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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do males list them self as straight on here if that male gives or receives oral of another male isn't that considered Gay?.

Just a question I have wanted to as I often look at male profiles just to get a jist of making a better profile.

By the way no disrespect to anyone and if it seems like I have I am very sorry just wondering this question.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Think it's called being fab straight

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think it's called being fab straight "

Lol that kind of makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy"

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself "

Unless you wanna meet women or couples of course, if you list yourself as bi, you reduce your chances significantly.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself

Unless you wanna meet women or couples of course, if you list yourself as bi, you reduce your chances significantly."

But if they think that way would you want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself

Unless you wanna meet women or couples of course, if you list yourself as bi, you reduce your chances significantly.

But if they think that way would you want to meet them "

I wouldn't, but the stigma of being bi on this site is very ripe, which is why so many bi guys state they are straight on their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself

Unless you wanna meet women or couples of course, if you list yourself as bi, you reduce your chances significantly."

Only to those women and couples that don't wish to meet Bi men.

For those women and couples that do wish to meet Bi men,you increase your chances significantly.so be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate labels. I think there should be an option to opt out if that when you register as surely we are sexual beings and can have sec with whoever we want? We are adults after all?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself

Unless you wanna meet women or couples of course, if you list yourself as bi, you reduce your chances significantly.

But if they think that way would you want to meet them

I wouldn't, but the stigma of being bi on this site is very ripe, which is why so many bi guys state they are straight on their profile."

I'm not the slightest bit ashamed of being bi. I do fine on here and it's not just with the guys either so for me labelled myself bi hasn't done me any harm at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself "

Some give a shit. But don't give a shit about them. it's just a load of....you know!

Enjoy the site op. Enjoy your life, not theirs.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself

Unless you wanna meet women or couples of course, if you list yourself as bi, you reduce your chances significantly.

But if they think that way would you want to meet them

I wouldn't, but the stigma of being bi on this site is very ripe, which is why so many bi guys state they are straight on their profile."

And get turned down by openly bi couples like us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself

Unless you wanna meet women or couples of course, if you list yourself as bi, you reduce your chances significantly.

But if they think that way would you want to meet them

I wouldn't, but the stigma of being bi on this site is very ripe, which is why so many bi guys state they are straight on their profile.

And get turned down by openly bi couples like us "

Bam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight males don't engage is same sex activity ,,, is it that hard to understand

I'm getting way to old for this stuff,,,,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight males don't engage is same sex activity ,,, is it that hard to understand

I'm getting way to old for this stuff,,,,

"

Careful, that means you're about to get killed in a Hollywood action film.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"Straight males don't engage is same sex activity ,,, is it that hard to understand

I'm getting way to old for this stuff,,,,

"

But there are those that are possibly scared of admitting this, even to themselves.

So prefer to work under the straight label for their own peace of mind. But are willing to actually stray quite a distance, in actions, from that straight label.

I know it's 2017 and all that, but labels are still powerful and scary.

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By *layfull pairingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Alongside the "straight" or "Bi" options there should be another option button that just states "horny fucker".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight males don't engage is same sex activity ,,, is it that hard to understand

I'm getting way to old for this stuff,,,,

Careful, that means you're about to get killed in a Hollywood action film. "

That seems a fair compromise if it means I no longer have to listen to all the bullshit if's, buts and maybe's spouted as excuses for the behaviour of guys who repeatedly engage in same sex activity and still claim to be straight .....

Ooooooo'er get me apart in that movie before its to late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Straight males don't engage is same sex activity ,,, is it that hard to understand

I'm getting way to old for this stuff,,,,

But there are those that are possibly scared of admitting this, even to themselves.

So prefer to work under the straight label for their own peace of mind. But are willing to actually stray quite a distance, in actions, from that straight label.

I know it's 2017 and all that, but labels are still powerful and scary."

Dishonest labels are intended to deceive so where the respect in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think it's called being fab straight

Lol that kind of makes sense. "

Nope, it makes no sense

There is nothing called, 'fab straight'. These are just closeted bisexual or gay men

- Mrs. J -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself

Unless you wanna meet women or couples of course, if you list yourself as bi, you reduce your chances significantly.

But if they think that way would you want to meet them

I wouldn't, but the stigma of being bi on this site is very ripe, which is why so many bi guys state they are straight on their profile."

We don't think that their is any stigma. We meet bisexual couples all the time, even though my husband is heterosexual. We just don't want to meet liars

- Mrs. J -

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Life is a wide spectrum that doesn't always fit into neat little boxes. That's what makes it diverse and fun. After all what people get pleasure from inbthe bedroom can be very different from what they like outside of it. Many people enjoy pleasure inside the bedroom from sex toys. Doesn't mean their attracted to their sex toys or want to take their dildo out a candle lit dinner date or one day start a little family with said dildo.

Maybe for some it about fun sexual play but does not refeclt in the slightest their normal atraction or preference outside of the bedroom? Maybe for some it's the taboo or perverseness of it (in terms of conservative norms) that is a turn on rather than the actual desire for men? Could me many different factors. People just pick the box that it closes to how they feel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life is a wide spectrum that doesn't always fit into neat little boxes. That's what makes it diverse and fun. After all what people get pleasure from inbthe bedroom can be very different from what they like outside of it. Many people enjoy pleasure inside the bedroom from sex toys. Doesn't mean their attracted to their sex toys or want to take their dildo out a candle lit dinner date or one day start a little family with said dildo.

Maybe for some it about fun sexual play but does not refeclt in the slightest their normal atraction or preference outside of the bedroom? Maybe for some it's the taboo or perverseness of it (in terms of conservative norms) that is a turn on rather than the actual desire for men? Could me many different factors. People just pick the box that it closes to how they feel."

The thing is on here your ticking a box that invites people to assess if the is possibility of sexual compatibility.....

People who lie about their sexuality are only doing so with the disrespectful intention deceive others ,,,

This is a site intended for sexually enlightened individuals and is spoilt be the behaviour of those dishonest people who perpetuate the continuing stigma experienced by some members of the gay and bisexual community.....

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


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This is a site intended for sexually enlightened individuals and is spoilt be the behaviour of those dishonest people who perpetuate the continuing stigma experienced by some members of the gay and bisexual community.....

"

But it's not a little island disconnected from the rest of reality. There are connections back.

As you clearly state, there is stigma and worse, regarding someone's sexual orientation.

Not everyone is brave or confident enough to face that.

Is it dishonest? I guess yes, if you judge these things in a black and white way...

But I would suggest it's not this action that's spoiling anything for anyone (except maybe themselves).

What's spoiling it is the reason they feel they need to be dishonest. If that reason wasn't there then everyone would feel free and comfortable to declare from the rooftops exactly what they were.

One day maybe...

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Life is a wide spectrum that doesn't always fit into neat little boxes. That's what makes it diverse and fun. After all what people get pleasure from inbthe bedroom can be very different from what they like outside of it. Many people enjoy pleasure inside the bedroom from sex toys. Doesn't mean their attracted to their sex toys or want to take their dildo out a candle lit dinner date or one day start a little family with said dildo.

Maybe for some it about fun sexual play but does not refeclt in the slightest their normal atraction or preference outside of the bedroom? Maybe for some it's the taboo or perverseness of it (in terms of conservative norms) that is a turn on rather than the actual desire for men? Could me many different factors. People just pick the box that it closes to how they feel.

The thing is on here your ticking a box that invites people to assess if the is possibility of sexual compatibility.....

People who lie about their sexuality are only doing so with the disrespectful intention deceive others ,,,

This is a site intended for sexually enlightened individuals and is spoilt be the behaviour of those dishonest people who perpetuate the continuing stigma experienced by some members of the gay and bisexual community.....

"

Fair point. Luckily I fit nicely into the box provided. But what about those that don't? Maybe be more box's? Or is it a case that people should be more descriptive in their profiles of what they do or don't do? Let's face it some are very sparse. Of course there is never any excuse for a meet pretending that you are something your not. That is not fair, no respectful, not descent and IMO pushing (if not braking even if not acted on) the bounds of consent because consent has been given on a false premise. I am just a little concerned when we try and pigeon hole people. But from a pragmatic view point and the damage it can do other people I can very much see your point.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"

This is a site intended for sexually enlightened individuals and is spoilt be the behaviour of those dishonest people who perpetuate the continuing stigma experienced by some members of the gay and bisexual community.....

But it's not a little island disconnected from the rest of reality. There are connections back.

As you clearly state, there is stigma and worse, regarding someone's sexual orientation.

Not everyone is brave or confident enough to face that.

Is it dishonest? I guess yes, if you judge these things in a black and white way...

But I would suggest it's not this action that's spoiling anything for anyone (except maybe themselves).

What's spoiling it is the reason they feel they need to be dishonest. If that reason wasn't there then everyone would feel free and comfortable to declare from the rooftops exactly what they were.

One day maybe..."

Hopefully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

This is a site intended for sexually enlightened individuals and is spoilt be the behaviour of those dishonest people who perpetuate the continuing stigma experienced by some members of the gay and bisexual community.....

But it's not a little island disconnected from the rest of reality. There are connections back.

As you clearly state, there is stigma and worse, regarding someone's sexual orientation.

Not everyone is brave or confident enough to face that.

Is it dishonest? I guess yes, if you judge these things in a black and white way...

But I would suggest it's not this action that's spoiling anything for anyone (except maybe themselves).

What's spoiling it is the reason they feel they need to be dishonest. If that reason wasn't there then everyone would feel free and comfortable to declare from the rooftops exactly what they were.

One day maybe..."

Dishonesty is the intention to deceive and in any world there is no defending dishonesty where it potentially creates victims of that deceit

All the if's but and maybes are simply excuses trying to masquerade as reasons ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think of myself as trisexual. Will try anything twice. That's just to make sure if I didn't like it first time try again you may change your mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life is a wide spectrum that doesn't always fit into neat little boxes. That's what makes it diverse and fun. After all what people get pleasure from inbthe bedroom can be very different from what they like outside of it. Many people enjoy pleasure inside the bedroom from sex toys. Doesn't mean their attracted to their sex toys or want to take their dildo out a candle lit dinner date or one day start a little family with said dildo.

Maybe for some it about fun sexual play but does not refeclt in the slightest their normal atraction or preference outside of the bedroom? Maybe for some it's the taboo or perverseness of it (in terms of conservative norms) that is a turn on rather than the actual desire for men? Could me many different factors. People just pick the box that it closes to how they feel.

The thing is on here your ticking a box that invites people to assess if the is possibility of sexual compatibility.....

People who lie about their sexuality are only doing so with the disrespectful intention deceive others ,,,

This is a site intended for sexually enlightened individuals and is spoilt be the behaviour of those dishonest people who perpetuate the continuing stigma experienced by some members of the gay and bisexual community.....

"

Exactly, these people make bisexuality sound shameful. It is not; it is just another sexuality

But knowing who one is meeting is important to many. With couples, we meet bisexual couples, especially where there is a bisexual woman in the couple

But when meeting single men, we are meeting straight men only

These are our choices and we do not need to explain ourselves to anyone. But where someone is lying, they take our choice away from us

- Mrs. J -

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By *AURA6969TV/TS
over a year ago

RUGBY


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy"
Hear hear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site provide all members with all the tools and options needed to maintain their anonymity so there is absolutely no valid excuse for any individual feeling compelled to lie unless they want too and basically that is the behaviour of someone who doesn't deserve the trust or respect of this community

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy

Very true it's 2017 and nobody really gives a shit so be true to yourself

Unless you wanna meet women or couples of course, if you list yourself as bi, you reduce your chances significantly."

I'd prefer guys to be honest if they are bi and not hide behind the stigma that all women don't want to meet bi guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no one needs to live their live's by labels str8 gay bi who cares just enjoy Hear hear "

So would you rather people used dishonest labels because on here we are given an options be truthful of untruthful in the declaration that best matches our repeated sexual behaviour

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