lots are devoid of basic respect to others.

As has already been suggested, go back in, cover up or increase the ways you have privacy in your garden. That is really all you can do to combat it.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Try not let it spoil your enjoyment of ypur garden and carry on regardless.

Or

Next time you see you neighbour gouge their eyes out with a rusty knife, freeze their eyeballs and use instead of ice cubes in your favourite summer beverage while enjoying the garden.

Either or really I say. What ever works best for you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We had a neighbor who peeped through the holes in the fence, until a girlfriend shouted and ran over to it. Creepy

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"Try not let it spoil your enjoyment of ypur garden and carry on regardless.

Or

Next time you see you neighbour gouge their eyes out with a rusty knife, freeze their eyeballs and use instead of ice cubes in your favourite summer beverage while enjoying the garden.

Either or really I say. What ever works best for you."

On balance, this is probably the best advice.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"We had a neighbor who peeped through the holes in the fence, until a girlfriend shouted and ran over to it. Creepy "

You should have really let him back into his garden.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"We had a neighbor who peeped through the holes in the fence, until a girlfriend shouted and ran over to it. Creepy "

Yeah now that's creepy,squirt of bleach in his eyes methinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Garden sail are 20 -130 depends on what size

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Try not let it spoil your enjoyment of ypur garden and carry on regardless.

Or

Next time you see you neighbour gouge their eyes out with a rusty knife, freeze their eyeballs and use instead of ice cubes in your favourite summer beverage while enjoying the garden.

Either or really I say. What ever works best for you."

I like this advice

Smiling now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming onto a swingers site to complain about neighbours catching an eyeful of you in a bikini

That is not what my thread is about, it's about unwanted attention. Anyway I've been told this is not actually a Swingers site by numerous couples.

People will take the thread the way they want and answer how they want.

Im a swinger, im on this site.

If you dont want your neighbours attention then put some more clothes on. Problem solved.

Why should I put some clothes on? I already have some clothes on!!! I'm not being dictated to because some people can't respect privacy! I have a 6' fence up which screams 'I want privacy'. "

Hes in his house. You cant stop someone looking if you are in view. He is doing nothing wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder op if you are actually enjoying the attention?

It really is very easy problem to solve.

Put up a parasol hiding from his view.

Or a windbreak.

Move to a different part of the garden.

Go lay in front garden.

Go inside.

Go to a local park where there are bound to be loads of people sunbathing equally dressed.

It all smacks of attention seeking tbh op.

Would you have the same reaction if you happened to fancy him?

What if he was super hot and decided to lay in his garden and you could see him from your house wouldn't you have a look?

As for the lad,

Hr is a walking powder keg of hormones at that age, can't really be to hard on him

So to speak.

I honestly don't know why you even needed to ask? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Coming onto a swingers site to complain about neighbours catching an eyeful of you in a bikini

That is not what my thread is about, it's about unwanted attention. Anyway I've been told this is not actually a Swingers site by numerous couples.

People will take the thread the way they want and answer how they want.

Im a swinger, im on this site.

If you dont want your neighbours attention then put some more clothes on. Problem solved.

Oh no, you have a different opinion, that makes you a Troll "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all your comments, however I feel, as usual the trolls have been out in full, such sad people. Oh and by the way the members who have sent me hate mail have been reported to admin, again so so sad they have to send me hate mail

Have posts been deleted? Or are posts you don't like considered "trolling" now?

No I'm not saying that but far too much negativity, the usual Fab trolls reacting as they do, plus no need for people to send me hate mail because the trolls think it's ok for me not to have privacy. "

If you want privacy then sunbath in private

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sunbathe in a thong and couldn't care less if my neighbours perve...they are all adults both sides. If there were children who could see, I absolutely would cover up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok my advice, and what I do in my garden because it's overlooked, is either cover up a bit. Or Move to a bit of the garden where they can't see you. Or ignore them, they are doing nothing wrong. Or (what I'd probably do) put on a show. I don't see the issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!.

I tried buying an allotment plot at the back... There like gold dust the men are so keen on home grown veg's

It's been a bloody nice change to not have anyone on them today,I've been flashing my white backside for hour's. It's covered now though the sun is moving round so I daren't chance going further away from the house to catch it.

I'm going to bleach all their veg tonight when it's dark and kill them "
.

Bleach sounds a bit spiteful...

Why don't you just set fire to it about 10 everybody loves a late evening BBQ

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!.

I tried buying an allotment plot at the back... There like gold dust the men are so keen on home grown veg's

It's been a bloody nice change to not have anyone on them today,I've been flashing my white backside for hour's. It's covered now though the sun is moving round so I daren't chance going further away from the house to catch it.

I'm going to bleach all their veg tonight when it's dark and kill them .

Bleach sounds a bit spiteful...

Why don't you just set fire to it about 10 everybody loves a late evening BBQ "

That's a rubbish idea someone may see me with the light of the fire dopey! . I prefer my spiteful way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually they are doing something wrong by spying on the OP and it is a bit pervy. It's not appropriate and I don't see why OP should have to put up with it. I have been on the receiving end of a pair of nosey neighbours and it ain't nice. XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my god, I can understand why you're upset OP.

How dare your neighbour look out of his window.

I think they should bring back hanging for such evil occurrences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually they are doing something wrong by spying on the OP and it is a bit pervy. It's not appropriate and I don't see why OP should have to put up with it. I have been on the receiving end of a pair of nosey neighbours and it ain't nice. XXX"

If the OP can see her neighbours then she is spying on them too.

Shame on you OP, stop perving on your neighbours

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By *hubaysi OP   Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Oh my god, I can understand why you're upset OP.

How dare your neighbour look out of his window.

I think they should bring back hanging for such evil occurrences."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are we in the realm here of if a men is the viewer then he's a pervert but if the man was the semi-naked sunbather then he is an exhibitionist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

?

"

Does the male have a wife or girlfriend if so go tell her or knock on door and tell him you will report him.

Or charge people to watch.

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By *espectful chap 99Man
over a year ago

Preston


"He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed. "

Correct; ring the police and see if they will either come round and have words with him or will they have words with you?

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By *cuk11Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow


" I'm off to scour the country anyone have a helicopter I can borrow please ?"

Drones are what you need, remote perving at half the price

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Actually they are doing something wrong by spying on the OP and it is a bit pervy. It's not appropriate and I don't see why OP should have to put up with it. I have been on the receiving end of a pair of nosey neighbours and it ain't nice. XXX"

Actually in law her neighbour is doing absolutely nothing wrong as he is not using measures to get around a screen designed to prevent the public seeing into the garden. If they got a ladder for example and used it to look over a fence then they are breaking the law.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm lying naked in mine at the mo,thankfully my neighbours aren't doing the same!.

I tried buying an allotment plot at the back... There like gold dust the men are so keen on home grown veg's

It's been a bloody nice change to not have anyone on them today,I've been flashing my white backside for hour's. It's covered now though the sun is moving round so I daren't chance going further away from the house to catch it.

I'm going to bleach all their veg tonight when it's dark and kill them "

I've helped my neighbour out quite a bit to be fair. She does repay me well too. Love the older women who knows what she wants when she wants it. If you don't like others seeing you try keep out their view x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh my god, I can understand why you're upset OP.

How dare your neighbour look out of his window.

I think they should bring back hanging for such evil occurrences.

This "

I'm glad you realise how silly your original post is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been offered a load of sensible solutions and shot every one of them down. So your only answer is to suck it up, or go indoors.

You can easily position a parasol to block a view and still be able to enjoy the sunshine. I'd suggest you try it out.

Or simply man up and explain to your neighbours that them looking at you makes you feel uncomfortable.

Accusing them of being perverts is a bit extreme though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually they are doing something wrong by spying on the OP and it is a bit pervy. It's not appropriate and I don't see why OP should have to put up with it. I have been on the receiving end of a pair of nosey neighbours and it ain't nice. XXX

Actually in law her neighbour is doing absolutely nothing wrong as he is not using measures to get around a screen designed to prevent the public seeing into the garden. If they got a ladder for example and used it to look over a fence then they are breaking the law."

OI!

Stop being so bloody sensible!!

Don't you know this is the internet

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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago

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i would get my camera out and start filming them perving on me, then post it on facebook and tag my street name in that, then basically all the people in the near vicinity would know what they're doing.

i'd probably do some commentary while i'm filming, slagging them off as well.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Actually they are doing something wrong by spying on the OP and it is a bit pervy. It's not appropriate and I don't see why OP should have to put up with it. I have been on the receiving end of a pair of nosey neighbours and it ain't nice. XXX

Actually in law her neighbour is doing absolutely nothing wrong as he is not using measures to get around a screen designed to prevent the public seeing into the garden. If they got a ladder for example and used it to look over a fence then they are breaking the law.

OI!

Stop being so bloody sensible!!

Don't you know this is the internet "

Sorry, won't happen again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fabbers - advice needed...

I'm sunbathing in the garden in my skimpy bikini! I've a 6' fence in my garden yet the neighbour is perving from his bedroom window, caught him twice now looking, now his son is also doing the same. There's a whole load of curtain twitching going on.....

?

"

Is it Silly Post Saturday??

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

it will be raining tomorrow, well in Scotland anyway so this won't matter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanna know if the op is still out there.

PTU xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wanna know if the op is still out there.

PTU xxx"

Yes, waiting for the torches to come on so they can see better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've been offered a load of sensible solutions and shot every one of them down. So your only answer is to suck it up, or go indoors.

You can easily position a parasol to block a view and still be able to enjoy the sunshine. I'd suggest you try it out.

Or simply man up and explain to your neighbours that them looking at you makes you feel uncomfortable.

Accusing them of being perverts is a bit extreme though.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we in the realm here of if a men is the viewer then he's a pervert but if the man was the semi-naked sunbather then he is an exhibitionist?"

I can imagine the thread saying "My pervert neighbour keeps sunbathing half naked in his garden. Every time I look out of my bedroom window he's laying there, in his budgie smugglers. It's obscene!"

The responses would be to tell him to cover up, or stop being a pervert, because you have every right to look out of your bedroom window, that overlooks his garden.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Ok my advice, and what I do in my garden because it's overlooked, is either cover up a bit. Or Move to a bit of the garden where they can't see you. Or ignore them, they are doing nothing wrong. Or (what I'd probably do) put on a show. I don't see the issue. "

There really isn't an issue at all .

Drama , petty and ridiculous .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just hold a sign up saying

I can see you."

I imagine this going down like some crazy Wylie Coyote vs Road Runner sketch where there is a torrent of sign holding up exchanging going on...

Meep... Meep...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pay for a higher fence or a different house that isn't overlooked. cover up. go inside. put up some sort of screen, ask your neighbours not to look out of their windows.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Have a chat with his wife, drop in to the conversation what he and his son are doing. I am sure she will be more than happy to know that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has to be the most ironic topic ever on these Forums !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a chat with his wife, drop in to the conversation what he and his son are doing. I am sure she will be more than happy to know that"

If my neighbour knocked and told me my husband and son were watching her sunbathe in a skimpy bikini I would say what do you expect if you're practically naked.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Ask the neighbours to move house.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I really don't know what advice you want??

I sunbathe naked in my garden but like someone above said.... I put a parasol up and the wind breaker around me. Yes, you have a right to be in your garden, but you can't expect your neighbours not to look out of their windows. Equally, you could complain to your neighbour about looking at you and he can complain about you lying scantily clad in your garden. The thing here is discretion. You need to be a tad more discreet.

I prefer to go to the beach, I know then that there are going to be people dressed as appropriately as my self-in my case naked!

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"This has to be the most ironic topic ever on these Forums ! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we in the realm here of if a men is the viewer then he's a pervert but if the man was the semi-naked sunbather then he is an exhibitionist?

I can imagine the thread saying "My pervert neighbour keeps sunbathing half naked in his garden. Every time I look out of my bedroom window he's laying there, in his budgie smugglers. It's obscene!"

The responses would be to tell him to cover up, or stop being a pervert, because you have every right to look out of your bedroom window, that overlooks his garden. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being perfectly serious now. My neighbours love eating and sunbathing in their garden.

When I look out of my bedroom window I can see them.

If they stuck two fingers up at me they'd pay for it in one way or another.

Generally as we are all nice people we smile and wave and get on with our days.

They don't call me a pervert.

Thank you for your 'serious' reply and I get you but you don't know my neighbours! They have a son of 12 years old, when he was 9 his mum told me when she was at another neighbours BBQ the lad was allowed to watch porn and babe station and encouraged to by his father and uncle, she was proud of this. They are very open about a lot of things with the kids! You will say to me report them to Social Services but I don't want grief and repercussions at home so I keep myself to myself here. "

So you know they are pervs and getting annoyed when your lying near naked in the garden and they are looking at you....have a serious word with yourself. ...get yourself down to b&q and buy a garden umbrella and block out their eyeline unless you secretly love the attention cos any normal person would have done that the first time you noticed them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so what we can conclude from this whole thread it is perfectly fine to stare and perv if a woman is dressed in skimpy clothes. We do not have to learn self control or manners as we grow up and we ALWAYS blame the woman in any circumstance. I guess when a woman is sexually assaulted we will say she caused it by wearing something provocative. Did anyone watch "It was alright in the 1970s last night?" thought I saw some of you on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so what we can conclude from this whole thread it is perfectly fine to stare and perv if a woman is dressed in skimpy clothes. We do not have to learn self control or manners as we grow up and we ALWAYS blame the woman in any circumstance. I guess when a woman is sexually assaulted we will say she caused it by wearing something provocative. Did anyone watch "It was alright in the 1970s last night?" thought I saw some of you on it. "

Well...that's what you've concluded. A bit of a stretch to liken a guy looking out of his window to sexual assault

The point everyone is making is that the OP can help herself if she feels uncomfortable. The neighbour isn't breaking any laws by looking out of his window, it's not his fault her garden is visible.

If you want privacy, you have to create an environment for it yourself.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"so what we can conclude from this whole thread it is perfectly fine to stare and perv if a woman is dressed in skimpy clothes. We do not have to learn self control or manners as we grow up and we ALWAYS blame the woman in any circumstance. I guess when a woman is sexually assaulted we will say she caused it by wearing something provocative. Did anyone watch "It was alright in the 1970s last night?" thought I saw some of you on it. "

That's what you concluded. Your thoughts your characteristics.

Nowhere has any poster said that except you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually the screens could work for me, might have a look at those.

Yeah me too,come's to something when I can't sunbathe starkers without people leering at me,fuck all to see anyway

Haha! Not sure why people would want to leer at me, you think they would find something else to do, like sunbathe themselves!

Exactly,it has to be better than staring out the window "

Yes but if he goes outside it'll be obvious he's wanking too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we in the realm here of if a men is the viewer then he's a pervert but if the man was the semi-naked sunbather then he is an exhibitionist?

I can imagine the thread saying "My pervert neighbour keeps sunbathing half naked in his garden. Every time I look out of my bedroom window he's laying there, in his budgie smugglers. It's obscene!"

The responses would be to tell him to cover up, or stop being a pervert, because you have every right to look out of your bedroom window, that overlooks his garden.

"

Which is exactly what I was doing yesterday. Catching some sun for a short while yesterday, in my enclosed garden, with my shorts well bunched up. If my neighbours want to watch from their upper storey windows, that's their issue. I wouldn't overtly perv a neighbour, I'd go down and offer her a cold drink....

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

Just go back n the garden and enjoy the sunshine

Who cares who is looking

Yo are still getting your lovely tan either way

Wh bother telling all,of fabswingers about your complaints

Xxxxxx

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

you sure he's looking at YOU?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so what we can conclude from this whole thread it is perfectly fine to stare and perv if a woman is dressed in skimpy clothes. We do not have to learn self control or manners as we grow up and we ALWAYS blame the woman in any circumstance. I guess when a woman is sexually assaulted we will say she caused it by wearing something provocative. Did anyone watch "It was alright in the 1970s last night?" thought I saw some of you on it.

Well...that's what you've concluded. A bit of a stretch to liken a guy looking out of his window to sexual assault

The point everyone is making is that the OP can help herself if she feels uncomfortable. The neighbour isn't breaking any laws by looking out of his window, it's not his fault her garden is visible.

If you want privacy, you have to create an environment for it yourself. "

^actually its not a bit of a stretch. If we stopped this whole culture of blame about what women wear and what they don't wear, and whether they help themselves or not, and instead focussed our energy teaching young boys not to ogle women or treat them as sex objects and show them some respect, there would be far less sexual assaults and far less blame apportioned to the victim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just go back n the garden and enjoy the sunshine

Who cares who is looking

Yo are still getting your lovely tan either way

Wh bother telling all,of fabswingers about your complaints

Xxxxxx"

cos its a public forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so what we can conclude from this whole thread it is perfectly fine to stare and perv if a woman is dressed in skimpy clothes. We do not have to learn self control or manners as we grow up and we ALWAYS blame the woman in any circumstance. I guess when a woman is sexually assaulted we will say she caused it by wearing something provocative. Did anyone watch "It was alright in the 1970s last night?" thought I saw some of you on it.

That's what you concluded. Your thoughts your characteristics.

Nowhere has any poster

said that except you."

^ it's called inference dearie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so what we can conclude from this whole thread it is perfectly fine to stare and perv if a woman is dressed in skimpy clothes. We do not have to learn self control or manners as we grow up and we ALWAYS blame the woman in any circumstance. I guess when a woman is sexually assaulted we will say she caused it by wearing something provocative. Did anyone watch "It was alright in the 1970s last night?" thought I saw some of you on it.

Well...that's what you've concluded. A bit of a stretch to liken a guy looking out of his window to sexual assault

The point everyone is making is that the OP can help herself if she feels uncomfortable. The neighbour isn't breaking any laws by looking out of his window, it's not his fault her garden is visible.

If you want privacy, you have to create an environment for it yourself.

^actually its not a bit of a stretch. If we stopped this whole culture of blame about what women wear and what they don't wear, and whether they help themselves or not, and instead focussed our energy teaching young boys not to ogle women or treat them as sex objects and show them some respect, there would be far less sexual assaults and far less blame apportioned to the victim"

What about women who ogle men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one is saying the OP is to blame for anything. Common sense tells us that people will look at someone who us scantily clad. Men and women do it.

Sunbathing in barely anything will attract attention, anyone with half a brain knows that. Put up with it, or do something about it. There could be other neighbours looking at her too.

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By *limBobStretchedPantsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Well I loved reading this. So let me summarise

You are in your garden sunbathing in a bikini

You have put up a 6 foot fence to stop them looking over.

They can see you from their top floor window

You are not happy about this as you want privacy

You complain about trolls making normal comments

You complain about this being unwanted attention.

My good god

Either put up a bigger fence so no one can see you. Or move somewhere where you have no neighbours. That's the only discussion is you don't like being looked at while sunbathing. Fair enough. I don't like being looked at when I pee in a urinal so I use a cubicle. There is a solution to everything even if it's not the one you want to here.

Logic over emotion every time

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Although I agree that the young lad shouldn't be getting encouragement from his parents, it is up to the OP to address that if she is concerned. Is there no way she could have discussed her being uncomfortable with the neighbours?

OK, he's likely to tell her to sod off as he's in his own house and can do what he wants, but at least she will have aired her concerns. And please, conflating a serious crime like sexual assault with getting glanced at while sunbathing is to trivialise the former.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"so what we can conclude from this whole thread it is perfectly fine to stare and perv if a woman is dressed in skimpy clothes. We do not have to learn self control or manners as we grow up and we ALWAYS blame the woman in any circumstance. I guess when a woman is sexually assaulted we will say she caused it by wearing something provocative. Did anyone watch "It was alright in the 1970s last night?" thought I saw some of you on it.

That's what you concluded. Your thoughts your characteristics.

Nowhere has any poster

said that except you.

^ it's called inference dearie"

Thank you treacle. You inferred it all my little syrup sponge.

No one else. Just you.

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By *ikstupp2Man
over a year ago

london

To be honest I can't say I wouldn't do the same, might b a bit more blatant n start a conversation tho(then go in n check fab who's near) lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so what we can conclude from this whole thread it is perfectly fine to stare and perv if a woman is dressed in skimpy clothes. We do not have to learn self control or manners as we grow up and we ALWAYS blame the woman in any circumstance. I guess when a woman is sexually assaulted we will say she caused it by wearing something provocative. Did anyone watch "It was alright in the 1970s last night?" thought I saw some of you on it.

Well...that's what you've concluded. A bit of a stretch to liken a guy looking out of his window to sexual assault

The point everyone is making is that the OP can help herself if she feels uncomfortable. The neighbour isn't breaking any laws by looking out of his window, it's not his fault her garden is visible.

If you want privacy, you have to create an environment for it yourself.

^actually its not a bit of a stretch. If we stopped this whole culture of blame about what women wear and what they don't wear, and whether they help themselves or not, and instead focussed our energy teaching young boys not to ogle women or treat them as sex objects and show them some respect, there would be far less sexual assaults and far less blame apportioned to the victim"
respect is a two-way street woman also ogle guys and treat them as sexual objects of desire at end of the day it's the modern culture sex sells everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"so what we can conclude from this whole thread it is perfectly fine to stare and perv if a woman is dressed in skimpy clothes. We do not have to learn self control or manners as we grow up and we ALWAYS blame the woman in any circumstance. I guess when a woman is sexually assaulted we will say she caused it by wearing something provocative. Did anyone watch "It was alright in the 1970s last night?" thought I saw some of you on it.

Well...that's what you've concluded. A bit of a stretch to liken a guy looking out of his window to sexual assault

The point everyone is making is that the OP can help herself if she feels uncomfortable. The neighbour isn't breaking any laws by looking out of his window, it's not his fault her garden is visible.

If you want privacy, you have to create an environment for it yourself.

^actually its not a bit of a stretch. If we stopped this whole culture of blame about what women wear and what they don't wear, and whether they help themselves or not, and instead focussed our energy teaching young boys not to ogle women or treat them as sex objects and show them some respect, there would be far less sexual assaults and far less blame apportioned to the victim

What about women who ogle men? "

^ can you provide a link to where I said it was fine if the roles were reversed? it's never fine to ogle someone to the point they feel uncomfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op sensible solution is to put up some sort of screen that impairs their view and you can enjoy the sun dressed as you like .I go to a hot tub party regular in hull where the hosts have done this so they're yard is shielded from the neighbours so no one is offended at what is going on and people can relax in the knowledge they are not causing offence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Although I agree that the young lad shouldn't be getting encouragement from his parents, it is up to the OP to address that if she is concerned. Is there no way she could have discussed her being uncomfortable with the neighbours?

OK, he's likely to tell her to sod off as he's in his own house and can do what he wants, but at least she will have aired her concerns. And please, conflating a serious crime like sexual assault with getting glanced at while sunbathing is to trivialise the former. "

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By *icplshropsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

If you've only got your neighbours looking at you to worry about, then you're lucky!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He's looking out of HIS bedroom window.

If you know your garden can be overlooked and you don't like to be seen - get dressed.

I'm in MY garden and I'm NOT inviting him to look at me...."

Two fingers waved would at least let him know he's been rumbled...gets you a laugh out of it at least...

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By *raggy_rockMan
over a year ago

nr Dunkeld

Embrace the fact that your neighbour are perving over your beautiful body.

Knowing that you have that power could be arousing. Now we are talking about it...it leads to other possibilities....especially exploring your exhibitionist tendencies

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